#someone: yeah gays are totally-

[butchthirteen]

by the way i've been going through rtd's non-doctor-who work and the first thing i watched was queer as folk and i have to say. there's a lot going on in that show but my main takeaway is "it's extremely obvious that the guy writing this really wants to write doctor who." there are ten episodes and of those i believe seven mention doctor who in some capacity. the theme starts playing in the middle of gay sex. k-9 is there. the character responsible for most of these references breaks up with his boyfriend because the boyfriend can't name all the doctors. at the end he has a couple lines where i was like "wow this sounds like something the doctor would say" and then the next lines out of his mouth were about doctor who. all of this is retroactively much funnier now that rtd kickstarted a 20+-year-long reboot for the show

#doctor who #like the show itself is not all that similar to doctor who beyond like. rtd having a pretty clear voice as a writer #like the characters aren't similar the plots aren't similar it's a totally different genre #and like. ostensibly doctor who comes up so much because one particular character is a fan #but like. you can *tell* that it's coming from a place of appreciation and knowledge on the writer's part #i don't know. if i'd been an adult in 2004 and i'd seen queer as folk and then heard that that guy was going to be writing doctor who. #well i simply would not have been surprised. #i would've been like. yeah good for that guy. proud of him. #(i also found an interview with rtd from like. 2000. where he was like 'yeah i was going to do doctor who but then someone new came in so #that's probably not happening anymore :/' and again. very funny to read in retrospect) #anyway. the funniest reference was the theme playing mid-gay-sex because for half a second i thought i was watching the wrong show #and it had gone to the opening credits #also i need to find out if they used the original k-9 prop because i think that would be EXTREMELY funny

[twpsyn-who]

Thinking about Steve and Eddie waiting for the right time to propose to each other and they somehow do it at the same time.

And they don't know that the other wants to propose, nor do they tell the same people. Nancy and Jonathan know that Eddie wants to propose to Steve. Robin and Dustin know that Steve wants to propose to Eddie. The reason why Steve hasn't said anything to Nancy and Jonathan was because it felt a little bit weird to talk about it with your ex and her partner. On the other side Eddie KNEW neither Robin nor Dustin could keep a secret from Steve he didn't trust those two with the secret and Eddie really wanted to be special.

They chose the same place to propose, too - the Lover's Lake because that's where everything began and they wanted to give that day a good connotation. Steve and Dustin and Robin has worked hard for a character sheet for Steve ; it was literally Steve if everything they had gone through was part of a DnD campaign but with the difference that he was married to 'Eddie The Banished' (Steve planned to give the sheet to Eddie and wait until he got to the married part until he asked "If you would have me?" and get out the ring). Meanwhile Eddie and Nancy and Jonathan worked on this album full of photos with the party together over the years (the kids through high school + the graduation photos ; the photos from their trips around the state ; Steve with either Robin or Nancy and Jonathan or Eddie or the kids or the Byers or everyone ; little moments and random photos with caption like 'First time trying pineapple on pizza!!!' or 'First date without the kids around') with the last photo being of Steve and Eddie (the very first photo they took together) with the question "Will you marry me?" under it.

They looked over them at the same time. Stopped to fucking process what was going on. Look at each other like two idiots. They took the ring out at the same time and I don't know if they started laughing or crying or arguing over who would propose but I can guarantee the answer was yes from them both.

BONUS : Meanwhile Robin & Dustin meet with Nancy & Jonathan while hiding near the lake and they all do the Spider-Man meme while questioning each other what they were doing there. Everyone fucking face palmed when they came to the conclusion that those two were going to propose at the same time. Pure gold.

2 x BONUS : Somehow Max knew about it and said nothing because she thought it would be funny (and was 100% right)

#they would do that #idk were this came from nor do I know how DnD character sheets work but they ignored some of the rules anyway so is ok #I imagine them staying down on a blanket with the lake next to them and the moon their only source of light #Steve totally teared up a little while looking through the album #stranger things #stranger things eddie #eddie munson #stranger things steddie #stranger things steve #steddie #steve harrington #we are ignoring the fact that gay marriage probably wasn't legalized when this took place (I'm thinking Eddie's probably 27 and Steve 26) #they wanted to do it way earlier but weren't sure if it wasn't too soon #and we are ignoring the fact that Eddie should be dead. they won against Vecna and lived happily ever after #before anyone asks : yeah you can use this in your fic/write something with this idea #no need for credits but I would love to read it once it is done!! #also idk if somehow someone already did it I haven't looked it up

[radiation]

i can't get rocky horror picture show. i feel like for it to have appeal to you, it needed to have been formative media and a sexual awakening of sorts. watched it a couple years ago coming from 1. already being out of the closet for years, 2, knowing the reputation rhps has both with the transmisogyny and theater nerds. i was gonna approach it for what it was, and i hoped to at least find some appreciation as a pulp sci fi enjoyer. but what made the most disappointed in the end is that for its reputation, it was not nearly as weird or transgressive or as queer as other 70s movies i know of or have seen. i had already seen phantom of the paradise by that point so my expectations for weird rock operas were set much higher, and i expected more of the pulpiness that it promised. i can appreciate the acting, art direction, some of the music, and i can understand what it meant to people, but there are way better and more entertaining and weirder 70s movies out there. i watched it in a double feature with shock treatment and i liked shock better. if you want a better pulp sci fi sex comedy with questionable elements, watch flesh gordon (1974)

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#I DONT LIKE ROCKY HORROR PICTURE SHOW EITHER LOL I had a friend show it to me and I was like #😟 the whole time it really just like does not hold up at all to me. And I am NOT someone who’s a stickler for like #Flawless LGBT representation & im understanding of things being products of their time #But yeah something and everything about rocky horror feels supremely base. I can see it being eye opening/validating for a certain kind #But idk I figured out I was gay and came out to my parents when I was 13 and im just trying to mind my own business rn. Offers me nothing #I can respect a lot of aspects of it in theory and totally respect people for whom it resonated with but overall I just feel like #Like . We were kind of past this back then and are certainly past this by now. It doesn’t serve us much of anything #-But I also largely dislike musicals + I simply just personally find it to be fucking obnoxious. Time warp is a good song tho

[bloodsbane]

is anything ever going to be as funny as that part in the SU finale where white diamond starts speaking in color theory and amethyst is just like "what the FUCK is this crazy bitch even talking about"

#banebabbles #i think about it sometimes #i LOVE that bit of dialogue from WD just by itself i think it's such an interesting thing to bring forth #like as a way of exploring their dynamics w each other and pink #also love it bc it explicitly states blue and yellow are weak for each other in a really fundamental way... GAY #but also amethyst's response makes the joke bc like yeah what IS she talking about #i can totally understand all of that flying over someone's head if they don't know anything about like #how objects absorbing and reflecting color/light works

[traitorsinsalem]

i sound like the youngest boomer on earth whenever i say this but it really was a mistake for baby gays to learn about the term fruit. idk what it is about the internet that makes kids see a derogatory term for a marginalized group they’re part of, or even just adjacent to, which they’ve never been targeted with and decide it’s just their new Special Inside Joke Swear Word. some 16 y/o online calling a picture of a celebrity wearing a gaudy sweater fruity or faggy isn’t “reclamation” it’s just parroting homophobia and not funny in the slightest.

speaking among onesself or close friends is one thing but when it gets to the point (and it has) where people are calling real life people they barely (or don’t) know homophobic terms, it doesn’t matter if the person saying it is gay or not.

#succ speaks #also i thought people were only like this online but being at a lac. people really just do this to people they know irl. #like they actually just say things. having to listen to a girl call ross gay 'fruity' in a poetry class and then like a week later... #...a guy who i was kinda friends with but also hung out with a total of like 5 times decided yeah sure i can call the group chat faggots #just......wow. people really live like this. and not even 8th grade gsa attendees who are still learning. young adults in the workforce. #i also think this sort of faux solidarity is why this same demographic desperately tries to express personal parallels to experiences... #...they have never gone through and/or cannot possibly go through. something about slowly losing the ability to listen and needing to talk. #<- also sorry to sound like a psych major but egocentric approaches to social media has done irreversible damage to so many young ppl... #...but at the same time we (young ppl on social media) are to blame because social media platforms are egocentric by design. #being invested in onesself isn't a cause of shitheadedry but a lot of people have really just gotten so dismissive of others it's insane. #also idk pretend i made a solid link between this and The Lost Art Of The Sincere Apology And Taking Accountability #this is just me parroting a convo i had w some friends at lunch 2day btw. posting it online bc someone probably needs to see this. #<- AS IN. ppl have definitely thought the same thing and need to see it articulated not that someone needs to feel called out by it #feeling called out by this would be like. a personal problem to sort out

[the-algebra-thing]

bro that shot of inumaki with his arms off is CRAZY lmfao it's the funniest shit I ever seen. literally the entire rest of the show he's shuffling around in a baggy ass shirt or lolloping across the screen and falling on the ground with panda for the give it back ending in a big old overcoat or waving a megaphone and a peace sign around or spectating maki matches in his stupid stupid clunky keith kogane core boots. and I suppose this is all to contrast and thus heighten the impact of the tongue tattoo shit but genuinely I forgot. he is just a silly little nerd to me. and they were like hm I think we maybe went a little too hard on the silly little nerd thang let's kick everybody awake again ! quick before the season ends stick in a black bg pan up shirtless shot! make sure to draw in all his ribs and give him the sluttiest waist you've ever seen! I'm losing it guys it's so funny to me

#quick while his boyfriend is talking about him remind everyonethey have to eant himso bad #ikeep seeing the clip places and it never fails to make me laugh #theyre so gay actually though like it was crazy to me when I started watching right #they were like eheheh yeah he seems scary but he's a lot softer AND I QUOTE when yuta is around #and I saw them in the movie but I was still like wow that's the gayest thing I've ever heard. #and then I mostly forgot abiut it #but no fucking way bro that was gay as hell #most sus image to come up of someone youre totally not romantically interested in while you vow revenge for them to the government #ok girl . #anyways . #jujutsu kaisen #jjk #inumaki toge

[random-bean-allie]

went to see daniel howell's show tonight.

for the very first time i saw a queer person freely making jokes about their sexuality and everyone in the room was cheering and.. it just made me really happy.

#the whole show was amazing obv #dan really is on fire eh #no but really he was so so good. super funny #and obv not the whole show was about him being gay #which made me even happier bc they were just random little comments yk? #in a good way i mean #i dunno it just made me happy seeing a gay man that comfortable and everyone that accepting #not saying it never happens. just saying i'd never personally seen it #i mean i know a grand total of 1 queer person (me) #so yeah #daniel howell #we're all doomed #dan howell #phan #phil lester #(not saying he has anything to do with this. i'm just tagging to find stuff on my tumblr blog thing) #danisnotonfire #danisnotinteresting #youtube #also yes dan is gay but i'm bi so i wrote queer person bc i just mean someone who like me likes (also) the same gender okay bye

[infizero]

every time i so much as think about that scene where light looks at porn magazines while scowling i go into hysterics its genuinely the funniest thing i've ever seen

#the funniest thing is is that i truly believe he thought he was being 100% convincing. that that's normal behavior for a completely straight #completely allosexual man #light is fucking awful and i hate him but also there's nuance to him. and sometimes i can get a little like. oh thinking about his life #before the series. specifically factoring in my headcanons about him being gay aroace and autistic and stuff. ppl have written some rlly #good fics surrounding those topics.... but yeah thats not even canon stuff but i dont care #anyways its not in a way of making excuses for how he is i just think it adds more to his character #hes total garbage but i think theres really interesting stuff with him when it comes to how he's.... VERY disconnected from others #just in general. he's like aware of how to act ''normal'' on like the most textbook surface level without being like. Aware enough to #be able to make it more convincing. and as ridiculous as it is i do see some of myself in him in that sense #also that person who said light and L is just autistic guy who's been masking his entire life vs autistic guy who's never masked in his #entire life. LITERALLY EXACTLY. genuinely perfect way to describe them they are both so similar when it comes to this #but the ways they go about it are very different. light has been playing the part of the perfect son his whole life. L doesnt try to change #himself for anyone and doesnt care when people think hes weird. both of them arent very socially aware and havent had any real friends #their whole lives. its such a fascinating parallel between them #i could go on a whole fucking thing about how light was pretending to be someone he's not around his family and at school and everything #long before he got the death note BUT. i wont. at least not right now #jesus christ how did i go from laughing about him with the magazine to this. my bad #derailed my own damn post. idk swagever #will say rq tho. watched a vid on youtube that pointed out how light expected his family to think nothing of the fact that he's gone to #such drastic measures to hide his diary when making the plan with hiding the death note which is like #that level of dedication would NOT be normal. so the fact that light expects his family to think nothing of it...... #i mean you could read that as light just once again being socially unaware. but it could also imply that light's family kind of Knows #he's hiding something and just doesn't address it. (he's gay. im talking about him being gay) #the video also referenced this comic that i didnt rb cause the actual premise of it (lawlight wedding) is um. #not at all my kind of thing. BUT it was light describing himself as a house with a basement when his family sees him as a one story house #and i thought that was such a cool analogy #ANYWAYYYSSSS i need to go to bed. thanks if you read my ramblings #serena.txt #death note posting

[variousqueerthings]

the fun of having put out the "bj's moustache is gay culture" post while also headcanoning first and foremost that whatever bj is, it's not actually gay but something way funnier and more fucked up

#what im saying is that hawkeye is sometimes bj's wife but not in a gay way #it's the opposite in a way of how frank burns desires hawkeye carnally and is so mad about it being really gay #and that hawkeye is queer in a gender and a sexuality way that means he can slide into whatever mold someone else desires #and margaret is a transmasc who will give herself that crew cut when she's in her 60s #and everyone will mistake her for a lesbian but actually she's gay for men #but hawkeye can be a girl for her if he wants #bj and frank both represent the lie of the american dream but in different ways #(that is they both went to war on a promise about smthinsmthin american duty masculinity etc) #but while I'm absolutely on the frank is gay choo choo train #idk with bj it just seems a bit boring as a read to end it there imo #especially as it's generally agreed upon that his character was so broadly written #i prefer to play in that broadness personally but hey if u wanna tag that post as gay bj i get where that comes from #ilke yeah for sure the moustache is gay culture - 70s gay culture #also tbh to get serious for a sec it was very weird getting into the mash fandom while this whole thing was going on #and i think it kept me from getting totally into it from the first jump - lot of judgement on headcanons #lot of *this is all of fandoms opinion on xy thing and if you say something different you're wrong* #lot of treating headcanons and meta as serious discussion pieces rather than just... engaging with a piece of fiction #(this not about analysing outdated elements of the show am talking the character and not-so-serious meta) #all of this to say: pls dont be weird on this post they're called headcanons for a reason #it's 2pm and i am pulling an all-nighter to hit a deadline #we're feeling fragile gents

[snekdood]

saw a post yesterday that was like "if you dont have trans women as friends u gotta think about why that is" and i really had to restrain myself from saying "it goes both ways my friend!". if you dont have any trans men as friends, ya gotta think about why that is also!

#personally? i dont choose my friends based on which minority category they belong to. #also im not out here going to 'trans group meetings' or whatever tf either. whoevers my friend is ppl who actually come into my life #who i actually get the chance to see and meet. consider: i havent actually met that many trans women irl at all. #i havent even met that many trans ppl irl at all in general- most of the trans ppl i DO happen across are NB #and i dont like making close friends online esp tumblr bc i dont trust none a yall #there are like two trans women i know that i met through someone else and 1 of them i literally just met and the other.......... based on #my interactions with her- i dont think we'd make great close friends. #acquaintances? sure. im mean thats kinda unavoidable at this point anyways. #the biggest issue is i havent met any trans women i think i'd actually click with- but thats a little unfair bc its hard to find friends #to begin with anyways let alone a trans woman specifically- if you think i gotta be out here hunting for trans women to be friends with to #fulfill your woke quota you got a weird fuckin world view on how friendships and the world in general works. #i dont make friends based on their transness or whatever tf thats fuckin weird. #theres a lot of trans women i follow online that i think i'd make great friends with- but the fact there aren't that many trans women #in general and the only ones i think i'd actually click with are ppl ill likely never meet irl? yeah i dont rly think its my #fault bud its kinda just the circumstance of life in general- there's just not a lot of trans people out there. #and no im not going to trans meetings bc that shit is usually toxic as hell anyways bye #new dating type of app but for looking for trans friends to make tumblr user buttfaceass happy about my choices #maybe if i lived in cali w my gay uncle i'd meet more but alas i live in missoura' and i dont blame trans women for wanting to hide #more here. shit i mean i do. #in total? irl? ive only met like 4 trans women. one of which im p sure is actually transfem and doesnt even live in my state #she and another one were part of a toxic abusive ass friend group and i really dont think im missing out on much. #so yeah what- you want me to try to befriend them again? bc im p sure my abuser filled their brains w bullshit about me so. #kinda not waiting on them to come around ever. #like im not exactly sure what that post wants me to do besides idk. act like the op of it? #go to toxic ass irl trans group meetings and befriend random ppl online who have no concept of friendship loyalty? yeah ill pass bud #actually actuall wait scratch that- i did know another trans woman--- she mightve been transfem too- but we met on discord #and primarily interacted there bc it was like a friendgroup discord and i think we were good enough friends we just never got super close #mostly bc im weary of queer friend groups that are predominately white and also i felt like that friendgroup only kept me around #to make fun of me. i dont think she was like that but.... the other ppl in it...... yeaaahhh... #so naturally we kinda stopped talking all together when i left the discord and stopped interacting w that friend group

[artheresy]

Wrapping my head around how Dazai is gonna escape dying in that elevator is genuinely giving me a headache like goddamn

Because I don't think there's anything Sigma can do about it? Ability wise, Sigma's ability wouldn't really help in stopping in and given how fast the elevator seems to be falling, don't think Sigma can just go further down fast enough to do anything along with not having any materials to stop the elevator

I would assume Mersault would have some kind of safety measure for the elevators, but it seems so far like they don't which is so odd to me but yknow what fair enough, but yeah like it doesn't appear from what we can see like there's a break system on the elevator, additionally, I don't know if any kind of thing set up at the bottom of the elevator shaft could safely catch it depending on what or yknow /if/ there even is anything down there which I find myself doubting since elevator safety systems from what I've seen don't rely on the elevator falling and being caught by anything underneath it. It's mostly centered around slowing and stopping the elevator before it reach the bottom of the shaft so

So yeah I really,, can't predict how that's gonna turn out, which is shaping up to make this current situation my favorite out of the current storyline in the manga 100%

#I think the sheer unpredictability of how Dazai could safe himself from this situation is why people are theorizing outside intervention #Like from chuuya and everything #I'm skeptical of those theories 100% but I understand why they're being made in all honesty because !!! #WHAT THE HELL IS DAZAI SUPPOSED TO DO TO STOP THE ELEVATOR?? #There's no cable to rely on to try anything with that #That man also still has poison in his system #So I totally get why outside intervention especially from someone who's still in an ambiguous status is what some people are guessing for #But yeah #There's no prediction I can find myself latching onto as of right now because how the hell is he gonna do it #And I definitely doubt that he's just gonna die here #Dazai dying here and dying in this way doesn't really #It doesn't feel like it's gonna happen #But who knows! Once again #I love that I can't predict where this arc is gonna go #Leaves me on my toes #Bsd #bungou gay dogs #bungo stray dogs #dazai osamu #bsd spoilers

[babisawyer]

very brave of the yellowjackets writers to be like 'hey, what if eating your friend was a bad thing?'

#🐇 #yellowjackets #I appreciate it though loved the opening scene love the aftermath of last week #I don't understand nat though like rip jackie you might be what helps us survive the winter #like maybe if you had kept some leftovers but you gobbled her up in one sitting #the whole bird thing happened but I doubt nat will make the connection there like lottie surely will #I'd also imagine now that ben can finally eat because of the birds but he might be passively suicidal like jackie was #and we know how that went. he should've quit his job and had indoor heating someone that loves him and gay sex #I still really hate the adult timeline. I love jeff and lottie's stuff is getting interesting but that's about it #I'm kinda wondering if lottie will start the cannibal rituals now after the hive vision at the end #idk I think I'm traumatized from other shows trying to shock people so I need to make theories #and I think maybe with this show the simplest explanation is the answer so I'm trying not to make theories #even though I think antler queen jackie would be so fun like it's probably just lottie #also needs to be said I dislike misty and showtunes even more now the girls should have probably had them for brunch already #and also I'm like convinced that shauna has a personality disorder like I won't say she didn't have feelings for jackie #but like she wanted to be jackie more than she wanted to be with jackie #there are many other reasons but yeah totally sure of it now #anyway I could probably say more but I have to start packing! so goodbye for now!

[stairs-feooff]

Everyone on that stupid fucking ‘queer isn’t a slur!’ Post is white I just know it

#it’s the entire lack of nuance #like the ‘people were mean and called me gay in a derogatory way in 2004 so that’s a reclaimed slur now too!’ #yeah and people have called me hispanic in a way that makes it clear they view me as subhuman but I’m not saying that’s a fucking slur #also the lack of touching grass/existing in the south of rural areas #it’s also acting like it’s totally all or nothing which comes with the lack of nuance #if someone wants to call themselves queer I don’t care but rewriting history to say it isn’t a slur? you are EVIL i hate you

[sunriseverse]

it’s so funny how i spent years being like “yeah i have a normal amount of thoughts and feelings about polyamory” and like. you will never guess. who doesn’t.

#i’m like sleep deprivation drunk sorry everyone i’m going to be chatty if i don’t pass out #something so fucking intimate about calling someone your third though. have you guys heard about this #yeah i opened up my ppx fic saw wx call xg their third and had to bite my hand to stop myself from bursting into tears #totally uhhhhh normal fine normal reactions. totally normal #local gay processes emotions through fiction it’s fine #c.txt

[miraculousbohemian]

ok now onto fins, femmes and gems episode. idk if i got that right.

someone should draw xena wearing the women want me, fish fear me hat because that was honestly the only tought i was thinking while watching it

ALSO "get them Gabrielle! you're beautiful when you're angry." MISS MA'AM??? THAT'S GAY.

#this show will never stop suprising me #tbh i love ares in this #bros vile and sassy #loki who #don't know her #ANYWAY ARES FUCK YEAH BRP #bro #damnit #this show did totally not include me to study ancient greece in uni #nah #lets wait like 3-4 years #someone remind me #xena warrior princess #idiots to bigger idiots to lovers #xena stop being gay in a middle school boy way #thats how i can describe it

[unproduciblesmackdown]

it's not about that you "have" to get to exercise your autonomy. b/c like, yes you do, but not in the way that "if i don't get to do that Now i will explode & evaporate (& die)" which is what people keep leveraging to be like "so you don't have any valid argument for getting to act out your own choices"

therein is another issue of "why do you need a 'valid argument' to get Exceptions as ruled by this person to exist autonomously, unpunished" like why's this person an authority who gets to punish you. nonrhetorically, why do you have to appeal to their maybe possibly deciding to Let you be a person. should you "have" to.

and if you don't get that Permission that you supposedly "have" to get, you also will not immediately explode and die if you do that unpermitted thing, but shocking how "you don't Haaaave to" is only invoked re: things you want to do for yourself, and not what they want you to do for them....because it's Not Really About "Literally literally Haaaaving to"

the alignment between people getting on one for years about asexuality, and while doing so maxing out the saturation on their bullshit on any & everything, b/c you're just getting into anti autonomy, so ofc you're also just stoking & expressing "arguments" against autonomy that are deployed in plenty of other contexts, including against other queer identities....and that particular resonance with biphobia & transphobia, and how either groups are theoretically thwarting the Truest Gays because how will we have a valid argument against the truest cishets agenda if we can't convince them we haaaaaave to be like this instead of that no, we won't explode & die if we have to be repressed or at least closeted another day, and another, and you won't explode after another, either, etc. rather than thee point of "asexuality autonomy = queer autonomy = Your queer autonomy = Anyone's Autonomy" and "why do we 'have' to Convince anyone to go 'oh alriiiight' abt one's choices about how they express their identity, what decisions they make about having sex"....it's about anyone having the power to preclude & restrict others' autonomy & constrain their existence between one kind of more imminent, immediate harm/death & a more drawn out one where you exist as a resource for others' use but at least you aren't Literally dead today. so what if someone's saying "well i don't think your gender/sexuality stuff is Real" so long as they can't get in the way of other people living that out anyways. so what if someone's supposedly like "well, but everyone could be bi" (which they don't. just like ppl were never 'pretending' to be asexual to nefariously stand around in the queer space that never rigorously vetted everyone anyways? Making Up A Guy To Get Mad At) to supposedly argue that if all of you are bi you can just restrict yourself to the Cishet Appearing manifestations (which they don't) where what's that even matter if this [guy to get mad at] can't make that anyone else's problem? if he can, why can he. should he be able to. that's the problem, not "have we all tried the constant biphobia wherein they're always thwarting & sabotaging the rest of us?? like how trans people are keeping us from being legitimate?? with the opportunity for some trans people to also try declaring other noncis people Not Legitimately Trans?? well the cishet agenda loves asexuals, actually, they want everyone to never have sex ever (they don't want that, and that's not what being asexual is)"

using the "you can't Know through Direct Perception or extrasensory phenomena what someone else's Thoughts And Feelings are" both ways; wherein their assertion of their intentions, true or not, gets to be treated as an assertion of Reality, meanwhile b/c Your intentions/thoughts/feelings can't be directly observed, you're just lying or exaggerating or misremembering or failing to Express yourself correctly b/c they would've surely interpreted it correctly otherwise, or [anything else] re: your inner experiences that you can't "prove" are one way or another, so this other person gets to always decide for themself what they must be (why?) and if they just so happen to decide they Must be in alignment with what they want (good) or unacceptably, evilly, incorrectly Against Them, they also get to flex their control over the entire situation via their Authority / control over resources / the person's lack of other options b/c of isolation & that, say, breaking away from a family, job, marriage or just deemed correctly romantic relationship, is punished by the larger system of How Things Are, through a lack of resources that makes you more vulnerable in general as well as vulnerable to further punishment in how you might try to respond to that situation, through the general stance that maintaining cohesion of a Unit like the nuclear family, the "romantic" "man"/"woman" couple, is good, so breaking from it is deviant........anyways it's like. if you're like "well i'm having sex b/c i want to" and someone is like "well i say YOURE LYING" like, what? "isn't there someone you forgot to ask" shit. why should that get to affect things. whether you're like "oh no. what if they could say 'you're lying...b/c how do i knowwww you're not BI. where you could want to have sex with someone BESIDES this one person rn?? or ACE??? if you Don't have sex rn and you Don't explode and die 5 min later we will Know you Could Be Asexual" like, this isn't how it works anyways obviously but theoretically if it did: we would not be like "oh sorry guess that's what matters" unless what mattered was some people's being lower on a hierarchy and at the quite literal disposal of those with more power than them. what would the crisis be of someone going "well i think. every gay person? is bi" or someone going "you've just told me your name is gloria but i think your name is actually tetris...." or "i'm so embarrassed i wish everyone but me was dead" if none of these things can hinder the existence of people having sex w/autonomy for all involved or people getting to tell you their name or all other people being alive

the banger quote on my imdb page was saying "no, i don't 'Have' to, but i'm going to" to an authoritarian in my life, concluding several minutes' "negotiation" of [i 'have' to hang up on this call now b/c the movie i'm standing in this movie theater to see is about to start. no i won't explode and die if i don't. i also won't explode and die if i don't keep "talking" to you (being Talked At / lectured & upbraided from afar)] funny how that works. i also Know this was a checkmate b/c that person gave up on responding (or, technically, switched to The Silent Treatment, which worked even worse via phone than in person) and i did hang up rather than miss the movie i showed up for and then they had to resort to Other Methods: telling someone willing to take on the enabling cop mode that i had Essentially said Go Fuck Yourself. like well that's right, and the fact that it's a "go fuck yourself" to get to say "i am going to end the call b/c i choose to do something else" and then actually do so is a real testament to this relationship. and if one had said "i can't keep talking, i have to go" and someone's like "sldfj you mean thou MAY not keep talking" teehee i don't know, CAN you have the peas????? it's like this obviously doesn't matter. i can choose to do shit and choose to not do shit without exploding and dying right this very second, except for taking 5 sec to eat a deadly bomb with a timer set for 5 sec. This Is Not The Point. why is autonomy off-limits to Anyone.

#authoritarian parent whose silent treatments fail: anti crossdressing household law will get everyone to stop inconveniently Being People #spoilers: i continue to be a real life person; nonbinary; autistic; i continue to not engage in a relationship w/that parent b/c #Their choice was to have that relationship be the authority & the property. so the response to that: not being in that situation. #creating that kind of relationship & then being like ''why don't i get the Benefits of a different kind of relationship that is defined by #everyone being recognized as people and having actual positive experiences and legitimately Wanting to interact :('' #the autonomy to Not do something b/c you don't want to = the autonomy to Totally do something b/c you do want to #hence the idea of the True / Ideal Homosexual being ''but i Must Only have gay sex or i'll explode & die'' vs ''i feel like having gay sex' #yeah we ''could'' all be forced into binary genders & nuclear family units & be miserable & isolated but not literally explode. #but why should we. why would we. why can't we Not do that #hence as well that queer autonomy=everyone's autonomy. ppl who id as cishet? don't need to be Forced into that or into Awful Marriage Asap #but they do if we wanna isolate everyone / eliminate broader social support networks / restrict the autonomy to do anything else #asexuality handshake bisexuality. parallel to aromanticism handshake polyamory #and the backup to ''well but you won't literally die'' is to preclude Choice entirely by diverting the focus from [questioning ur choices] #to [questioning whether you have the capacity to make choices] as an extension. lens on ableism / disability justice is in Everything #not in like a ''huh. who'd've thought that overlapped'' Fun Fact way but in [you don't Understand that issue fully if you don't see ableism #someone's always getting to justify their authority by their Superior Ability vs others' Inferior/Absent Ability #saw that zany ''radical queer theory based on vibes is now that asexuals aren't queer'' streak definitely manifest ableism #a good ol fashioned ''asexuals won't consider What's Wrong With Them / try harder to seek some conversion therapy'' great stuff gang #or even more useless declarations of ''haha but most people Aren't ace. it's not Normal to not want to have sex. checkmate?'' #and what is your conclusion to that logic? ended up in ''ace ppl. are cringe!! & maybe not real!!!'' aaand what do we do with that? #what praytell do you suggest change based on that. how has that exclusionist analysis served queer lives. how is it continuing to do so. #versus like and who cares if everyone Could possibly all be labeled bi if what is In Practice anyways is ppl getting to have sex or Not how #they want to anyways. recognizing that Any trans person's existence is a testament to Everyone's autonomy #any ''threat'' to children is always guaranteed abt the Threat to [parents' control to decide Who & What a child gets to be] #that is; ''protecting'' children is abt the child being the property of parents. gotta protect That by withholding all info about trans ppl #even existing from kids b/c Property can't decide their identities for themselves so Children can't be allowed to either #their even knowing that some people Do get to exist autonomously is; indeed; that ''threat'' to the [child is property] order #and Language as Possibility. it's the 2010s & you can only go ''that's me i'm nonbinary'' when you learn abt the word ''nonbinary'' #even though you can then know you always knew but you didn't have the word so you had to keep on using other; more inaccurate words.... #discovering the tree trunk of [word: Autistic] that roots all these branches of ppl talking abt Experiences & now Realizing Things....