#she was still my grandmother

[fandomsandfeminism]

😮‍💨 Went out to socialize with some coworkers yesterday. I mention that I'm bi, and then just a minute later that I have a husband.

Coworker (who is a lesbian, for the record, so what follows isnt straight ignorance) that I really do not know: oh, wait, you're married?

Me: ha, yes.

Them: And you're bi?

Me: ...yes?

Them: wow, so like, an open relationship?

Me: ....?????? No?

Them: really?.....so, you're married. In a monogamous relationship? And...you're still bi?

Me: ...................yes? I...still think women are attractive? Like my husband still thinks women are attractive? Getting married didn't change that.

Them: oh, wow, how interesting.

#in the year of the lord 2024 #why am i having to explain this #this woman couldnt have been more than 5 or 6 yeara older than me though so wtf #but my lesbian grandmother had said something similar when i told her I was bi after i was married #she was like 'still? even though youre married?' like yeah grandma. still. wtf #it wasnt like malicious or rude #but it was #...uncomfortable and confusing

[destinationtoast]

Well, it's been a hell of a couple of weeks, and one of many things that happened is that I ended up coming home from Urgent Care looking rather like fruit being packed up for long distance shipping.

I got pretty scraped up when I fell while hiking nearly a month ago. Then I got significantly better... and then I got a whole lot worse.

If you would like to avoid some truly disgusting and painful wounds, you should know that you are likely to develop an allergy to Neosporin if you use it for multiple weeks (and probably the same goes for other brands of over-the-counter antibiotic ointments, I'm guessing).

#in better news #my parents and I successfully moved my grandmother to a retirement home #where she's been on the waiting list for over a year #there's lots left to do still but great progress #and it was hard but went well #and i got my parents each to sign up for some big health treatments they need but have been avoiding thinking about #and i tested positive for covid but it turned out to be a rare false positive #(though that cost us some time with the move while i isolated until i got PCR results) #so yeah overall a hell of a week and a half #also my parents and i rewatched S1 of Ted Lasso #and they were like #'you sure know a lot about this show' #XD #toasty life #contact dermatitis #neosporin allergy #i might be a fruit well-packaged for shipping #op #50

[residenttransguy]

Me: telling people that I'm transmasc and my pronouns are he/him

People who never once used they/them pronouns for people who actually go by those: ✨✨they✨✨

#Shout out to my grandmother #At least she doesn't outright deadname me like my dad but she still refuses to acknowledge my identity #trans #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbtqia+ #transgender #trans ftm #transmasc #transmaculine #transphobes

[holocene-sims]

a sneak peek for an upcoming (timeline tbd) update 😊

#holocene.txt #hlcn: story extras #consider this a thanks for the kind words on gratitude day :) #i wanna respond to everyone individually when i have time and also wax poetic about how much every comment means to me #it really does mean a lot #it's been a rough year and a very lonely year like i'm genuinely just so :/ #i lost both of my grandmothers this year very suddenly and the holidays feel empty now and i'm dealing with scary health issues #i finally had a brain mri after waiting for it to get scheduled since JUNE and now i have to wait on results and undergo some other testing #and i'm losing my mind a little because i planned a nice christmas gift for my mom and it feels ruined because the post office lost it #and my dad ruined the whole surprise of it by calling customer support on speaker phone with her in the room...and she ofc heard everything #i just wanted something nice for my mom :( she deserves it and although i have other gifts for her still it's not all what i planned #i don't mean to rant but i just wanted to add context when i say it means a lot that anyone even remotely likes my pixels #i may not know most of you very well *yet* (trying to fix that!!) but it's nice to feel a little support from somewhere :) beyond nice #and sorry for being absent a lot this year but i swear i have so much appreciation for y'all and i love you and your pixels dearly #i always feel bad like maybe it doesn't seem like i care in return bc i'm offline a lot now but i really do!! i care a lot!! love y'all xox

[ride-a-dromedary]

I'm still Halsin posting, but back to his family loved him a lot, I think they had a special longbow made for him that was a bit bigger and thicker stringed than the others made for his brothers and sisters (and with his childhood name written delicately on the inside, though there's no way you'd confuse his for any of theirs), so he could hunt without any problem (he may have snapped a string or two - he was still getting used to his own strength then).

He hasn't seen the bow in centuries, but he can still remember how it felt in his hands and its weight and the catching of the carvings over his fingers.

#BG3 Musing #Halsin Posting #Halsin #halsin was the kid who was already 6'5 at 14 and not done growing yet #he used to lift his grandmother up so she could keep up her apple picking after she couldn't climb anymore #and would haul and clear out camps for his sisters and stack wood for his mother and carry her bags #halsin headcanons ? not me (except yes me) #not me making stupid hcs to cope with the brainrot #the idea that halsin's family were all generally average height but then he was a giant is one of my fav things #i still play in previous lore bits so to me elves average around 5'5“ - then halsin is just pushing 7 ft

[coolnonsenseworld]

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#lance mcclain #voltron lance #commission work #voltron legendary defender #woke up 5:37 to rain #so im here making a post now #right after asking if my sister is alive bc she wasnt home when i went to sleep like sure she is an adult #but adults get abducted too #those past two days ive been just making groceries and crying at the inflation #i also hot glue gunned a box for my drawer to keep the charms in and reorganized things ! #first b3cause packing preorders will be much nicer now and second of all #im avoiding putting myself in a position where my brain can speak out loud when im under stress like shut the fuck up collect things into #boxes okay #oh have i told you i made list of reasons my mom called me lately? #accordingly it was because: someone died #then because she had a panic attack (she still doesn't call them that) #and then because my sister wasn't picking up #we ended up talking about taxes and an ongoing trial which was postponed from last year when my mom and grandmother didn't get there bc #they had a car accident #if this doesn't make you go 'lol' about life #i dont know what will #you just can't start thinking about it and have to draw beautiful Lance's that people commission from you look at him #and those shoulders trying to compensate that flat ass #i hope yall like him #😆 #everyone is totally cool so far btw i hope it doesn't distress anyone HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND

[seenthisepisode]

woah truly nothing fucks you up like family

#so it's sunday and i have been calling and inviting people to my wedding...... and hooo boy did i get some answers #my grandmother told me she doesn't know who i am and hung up on me :) #(we haven't been in touch a lot due to some family conflict that i had no part of because i was a child when something happened - i still #dont know what but something clearly did - so i was expecting maybe a cold No Thank You or whatever but jesus fucking christ.... #and it affected me more than i expected.... just wow.) also my godmother was very polite but cold i don't even expect her to come and #it was a truly awkward conversation but i survived..... #also my mom is having some kind of depressive episode or something so there is that #and i have pms and want to cry and sleep and throw up all the time actually now double because additional stress #uhhhhhhhh. FAMILY. anyway - this is and has been my diary since 2011 so where else am i to vent about stuff like this #personal

[breakfastteatime]

Feel free to stick more details in the tags ^_^

#sunday night curiosity with breakfast tea #tumblr polls #my great grandparents would've all been born in the mid to late 1800s #my grandparents were all born in the 1900s - 1910s #my mum said only her grandmother was alive by the time she was born in the 50s #also the idea that some people meet and spend time with great grandparents is mindblowing to me lol #heck it blows my mind that several of my friends still have grandparents #we're all in our late 30s so these people are OOOOOOLD

[novaauster]

me, talking about how i googled Hamlet quotes in order to write fanfic: and then there's Laertes, who I couldn't find too many good lines of,

my granny: Laertes is a bit of a beta, isn't he?

me:

#i promise this isn't a Tumblr Fake Story #my granny does not know the modern definitions of beta #she just meant he was a mid-tier frat boy #still a hell of a thing to hear your grandmother say #hamlet #shakespeare #laertes

[fictionadventurer]

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#ok sorry but i still can't get over that family history story #been thinking about it all day #during apples to apples the words 'stunning' and 'fast' came up #and my brother joked 'our great-great-grandmother apparently' #and he's not wrong #from her pov the story's even wilder #she really just saw what she wanted and took her shot #knew him for three days #and then *she* proposed to *him* #during what was apparently their first private conversation *ever* #and it worked! #if you put that in historical fiction about the 1880s people would call it unrealistic #talking about the restrictions on women or whatever #well apparently nobody told her that she was oppressed #she was too busy seizing the life she wanted

[teamhawkeye]

there are so many things that can be said in regards to grief, and yet no words can ever truly convey the depth and breadth of the agony it leaves you with

#tbd #my great aunt - essentially my grandmother figure - passed in the early morning hours on Saturday #it wasn't unexpected. she wasn't doing well since Christmas and she was doing especially bad this last week #she was 97 it's not like she went too early but it's one of those things where i thought she'd be around forever. and it really hurts #and just - having to still go about your day and go to work and do your jobs and not act like you've lost someone so important #and trying to both grieve the loss but also celebrate the incredible life of someone so beloved #and also contending with the knowledge that now my dad and his cousin are the oldest members of his side of the family #and grappling with thoughts of mortality and the passage of time and all that...

[iero]

My family members reminding me of the neglect that me and my siblings endured at the hands of our mother and how I should never forgive her for some of those things vs. my mom actually trying to be a better person and a supportive mom in the present day truly has me feeling like:

#personal #’My family members’ being my grandmother and my aunt who had to both sit back and also intervene at certain points… #This is where I’m at I guess. #I won’t ever forgive her for some things but on the other hand I’m like… She’s my mom and I know I still love her.

[diandrarumi]

another headcanon, so i read that fic about harry giving ginny his mother's necklace and it was just so sweet....

so in my head ginny is not that big for jewels and accessories, like she obviously loves girly things but she also grew up poor so she probably knew that jewellry is a luxury indulgence that is not something she'd have the luck to have. So she never really bothered with any of them

but then she saw how harry cried when he went through his family's vault and saw lily and euphemia's jewelry box and how harry was so touched knowing that he had family heirlooms passed down from the women in his family

and like he shyly gave ginny his mother's necklace and proposed to her with his grandmother's ring and when they got married harry gave her the jewelry box and told her that he hoped they would grow old together and that he could watch her pass down these heirlooms to their daughter and daughter in laws if they have any

and since then you'd never see ginny potter out and about without bracelets, earrings and necklaces.

ginny even lent victoire the potter tiara when she married teddy

#i just love family heirlooms #i remember my grandmother had this necklace #she got it from her great gran #and it was so precious that when my grandma struggled with money #she refused to sell it #mind you she had DEBTS #not that big but it was big for someone with her economy condition #still she refused to sell the necklace #told me that an heirloom is so precious that no amount of money could outbid its worth #bc heirlooms carry stories #and it is also a hope for the future #“i kept it with me because i have hope that i would have a daughter to give it to her and that shed have a daughter on her on to pass it on #hinny #harry potter headcanon #hinny head canon #ginny weasley #harry potter

[raven]

if you dont wear a mask when you're sick i hope you die. "oh its just a cold its not covid" i dont give a fuck i dont want to get a cold either. you disgust me. you sicken me. literally.

#i have a really really strong immune system but im still like. disabled to the point where if i got sick it would fuck me up bad #like my cousin has a 'cold' i offered her a mask bc my very disabled compromised Grandmother was there and she was like'well its not covid' #and my grandma was like i guess thats fine. which like ok but u should be getting MY permission too. as the second most disabled person #in the room. also for me its dire rn like i feel sooooooooo sooooooo bad rnnnnnn. if my nose gets stuffed up i might genuinely end it all

[grinchwrapsupreme]

nothing I love more in a secondhand book than a note written to someone in the cover

#just opened a copy of decline and fall by evelyn waugh that i got at a secondhand place over christmas #and inside is a note in black ink that says #''merry reading mom -shaun '92'' #like i hope she enjoyed it #i hope it's what she wanted for christmas #i wonder if shauns still around #i wonder if his mom is #best writing i ever found in a book was in the back of one #where some kid wrote his name 3 times in different coloured metallic sharpie #like you just know that kid had to read the book for school and opened a fresh pack of sharpies #and wanted to see what they looked like and didn't give a shit about the book lol #wish i could remember which book it was #i have books from my great grandmother's collection #she had a stamp with her name that she put in every one #i wonder if someone will pick these books up at a secondhand store after i'm gone #and wonder who harley was #ooh i forgot i also have that copy of dr jekyll my dad stole from his high school library #that has his name written in it in pencil along with the names of like 3 other students with the year written next to each one #and on the opposite page the name of the high school that gave it to his high school #it's my favourite kind of history sorry i'm getting really into this

[impostoradult]

I have never wanted things to return to normal more than I do right now

#i am having a truly horrifying week #my partner ended up in the ICU monday night #and is still hospitalized with an unknown illness #and my grandmother died #(she had been seriously ill for a little while & that one was more expected) #but it did happen earlier/faster than was expected #and I got the news while I was with my partner in the ICU