“We’re trained to be like, ‘If I’m not exceptional, I won’t be loved.’ Certainly, I think that was my thing,” Gatwa shared. “So, yeah, I think I’m just learning now like, ‘Oh, you are allowed to be loved.’ You don’t have to be excellent or aspire to that term, ‘Black excellence’. What the hell?”
He continued, “There’s so much white mediocrity that gets celebrated, and Black people, we have to be absolutely flawless to get half of [that] anyway. So, I’m slowly training myself out of that and being like, ‘No shit. You deserve love just for existing.’ And that has taught me to be a lot more loving as well, in a weird way.”
When you publicly come out by choice, when you feel secure and ready and willing, even then it’s terrifying and you will feel waves of regret and confusion and discord within yourself.
When the choice part is taken away, when the security and readiness and willingness are smothered, when coming out is forced, the grief that comes with it is soul crushing.
No matter the motivation behind it, the act of coming out causes traumatic stress which can take a lifetime to recover from, if you ever do.
Coming out is not simple. It’s not quick. It’s not like ripping off a bandaid. It’s a complex surgery that lasts your whole life and you’re awake for all of it. And everyone in the world gets to sit in the viewing room and watch and comment. Once in a while they get to come in and poke your organs or even remove one and examine it. It’s life long discomfort.
No one should ever be pressured into coming out. Ever.
i'm going to cry??? i love her so much it's so amazing to have queer actors, especially non binary actors and hes. talking about it and it's just... i've never really seen myself in anything, like yeah in some cartoons and in community but there was only really one cartoon ive seen with a character so much like me with an autistic and queer storyline and in community he's not canonically queer and yeah May isnt canonically autistic but it's like... a non binary character. with a story so similar to mine, and they're talking about it, and i just feel so seen whenever Justin talks about being queer.
being non binary can be so lonely, but when i see things like this, or talk to people like me, or just remember that theres people like me, like her... everything feels so much safer. so much more secure. yes, it can be lonely, but it can bring us together and it can create a community. i love being non binary and May helped me accept that i am. because when i was so scared of being outside the binary, and when i was trying to convince myself that if i'm not a girl i can be a boy, i saw May and they helped me. because non binary actors help me know that this wont stop me from doing what i love and having a good life. because if theres people like him, it's okay.
I come from a country where machismo equates to strength, and equates to a feeling of superiority over others. And being part of the LGBTQIA+ community is considered everything but that. Navigating how I was brought up, to moving here, to then receiving another identity as an immigrant and Latino was very confusing. But I found my way, thankfully.
I’m old enough to remember when people were up in arms about anyone in fandom suggesting that Richard Armitage was gay. Ian McKellan can count after all!
The Hobbit was a very queer film. So imagine my surprise when I realized that he came out last year! https://www.queerty.com/richard-armitage-casually-comes-out-says-he-warned-his-partner-about-full-frontal-scene-in-obsession-20230419
For reference (2014): https://www.queerty.com/are-richard-armitage-and-lee-pace-a-secret-gay-hollywood-power-couple-20140105
who ever said this is stupid What tyler posey got involved into Kit Connor Come out issue Like Kit connor, Dove cameron, Harry styles, lil nas x and colton haynes are all LBGTQ+ Queer Celebrities, Tyler Posey is not on the list because one The Fluid stuff is nonsense saying he’s not attracted to guys he likes only women and its the media who put the pansexual part Because They said it not him, So I more defending Kit connor for his sexuality But Tyler Posey is not on that list and he’s completely stupidity is not part of the Lbgtq community by making a porno Onlyfans page so whoever say tyler posey is not queerbaiting Yall are stupid!
here’s the evidence TYLER POSEY IS NOT FLUID/PANSEXUAL STOP SAYING IT!
im so glad you were able to come out on your own terms, in your own way, and we're all so proud!!!
there are already people online being weird about it, and they seriously need to stop. coming out is hard, and noah deserves all the support in the world 💙