#probs an ADHD symptom

[writing-in-mermish]

Tips for writing empaths from a person who struggles with hyper empathy

While talking about hyper empathy with my sibling, @poore-choice-of-words, we realized that my experiences might be really inciteful into how being or becoming an empath might feel, so here are some things that I’ve noticed and tried to verbalize about this.

disclaimer: this is only my experience so this might not be accurate for everyone who struggles with this, also, I am not an expert and this is not a science, it’s basically all feelings, I’m just trying to wrap my brain and some logic around it and thought it might be interesting if you’re writing empaths.

physical proximity/level of engagement can make a difference: I remember when I was little, overhearing arguments would make me shrink away from mental and physical discomfort. I would try and get as far away as possible because of they way it made me feel. I’d also try to focus on other things like cleaning or schoolwork or reading. The farther away, physically and mentally, the better I felt. this lead to serious conflict avoidance issues that I’m still trying to work on.

Tamping down your emotions is not helpful, it actually makes it worse: with plenty people, ignoring your feelings can leave them completely blind to what going on with you, I might not be always aware of where the emotions are coming from, but I can sure as hell still feel them! A lot of times, it even makes it more palpable. It’s like, instead of holding an herb that I can see and smell, it’s like someone is crushing it out of sight, which makes it smell stronger, but hides where it’s coming from. When people are processing their emotions or at least are feeling them for themselves, it takes a lot of the emotional weight of me.

Numbing does work???? when I’m the one doing it! (kind of): one of the symptoms of depression is numbing! It is super confusing for someone who can normally feel all the feels to not be able to sense what’s going on with other people, this can happen when you are depressed. It’s very upsetting, especially cause it seems like you can’t completely numb, so it feels like this weird power you’ve always had is going of the fritz, and when that’s how you’ve survived a lot social interactions, it can feel like losing your life vest while out in the ocean.

(side not, sometimes numbing is focused on certain emotions or topics, so when you come across one that you aren’t numbed for, you get an emotional break down. If you your feelings are bottled up, and they find a crack, they come out sideways! this feels tangentially related but not important enough to be it’s own thing)

Empaths shouldn’t just be the nicest characters: A side affect of absorbing other peoples emotions is acting out because of them. If someone is going through it, and an empath isn’t good about controlling their feelings, they’re gonna be right there with them. This means empaths should be all kinds of mental, especially if others around them are messed up. Let empaths be assholes! And waffle about feeling extreme guilt and vindication about it.

Media escapism is on another level: Like I said about physical proximity above, having a screen between you and the other person (particularly if they are fictional in some way) makes it much harder to be overwhelmed by the feelings. So making media a comfort (or even addiction) for your empaths is a great idea. (Its especially interesting if they enjoy media with emotions they run from IRL).

Folks with low empathy are actually great?: My sibling has low empathy (this says nothing about their compassion, they are a very caring person) and they are far more relaxing to be around. Not being bombarded by strong emotions around them is great, especially because they’ve learned to verbalize thing so I’m not in the dark. This might look different if the person is untrustworthy, but maybe that’s a fun blind spot to give your empath. The character dynamics are interesting here for sure.

#There’s probably other stuff but I can’t think of them right now #so I guess this is it #If you have any questions #please send them my way #I’d be happy to help #empaths #writing advice #probs an ADHD symptom #I don’t talk about it much for obvious reasons #but I thought it might be helpful info for writers #so here we are

[contagious-addiction]

Perhaps… it was a hubris mistake to drink three red bulls today

#wren.rambles #listen I’ve got undiagnosed adhd most likely and have no shot in hell of getting something for it any time soon #so I make due with energy drinks since it’s the only thing that makes me feel some what clearheaded and not drowning in brain fog #I already calculated I’d be suffering from staying awake for a while so I’m fine with this #it’s just that it’s 3am and I’ll be honest I don’t wanna sleep yet so… yeah #I’ll have been awake for 24hrs in 4hrs woo! #also reg Red Bull sucks sm so I only drink the blueberry or peach ones #or the juneberry or whatever it’s called #I don’t have a caffeine addiction since I don’t get withdrawal symptoms btw so we fine kings my heart probs isn’t too happy about it tho

[mx-misty-eyed]

i am so confused

#don’t rb #so like. there’s definitely something wrong with my brain #or multiple things most likely #and i’m trying to figure out what specifically it is #but it’s hard bc i’m kinda hesitant to self diagnose #all for informed self diagnosis ofc but im just doubting myself/have an internalized/irrational fear that i’m faking everything #especially since my therapist keeps diminishing stuff that i tell her #and i asked her to do a screening for ocd and she never did and idk if she forgot or she just didn’t believe me/think it was a big enough #deal where it’s worth getting tested or whatever #and also with the self diagnosis a lot of the stuff that i’m wondering whether or not i have has overlapping symptoms with other stuff #so idk how to differentiate/figure out what it actually is #like i’m fairly sure i have ocd depression and adhd #and prob anxiety too #(apparently it’s not normal to have a set of words that you repeat over and over in your head to calm yourself down) #but also it’s possible some of the stuff i’m experiencing is a sign of bpd and/or bipolar (more likely bpd i think but it could be bipolar) #and also i’m thinking it might be possible i have osdd? either 1a or 1b i’m not really sure #like i feel like i have kinda different personalities for school and home and stuff like that #but idk if that’s just a normal thing where you act differently around different people #<- like obv that’s a thing a lot of ppl experience i think but idk if the extent to which i’m experiencing it would make it osdd #but also idk? it’s possible i have osdd-1b #idk how likely any of this is but #like idk how to describe it #but i think the description sounds mildly accurate at least #like i def don’t have amnesia #and idk #like it’s possible that it’s different system members but #i also don’t know if that’s a thing that’s up for debate? #like if it was then i feel like it would be more apparent #that there’s different system members and stuff #rest of the tags got fucked up check replies

[vexahlla]

im so RAAAAAAAA CONFUSED

#my psych eval coming up prob isnt even gonna TOUCH on this bc i need to focus on getting an adhd diagnosis finally (lol) #but wtf. i brought up quiet bpd to my therapist who btw doesnt know everything bc im JUST STARTING to KIND OF be vulnerable #even tho i've LITERALLY been seeing her since i was 24 she still thinks im 24. anyways. #and she was like noooo you're not bpd that would present so obviously you're just fearful avoidant #AND THENNN she was like you might have dependent personality disorder tho #which. i dont think so lol. i def struggle with decision making but not DAILY like getting dressed etc and i think thats an adhd thing #bc i HATE the idea of depending on others i def play into the baby of the family thing but otherwise nooo #AND dependency is a symptom of bpd AND fear of dependency is fearful avoidant #so maybe im just FA. but like i said she doesnt know everything but most of what im thinking of #happened as a TEENAGER. like you're emotionally unstable as a teen SO? #if i can im just gonna be fully honest with the psychiatrist and if they think im crazy then LMAO THATS WHY IM THERE #edit i dont have trouble deciding how to dress. my struggles with decisions stem from adhd. is what i meant

[foxstens]

on another note. with every day that passes im more sure i have adhd

#my posts #lifeblogging #listen diagnosing yourself based on what you see on the internet is prob not the best idea #but the thing is #oftentimes ill just google something that i do or experience differently #from other people #at least based on what theyve told me #and more often than not it /can/ be a symptom of adhd #and yea a lot of things can be symptoms of a lot of other things #but this has been a thing for years #and theres so much #theres just so much #of course i wont know for sure until i actually take my ass to a qualified person #but considering my personal circumstances and the country i live in #and also the world in general right now #i do not know when that will be #its just funny that its still happening #like ill just randomly google picky eating and texture preferences #and things like that in adults specifically #and guess where i end up #too bad its still so fucking hard to find stuff abt adhd in afab adults -_- #but y e a h

[r1c4rd4]

Shout out to (this has prob been done before but anyway)

people w ADHD undiagnosed people w ADHD diagnosed people w ADHD w trauma cuz of abelism people w ADHD w out trauma cuz of abelism people w ADHD that explain their actions w ADHD and get judged for it people w ADHD reclaiming slurs used against them people w ADHD stimming in public people w ADHD who arent able to write or focus in school people w ADHD who need time alone to stim people w ADHD who listen to music to get shit done people w ADHD who dont have the typical ADHD symptoms people w ADHD who don't need to stim people w ADD people w ADHD who get weird looks for stimming people w ADHD who have a hard time following routinues people w ADHD who don't have a sense of time people w ADHD who don't understand social clues people w ADHD who do not understand the importance of some things to others people w ADHD who can't remember to drink people w ADHD who can't remember to eat people w ADHD spending way too much money impulsivly

#shout out #adhd stuff #adhd post #adhd brain #adhd #adhd things #actually adhd #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodivergence #adhd problems #actually neurodiverse #neurodiverse stuff #neurospicy

[garlimcbread]

Could you do all the greasers and a f!greaser whose neruodivergent? (More so autism but it’s the 60s and no one knows anything then) They know that’s the reason most people don’t hang with her, because she’s not the best at convo and eye contact, but they like her cause she’s cool? Also they know her cause Two-Bits dating her. Idk I think it’d be sweet

RAHHH THIS IS SO ME

SUCH EASY CHARACTERIZATION....... ITS PERFECT 😦

TYTY FOR THE REQUEST!!!!! ITS SUCH AN HONOR 🛐

Ponyboy

Neurodivergent too 💀💀

not like autism but adhd inattentive

Darry's autistic too so he knows how you function

Is really bad at convos too so if you two hung out you would just be sitting in silence until Pony's like

"So....... the weather huh....."

Sodapop

Has adhd (hyperactive)

Again Darry's autistic so he knows what to do

highly recommend talking with him bc you won't have to say anything he'll carry the whole convo

Also bc you CANT say anything 💀

this guy talks so much you cannot get a WORD out

Darry

HAS AUTISM TOO

He likes legos bc Mr. and Mrs. Curtis bought him legos to play with at a young age and they STUCK.

He fs has a lego build in the basement but its like a whole CITY

like in the lego movie

He'd let you work on it if the gang is getting too loud for you

(this is a very high honor)

understands texture things VERY. well

Johnny

Has autism in the undiagnosed way

also its milder for him

his jacket is FS a comfort object so if you have one he one hundred percent understands

if need be he WILL guard it for you

likes bugs and will probably get upset if you scream and run away when he hands you a bug affectionately

Dally

SO.... HEAR ME OUT..... ALSO UNDIAGNOSED AUTISM

makes fun of you.... but just list off all his symptoms and he'll back off bc hes just so outraged

Johnny prob has to protect your comfort object (if you have one) from him 💀

he is MEAN. idk what you want from me/lh

Two-Bit

HE IS SUCH A SWEET LITTLE SILLY GOOSE

makes jokes abt your autism?? only bc he thinks its funny he's not trying to be malicious

looks at all your little special interest glorbos with you bc it makes you happy <3

copies your stimming?? not bc hes making fun of you he just thinks its fun and you look cute when you're excited

like??? "*stimming*" "YOU GET IT HONEY!!!!!!🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️"

would steal things you like for you

Steve

pays you no mind

like??? when you're stimming he doesn't stare or anything or even mention it

doesn't mention anything about odd behavior

would probably make you try something if he knows nothing about the texture might set you off/lh but otherwise he doesn't push

I can't tell if all the greasers means Tim and Curly too or not?? I'm gonna say no bc they don't really hang around Two-Bit...

If you wanted to see them just let me know!!!!!

#the outsiders #ponyboy curtis #sodapop curtis #darry curtis #darrel curtis #johnny cade #dally winston #dallas winston #two bit mathews #steve randle #two bit x reader #two bit matthews x reader

[stardustkrishnaverse]

HEY GUYS

STORY TIME

so I wanna like talk about one of Shri Keshav's miracles today where I really felt his work 😭

so like honestly my whole life I've been struggling with a sense of routine, idk why it's so hard for me but I just have a mental block that prevents my brain from stringing the logic together to create one consciously???

(but I also medically have adhd symptoms so yeah probs why)

and it's literally a daily frustration that's put such a hindrance on my life since I joined uni, so 3 years ago. like, I literally struggle with this so much its impacted my uni studies entirely.

so yeah usually I don't ask Keshav for anything except like "be with me" and all... I usually just try to bring about the changes within MYSELF, WITH His presence in my life. cos I felt like I needed to do it all myself and 'prove myself'.

but I read this story yesterday about how in the Mahabharata, Dharmaraj felt ashamed about the situation with the gambling game, hence he didn't surrender or even ask Shri Krishna to do anything during it - he didn't ask for His advice or input at all, none of them did until Draupadiji did during you-know-what, when he finally was able to step in. so I took away from that that it's okay to ask for guidance and help from Shri Krishna so you can be saved from unnecessary things. that's a cosmic law of free will - until you ask Shri Krishna to step in, he won't be able to.

so yeah then I got the inspo, and I was annoyed with myself today (not even the most annoyed ive been, like 4/10 annoyed) and was just like, "okay im so done with how much I waste time, Shri Krishna please help me with my productivity and routine!!!"

after that, I was meeting a couple friends today, both who were not very spiritual to my knowledge. one left early (very unexpectedly and last min may i add) and the other stayed.

we were just talking about bollywood, and i completely forgot about my work. with this friend we usually don't talk about self-help, super personal life stuff, etc. that much.

BUT. it turned out that my friend has been more spiritual recently, and been trying to be more productive. and i told him about how chaotic my routine was, and was comfortable enough to talk about my daily spirituality.

and so he literally sat down and helped me make a routine.

we wrote it out in the local Korean restaurant on a few receipts, and he made it so easy and simple, literally just starting with "what would YOU like to do in the day". he listened to all my one-braincell fusses about needing stimulation and my erratic adhd routine etc. etc. and patiently helped me plan a structure for my day. he gave me his advice from when he was struggling with the same things. and now I have a physical timetable, and i literally feel so much more grounded and my energy feels more contained and I'm not as restless.

so like, WHAT. ???!!!!!

so all I had to do all these years was just ASK SHRI KRISHNA TO HELP??!!!!

and as soon as I said bye to my friend I was like. THIS IS KRISHNA. IT IS LITERALLY ALL KRISHNA. WHAT THE HELL.

so um. guys, learn this lesson!!! ask shri krishna for help if you're struggling with something!!! and open your heart to what he says!!! :3

radhey radhey~ 🦚💙🙏✨️

#krishnablr #krishna #gopiblr #thanks for reading this far omg #vedi tells a story

[girlhorse]

i do wonder how much of my depression and ADHD like attention symptoms are related to sleep apnea, tho prob not at all related to the issues i have with social awkwardness... i guess if CPAP works we will see if my mood and energy increase helps with any mental symptoms

#gab gabs

[curioscurio]

youve probs already been tested for it but one of my mums friends had similar symptoms and had gone through endless tests and it turned out it was a b vitamin deficiency, either way hope your symptoms give you an easier time <3

haha, yeah my B levels were also normal ! I specifically asked for B12 and vitamin D and iron since those were common deficiencies that are associated with adhd :] thank you so much for the kind words though, I really appreciate it! The vitamin D gummies should help with some of it at least! Just gonna keep on trucking for now

[everydaygremlin]

ok so my doctor sent this site in an email addressed to me and my parents

and from what ive seen, it focuses mostly on the parents of kids with adhd and its treatment of the kids being written abt seems kind of icky? idk its probs just me but idk

[sleepy-starzz]

LOLOLOLL

Okay so it has come to my attention that i got uploaded to r/fdc and lemme make one thing clear, u abosulute bagoons dont know shits abt what ur talking abt! im self diagnosed with some things yes but proffesionally diagnosed with autism, adhd, anxeity (social and general), ocd, and bipolar disorder. i have also been diagnosed with "npd traits" (ie; basically i have a LOT of the npd symptoms but i cant/wont be diagnosed for whatever reason probs my age) but anyways i just wanna think that its sad really! how pissed yall get over "faker" whom u dont know and will NEVER know lmao!! okay thats all :3

also i need to make (ooo mayve fake) a new intro anyways but just so yall know, ur experience does not dicate mine, im prof and self dx, and i hope that all of you who claim that ppl fake simply bcuz YOUR stupid and refuse to yknow research. that u kindly go fuck urselves

#r/fakedisordercringe #oh my god #actual cringe #disorder faker ig?? #tw fakeclaiming #anti fakeclaiming #fuck fakeclaimers #fakeclaiming mention

[eurydices-ghost]

feeling a little better now............so my therapist thinks i prob have adhd (working on getting a Real Diagnosis TM w/ Medication (R)) and i recently learned that one symptom of adhd is having a hard time controlling emotions. which is something i've struggled with since college!

[variant-archive]

i've been scrambling to find flags/terms relating to all types of adhd, the same way ive seen a ton of flags for different ocd types/subtypes, same for other disorders (npd, specific delusion types, etc) i feel like it'd be great for people to have flags they can use to specify theyre type! if you could help find something like that id absolutely love it... /not forced

As far as being recognized by psychologists and co., there's only the three subtypes (primarily hyperactive, primarily inattentive aka me, and combined). There's also cognitive disengagement syndrome (formerly sluggish cognitive tempo) which is another attention disorder but not exactly an ADHD subtype, more like a parallel disorder of attention. My OCD subtype flags have all been subtypes that are recognized by clinicians so far. They can be found on NOCD which is a treatment and info site for OCD. There are also clinically recognized subtypes for personality disorders and delusions which is probs what you've seen flags for (although I have seen some PD "archetype" terms/flags but I consider that different from a subtype and more of a way to express yourself than describe symptoms, totally valid though).

That being said I think creating unofficial subtypes of existing conditions is... probably fine? Definitely better than straight up MUDs (for those who haven't gone into radqueer rabbit holes out of morbid curiosity, that means people making up entirely new disorders without any basis in science or any research or anything). But subtypes of existing conditions isn't a thing people besides those in the field of practice are doing yet afaik. I've considered doing this for OCD myself because obsessions and compulsions can be about anything so any number of subtypes exist as long as someone experiences them. But subtypes of things like OCD and phobias are a lot more simple, straightforward, and inherently implied/included under the disorder than it would be for something like ADHD. I think it's probably fine but it would require more consideration than coining a gender or something and individuals should get input from others with the condition. And definitely don't coin subtypes for conditions you don't have (unless you're helping someone who does, I suppose). Trust me, I super super get the appeal especially for those who don't fit the "stereotype" their neurotype has bc that can feel alienating for sure (I actually think this is a core reason why folks feel the need to coin MUDs to describe their exact symptoms, with the other core reason being that people with symptoms unexplainable by any existing condition want a "reason" or "cause" to attribute them to when sometimes people just... have symptoms, on their own, not fitting any diagnosis). Just be careful and considerate, please!

[sweet-milky-tea705]

Hm. I never was sure about the autism, like maybe maybe not i probs have adhd or a weird combo but. Maybe my mom was right about it being neither. It may be cptsd displaying a bajillion symptoms that mimic various other things like ocd, adhd, and autism. Neurodivergent real though, i wanna study myself under a microscope.

[catsluvsfrankiero]

just got home from a psych eval and they literally took away my adhd diagnosis and my 504 bc “adhd symptoms r probs just a side effect of ur ptsd :3″ AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAUUUUUUUGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH