#or straight ppl saying the f slur

[matoitech]

also maybe im just an Sensitive Faggot but i rly dont like seeing ppl jokingly call their weird fears abt laios/chilchuck in triggers adaptation ‘yaoi’ cuz trigger has like actual gay man characters and if you thinkits appropriate and not weird and insulting to call gay anime men ‘yaoi’ just like inherently im literally going to hit you with a rock. i dont think any of these ppl know much abt trigger but like definitely not a good mistake to make when u have like, galo and lio right there

#galolio r Gay. they r not 'straight women fetishizing gay men' media. genuinely insulted ppl would think 2 say that just cuz theyre #anime characters #f slur #y/aoi jokes r never in good taste imo its kind of hard to make haha its funny bcuz ppl fetishize you be in good taste #i do not like seeing it but its esp in bad taste when triggerhas actual gay characters in their stuff

[electriccenturies]

...why... why has the mcr fandom suddenly decided it's okay to call ppl slurs???

the misgendering is old news by now but the constant f*g f*ggot f*g f*g is new and AWFUL. it is NOT progressive or okay??? you get to reclaim it for YOURSELF, it is still a slur if you say it about others!!!! especially about ppl who have specifically asked you to not speculate or talk about their sexuality... and ppl who have almost certainly had that word used to hurt them.

like i cant speak about fr*nk or r*y but the w*y bros have both talked about people thinking they were gay in high school and being bullied for it. the 90s were NOT like now, it was not SAFE. that is also why ppl call m*key GNC btw since ive seen ppl complain about that. yeah what he wore is p normal NOW, but it was not back then??? you can't just remove context from things??? so yeah, m*key wearing super tight girls jeans and eyeliner and doing whatever the fuck he did to his hair back then (and even just being openly touchy feely with dudes??? like those heychris pics) WAS gnc in 2005. so, so wild to me how people have latched on to g*rard being the "true f*g of the band" or whatever when m*key was also pretty openly doing gay shit too. it says a lot about what people actually care about: making g*rard a paper doll to project onto — he was talking about YOU!!!! — rather than actually being excited to have successful, gnc, probably lgbt icons like that.

i just dont get how people can convince themselves they're being Good People and treating LGBT people well while they act like this. like trans is not a slur, she is not a slur, but it is 100% misgendering to call someone trans or she/her if they have never asked you to??? why is okay to misgender g*rard as a 'joke' but not misgender YOU?

it's because you treat transness as a joke, sorry!

#i have blocked so many ppl for calling g*rard a girl/trans/transfem/she/a f*g that theres barely anything left to see #I truly dont know what to say to ppl who think thats okay... how can they claim to 'love' and 'respect' g*rard #while blatantly violating his wishes? he has said over and over to STOP forcing labels on him #its not okay to misgender people i dont give a fuck if you're trans #its not okay to force ANY label on real human people or to call them slurs??? WHAT?!?! idk how this fandom got so twisted #g*rard has made it super fucking clear that his identity is none of our business and if he IS trans he clearly doesn't want to come out #(he's also clarified what he meant by he/they but ppl who take 'i identified WITH girls' as 'I identify AS a girl' dont care about that) #like ive said this before i think but believing he legit uses he/they pronouns also means that you think his brother and friends dont care #enough about him to do it since they ONLY ever use he when refering to g*rard #if he actually asks for smth then yeah of course ppl should respect it! but he HASN'T and he's straight up done the opposite #u think he's gonna ever feel safe coming out now that his words have been twisted and ppl think its cool to call him a trans woman? #idk its just Gross. it is the exact opposite of progressive and kind #think whatever u want like i have a Theory about a member of MCR but u know what? i dont fucking TELL people unless they bring it up first #and then only in DMs!!! #keep it to yourself if you have to talk about it!!!!! #im bitter about how ive been treated btw but i am trans positive... just not cool with THIS version of the 'trans community' #just if anyone was gonna throw that at me... i want changes but i do very much want trans ppl to be able to transition... ANYWAY

[growbackyoursharpestteeth]

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#hold on im having some thoughts about that ‘queer is not a slur’ post that i just need to get out so bad bc I’ve never said it (typed it) #I hate. HATE. the word faggot. even typing it #that is a slur to me and will always be a slur and I have asked straight ppl not to say it around me #but I’ll never tell a gay person they can’t use it or identify with it #if that’s their truth then that’s their truth #the fact that the f slur traumatized me when I was younger doesn’t mean I can or will ever stop other queer people from using it #older queers who’ve been using it for decades or gen z’ers just now reclaiming it #i won’t force someone who’s uncomfortable with the word queer to identify with it #but you HAVE to respect queer people the same way you respect dykes and fags and trannies etc #seeing young ppl on this website who have no problem calling themselves fags but rage against using queer as an umbrella term for community #I don’t fucking get it dude. i don’t get it #the hypocrisy drives me fucking crazy #I just needed to get this thought out #I think i will always hate faggot/fag/faggy #but ppl who use that word shouldn’t give a fuck just like I don’t give a fuck if you hate the word queer #:)

[electraslight]

Heyy! I'm a Brazilian follower n I read the interaction abt "it's okay to Ben be a f", and I would just like to say that it really isn't meant like that in Portuguese loll! "Aviadaram" it's more of a joke, like turning smth or someone to a more non-cohforming type of way, kinda? It's like less about actually being gay and more about being different, and it's mostly used in a good way, like you changed stereotypical straight Ben we usually see to a more "yassified" persona!!

I just wanted to leave this here in case you got offended or hurt about the interaction, cause those words always end up turning into the f word when translated (which is kinda rare to be used in Portuguese when it's on a harming way, specially online). Love your art! ❤

ohhh thank you this is super helpful!! i keep reading ppl using 'avidaram' about me or my art and i was confused since its usually in a positive context. this makes a lot more sense!! i was a little uneasy abt slurs being thrown around like that but it's kind of like calling something 'faggy' or 'fruity' postitively, right? god i need a portuguese translator i can just call up and ask about things i keep getting confused. thanks so much for the clarification

#kevin speaks

[1eos]

'straight ppl i implore u to say f*g! gay isnt enough' oh i just know op white ass cries and throws up begging wishing pleading black ppl would implore them to call us n*ggers lol. like i love slur reclamation bc its really the dumbest white ppl alive trying sososososososososososososoososososososo hard to find roundabout permission to say the n word. i see u [redacted]s for what you are!

#the way the white ego breaks down when there is something #anything not meant for their express usage

[schizowitchic]

re: the last post i reblogged i am now going to rant about biphobia i have experienced and am experiencing! yay /s

(under a cut bc this got way too long)

so in secondary school i was in a friend group full of queer people, majority of whom were bisexual girls (at the time. a couple are now nonbinary / asexual) . and they were very big on the whole "bisexual culture is liking every woman and 2 men" thing, a lot of "ew men" jokes, and all in all general "liking women is better than liking men" "why am i dating a gross icky man i should be with a woman".

now i am more attracted to men than women, not by much, its typically fairly equal, but i definitely have a leaning towards men. and i repressed that for AGES. because it simply was "frowned upon", so to speak, from almost everyone i was close with

(for further context for the rest of this. i am not out as genderfluid. i use she/her pronouns irl and ppl know me as a cis woman. i am not really out as aromantic, when i identified as aroace i did tell a few people but i think they either completely ignored me or forgot. lol.)

nowadays, i tell my friends i am bisexual. one in particular always seems to forget, constantly calling me gay/lesbian, assuming i have no opinion or that my opinion will be "ew no" when she asks if i find a man she likes hot. (she has told me so many times "why am i asking you this you don't even like men". i have told her i am bisexual several times) (she also thinks it's funny to call me & another friend "f-slurs" . she says that not the actual word but still. i have to find it funny bc she gets so defensive if we imply she's homophobic)

(i do call myself gay bc i consider none of my attraction ever to be straight. i have no major issues with being called a lesbian apart from the fact that. yknow. im not a lesbian and have never identified as such)

i made a post a while back saying something like "help im being biseuxal erasured". because i am!! i am stuck in yet another situation with people who are either mainly attracted to women/only attracted to women/don't often talk about their attraction to me & also two cishet girls who are attracted to men in a very different way than i am (one of whom erases the fact i am attracted to men and the other who i don't like and probably assumes i'm a lesbian bc of how often everyone else says that)

also full of "ew men" jokes!!. might i add.

i literally have no space to talk about the way i experience attraction, i have to water it down and pretend i only like women, pretend i am interested in romance, pretend i feel attraction when the occasioanll bout of extreme sex-repulsion hits, take (albeit censored) homophobic slurs, sex jokes about me & another female friend that are getting uncomfortable.

and pretend like the main perpretatror of this isn't being at all queerphobic. (she also has massive racism and antisemitism issues. although my friend did throw basically a whole book at her face when she made a really bad joke). to the point where i no longer consider her a friend but i can't say that bc then im overreacting and i'll get the same bullying ostracisation treatment & my friends are still gonna hang out w her so i can't avoid it

people wonder why i am aplatonic when throughout friendships i have experienced: making fun of me to my face & behind my back, bullying, homophobia, biphobia, aphobia, ableism .

like what the fuck. im sick and fucking tired of having nowhere safe to express my sexuality bc let's be real, the internet often isn't the best space.

ive made my peace with either having to compromise my aromanticism or my allosexuality irl (ie either be out as bisexual or out as aroace) but apparently i can't even freely be bisexual without people making assumptions and at this point im just waiting it out until i can hit restart and try make new friends

#biphobia #homophobia #long post #aphobia #queerphobia #bisexual #im aware some of my wording may be misinterpreted . im struggling to explain this #as you may be able to tell from the longwindedness #having friends is exhausting and stressful #aplatonic #aromantic #personal #rant #nyxie be quiet challenge

[le0jay]

genuine question. why are ppl okay with bo burnham saying the f slur? as far as the public knows, hes straight. i get that he used it in a context that mocked kids who would bully him in school but it still doesnt make it okay for a non-lgbtq+ person to be using it imo. seems disrespectful, even if he says he supports the lgbtq+ community.

[menalez]

Well I've been called f*ggot too [Even tho I'm a bisexual woman] so even tho f*ggot is something usually thrown towards gay men, it has been used against me too. Like I said I have no interest in calling myself slur. Just that homophobes don't care about whether or not they're using the right or correct one against someone they don't perceive as straight. If u say hey I'm bisexual in response to getting called homophobic slurs they don't take what they said back cuz they don't care

yeah and ive been called the n-word but it doesn’t mean i can reclaim a slur that literally is just a derogatory term for black ppl ??? like idk whats not clicking. these terms literally are derogatory terms for gay men or lesbians, they’re used for the intent of disparaging those specific groups. ppl misusing them or throwing them at ppl it doesn’t apply to doesn’t mean it makes sense to reclaim a homophobic slur. like by this logic hetero masculine women can reclaim dyke too

#ppl have called me all sorts of slurs that don’t apply sometimes also bc they know im part black or sth else but #literally it’s not my place to reclaim them. idk why some ppl so desperately want to reclaim slurs meant to disparage other groups

[bylertruther]

(Same anon) I wasn't in the fandom before S4 so I think it's so wild that people tried to use my interpretation of Mike's intentions to say that Will isn't gay at all because that scene could not have been more clearly a 'hint' for the audience toward Will's sexuality (I say hint bc the GA is dumb). When it comes to Will's character and how he's perceived, it shouldn't even matter what Mike was intending bc the line about him not liking girls (and Will's heartbroken reaction to it) is the most obvious sign that he's gay and I can't believe that you guys had to sit through three years of people denying it. Props to everyone who was in the fandom between seasons 3 and 4 and put up with that shit because I wouldn't have been able to do it.

right? they would totally ignore all nuance (as per usual) and be like "nope this is ONLY about will's childhood, this has NOTHING to do with his sexuality (which is straight btw) and you're delusional if you think so". like... okay. sure. whatever. and it didn't help that the producers n creators n such never talked about the sexuality aspect of it either. they would skirt around it and talk about will's feelings of loss n loneliness etc. the ga being homophobic shits + their reluctance to be as outright as they are now is actually what made me give up on stranger things if you can believe it lmao. i felt like i was being gaslighted like first mike goes from being obsessed with will to literally forgetting he's in the room, then there's the rain fight, then people are saying he's not gay, then the duffers and shawn were like 😴😴, and i was just. i was Done. will is literally introduced to us in the first seventeen minutes as the f-slur and his family is always telling him how proud they are of him and how he should love what he loves without shame and mike fights a homophobe for him and so on and so forth... but sure.... will's not gay at all and WE'RE the weird ones for thinking that.... uh-huh.... it's not like scenes can have multiple layers and suggest many things at once. sigh. so tiring. idk how some of those ppl haven't died yet considering how clueless they are abt anything and everything full offense. anyway, yeah. twas rough. i can't rewatch s3 bc that entire era was #traumatic for me LMAOOOO

#asks #the only reason i watched season four is bc i saw ppl saying will is GAY gay now and i was like OH SHIT ?!? MY SON?! HE MADE IT OUT OF #QUEER CODED HELL AND INTO CANON QUEERNESS? I'M ON MY FUCKING WAY #and then i saw some Mutual Gay Shit n well. the rest is herstory they say ...

[digital999placebo]

DEAFENING silence from Germany who is trying desperately to not be noticed and dragged into whatever the fuck is going on.

1. The man already has his hands full with Veneziano n Prussia who r tweeting shit like “@brdeutschland doesn’t put the toilet lid down 🤨🤨🤨🤨dealbreaker yes Or no?” “@brdeutschland wet his bed until he was 13” n Germany does the one thing ur never supposed to do if u want someone to stop cybebullying u: he responds. “Hi, I’d really appreciate if you did not tag Germany’s official Twitter account for these things. If you must, tag his personal @ludwigbbeilschmidt Thank you” n everyone thinks his overly formal responses r hilarious so every1 just starts tweeting the sickest shit n tagging him, it’s like Millie Bobby Brown is homophobic but Germany. “I was at the grocery store today and Germany was working the register, when he got to me he threw the milk in my face n called me the f-slur”. Like Spain’s PR team, Germany’s PR team r like: stop tweeting PLEASE” but instead of Germany being horny on main, it’s just him trying to set the record straight that he did not call someone the f-slur, he did not hit someone with his car just bc they were in a wheelchair, he does NOT leave the toilet lid up.

2. UGH literally. I hate to say it but Alfred would b like the best one at social medias. Sadly his social media probably have that corporate feel to them, like ppl responds to his tweets with “SILENCE BRAND”

#asks #hetalia

[cliveguy]

Okay ppl being like um obviously you don’t care abt unlabeled/closeted ppl if u crit Harry!!! lol. No that is . Not the point? Like sure, I guess u can have beef w ppl calling him cishet…but it’s not like he has definitively said he isn’t? And idk maybe it’s just me but I don’t think it’s right to decisively call someone queer if they haven’t like. Said it themselves? I’m also literally a closeted person and I know there are things I can and cannot say because of this. I am not using the f slur where I’m not out, bc I’m aware it wouldn’t look right to use it. I am not making sweeping (false) generalizations about a community I haven’t explicitly made clear I’m a part of. I get the frustration at demanding labels from people but like. As u said I think, wearing a few rompers dresses colors etc and holding a pride flag does not make a queer person. Anyway Part of me really thinks (wants…desires…) we could have a bi bye misha scenario here

literally! and also as a (presumably?) not rich and famous person your range of influence is way smaller than styles'. like even if a regular closeted person made random comments on tumblr lgbt discourse or used slurs it wouldnt make an impact in the way interviews with vogue does. also as much ass i WISH we could have another misha situation only misha is a big enough Ally that he would go through the pain and humiliation of coming out as straight

#ask #anonymous #literally the only cishet to know the pain of coming out BECAUSE IT WAS THAT HUMILIATING FOR HIM #hs would just let people think hes a bisexual ambivert

[redheadbigshoes]

Bi women were, or have been called dykes not just because they are sapphic, but because they are perceived as lesbians. If a bisexual woman was walking down the street with a man, ppl wouldn't say anything because they perceive her as str8. if she's walking down the street with a woman, homophobes will assume she's a lesbian. Just because a slur is used against you doesn't mean you fit the description of the slur and can therefore reclaim it. And yeah, u said it, dyke literally means lesbian. Not sapphic, wlw, or nmlnm. Lesbian. Why would a non-lesbian reclaim a slur that isn't even THEIRS. If someone called me (a lesbian) the f-slur, that doesn't mean i'm gonna start saying it whenever and however i want because it's not my slur. this literally just sounds like ppl wanting to be able to say slurs to feel more oppressed. i've already seen some bisexuals asking why they don't have their own slur.

Thank you. I think you explained this very well and better than me. And it’s exactly that, the reason why they’re called dyke is because they’re perceived as lesbians, which is related to bi erasure because a lot of people will see a woman with another woman and call that woman a lesbian, and if the same woman was with a man it’s very likely that woman would be called straight.

#stephanie answers #long post #anon

[amporella]

you ppl are way nicer than I am tbh. say the n word and the f slur as a straight white person and I no longer care what happens to you

#the line was pole vaulted over #obv we know who I’m talking about

[finn-theshark]

Answering questions (Either from ppl irl or TikTok)

“Are you a furry?”-tiktok

Yep

“Do you p1$$ in a litter box”-Irl

Uh.. no????

“R u a therian”-TikTok

Yep :)

“How many pets do u have?” -irl

4 dogs , 2 cats and a bird! So about 7

“are you gay”-irl

nah I’m 100% straight🙏🙏 /J

“Can I see ur feet” -irl

..no??? What.?.

“do you support z00s”TikTok

No.

“Are you a z00”TikTok

NOOO

“What’s ur gender”-Tiktok

Demi-boy :)

“Who’s ur boyfriend” -TikTok

Aden<33

“Can I have a mask for free”-Irl and TikTok

No. Unless ik u otherwise wait for me to finally get an Etsy shop

“Do you say the f slur” -Tiktok

Nah I don’t rlly like to say it even tho I could

“What’s ur theriotypes?”-tiktok

German Shepard, Bat (idk what type yet), And Raccoon:) I’m also otherhearted Fox and maincoon^^(edit: I’m also a fictionkin)

“What’s the difference between otherhearted and being a therian?”-tiktok

Therian is where you identify on a non physical level with a animal/animals , Being otherhearted is the connection to a certain animal or just animals in general

[cankersaurus]

I think i pinpointed why everyone throwing around the f slur in recent years bugs me so much, its because they hide behind the fact that they are "reclaiming" the slur when they are not they are just using the slur as intended.

To me, reclaiming the f slur looks like "im a faggot" "i love being a faggot" "im proud to be a faggot" etcetera. yknow, identifying with it.

But how most ppl "reclaim" the f slur is just by calling their friends the f slur because they might be acting gay or whatever.

And dont get me wrong i would much rather a gay person call their friend "a fucking fag" than a straight person do such, but i feel like -atleast in my experience- it just floods the conversation with slurs.

And i do think that gay people can sprinkle those jokes into conversation as to make fun of straight people who would act like that, but it's like salt- too much and it just tastes awful and you're all dehydrated.

And i have seen a fairly recent conversation that the epidemic of teenagers on tiktok throwing around slurs -maybe not the most eloquent way to put it but i wouldnt say im wrong- started with white people desperately wanting to say slurs since black people got to say the n word, and thus they say their reclaiming those words when really they're just saying slurs.

And whether white gays are subconsciously or consciously thinking that i think that i think that conversation has a lot of weight to it, and thats not to say that poc dont say slurs in a way that isnt actually reclaiming but I'm saying that they probably weren't the first, yknow?

All in all wut im getting at is that there's a difference between reclaiming a slur and just saying slurs that might be thrown at you.

#hope this makes sense #slurs #tw slur #tw f slur #leftism #leftist conversation #slur discourse #gay #queer #queer conversation #conversation #would love to hear your thoughts #queer community #gay community

[menalez]

straight ppl desperate to say q***r, the f slur, or dyke 🤝 white ppl desperate to say the n-word