#or maybe I’m just a lesbian and not bi

[supergraphicultramoderngirl]

u ever hear a friend say something that they think is like this highly political and progressive thing and ur just kind of sitting there like. oh you haven’t gotten the new update yet

#one of my best friends who i love dearly is very chronically online but only in very certain ways #she’s like a twitter gay level leftist which is all fine and dandy #except she will say ‘that’s an outdated term’ as a knee jerk reaction to me saying i took the aspie quiz (which is the literal name of the #quiz and doesn’t consider asperger’s as one of the results anyway) but then in the same breath say that he/him or bi lesbians aren’t legit #like every time i see her pull that kind of stuff i’m like oh you haven’t gotten to the ‘you can do whatever you want forever’ stage yet #idk. i think she’s coming around to more things but it’s like. weird #she also just regularly rewatches glee so maybe that’s the problem #mari is irrelevant

[jorvikzelda]

today i had this Vivid memory flash through my mind of kissing my ex boyfriend (this was like 2018) and i felt so viscerally fucking revolted and I gotta say. it is truly impressive that I didn’t realise I’m a lesbian sooner than fucking half a year ago

#z talks #like the misidentifying as ace was Inevitable i think. that was due to repression that realising i didnt like men would not have fixed #(context: id’d as bi ace like. i wanna say 2016/17-2021/22 sometime and then went into ace and Questioning) #remember the time i really solidly settled on being aro because ‘romance has never not felt like a chore and putting on a facade’ #babe no thats because your most recent and also singular long term relationship was with a Man #and thats the only one youre looking back on #its so funny how i dated a guy and it was so thoroughly Meh that i just didnt feel like pursuing anything romantic for a very long time #(A REACTION I HAD NOT HAD AFTER MY PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS WITH GIRLS) #And DIDN’T somehow consider that maybe I just Didn’t Like Guys #its nothing i grieve or feel sad about dw its honestly mostly funny to look back on #no wrongs were committed and i dont hold a grudge against the guy it was just me being confused and compheted #(…which is also a weird word to apply because at the time i identified and was out to my friends as a trans guy Binary. #This Was Also Wrong.) #was a weird time man. a truly weird time #anyway. all is well i have now been on 2 dates with a really cute girl and she gave me tulips <3 #as part of a Care Delivery bc i had a Migraine and No Painkillers Or Snacks #get well flowers <333333 #and now i dream of kissing her under the moonlight #With the uh. Hornetposting lately it May seem unlikely but yes I DO interact with real women! Romantically! #They coexist Wonderfully <3 #Anyway. I’m gonna go to bed #Realising that im a lesbian solved all my identity problems including my fucking gender which is just fantastic #I am very happy and whenever I think of being a lesbian it grounds me to reality a little bit stronger and i go yeah. Yeah.

[lloydofhyrule64]

I feel like in general, queer relationships tend to be healthier than cishet relationships, and I think that a big part of that is when you’re queer, there’s less pressure to conform to outdated gender roles.

#Maybe I’m totally off or maybe I’m 10 years late to the conversation #But I’ve been thinking about this for a while and I just really wanted to get it out there #LGBTQIA+ #lesbian #gay #Bi #trans #queer #intersex #aroace

[dawningfairytale]

look, i’m not saying that playing an instrument with a reed is an inherently sapphic experience, but i am saying that most of the queer girls and women in my life have played reeded instruments including tara jones from heartstopper so. take that as you will.

#tara jones #band memes #sapphic #wlw #lesbian #bisexual #that being said maybe it’s just bc i’m a bi girl and play clarinet #reeded instruments being clarinet sax bassoon etc #or maybe it’s just bc my school was pretty gay. and the band was very gay. #DIDNT GET A GIRLFRIEND THO #this post is mainly based on tara heartstopper actually

[goldrushenthusiast]

might have compheted too close to the sun

#I cannot decide between bi and lesbian #like I LOVE obsessing over men #I do it all the time #but also like actually dating one I didn’t make up in my mind? #I mean I know I’ll date women #or I think I do #I also can’t decide if I’m straight maybe #🥰 #like women can just get me better #but like men are so fine #but like so are women #so I think I’m bi #but I just… #yeah! #comphet #lesbian comphet #lesbian #bi #wlw #queer

[reenaria]

currently having a queer identity crisis on this accursed holiday

#but actually. i’ve realized that like. 95% or more of my attraction to men has been comphet #i thought it wasn’t because i’ve been more or less identifying as bi since i was 11 #so like. i figured if i didn’t like men at all i would’ve figured it out sooner? #it wasn’t until a couple years ago that i resolved to stop dating straight & masculine guys because i feel like i’m performing for them #and my current partner of 2.5 years is amab and socially perceived as a man but he’s bi and sees himself as ‘void of gender’ #which is also the way i see him but not the way most people see him #he does get mistaken for a woman a fair ammount though. which brings us both a lot of joy lol #but anyway. my crisis is that i’ve been feeling more and more detached from the bi label because i feel like it implies attraction to men #and i’ve known for a little while now that i’m almost exclusively attracted to femininity and androgyny #and primarily attracted to women in general #like if i weren’t with my partner i would 100% be out there dating women and maybe? identifying as a lesbian #but i feel like i have no claim to that label especially with my current partner who is not a woman and is much more androgynous than fem #idk. do i keep calling myself bi? it feels like i’ve slipped away from it #i’ve been using queer a lot more lately because umbrella terms are the only thing that seem to make sense to me anymore #i know labels can be super complicated and unhelpful in some cases but i also want to know where my place is in the community ya know? #i feel so confused without a solid label and it’s causing me a lot more stress than it should #(also my partner is such a blessing and said he’d be supportive if i ever felt i needed to leave him to be with women) #(like he said ‘i’d be sad for a while but i’d still be your best friend) and i was just 🥺 #this may be even longer than my last tag novel lmao i just hate the idea of putting this stuff in the body of the post #anyway if any pals/mutuals read all that and have any insight or advice i’d be curious to hear #reena.txt

[thisismisogynoir]

Saw a Reddit thread on AskWomen about women who thought they were lesbians until they ended up with guys and if that’s not the most invalidating and paranoia-inducing shit I’ve ever seen—

#like #i’m sure that is the experience for some #but as a lesbian it is super duper invalidating to see other women talk like that #because it’s like #you may THINK you’re a lesbian now but eventually you’ll get with a guy as you’re naturally and inevitably supposed to #is what they’re saying for me #not playing the blame game—okay maybe i am a little bit #but that’s just how it felt for me #gave me a miniature panic attack like what if i’m not a REAL lesbian even though I am #and then they talked about how sexuality is fluid and can shift over time #if that’s the case then why don’t i see anybody saying they thought they were gay until they fell in love with a woman like? #it just felt offensive like all women are expected to like men #and if they had just said they realized they were bi or pan then that would be fine #but instead no they had to go shit on all lesbians’ very sexuality and identity with the language they used #basically the way they said well i thought i was a lesbian BUT I’M NOT ANYMORE I REALIZED THAT I LIKED GUYS AFTER ALL #just irritated me severely #idk if i’m making sense here #i’m tired of lesbianism being treated as an experimental phase in a way that other sexualities aren’t #like just let us be lesbians and be fine that way goddamnit #and third and lastly why not put that shit in the bisexual or pansexual subreddits where lesbians don’t have to see it #the fucking audacity i swear #and maybe also while editing the language so that it doesn’t invalidate bi and pan women as well as lesbians in the process #just geez luisa people #okay rant over #for now at least lol #lesbian #lesbophobia #lesbian erasure #homophobia #comphet

[bisansastarks]

Just unfollowed a gossip blog for thinking Taylor is a lesbian like pls it’s not 2012

#bi? sure maybe! #a lesbian? lmao listen to her songs about yogurt boy and Jake and even John and get back to me #no I’m not discounting Harry I just think her songs about him were shallow lol

[cryptid-god]

god. that sinking feeling when you meet someone new and they are immediately on the ole romantic offensive. buddy calm down we talked about anime for 2 min and your job for 1 please please stop texting me

#this dude did nothing wrong!!!!!!! i am just not interested and i hate having to tell perfectly nice people who’ve done nothing wrong no #ughhhhhhhhh #i rarely miss being in the us but i definitely passed as straight less there than here #and i am bi! theoretically me and mr romance are compatible. don’t want to lie and say i’m a lesbian or not single or smth #but i just fucking hate rejecting people :(( i don’t like it!!!!!!!!!!!! why do i have to do it!!!!!! #maybe i’m too nice or maybe i laugh too hard when he said smth funny. why do men always wanna shoot their shot #i really feel for them it’s so difficult to DO and i really admire that courage but i wish i had to deal with it less

[sugarpopss]

Honestly?? I think Bi Eddie is one of the best supported sexuality headcanons in the show. Like the way he PEACOCKED with Chrissy and made his big puppy dog eyes at Steve? I cannot seperate that behavior from bisexuality. That’s blatant flirting with both of them.

#no tags bc I’m not trying to start an argument #I also exist in an ‘everyone is Bi until proven otherwise’ world so maybe that affects it #I ADORE BI NANCY #however I’m not a big ronance lover and that makes it very difficult to say ‘here is the support’ #Bc if I don’t see her as behaving romantically towards Robin #that’s kind of it #she doesn’t have a lot of interaction w other women her age #like Barb way back who I firmly believe was a lesbian but that’s pretty much it #I don’t remember where it is but there is a shot from S1 where Nancy sees Carol and has a ‘wlw crisis’ expression #but that’s thin at best #there’s nothing wrong with headcanon if based off of vibes or your own thoughts and desires #I just like to have something grounding sometimes and it’s hard w Nancy

[switch-bladefights]

unpopular opinion but calling bisexual girls lesbians for dating other girls is just as invalidating as saying they’re straight for dating boys

#and obvs anyone who identifies as bi not just girls but #maybe this is abt me #but i have a friend who constantly calls me a lesbian and like idk i guess i’m tired of it? #like trust me i’ve been over and over and over this and i’m just bi and if you all could stop making me feel like that’s not okay that’d be #great thanks #idk i don’t really get into queer stuff a lot but she constantly ignores the fact that i like men too #and that is actually very cool and sexy of me #whatever tho ig

[centaur-dreaming]

I’ve just realised why a lot of asexuals are vegan/vegetarian

It’s because they don’t like meat in their mouth

#lesbian #lesbian joke #Ik it doesn’t technically make sense bc we still eat pussy #maybe I should change it to asexual lesbians #or just asexuals #I’m changing to asexuals #there we go #changed it #for the record- I personally love meat #but I guess I’m bi so it makes sense #lgbt humour

[nikkinick]

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#idk I just #ppl write posts abt being a lesbian which is fine obviously but also say like things about wanting a lesbian to be in a relationship with #and it’s just kind of like.. as a bi feminine person like #disheartening to me #and makes me feel like I’m not worthy of being in a relationship with a girl who is a lesbian or smth or that she wouldn’t want me bc I’ve #been contaminated or whatever stupid shit or idk maybe I’m just ridiculously sensitive but #feels bad man

[strawbebyjam]

need someone to take the ex RO trope away from me

#every single time i’m like Yes. Yes This Is Helping. Yes I Feel Stronger. Y- [passes out sobbing] #i mean it’s delicious angst but i’m a hurtcomfort demon and hurtcomfort is not the genre of my life so it just ends up making me feel crappy #but it’s sooooooooooo. like i love it. and the. like the lingering sense of But Maybe and the way it’s validated in games. and th- #like i need someone to come over and blacklist all lovers to strangers to lovers content it is NOT good for me ‼️ [continues reading] #anyways everything feels bad again and i can’t do anything about it and my escapism all reminds me of it and the news is horrible and home #is horrible and uni is horrible and social stuff is horrible #and being this hopeless and negative about everything makes me feel entirely un-myself but i haven’t been myself in weeks #and i don’t know what being myself looks like in tbe midst of all this #and i’m working really hard to be good about it but then i think like this and it crumbles HDJDHD #going to my highschool reunion tomorrow where not a single teacher or classmate will remember or recognize me. that’s exciting #also been repeatedlyjaving the thought that id just be fine with it now to be some random mans nonsexualhousewife. family would ve happy. #and i wouldnt have 2 get a job and id just have to take care of a house. like as long as i can find sum1 who doesnt want sex it could work #and id never have to worry abt being alone again even if itd suck and id hate myself forever. but no job. n happy family #idk i promised myself i wouldnt like. give up like this. but i dontsee any other situation that doesnt end in me #like left entirely alone? i either give up family for the possibility of a fulfilling life as a lesbian but only certain ill be alone #or i try and make the best of things and make like. doing what they want. livable #anyways. back to the same dilemma as 14 year old me but this time knlwing im a lesbian and not bi. so theres not even a chance ill be happy #fun times #mano.mindtalk #neg

[oatmealmika]

bro i might be a comphet lesbian 😟

#not a bad thing! just am really confused if i actually like men or not #i THINK i do #i mean no lesbian would view aki hayakawa the way i do lol #so… idk #it’s so confusing #send help lmao #i’ve switched back and forth so many times it’s painful #first i’m a cis lesbian (2020) #then i’m genderfluid and bi #and THEN i’m a trans guy and bi #oh maybe i’m nonbinary #yeahhhh #nonbinary and bi (pref for men) (current labels) #oh wait #girl crush is only irl crush i’ve ever had #oh my GOD i think i’m a lesbian #pls read the last tag in a jaiden’s animations voice since that’s how i imagined it sounding while writing it lol