#obv there’s more nuance

[pinkfey]

i think this baby gay mentality of queer relationships being inherently healthier than straight ones is not a good one ?? maybe ??

#obv there’s more nuance #but the idea that gay ppl (sapphics especially) aren’t toxic like straight ppl are #it’s an idea that’s really harmful #before anons go fucking insane i’m not saying no one should celebrate their healthy queer relationship #just that i think in the gay community toxic and abusive and codependent relationships aren’t spoken about nearly as often as they should #i was to say bc we want to avoid the already harmful stigma that we’re all bad and predatory #*want #it’s common for baby gays to get swept up in new relationships in ways unique to queer ppl too #and i’m NOT saying stop making ur lil heehee jokes #just that baby gays need to be aware of how queer relationships can be very abusive as well #it’s very very easy to enter a codependent relationship as a gay person especially if you don’t have a good relationship with your family #it’s also easy to be taken advantage of as a younger gay person because Yes there Are older gays who seek out baby gays #i wish we could have these conversations without like. i dunno. ‘undermining’ the progress that’s been made towards gay acceptance #is this making sense?? #being queer doesn’t remove the dangers of dating and it’s rlly important that baby gays know this !! #idk i’m just talking. as usual ✊😔 #anyways.txt

[rebellum]

The whole transandrophobia discussion thing is weird bc it feels like it's a bunch of poc and jewish trans people being like "here are my experiences of how specifically being MASCULINE had affected me, and the discrimination and violence I experienced based on that. And here is how that relates to me being a racial/ethnic minority"

And then a few loud white trans people going "ohhh you wanna be oppressed so bad you *slur*. This is why there aren't any poc in your movement it's because REAL poc understand intersectionality"

#hot take white culturally christian or athiest leftests do not properly interpret white jewish ppl #like as a poc i and other poc understand that white jewish ppl often get racial privilege #but a) not always b) they experience oppression based off of their ethnicity #idk from my perspective it seems like white goyim either see jewish ppl as 'the disgusting exotic enemy' or 'basically WASPS but they #wanna feel special' #with no nuance. no recognition #look maybe this next part is bc i didnt grow up with jewish ppl and therefore didnt know until I was 18/19 that jewish ppl can count as #white. but like. idk how to say this. i dont wanna speak over white jewish ppl. but like. #jewish ppl that have obvious jewish features (whether Ashkenazi facial features OR they dont have those but wear eg kippahs) #arent like. white. idk pls correct me if this is antisemitic or incorrect or something. #but like. light skinned =/= white obviously. #i just struggle to see how my bestfriend with her lovely dark eyes and curls and nice nose counts as 'white' when ppl call her the k slur #across the street. ykwim? #like white doesnt mean light skinned. it means 'part of the in-group of white ppl' #like my ex who is white and jewish? yeah hes white. if he didnt wear his necklace then goyim wouldnt know. you know #like obvs he still experiences ethnic oppression but he doesnt experience racial oppression #but other ppl with more prominent eg ashkenazi (im singling them out bc most jewish ppl here are ash.) like i dont GET how they have racial #privilege.

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

BBC Merlin is a tragedy in that Merlin's choices that were all to save Arthur's life led to Arthur's death, but that doesn't mean it was all for nothing!! The events across their 10 years together led to a new world order which eventually brought about everything they had worked towards!! PLUS THEIR RELATIONSHIP BROUGHT JOY AND MEANING TO BOTH OF THEIR LIVES!! That means something!! GUYS!! listen guys that MEANS SOMETHING!!

#it's not like game of thrones which left us with the feeling that everything is pointless #bbc merlin #merlin #it was their love for each other that brought about the new world order!! #also I feel like people haven't watched the show in a while i keep seeing people say that Merlin betrayed his own kind #HE TRIED TO HELP THEM WHENEVER HE COULD #he introduced morgana to the druids!! He protected Gilli and told him about his magic even tho he couldve betrayed him!! #it's just that he HAD to also protect himself!! it was self preservation ok! #and sure eventually protecting arthur became more important to him than anything else #but how can ya'll play/watch TLOU and be like OBV Joel would doom the world for Ellie and then turn around and be like #merlin is a traitor to his people!! he did all he could for the promise of their future!!! and he's YOUNG and he DID HIS BEST #and how many people would let their loved ones die for a vague idea of a better society #yeah I'm a merlin apologist what of it #it's just such a nuanced issue you know i'm not saying he was right but i'm not saying he was wrong either

[dirt-mccracken]

Saw someone say trans people could refer to "any of the transphobic t-slurs as a joke" so I just want to be very fucking clear:

When I call myself a Transsexual it is not a joke.

When I call myself a Transvestite it is not a joke.

When I call myself a Tranny it is not a joke.

When I use slurs for myself it is not a joke but rather a deliberate personal and political exercise. It is a deliberate and hard won reclamation that says I beat you to it. It strips bigots of their ability to elicit shock and awe from me because every word in their arsenal I have filled with love and tenderness. If I love being transsexual fully and completely, what rhetorical ammo does the transphobe have?

#there's obvs a little more nuance than me at 7am still in bed can articulate #BUT it's not a fucking joke #these are words and terms I genuinely ID with at my core and use often in a self referential way #and for somr idiot to so confidently say people like me can only do so as a joke.... fucking die #i hate so much when people insert their opinions on matters they haven't even thought about for 30 seconds #trans tag

[danrifics]

this is a bit of an abstract question but in relation to the idea that there will never be another dan and phil, what would you say their essential qualities are? (in terms of the criteria a potential second dan and phil would have to fulfill, and then why that criteria can't be fulfilled)

(sorry if this doesn't make sense)

well the reason i believe there will never be another dnp is purely because they helped shaped the internet content landscape we see today! like sticking mainly with youtube for this but like they did the work (with some other og youtubers of course) and a lot of youtubers have what they have to say as a direct result of dan and phil, the reason there will never be another dnp is cos already pioneered the genre and like the only way their feesable could be another them is if there was a something new like youtube to pioneer and of course you could say well what about the rise of tiktok etc and tbh i think what i say to that is i dont believe influencers on that platform are famous in the same way youtubers were and are like tiktok takes direct influences from vine imo and also like now you can make long videos on there it also feels like youtube in a way

dnp have done so much that modern day youtubers are doing now like tours and books etc and they were the first to do tours and now everyone’s faves are doing it and like i genuinely think we’ve reached a peak of online video content where there honestly isn’t much more we can grow and change it and that means there’s no one really out there trying to grow and change it

youtube fandoms can do their whole shipping thing with their famous youtubers and whatever but even phannie pioneered what a youtube fandom was, we dominated that platform for years.

no one else will ever do it like them and never do it like us either

#bethanie answers #i feel like this is just a ramble lmao #my phd thesis obvs will explore all of this in a more nuanced way but this is what i wanna work with

[transxfiles]

the reason i have never watched falsettos in my own home was because i subconsciously knew that it would explode my dad's mind.

#my dad's bi and also a good person and marvin falsettos is . well first of all he's gay. and second of all. he;s Not a good person #and obv its more nuanced than that but yeah. #but ig the point is i think if my dad saw falsettos all the way through he'd be like WAIT. you can just do that?? do gay shit with #your close male friend??? for real???? #and he's bi so he'd probably stick with my mom. b ut BOY would he consider it. #god forbid he saw the boys in the band. then it might be joever. #cricket.chatterbox #purposefully gatekeeping masterpieces of queer theatre from my bisexual father #to avoid causing him an unnecessary sexuality crisis at the age of 55 #at this point. he can just be happy not knowing i think.

[variousqueerthings]

the nature of being a johnny lawrence fan, is that it is often indistinguishable from being a johnny lawrence hater, and I don't think I have that with any other character. usually I'm very protective of my faves (including in cobra kai, daniel, sam, kreese, and tsilver), but johnny, I very much enjoy reading all the reasons people dislike his character, nodding along like "yeah what an inconsistent mess, you're so right, carmen pls u deserve better narrative to work with, terry silver was telling the truth when he mocked his fatherhood abilities, but alas the writing will never support it"

#johnny lawrence fans 🤝 johnny lawrence haters -- wtf is going on with johnny lawrence's character in s5???????? #johnny lawrence #cobra kai #ck #i can write miles of text about the queercoding of johnny lawrence #and also about how terribly inconsistent the writing for him is due to a sexist notion that he must be a Badass #actually i think johnny lawrence is one of the most interesting case studies of this phenomenon #obvs most famously archetyped by dean winchester -- but i think jlaw is even More That #1. literal 80s character so all these people read him through a particular nostalgia lens #2. in a show that is possibly Thee most trope-filled nostalgia show i have ever seen be that way Accidentally #(riverdale was doing it on purpose -- stranger things... yeah maybe but i think cobra kai is even more on the nose actually) #3. played by quite a sensitive actor actually who deeply cares about the nuance of the character #which appears to be at constant war with the intentions of the narrative he has to appear in #4. and like. the writers Know about the queercoding because they've interacted with fans (nicely actually) #but they have literally no idea what to do with it but ALSO have lampshaded it occasionally #it's... it's fascinating.... #they want so badly for him to win but they're going about it the wrong way -- the narrative continues to be circular/an inward spiral #nothing has changed except for the reactions of other characters #jlaw must remain static because of our nostalgia but also be important to the story somehow #the Tension of it all is personally delicious to me but man is it frustrating as well

[peachesofteal]

🐉

Nobody talks about the fact that Olenna technically won the Game of Thrones (per the lazy ass writing) after killing Joffrey, and then Margaery dying.

“Are a sheep? No. You’re a dragon. Be a dragon.”

(The discussion of how there was no “peace” under Daenerys’ father, or his father’s, or his father’s father? The mention of Olenna outliving all the clever men? Saying the lords of Westeros are sheep? There was not enough orchestra for this dialogue. ROBBED.)

Not only did she plant the seed for Daenerys, she had the last word in regard to Joffrey’s death.

In my mind, Daenerys was a dragon at the end (I mean that in all the ways- metaphorically and otherwise), and Olenna, even dead… she won. Olenna won the Game of Thrones.

#this is my favorite scene and it’s literally a BLIP #game of thrones #don’t come for me it’s my personal opinion #got rewatch #obv I’m not talking about the books #we all know it’s more nuanced

[badolmen]

Bloody Sunday Massacre anniversary is tomorrow. My dad grew up hearing from ill informed Americans about how it was an ‘age old religious conflict’ (those Protestants and Catholics never get alone). How the violence in the north, the arrests and raids and terrorizing was justified (they had to stop those awful carbombing IRA terrorists!). How it was impossible, the country had been conquered for centuries (why would they see freedom now? they lost the war. let it rest).

And of course, it isn’t completely free and perfect. This year I’ve seen the “Irish Unification of 2024” Star Trek meme a dozen times. It’s heartening to think that such a thing could be possible, by chance to coincide with a scifi show’s alternate history.

(But all I think of is Palestine. The lies and misinformation and the propaganda machine oiled in innocent blood.)

Even today you cannot publically display the names of the killers of the Bloody Sunday Massacre in the UK. The families of the murdered have yet to see justice. Some doubt they ever will.

(I think of the hundreds of thousands of Palestinians starving, grinding animal feed for flour in a manufactured famine.)

The Choctaw and Cherokee nations sent donations during An Ghorta Mor. The Sultan sent ships of food and aid only for the British to turn most away.

(I also think of the thousands of Gaeltacht after the language was pushed to the brink of extinction. I think of the homes built on ancestral land, no more landlords or laws prohibiting Irish claims. I think of the music and laughter and dance of my family who once fled as refugees of a manufactured famine - we call our cousins across the sea and sing Come Out Ye Black and Tans over choppy phone connections.

I think of a free Palestine, and I see it - because I can see a free Ireland, more free than she’s been in centuries, closer to unity than she’s ever been. It won’t be easy or pretty - it won’t end over night, or over a few years. But that never stopped the spirit of a people dedicated to their own liberation. I know because I’ve seen it, I’ve lived among the fruits of freedom.

We can hold their hand and say, we know your pain. We see your struggle. We understand the injustice your face. We are proof that it is possible to overcome these horrors and see days filled with peace and joy. We will walk with you.)

#ra speaks #personal #sorry can’t sleep need ta get this outta my head #obv there’s ~ nuance ~ but I’m just stream of consciousnessing this #ik ok ik the Irish gov ain’t been saints abt this but the people of Ireland have long stood w our Palestinian siblings in justified defiance #like what’s happening in Gaza is magnitudes more horrific than any crime committed in Belfast #but they have the same roots and motivations. it’s like an awful echo. #going to bed if you’re gonna be weird on this post overnight I’m gonna be really sad and disappointed in you

[roobylavender]

had talia not been character assassinated do you think she and bruce should have gotten back together?

no. i hate to use the word "phase" bc that would seem to diminish the importance of what's between them, which is something that will always persist esp as their continued dedication to the same causes and their respect for each other remains. but i do think realistically bruce should be a phase in talia's life. at least in terms of consummated romances specifically. i do love the idea of them remaining allies, close friends, and co-parents, but i think allowing talia to walk away from ra's and bruce in the first place has to stand for something in the long term. before talia went her own way i think it was easier to imagine a potential future where she ended up with bruce bc it felt like the desirable option. she was in this very debilitating position where she had little to no freedom to act on her own desires and goals, the embodiment of which was none other than bruce. so when you frame her situation pre-tower of babel, obv wanting to be with bruce was appealing. he was as much the love of her life as he was a means of escape and freedom and talia having the scope to then act on her own desires. i think that's what subsequently makes dc #750 (or is it #570. i never get the numbers straight and i'm too lazy to check) a really clever issue, actually, bc it acknowledges that and the fact that bruce once again setting her free bc of his love for her actually gives her the courage to step out on her own where she never has before. the fact that she has the option to go back to gotham with bruce and presumably have everything she's ever wanted with him, but she leaves it anyway, is a really huge deal. it's a statement. she loves him, but not more than she loves herself. and sure, what talia puts herself through during lex corp era certainly begs the question of whether her version of loving herself is really viable or in any way healthy, and i would love to see bruce help her recognize that she's not alone and that she doesn't have to do it alone to prove that she's capable. all of this i agree with. but i don't think that really means she and bruce have to fall back on their once-imagined dream of playing house. even if talia did find methods of going about her work that were mentally healthier i don't really know what'd be in it for her to play house with bruce in gotham. bc that is what it would have to be, for their relationship to work in any way. bruce will never leave gotham and son of the demon didn't need to explore that issue bc it was never going to get there but trust that corny as the line about naming the baby thomas or martha was it was reflective of a reality: gotham is bruce's entire life. no matter where he goes, no matter what he does, no matter who he works with, in the end he will always belong to gotham. and i simply do not think that would ever work for talia bc there is so much more she is capable of. while her vision is aligned with bruce's her scope of access and ability is entirely distinct of his own and there is so much more that she can do aside from relegate herself to gotham (hence why lex corp as an arc makes so much sense, bc it capitalizes on that scope). and yeah every superhero couple is kinda crazy and they have teleportation and shit but idk i don't think it's really a relationship for each party to go on long missions with ill-defined parameters that give them the worst sleep schedules known to man and occasionally they share a bed. it really isn't. and that's something that bruce and talia have to live with. their duty is always going to come first even though they both have a passion for civilian life. for talia to be in a relationship again she would have to stop having the liberty of being able to go wherever the work carries her and for bruce to be in a relationship again he would have to have the equivalent of a robin-wife. neither of these things is ever going to happen. so

#outbox #i realize this sounds somewhat hypocritical bc then it's like. but what about damian! wouldn't the same apply to him! #and idk i don't think it would. your kid is different from your lover #obv i imagine talia would try to be around for damian as much as possible #but as i've discussed a lot of times even that i think would be tricky for her. she was willing to say she lost her baby #bc she thought if she didn't the world would lose batman #she's like. craaaaazy dedicated to her work so yeah i do think she'd try to coparent with whatever capacity she could #and her love would be genuine and overflowing etc etc #but at the end of the day she's not going to settle in gotham solely for the purpose of raising him #or for the purpose of appeasing bruce's notions of pathetic puppy dog romance #her liberty is too impt to her #ironically enough this is funny to talk about in context of that batman & robin panel from yesterday bc like #had they not character assassinated her that's really how it might've gone. at least imo #like it's a shame they had to resort to all of these racist and orientalist tropes about her being an abusive mother #to somehow justify why bruce should be the resident parent instead #when you literally could've just followed the thread of talia valuing her independence #versus bruce being desperate for any remaining semblance of normal civilian life like it's an oxygen tank and he's losing air #not only would that have been realistic it would also have carried nuance and allowed insight into bruce and talia's psyches #and more than anything. it would have been funny #but i DIGRESS. tldr yes talia would coparent but even that would be with certain limitations #i think she's the kind of person / mom who like. leaves her love everywhere but can't necessarily stand where she leaves it. yknow #like i could even bring jason into this #i really do think she'd do everything in her power to try to get jason to break from the red hood persona and heal etc #and she'd have immense affection for him #but she's not going to sit and play house and babysit him once she's free and once she knows he's free too #she's very big on personal accountability #so she'd check up on him and the love would be there but like. the bigger picture would always interfere #anywayyyy. thank you for the question i love to ramble about this stuff LOL

[shecomeswithteeth]

got into beef with a they/them in an instagram comment section over her saying both misandry and misogyny are lame. i started with “well no women actually have a reason to hate men because theyre our oppressor class.” she doubled down saying it was still lame. then i asked “do you think brown and black people hating white people for what they’ve done to them throughout history is lame?” and she went “of course not but thats not the same” LITERALLY as an indigenous woman tell me how its fine to hate white ppl but not ok to hate men for the same reasons, im waiting. its still a matter of an oppressed class hating their oppressor class and im so sick of people treating misogyny not as seriously as other -isms or -phobias!!!

#radblr #terfblr #radical feminism #radfem #gender ideology #terf #terf safe #terfs please interact #i know shes a woman because of her other responses in different reply threads where shes getting cooked even more #obviously there are nuances with race and sex but we did not even get there lmfao #like if u consider the dichotomy between white women and brown men #and white women can definitely hate men for racist reasons but obv thats not ok #im talking about the fact that men of all cultures brutalize women in their cultures to some degree #she deleted her comment😭😭😭😭😭 #internalized misogyny #is it bad if i tag pick-me #also i paraphrased our conversation #update: she didnt delete her comment she just blocked me LMFAOOOO

[quietwingsinthesky]

Do you agree w/ the fandom interpretation that john was so homophobic he’d have beaten up and abandoned his sons for being gay? Cause sure, he grew up in the 60s as a mechanic and then later became a marine during the vietnam war, but i also don’t think homophobia would’ve necessarily been a priority for him? Like obviously he’s not gonna be the full on supportive and politically correct loving dad, but i think that the fandom’s general opinion on that is pretty warped by people’s relationships w/ their own fathers

I do think this is one place where people tend to project. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that; working out our issues through fiction is healthy and good! I don’t think there’s any canon proof of it beyond, as you said, him being a marine from the sixties who would probably not be super knowledgeable about being queer, maybe a little apprehensive about it from what he’s absorbed through the culture he grew up in. I think we’d be correct to point out that if Sam or Dean were queer, he might be uncomfortable about it, he might try to avoid the topic, which is in of itself hurtful.

The thing about me is: I fully disagree that John was ever physically abusive towards his kids. At most, I will bend this interpretation to say he was probably too harsh on them while teaching them to fight and that maybe he and Sam have traded blows before when arguments got too loud (by blows, I mean, probably shoving with the yelling, you know, assertion of physical space. It seems realistic to me that two people who have been using violence for a long time to protect themselves, and for John, his family, down to the hierarchal power he’s put in place of him -> Dean -> Sam, would resort to it when things got too heated.)

(I also think that sometimes fandom’s insistence that John had to be physically abusive can sometimes get a little insulting because it perpetuates the idea that emotional abuse does less harm and can be overlooked and for flattening out John’s character in a way the show very literally pointed to and said He Did Not Do That. This is the entire point of Max’s episode in s1, for the show to point out that their experiences of abuse were different. How well it was handled is arguable, but I take it as clear evidence that when we talk about John’s relationship with his sons, the focus should be on the emotional abuse, the codependency he developed with Dean from a very young age, his neglect of them both, his attempts to suppress Sam, etc. And I appreciate this about the show, because you can’t talk about any of those things without also talking about why they’re happening, why John thinks this is necessary, how he loves his sons and isolates them to protect them and ends up doing more and more damage that will never leave them through their entire lives.

I’m sure there’s depictions of John being physically abusive that handle it with the same amount of nuance that the show handles him being emotionally abusive in canon. I have not seen them, unfortunately. I’ve seen John being physically abusive 90% of the time just being used as shorthand for him being Bad and Evil and A Terrible Father. Which does not interest me. So I will remain here as a staunch defender of He Would Not Fucking Hit His Kids.)

Sorry, okay, we got off topic there this is about gay shit.

The point of All Of That was for me to be able to say, John’s not going to react to his sons being queer by beating them. He’s definitely not going to abandon them. Hello? John Winchester? Abandon his kids? John Winchester, the guy who has been keeping them in warded up motel rooms their whole lives and moving them across the country out of paranoia the demon who killed his wife could find them if they say anywhere too long? John Winchester who only trusted one or two people to ever look after his sons when he went on a hunting trip too long? We think that John would ditch his kid because they’re queer???

Like I said, I think the most realistic reaction for John, (if not just flat out him going ‘that’s fine, now load this gun while I time you because that’s more important for me to know that you can do’, because. He kind of has bigger priorities to worry about here. Like werewolves.) would be discomfort and pushing it out of his view, ignoring it. Which would still fucking hurt! And would have horrible effects on Sam and Dean both, would encourage Dean to repress it if he thinks his dad is ashamed of him, would push Sam away if he trusts John with this fact about himself and can’t be accepted easily.

I just think this is truer to John’s character.

Anyway. If nothing else here persuades anyone reading that John Would Not Fucking Do That, well. He thought his kid was demonspawn, remember? He thought Sam was corrupted and might not be able to be saved. I don’t think you can get more clear queercoding than that, and you know what John’s very telling response was to that information, to finding out something a thousand times more terrifying than Sam being gay ever could be? To refuse to look at it. To insist to himself that whatever Hell wanted with Sam, he wouldn’t let it happen. To tell Dean to take care of it, because even when John is certain that his son might literally become a demon, he could never bring himself to pull the trigger on him. Because he loves Sam.

So like. He literally would not do anything for the much smaller realization that Sam is gay. His son has demon blood that might turn him super evil, and John still wouldn’t hurt him.

I guess what I’m trying to say here is, I try to keep the fact that John loved his sons at the forefront of my mind when I’m writing stuff about him, because I think if you let that slide out of your head, you can very easily make him much worse, much more flat than he was in canon. The real picture of him is just an extremely flawed man in a terrible situation who fucks up his kids as much as he protects them.

And also he wouldn’t care about them being gay because JohnAzazel real and true and they fucked sloppy in that hospital basement-

#this was so many words holy shit I did not need to ramble that much #but I did <3 #this is what u get when u send me an ask I have too many thoughts #john winchester #ask #spn #again reiterating that like. it is not a bad thing to work out ur issues through fiction. #hell knows I do. and hell knows I used to be a lot less kind to John BECAUSE daddy issues. so I get it. it’s literally fine. it’s fandom. #u are free to do whatever so long as you aren’t a dick to other people about the character they like that you dont #(…I am going to side eye you if you feel the need to insist john had to be physically abusive because he was just That Bad to his kids. #but that’s more like. ‘I think you might have some unexamined biases about the nuances of abuse.’ more than anything.) #tw abuse #re: John abandoning his kids: #I know Bad Boys(?) has John leaving dean at the boy’s home. uh. personally? #I think that’s just bad writing. I think they misunderstood John’s particular brand of weird relationship to dean. #I don’t tend to count that instance as canon or at least not in the way the show presented it. #but ur mileage obv may vary. it’s just my opinion that that was a later seasons fumble.

[zvaigzdelasas]

Just heard a YouTube science communicator (who should know better) say "higher voltage means you can get more current in the same cable" and felt my skin crawl for a second

#volt = difference in potential energy #current is the movement of the charge which is what the wire is actually facilitating #voltage is a difference a single point in a cable has no voltage thus the voltage is irrelevant for single points in a cable #w higher voltage u can get more *wattage* bc ur increasing voltage w the same current #watt=volt*amp #the voltage limitation for a single type of cable is also bc its a difference #its rating the max difference between a point in the wire & the environment/another point in the cable #current rating on a cable is meant to b independent of voltage so long as the voltage is within rating of the insulation #like obv it was probably a brain fart and he understood that but that should b one of those things where you immediately notice #(note - movement of charge is different than movement of electrons. electrons r fairly slow) #(and obv things like 'single points' are abstractions so theres nuance when you rly need to b precise #but for most nontechnical applications dw abt it)

[fjordfolk]

But the thing is also that the more anti-breeder people I run into, the more I understand of the current adoptdontshop etcetc dichotomy because I think the only real fast principle outcome of that line of thought is that deep deep ARA ideology. If you've grown so staunch in your belief that any conscious breeding of dogs is causing sickness or puppies dying in shelters, unless you're one of those rare people who are that and also anti desexing and pro letting dogs reproduce freely (which - lets leave that for now) then the road from there to not believing we shouldn't have animals at all? It's pretty short. It's even logical. As much as I think it's absolutely unhinged, I can see how people get there.

#and the older i get the more i discount balckandwhite principles even when theyre ideological #but still #in a world where you Have to have an opinion and you Have to die on every hill #i see it #and obvs that isnt saying that large parts of the breeding world is conservative in their pactices and lagging behind #both current science and expectations #but these are nuanced things

[fearforthestorm]

can I say something that I think hermitblr isn't gonna like. y'all collectively made up cuteguy and y'all didn't even do a very good job.

#.lyr #he isnt a 'good character' hes a weird caricature of hyperfeminity and it isnt great im gonna be real! #obvs there is more nuance to this but i dont really care enough to rehash it in public. #ill leave rbs on for now but if this gets more than like two notes or people start being weird or obtuse im turning rbs off <3

[grendelsmilf]

okay if none of the sibling relationships from utena are on that incest poll i keep hearing so much about then it’s all a bust anyway right

#i genuinely don’t know because i haven’t actually SEEN the poll #just heard about it vaguely #but if miki and kozue and/or nanami and touga aren’t on there then what’s even the point #anthy and akio too obv but it’s like. almost too paradigmatic as an example of incest #w nanamitouga and mikikozue it’s more compelling to me wrt the incest #bc the abuse is more lateral #even as miki and (esp) touga clearly have more power w/in a patriarchal system #they’re still being abused themselves and genuinely don’t know what they want or how they’re supposed to think #so it’s more nuanced in that sense #esp miki and kozue bc they’re the same age #but nanami and touga is also the dynamic of all time truly #utena