#but the idea that gay ppl (sapphics especially) aren’t toxic like straight ppl are

[pinkfey]

i think this baby gay mentality of queer relationships being inherently healthier than straight ones is not a good one ?? maybe ??

#obv there’s more nuance #but the idea that gay ppl (sapphics especially) aren’t toxic like straight ppl are #it’s an idea that’s really harmful #before anons go fucking insane i’m not saying no one should celebrate their healthy queer relationship #just that i think in the gay community toxic and abusive and codependent relationships aren’t spoken about nearly as often as they should #i was to say bc we want to avoid the already harmful stigma that we’re all bad and predatory #*want #it’s common for baby gays to get swept up in new relationships in ways unique to queer ppl too #and i’m NOT saying stop making ur lil heehee jokes #just that baby gays need to be aware of how queer relationships can be very abusive as well #it’s very very easy to enter a codependent relationship as a gay person especially if you don’t have a good relationship with your family #it’s also easy to be taken advantage of as a younger gay person because Yes there Are older gays who seek out baby gays #i wish we could have these conversations without like. i dunno. ‘undermining’ the progress that’s been made towards gay acceptance #is this making sense?? #being queer doesn’t remove the dangers of dating and it’s rlly important that baby gays know this !! #idk i’m just talking. as usual ✊😔 #anyways.txt