#no more navels

[turns-out-its-adhd]

Is there a name for wanting your belly button removed? Like what would that mod/surgery be called?

Surely this is a thing other people have/want to have and it's not just me?

I just really really hate having a belly button. I wish it wasn't there, and it would look and feel so much better without it.

#body modification #augmented #body mods #belly button be gone #navel away #no more navels #smoothcore #clonecore #body acceptance #neurodivergence #adult adhd #neurodiversity #surgery #body augmentation #body alteration #body hacking

[toadallytickles]

A friend of mine gifted me this cute crop top.. and of course I just had to show it off~ (¬‿¬)✧

#plus more~ #excited for the gatherings.. where I can show it off in-person (if I don’t get too shy lol) #toadpic #my posts #tummy #navel #bellybutton #crop top #photo #tickles

[imsobadatnicknames2]

While I've repeatedly made the argument in the past that "D&D 5e is mostly a combat-centric action-adventure game, literally the vast majority of its pagecount is dedicated to combat mechanics", after giving it much thought I think that argument is pretty flawed.

Now, I STILL think modern D&D is a very combat centric game (and I still think that makes it pretty silly when certain people will decide to run their combat-light political intrigue campaign in 5e and then gush about how the sessions where they have the most fun are the ones where they engage the least with the game mechanics and "barely touch the dice") but I think that arguing that on the basis of "most of its mechanics are tied to combat" is incompatible with my views on what TTRPG rules and mechanics ARE in the fist place.

I've talked about in the past about how I fundamentally view mechanics as decision tools that the referee/GM (or the group, in the case of GMless games) defers the responsibility of deciding the outcome of certain situations to, so that they don't have the pressure of having to manually arbitrate the outcome every time (and so that they can be confident that the outcome is not affected by the GM's biases)

And the thing is, under this view of mechanics, the bulk of a game's mechanical detail doesn't necessarily correspond (or need to correspond) with the actions that players will be engaging in the most often.

So I think modern D&D is primarily a combat game but I don't think this is the case because having most of its mechanical detail centered around combat inherently makes it a combat game, I think it is because the way the mechanics interact with each other makes combat a very optimal way to solve problems.

#navel gazing #i will elaborate more in a bit lol #ttrpg

[eggsploded]

counteract online despair by drawing mansluts

#egg art #gintama #zura #katsura kotarou #gintoki #more people should subscribe to the gin navel piercing agenda #blonde teen girl with a midriff and fluffy boots at the mall chewing gum except its a man pushing 30 with 2 kids #ginzura

[utilitycaster]

Today's wild-ass theory: the people who unironically asked me if Vex and Keyleth had the same amount of screen time as each other or the men in the cast, people who think Liam (or other people at the table, but usually Liam is the one accused) are hogging the spotlight, and people who think indie games with stricter RP structures improve player agency are all coming from the same place. Which, to be clear, I think is an incorrect one.

#it's all very *Justin as rick diggins voice* they have the bigger chicken nugget #anyway for some reason it's send M into rooms with only disused equipment and her thoughts week so expect more navel gazing

[larktb-archive]

I wanna make one more post about Sarah Z being a dumb white hoe because I'm tired of speaking about the most milquetoast of libs on this site masquerading as radicals but i saw a post she made saying that basic abolitionist tenant is to "not harm those who have harmed you" claiming that doing so is carcarel logic.

As always with the most logged on people online this is about callout posts which to white people who haven't left their gated community in months and clutch their handbags when they see someone two shades darker than a paper bag is the exact same as the prison system and the modern enslavement of millions across the globe and the continuation of chattel slavery in the USA.

Now obviously it's really simple to see that no actually, someone making a post saying that "this person has done x negative things and gets off to these things so be wary of them" is not the same as the state sponsored imprisonment of people for monetary gain and the entrenchment of white supremacy. However they'd argue that the kinda thinking that fuels callouts is the kind that fuels the carcarel system, ignoring both historical societal standards of social conduct prior to the prison system as well as like... the actual real structures that fuel these systems.

There is very much criticisms to be made of shame based societies, but these have existed long, long before prisons or the modern prison system and the continuous misinterpretation of abolitionist work which detail the systems that form the basis of the prison system proves that these people, for all their bluster have not read abolitionist works. If they did, they'd know the problem with the prison system isn't "wanting to harm others who have harmed", it's the enslavement of others and the. To turn common rhetoric on its head because I love to be snarky: it's catholicism. The idea that you need to suffer in silence and turn the other cheek? That's Catholicism. I don't know how many times I heard turn the cheek not 7 times but 77 times in high school but this liberal "we gotta sing Kumbaya" with those who are racist, misogynistic and predatory is very much in line with Catholic conceptualizations of the forgiveness of the other. I don't really believe this, I think it's more to do with American ideas of liberty and freedom to do whatever without any consequence for your actions, but I think it's funny you can turn the "callouts are basically Christianity" on its head incredibly easily.

Anyways what's really the kicker here, and the reason im making this post, is that there are people in the notes saying "oh if there's a pedophile online you shouldn't make a callout you should call the police"... which... like... "we need to stop carcarel thinking with callouts... and instead need to contribute to the actual carcarel system of prisons" is definitely not a take I thought I'd see here but surely is one that has that fresh tumblr "I'm a white person who has never faced adversity in their life please listen to me" smell on them.

I'd also point out that the original callout post that Sarah Z is talking about in these vague diatribes is one that describes a major transmisogynist who gets off on conversion therapy for lesbians and transfems, and as a white person she said that saying the slur abo isn't a big deal if youre talking about omegaverse or what.

#lillypad.txt #just more navel gazing

[witsserviceablesubstitute]

The BG3 companions have the same energy to the DA2 companions to me. All emotionally resonate in a real and flawed way, and lovable (and/or hateable) for that. Beaten down and abused by the systems or relationships they were chained to. To the extent they either grow past their pain and anger to forge a healing path ahead or let it define them enough that they lose all perspective and blow their chance for growth (in the story). The messy queer and polam vibes may just be how I play both games, but that's there too.

However, while I think BG3's characters are inspired by DA2's, I don't think there's any 1 to 1 comparisons. Elves and orb contemplating mages are a staple of the fantasy genre; and Fenris, Astarion, Gale, and Anders are different enough that saying they're the same does all characters an injustice (imo). Fenris's slavery allegory is tied to colonialist power structures, for example, and there's a reason his skin is dark. While Astarion's slavery allegory is much closer to commentary on a criminal underground of sex slavery. Which makes sense with the vampire allegory too, because vampires (as a horror monster) often reflect anxieties around sex and sexuality. Nor are Fenris and Astarion like each other at all, they're very different people. If anything Astarion is more like Isabela. What with her deflective flirty humor masking a pain that's related to her being a 'beautiful prize' that was forced into a marriage at a (too) young age to a violent and possessive man that objectified, used, and tortured her, a criminal life of hurting others pushed onto her and it being all she now knows and accepts...

Hmm, maybe there are some comparisons to be made actually... 😅

#bg3 #bg3 spoilers #baldur’s gate 3 #astarion #astarion ancunin #da2 #dragon age 2 #fenris da2 #isabela da2 #navel gazing #i kid i kid #astarion and isabela are different too but they're more alike than fenris and astarion #i'd even say fenris and anders are more alike than either of them are to astarion or gale #because fenris and anders purposely mirror each other #(gods i'm so insufferably an english lit major 😶‍🌫️) #if i make a parallel between fenris and a bg3 companion it's him and shadowheart #the broody amnesia of it all #whereas gale and anders are admittedly fragile blinkered magic boys who could blow up #but i think gale has more in common with alistair from dao personally

[communistkenobi]

you know sometimes I feel insecure about my research not being radical or useful enough and then I see someone doing their masters thesis on “antis” and instantly feel better

#could not think of a more navel-gazey useless production of knowledge than that

[captainclickycat]

On Amatonormativity and Italy

I think I feel the same way about getting into a romantic relationship as I do about going to Italy.

I don’t dislike the idea of going to Italy. It seems like it could be cool. Maybe one day I’ll go there and have a wonderful time. But that doesn’t mean it’s essential for me. I’m not actively making plans to go there. The fact that I’m not in Italy right now doesn’t make me unhappy. If I was offered the opportunity to go I might be interested, but I’d still have to think about the practicalities and consider whether I was being offered the kind of trip I would actually enjoy, as opposed to just going there for the sake of it. I don’t want to go if it’s not actually going to be fun.

So amatonormativity in action to me feels a bit like living in a world where it’s just casually assumed that “going to Italy” is something that everyone wants and knows about and plans to do at some point. If you mention that you haven’t been there, people will assume you want to rectify that and will try to reassure you, unprompted, that you’ll make it there someday. You’ll get people asking out of nowhere whether you’ve been yet or why you’re not there right now. Sometimes they’ll even randomly start whipping out flight itineraries and making suggestions for how you can financially plan for a trip and what dates you should fly out on. They might assume, rather uncharitably, that there must be something “wrong” with you if you haven’t been.

Sometimes it’s annoying, sometimes it’s just odd. And again, it’s not like you actively dislike the idea or that you’d never be interested in going, or that you mind people asking if you have any plans to go out of polite interest. Maybe you even expressed an interest at some point. It’s just that your prospective holiday in Italy just seems like something other people are much more invested in than you are, which is weird, considering that it’s not their holiday.

#there’s more I could say here about being at a social disadvantage if you haven’t been to Italy and how annoying that would be #but there’s only so long I can navel-gaze at work before something happens that I need to pay attention to #amatonormativity

[phantomrose96]

I've been wondering from your posting, is olimar and the others a normal size, like people size, or are they tiny and these massive bloody battles are happening in essentially like a backyard

they TINY.

#pikmin #pikmin 4 there's literally. a back yard #but tbh im more keen on the settings in pikmin 1 and 2 that are just like. a vast wilderness #5 year old me having nightmares about the forest navel #chrissy talks pikmin

[lanshappycorner]

Tamashina-Mina Yuu...since he's not in the competition hes in a silly little tourist fit

#you cant see it well but the thing he has wrapped around his waist is just his school uniform's blazer💀💀 #also navel piercing <3 he normally does not have it but the thing abt me is that #i add more or less piercings depending on how situationally hot my character would look with it ☺️☺️ #ocs

[x-tracuddlycactus]

#belly kink #just a random poll lol #idk if it's just me but i rarely ever see kink art where a person has a navel piercing #it's weird cause wouldn't that be more common to see? it's literally jewlery for your belly #anyways pick yer preference! #rambling cactus #prickly polls

[73chn1c0l0rr3v3l]

I love just giving characters kinks because I think it would be hot, but I *also* really love giving characters kinks as an extension of characterization.

Why yes, the loyal to a fault character *does* want a boot on her face. & the control freak wants to be ravished, & the wisecracking smart-ass wants to be gagged.

I do sometimes wonder about the dichotomy of smut versus character study. If you're doing the smut right, it's already a character study, the same way a big emotional scene is a character study. It's just one of them has more nudity.

I really love that though? Of getting to remember that people exist in their bodies, & what that means. How they react to it. I think it may be one of my favorite things, honestly?

#navel gazing #i need to write more weird shit

[soldier-poet-king]

Where did I put my dbt handbook I NEED IT

#yet another thing i am hiding away living with my parents like #can i just exist #im already like adding walls and layers to my being #can we have ONE thing that is not constantly a game of anxiously fearing being discovered #I AM A GODDAMN ADULT #im just. i have literally no idea where it is. i KNOW i have one but i hid it so well even i cant find it now #anyway we're at the stage where i am prodding wounds and doing things i know will make me feel bad #which could be good on the sense of testing boundaries #but is not good or helpful in my current situation with 0 irl supports or ppl to trust #bleasghhhhhhhhhhhh #OH THARA CELEHAR WE'RE REALLY IN IT NOW #just. reminding self. its abt duty and obligation and goodness and not sad navel gazing pity or my own fulfillment #its not about me. its not about me. its not about me #i need to do this stupid job prep thing after work #bc better job means better pay i can move out have more time which means ill be able to volunteer and do good and help #and not just be sad and useless and a waste of resources #i know what things would maybe help but also i cant just buy STUFF. thats selfish. i already have stuff #i dont NEED comfort to live

[houndvoice]

Grappling with irritating feelings of inadequacy — sometimes Instagram does that to me, there’s just so many good artists out there and I constantly feel Behind Schedule somehow. Coming here to post some recent drawings and vent about it I guess¯\_(ツ)_/¯

#idk man #navel gazing #self pity isn’t really the right word #more like self disgust #self disappointment #somewhere in there #just realized I went bra shopping today after the con so that’s probably not helping the ol’ self esteem #whatever #my art #my ocs #d&d #dungeons and dragons

[longeyelashedtragedy]

lately i've acquired a lot of treasured mutuals who happen to also be really good writers (some of you have been mutuals for a long time, but most no) and so the answers to all these fic ask games have been really fascinating and have got me thinking.

for a while now i've been in a weirdly dark period about writing. i'm not saying this to self-deprecate, but i've been really frustrated by everything i write and have started thinking of myself as a mediocre writer and storyteller, and don't see a way out of it. i think the problem is that the stories i want to tell and the stories i wind up telling are two entirely different things. part of me has always felt too repressed to write the unhinged things i think, because the written word holds a disproportionate amount of weight in my life and it's like...if i write this thing, it's like a Written Contract and everyone will think it represents me entirely?

but also--people's answers have gotten me thinking about why i write. i think my primary objective is different, even, than creating or storytelling. i think it's a vestige of being a kid who essentially couldn't use the spoken word for communication because my life when i wasn't with my family was dominated by fear--with complex trauma i was terrified of other people, and terrified to be away from the "safety" of my family, so i'd spend most of my days at school or social activities just dissociating or having panic attacks and literally never speaking. thus the written word became the only way i could truly, safely communicate and say everything i wanted to say. plus, i always felt so, so, terrifyingly different from everyone else around me (well--i was) and even as i got older, i felt like i always had a different interpretation of things than the norm, and that was so frustrating, because i had opinions and thoughts i was too terrified to express.

i write because i want to communicate with you--i want you to know how i'm feeling about the world, about the characters--i want you to know how i think they think and feel, because i often put something of myself in them, so i'm telling you the things about me i was too afraid to say otherwise, or trying to find a more palatable way of helping you see the world as i do, because how else would i ever have done it otherwise?

maybe there's no room for the true creativity or envelope pushing because i'm still out here trying to make you understand me. do i still need this? (to use writing for that purpose--should i try to push myself to write for another purpose?) or is my writing doing something important for people? something to think about.

#when i said frank lampard has a mind like a haunted house that came from a way i've described myself haha #more navel gazing! i know this isn't very important but to get 'better' i have to think about everything in my life really hard #and i've felt so down and weird about writing which messes with me bc of how important it is #brain stuff #fic saga