a quick PSA:
my pronouns are they/them
I do not identify with having a gender and do not particularly enjoy being referred to as a female or male in any context.
I understand I write for a female Reader in a female heavy fanfic space, but please keep in mind that doesn't mean I am.
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incoming dangender thoughts: the more I read up/watch the stuff dan has said about gender after BIG + reflect on what he said in BIG I'm like. y'all she really has been explicitly trying to tell us his gender IS formless blob (without making it a huge deal in the mainstream public eye), but so many people haven't actually been taking him seriously! like. labels are made up, dan has pretty much said as much before. why do we have to have a specific approved™ term to consider them genderqueer/nonbinary/trans? those are descriptive labels and dan has been using a fun descriptive label they created that he defined for us in BIG, a definition that matches up with those other labels! and dan has said since 2019 that he is comfortable with any pronouns even though he still mainly uses he/him. like, lately dan has been using more she/her and they/them for herself and experimenting with being more femme and/or androgynous in various ways, and what is changing is not even necessarily gender (although maybe who knows), but probably that dan is finally feeling more comfortable with different kinds of gender presentation and pronouns than she typically uses. because low-key gender is kind of a performance and it's scary to switch it up sometimes but dan feels safe doing so especially with their audience and I think that's actually really special 🧡 but moral of the story, dangender has actually been out in the open since 2019 and I wish more people picked up on that!
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It feels so liberating that Aziraphale and Crowley are allowed to not identify as male while still (usually) presenting as male and using male pronouns. I think it woke up something in me
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It's so interesting and so exceedingly frustrating how agab is being utilized now within the queer community as a way to isolate and sort nonbinary and genderqueer folks into binary boxes that determine their moral purity levels, and their authority to do and write and exist.
The way nonbinary writers are being put under accusation of fetishizing gay men while their AGAB is continually brought up in a way that feels like queer-space-approved misgendering.
The way feminist circles that are supposedly trans-inclusive will use the word AFAB in a way that implicitly but intentionally isolates nonbinary people who aren't AFAB from joining. It's for women*.
The way the language is already flawed and leaves out intersex folks from the conversations while focusing on a binary of sex that isn't truthful.
The constant obsessing over whether someone is AFAB or AMAB and whether or not that gives them the privilege to join, do, write, or be present in certain spaces really really concerns me. How are we supposed to dismantle a binary system of gender if we can't even move past forcibly assigning and focusing on people's genders assigned at birth?
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Me: I'm so glad i finally figured out my identity! it took a while, but i can finally say with confidence that i am aroace
my gender: ...
me: don't even FUCKING think about it
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Weighing in on the debate “Are you allowed to ship aromantic characters?” As an aromantic person, this is a difficult subject. On the one hand, we have characters who clearly and repeatedly state that they hate romance, do not feel romantic attraction, and don’t want to be in a relationship. On the other hand, we have your personal inability to engage with deep relationships without making them romantic. As a compromise, I say people are allowed to ship canon aromantic characters, provided they pay me at least $100 in cash for the license.
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i think that while micro labels can seem useful and affirming ultimately they're isolating and kind of an obstacle to your understanding of self. that's because you can never find a word specific enough. there will never be a label or two labels or even ten, twenty of them to perfectly capture and describe all of your thoughts, feelings, experiences, preferences, needs, interests, identities, etc. because you learn more and more about yourself every day and then you change and your wants and needs change with you. having to hop between labels, fearing that you don't 'fit' into a label anymore (both in your own and others eyes), worrying how soon your current label will wear out, questioning if you'll ever fully fit a single one. all that causes a lot of uncertainty and anxiety which could be avoided by just picking a more general thing and molding it according to what it means to YOU. because words will always mean different things to different people, you will never be understood immediately and maybe never completely by anyone but yourself and that's fine
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its strange seeing how people phrase questions, and how they illicit certain answers. like "do you believe in trans people?" i've increasingly found strange. because like... what does that even mean? its hard to answer these directly without qualifying. i understand in some sense what they mean, so if i were to respond with "no", then the response would just be "well we exist! we're here and we're q*eer!" but the alternative, "yes" also does not convey what i mean yk?? like the phrasing and word choice has set us up yk? and emotionally charged too, ( do you believe in us? ), which definitely reflects the ideology.
im confident we're not immune to this problem either. kind of a throw away post but i was j thinking abt this. its interesting having previously been asked this. im just forced to qualify (which is fine ofc), but the question is a bit dishonest imo
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Its-using animals club!
Alas i feel your pain, especially when someone's go-to response is "isn't using it/its dehumanizing?"
right. like. it doesn't matter if you think it's dehumanizing. it's what i want to be called, and like my name, you'll call me by it / its or we will not be having further conversation.
to me, personally, that's like. kind of a huge part of the appeal? full respect to those living in the "it can be a moment, it can be the mountains or the sunset" because, me too! but also a massive appeal to it / its is i can easily sum my gender up as some kinda boygirlthing. it/its he/she. like an animal you don't know the gender of.
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Always kind of surprises me how many people still call me 7oby over any of the other random handful of names I go by online because I think the only place I still have it listed is one line halfway down my pinned on here haha
I don't really care what people call me though; I've got like 10+ names at any given moment and am equally indifferent to them all. It's just interesting how that name in particular with its goofy Halo number has stuck around for almost 20 years rofl
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