#most people dont really realise it

[rongzhi]

Ty for answering my q! (Am the guy who asked about lgbt being common in ancient china etc) since lgbt is more of a western concept what would be a chinese equivalent for it? Like how is the chinese homosexuality different from the west? (Sorry if my wording is off im not exactly sure how else to phrase it 😭😭)

I'm just talking about the cultural differences that shape what it means to be queer across the globe. Modern LGBT+ discourse was led and shaped by western academics so theories of gender and sexuality are based largely on the that of white thinkers. Although it's true that English LGBT terminology and the relevant standardised definitions have spread and been translated globally, and that Western ideals of masculinity and femininity remain dominant overall, similar concepts can't be understood 1:1 across all cultures. And there certainly existed something else before Western influence.

Also, picture this: you are watching a TV show from the Song Dynasty. You notice some of the male characters are always wearing flowers on their head/in their headwear 👀. You, proficient in imagery and symbolism, think to yourself, "💅🏼?"

But little did you know that this was a men's fashion trend at the time, practiced by young and old, rich and poor, hardly the indicator of queerness!

What I mean is, when it comes to looking at history, especially history of different cultures, basically you have to remember that there is a different context/historical framework to what is queer, what is gendered masculine and feminine, what is homoerotic/sapphic (and "queerplatonic" as we'd understand some of these instances and relationships), what is sexual, etc. So going back to my comment in the previous ask, based on all this, I personally feel that bringing terms like LGBT to such conversations is not appropriate because it also brings with it a modern framework which is not productive to understanding history as having its own frame of references.

If that makes any goddamn sense lmao.

#tldr i was being a pretentious and philosophical about the wording of your question #text #answered ask #but it's just like true in general that western views lead discussion on a lot of lgbt stuff #most people dont really realise it #but it really shows its ass when it comes to the intersection of gender expression and lgbt/queer theory readings of east asian figures #e.g characters not even pushing any literally not one gender binary norm within their contexts (e.g wuxia or period drama) #but getting queer theoried via perceived gender expression #or whatever you know. that thing that happens to idols #keeping this in the tags because i suspect it's irrelevant and i just wanted to be salty #every time i start thinking for more than 5 minutes i forget what the question was #also there will probably not be any videos tomorrow bc despite my yammering i have actually been busy this week #gay ask #look at me already forgetting new tags

[melatien]

tiny yoichi (unwillingly) lures out soldiers by being his helplessness little self so his brother can strike

#bases are the most reliable way to find food afo found! #yoichi is crying bcuz he pitys them <3 #not because hes nervous #im gonna be honest i made this idea up on the spot when drawing this #pewdiepies new art video awakened something in me I NEEDED TO REMIND MYSELF I CAN STIL DRAW BANGERS TOO #i didnt disappoint myself!!!! competitiveness is my enemy and my bestie literally #anyways his right eye was an absolute horrendous nightmare to draw it was going so well until i did the hair then it ruined the eye #i actually thought yoichi was wearing shoes at this age but then i looked back at those chapters and realised yoichi was shoeless #WITH ONLY A BANDAGE ON HIS FOOT??!?!!?!? agony #can yoichi not make me wish he had something good in life for ONE SECOND #think of this as like how he responded to afo killing those people that (presumably) beat yoichi up beforehand #we dont know if hes crying because his brother is killing or if he was crying before being 'saved' #ill try do some fluff art soon ive been really interested in body horror related art lately so i wanted to play around!!! #i have a BUNCH of ideas written down ive yet to do #i just keep doing whatever i feel like #i am the master of ignoring the instructions and winging it #mha #my art #yoichi shigaraki #one for all #my hero academia #first ofa user #shigaraki yoichi #mha yoichi #tiny yoichi #tiny yoichi in his shabby little clothes #ive actually been dying to draw tiny yoichi again but KIDS ARE SO HARD TO DRAW!!!!! #i had an art moment though #HALLEJUHAH #art gods had my back fr

[pulchrasilva]

Thought too long about non-standard relationships where you don't bother with a label and there's no "confession of feelings" it's just deep care for each other and a determination to stick together and intimacy with no regard for what type of relationship it is. SOMEONE make it stop before my little brain explodes from the gay feels

#realising that i tag most of my fics wity 'can be romantic or platonic' but what i really mean is 'they dont care and neither do i' #there was like 1 fic ever that i wrote that i only tagged as romantic and *i* still think of it as undefined but i figured people looking #for a platonic relationship may not appreciate the characters kissing #GOD that one symbrock fic i wrote... #the 'confession' scene in that i cant stop thinking about it its gonna drive me insane #when the characters label their relationships in ways that make sense only to them >>>> #me when i have a weird thing about intimacy also #idk man. im fucking Thinking about it right now #'what is this? what are we?' 'we are venom' OUGHOUGHYOYGTKSKADI so good i was so smart and good with that

[imflyingfish]

This isnt a crazy statement but i still think that there should be better diversity on the life series. I mean specifically there should be more woman creators and creators who are poc.

Like 3rd life had ONE woman!!! WHAT THE FUCK?

Theres only ever been TWO non-white members of the life series! What????

Only 4/17 of the secret life members are women! Thats like 4 and a bit men for every woman! THIS IS THE SEASON WITH THE MOST WOMEN????

Like i know the gaming space is a bit messed up on this front but like cmon....

I dont think that the life series is like. Intrinsically bad or anything, but it would be cool if Grian/the team and such could take notice of these facts and help to change the server just a bit more.

#trafficblr #traffic smp #okay originally this post was only going to be about women and then i realised also how messed up it is that theres only two black #people on the server #fuck i dont even make posts like this like. ever. #but i feel like it would be really you know. COOL to get some more diversity in this particular minecraft gaming sphere especially #idk im trying to increase the diversity in the last couple of months in what i watch and listen to since i realise that its not good enough #and i realised these facts and im like. shit this isnt just like a me thing this is deep in our fandom #same goes with most minecraft series #heck i watched a random up-and-coming minecraft youtubers video today on a competition server. #not a single woman???? really??? #hey maybe if theres enough backing it would be worth like. sending an email or something idk #so long as people are polite about it ig #idk ive never really talked about this stuff before but its been bothering me #grian #grian critical #also sorry if my maths is just totally wrong idkim bad at it

[deadsh33p]

idc if you’re into countryhumans, but if you are and you don’t know proper history, don’t you DARE make art/fanfiction of germany, italy or japan.

#text #because most of the MAPs (videos) that depict ww2 make those countries either crazy ass people that couldnt help themselves but start a war #or make those countries as innocent people that didnt realise what they did #when in real life t was so so far from that #and you should know abt those themes before making yandere fanart of n//zi germany #anyways i always make myself look stupid but i gen know ww2 history so i think ik what im talking abt lmao #i actually really like the idea of countryhumans. so dont think this is any personal attack to anyone on the fandom #my english sucks im sorry

[falled-over]

i am actually un diagnosing as autistic due to my proficiency at eye contact. i in fact have to remind myself to look away thats how good i am at it. i would get an A+ in eye contact

#for anyone outside of the know i will explain the joke because my sarcasm doesnt always read as such; #autistic people often struggle with disliking eye-contact and many have practiced rituals for the normal amount of eye contact which are so #distracting to perform correctly that they can lose focus on what the conversation is about #i personally was reprimanded for gazing off into space quite young so i have zero issue looking people in the eye when they talk #but i dont know what the appropriate amount is. so i do too much. #i seriously just stare at them intently for the entire time the both of us are speaking and have to manually look away when i speak (normal #way to act based on observation) and occasionally glance off around me #so the joke is i still struggle with eye contact. but most people wouldnt realise that because they think autism is the same for erryone #my overcompensation due to my natural awkwardness makes me struggle in the opposite way #its also a joke about how because people think all autism is the same many people dont get diagnosed. never been an issue for me personally #because i realised at an age at which support is no longer really offered so all it would get me is banned from entry into some countries #(autistic people are barred from becoming citizens in some countries due to perceived higher support needs) #also i once said to my dad i thought i had adhd and he said 'you dont have adhd. you know that'. and my mum regularly talks about autistic #people as a third party to me. and about how she works with them #to be fair to both of them my dad is 100% autistic and knows it (accepted this fact at51) and my mum is probably autistic but i dont want to #talk to her about it so shes just going to be weird forever #oversharing online is important because what if someone wanted to know that

[matriarchalfemininity]

I keep seeing more and more trad/conservative 'high standards' 'looking for a provider/traditional man' type women slowly begin leaning more towards at least certain forms of feminism because of how cruel and abusive redpill/manosphere type men are to them online when these women talk about having high standards, wanting a partner who makes at least the same amount of money as them, wanting a provider, wanting a partner as intelligent as them, wanting a partner who they are physically attracted to, wanting a partner who is gentlemanly and chivalrous and romantic. Naively, these women think at first that 'trad men' online are their suitors, but they quickly realise that *actual* traditional men aren't calling attractive young women 'mid' and saying women over 23 have 'hit the wall' in random Tiktok comments for no reason. These women may at first align themselves with antifeminist philosophies, but they soon realise that these men who hate women will call them feminists anyway the second these women step out of line- and that doesn't take much- it's literally just saying they have standards half the time. So then they think 'Well, if a feminist is any woman who doesn't hate herself for being female, I guess I am a feminist'. Also, these dudes will swoop in to tell them they don't deserve to have standards and if they're still single above their early twenties it's because their standards are too high and they should 'humble' themselves. These women, if they're smart (and many of them genuinely are) soon realise it's at least second wave feminism (I tend to agree that third wave feminism is bullshit) that *allows* them to have high standards and not have to marry the first man that looks at them. Because whilst the hypothetical trad woman is looking for her provider, who is as attractive as her, makes enough money to provide for her and any potential children they may have, is as intelligent as her, is as devoted and romantic as her, she is free to work and make money to create a beautiful life for herself, to pursue feminine hobbies, to become the best possible version of herself whilst she waits for the man of her dreams.

And the irony is, these so-called 'trad men' who are actually just part of the Redpill cult (Jebrovah's Witnesses) are alienating the women who, by all accounts, should be part of their dating pool.

There's a lot of talk lately from feminists about how the 'pick me' trad women are still single because redpill men don't want them, they want an independent and free woman they can 'humble' and domesticate and force into a subservient little box. And that's true to an extent. But it's also the case in the reverse. A lot of these tradfems are single because the terminally online antifeminist redpill men they're coming across online don't reach *their* standards, either. These women want masculine men, and as one post on here a while ago succinctly put it, 'sitting around in a podcast studio gossiping about how unfeminine modern women are is sis vibes, cunt behaviour'. These men aren't masculine. And they're not meeting *actually* traditional, masculine, caring, devoted, chivalrous provider men in their churches etc in real life.

#feminism #happy for people to add thoughts but please dont reblog in bad faith or to badmouth trad women #thats really not the point of the post #in fact it's the opposite. we want these women to realise they can be feminists and still be feminine and want a husband #well i do. idk about most of y'all #femininity #femininity movement #feminine feminism #divine feminine #hypergamy #high standards #high value woman #high value dating

[satoriberry]

it's actually so rich seeing anti-abortion people be concerned about youth transitioners. it's like, so a 16 year old can carry a baby but a young trans boy can't choose to be put on hormone blockers, that's what i'm getting?

#berry.rambles <3 #also pro-child marriage people/people that try to defend it or excuse it with that stupid “it's culture!!!” bs #i understand the concern and i can see what point you're making #but a young trans boy can detransition if he grows older and realises he isn't actually a boy #but a girl can't really get out of being a mom yknow? #and a child bride can't really get out of being a wife. #people on the internet freak out over young teens being trans but can't understand that most of them dont end up accessing that healthcare #due to hesitation or parents or sumn like that #and the few that do are said to be groomed by their parents into doing it?

[hella1975]

my mum: you've been doing really good lately. every part of your life is really stable and you seem genuinely happy, it's great to see :)

me, who's felt like ive been going actually crazy bananas insane for months now: yeah haha

#sometimes i forget that 'being in total control of my emotions at all times' isn't just my cringe lore & is actually something im good at #like wdym my MUM said this. girl im experiencing horrors over here! #i got really offended by it? ilke i just smiled at her and agreed but inside i was like HELLOOOOO CAN ANYONE HEAR MEEEE #i just genuinely feel like i am so detached from myself and im entirely manipulative and i micromanage every facet of my personality #and change it day-to-day person-to-person and not in the Normal Human Way but in a crazy insane I Am Manipulating People Way #& it's a CONSCIOUS thing & like. idk who the real me is idk if there is a real me idk if id like her if i saw her idk if im a good person #but i look like im doing fine. i seem really stable and happy atm according to the person who knows me better than anyone #like that's the extent of my control on myself. even my mum cant tell. HUH #idk i feel like im being dramatic bc last week and this week ive definitely been feeling a lot better #and like maybe i was just having some sort of months-long episode but that doesnt negate the fact that while i was IN it no one could tell #not even the closest people to me that see me every day in the same house where im most vulnerable could tell #that's like. worrying surely. maybe. i think. whatever im just saying shit at this point #i always do this tho i go 'i fundamentally base my self-worth on how little i share vulnerability with people #and it's been a constant part of my personality since childhood that i dont talk about my feelings' and then i get SO pissed off #when people dont realise im going through shit. like girl what did you THINK was gonna happen. look inwards #hella goes home

[firefly-fez]

Anya: *does something impressive and unlikely*

Witness [as a figure of speech]: Wow! It’s like she can read minds!

Anya, every time: THEY KNOW

#spy x family #anya forger #look she is four pretending to be six and i dont think she realises that most people think of ‘mind reader’ as just a figure of speech #everytime someone says ‘wow! it’s like you can read minds! #or #‘how did she know that? can she read my mind?’ #and they really only mean it as a figure of speech #but then shes like WHAT NO HOW DID YOU KNOW #every time #shes such a cut lil tiny aspiring spy

[creaturefeaster]

what would your music taste be considered like what type of music? ex:rock,pop,country exc

I don't have a solid single taste. I like metal (gothic metal + rock are my faves), country, grunge, and sometimes electric type dubstep.

I like really grungy scifi sounding OSTs too. I listen to the original Starcraft OST so much it's unreal.

#i say this a lot but i dont think enough people realise #most of the songs i animate to are not really my taste ABDJDBDB theyre just songs that are fun to animate to #i could noooot imagine animating to like. alice in chains #well maybe I could. but it wouldn't be fast paced or punchy like i like to animate to

[widevibratobitch]

my god. skinny people really just have like. No Idea huh just absolutely not a single clue lmao it's almost funny to watch fr but then id lie if i said i wouldn't fucking kill to be able to be that ignorant

#girl i am SO sorry people react with surprise when you say you're studying to be an opera singer because you're #*checks notes* skinny and attractive. so so sorry that must be literal hell for you huh how will you ever recover :(((( #no no please keep talking about how equally bad that is to the brutal fucking fatshaming and ED glorifying #in the industry that me and the only other fat girl in the room were talking about before you interrupted us <3 #anyway. we were talking about this one review of a quite famous professional music critic whose only comment about a fat mezzo in the cast #was 'miss xyz.... lose some weight'. not a single word about her singing/acting/whatever. but yeah no you're too sexy for an opera singer #and THAT is the real problem here girl i totally understand yeah <3 thoughts and prayers dearest. #earlier that same day this same girl was standing next to me in her bodycon dress and went #*pointing at her stomach that's so flat its almost concave* 'ughhhh what do i have to do to not look pregnant in this dress 😩😫' #and i said 'girl' and just looked at her and like the sudden horrified realisation on her face was lowkey hysterical #like omg you really did forget you're not talking to your other skinny friends with whom you can pat each other on the backs #and reassure each other that 'dw girl ur not fat at all ur so so sexy!' huh sjshsjshsjs #but yeah i dont like making people uncomfortable irl so i did reassure her she looks hot and pretty and skinny as all shit #let at least one of us have a nice evening and not feel Absolutely Fucking Disgusting ig <3 #and the day before that after i saw our (last ever btw never photographing myself with them ever again <3) picture and had a mini break down #the other even skinnier and smaller and petite-er crouched down next to me with the most guilty fucking expression and quietly asked me #if im alright and do i want her to delete those pictures (that she posted on two separate social media pages) and like #the look of immense fucking pity on her was even worse than seeing those pictures #like i know she meant well and was trying to be nice but my god. this really is how you all see me huh #like looking like me would be fate worse than death for yall #not even gonna mention the thing i just learned this friday that the retired ballerina who leads our ballet classes said about me #trying to cheer up the other fat girl who happened to have a bit of an emotional breakdown in the middle of the class :))))))) #like i am sooooooo so glad and honoured to be an inspiration to you. really. always happy to help. the exemplary Fat Girl Who Fucking Sucks #But Doesnt Let It Bother Her <333333 #like on one hand. yeah it really does make me wanna jump off a cliff. but on the other. its just hilarious sjdgsjsgsj #you sure are right miss ma'am. i sure don't let this bother me at all. i am famous for my uncanny ability to Not Be Bothered by all this <33 #but shes new. its ok. how could she know about the last two years when i was getting panic attacks and sobbing myself to sleep every tuesday #but yeah no. [lauren cooper voice] am i bovvered? am i bovvered tho? i aint even bovvered!

[glacial-coyote]

one of the things i really hate about past friendship traumas is how much its screwed up my perception of how people feel about me. I recently met someone who on multiple occasions has point blank said "i enjoy your presence" and "I'm glad you came" and referred to me as a friend and invites me to events where they'll be. you'd think this is enough to convince my brain that yes we are indeed friends. and yet I'm still afraid to overstep in case they're "just being friendly." fucking sucks my guys lmao

#I dont regret having a big heart and having a lot of love to give to the people in my life #but it is rarely reciprocated #and i think im afraid bc this person. i think DOES reciprocate. and it shortcircuits my brain #which is a bleak realisation of how used i am to feeling bigger things than other ppl lmao #but its nice. I enjoy their presence greatly and i think they enjoy mine and it really is the simple things in life that matter the most

[imflyingfish]

Hey why does qsmp fanart get so little attention unless its the highest of highest standards? Even ones that ARE the highest of highest standards dont get reblogged. Comments also seem to be really slim and i dont get it

Im talking about both my art and other people's art. I even stopped posting my qsmp fanart because of the overall poor reception so hey what gives fans.

#so i know i dont post most qsmp stuff on here thats because i do it on my french sideblog which u guys can follow if u want #look yeah ik artist grouches about nothkng but i also just realised how little appreciation really anything is getting unless its taken at #least 5-15 hours which isnt fair #i wrote this post because i think that most people on this platform in qdmp fandom speak english but maybe i will translate it to french #later on though its too late #qsmp

[dirt-str1der]

Trans kiryu is a genuinely funny hc because like trans majima is like oohh angst ohh she has to fight to be accepted she has to deal with people making fun of her for being a man in a dress she has to take into account her position and social standing and kiryu is literally just kiryu forever because the universe loves him too much to ever force him into a situation unless its to go to prison in which case hes like yayyy i love jail yayy yayyy

#Yakzua loveblog #im just talking to myself you guys dont need to read anything #in fact dont read this im going to talk about transphobic nishiki again anyway #my transphobic nishiki hc is the most important one to me because. like we all need to have some transphobic people in our lives #i do think that nishiki calls him ‘kiryu’ even though theyre best friends forever because when nishiki will always accidentally say his #deadname instead of ‘kazuma’ even though i know that nishiki is literally the one who gave him the name kazuma to make fun of kiryu for #thinking hes a boy and it just kind of stuck but nishiki eventually stuck. with calling him kiryu because thats how he prefers to be called #they are bestfriends for a reason .... and nishiki is the only one kiryu will let be transphobic towards him because theyve known each other #for forever and he knows he means no harm by it like he will still hit him but nishiki takes it in stride because its their thing and its #never not funny to make kiryu annoyed like for anyone else its an uncrossable line but once a month nishiki will lead kiryu into the womens #section to shop for new clothes and kiryus like Somehow i always knew you wore womens jeans and nishikis like HEY !!!! #but as kids they were always very cute because theyre always together and you can never really tell whos following who because it seems like #theyre on the same wavelength until nishiki realises that life is so much easier when youre working smart so he went to work on his INT stat #while kiryu never stopped being a wild animal like hes literally some sort of monkey to me sorry for dehumanising him because of his autism #like i adore his ‘own little bubble’ way of life as long as he’s physically okay kiryus not going to complain about anything. like when he #said ‘i decide to do things based on whether i love it or hate it’ im like Yeah i bet you do. he sits outside the orphanage all day playing #with rocks until nishiki comes finds him then they both go outside to smash open windows with the rocks kiryu has gathered and kiryus in his #little skirt and he always uses it to carry things in you know how it is and he stopped going to school to be a bigger menace than everyone #anyway did i mention that the universe loves kiryu. especially his genes he was very lucky because he never had a big chest or nothing he #was always going to get tall and thick in the shoulders and beefy and when he cut his hair it just sealed the deal he passed with flying #colours like young children are indistinguishable by gender unless they have a big pink bow in their hair but kiryu radiated masculinity #from a young age and his aggressive way of life didnt help. well it helped a lot actually. a lot of people were scared of him and nishikis #like dont be scared of kiryu shes nice when you get to know her and everyones like ?? thats a girl ??? #in fact it made more sense for kiryu to be a boy at that point so he went to kazama and told him and kazama was like ok lets make it happen #like kiryu and nishiki are so special because there is nobody in the universe more transphobic to kiryu than his own brother but also nishik #was the one helping kiryu shop for boy clothes when he was clueless about it like hes not stupid but he really doesnt know about fashion and #he trusts nishiki to not make him look stupid and nishiki is of course like 😏 well well well youre having a girl moment arent you #nishiki is okay with kiryu being a guy because this means that now whenever kiryu hits him he can fight back without being misogynistic #okay im done talking my noodles are getting cold but kiryu as a kid would have been a veritable nightmare #oh yeah my trans beam extended to nishitani as well because just look at him. everybody majima wants to sex is trans

[lockandkeyhyena]

honestly every single day im shocked at how lucky we were with jaxx. he’s not got any of the typical pittie/staffy aggressiveness with small animals or children whatsoever. how did that happen

#hes likely not fully staffy but like #what happened #hes a wet fucking doormat with people #and with other dogs he only growls if they play too rough with him #but hes more patient with younger dogs ??????????? #he doesnt even really acknowledge our cats exist #they’ll steal his bed and he’ll sleep on the floor #this isnt even age. like if anything hes gotten grumpier with age #hes my weird baby boy #the most dangerous things hes done is bit me #but he didnt really #see he’ll eat literally anything and since he ate a bluebottle my gut reaction has been to stick my hand in his mouth #when he picks up an unidentified piece of food #so like. that ones on me i need to stop doing that #he’ll be fine his stomach lining has to be steel at this point #the funny thing is i dont think he even realised my hand was. in his mouth #he was just like. this is an odd tasting potato cake #anyway sorry for rambling. i love my weird pig dog #yeen rambles #jaxx