#masculine of center

[pfox-pfashion]

Enjoyed the surprise complement of the rust socks against the green shirt 😏

Shirt: Kohl's

Pants: thrifted, tailored by me

Shoes: Johnston & Murphy

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#pfox #pfox pfashion #genderneutral #genderqueer #gender nonconforming #masculine nonbinary #masculine of center #nonbinary #agender #queer fashion #transmasculine #agenderootd #queer #nonbinary looks #palette #pfox pfav

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Transmasculine Cis Woman Pride Flag

[transcript: eight horizontal stripes of four shades of pink, white, cyan, blue, and pastel black. end id.]

Transmasc Cis Woman: a person who was assigned female at birth experiencing a female masculine gender identity; a cis* (cis-vestic, cis-gender or cis-sex) womanhood/femaleness and trans* (trans-vestic, trans-gender or trans-sex) masculinity; cisfein (cisfeingender or cisfia (cisfiagender/cisfiaspec)) transmin/transmideo (transmideospec/transmideogender or transmingender).

#masculine of center #cis woman #ciswoman #cisfemale #cisgender female #pride flag #transmasc #transmasculine #mogai #mod ap #liom #trans*masc #trans-masculine #cisgirl #cis girl #lgbtqia #afab

[anonil88]

Y'all are a aware that masc is short for masculine of center (MOC). Not just masculine, the term was coined by black people and women like 2011ish. The first I personally heard of it was by bklynboihood, a queer bipoc collective est. 2009, that also introduced me to the term queer term boi and tomboi.

Masculine of center was originally just for people of color but now anyone is welcomed to use it. It is not exclusive to lesbians.

> add on source cause I'm like someone's def written about this by now

#masculine of center #masc #its a new term but not new new #stud #butch #the more you know #lgbtq #queer

[imkrisyoung]

DMV/Washington, DC Metro area butches/studs, where y’all at? I’m a butch and I wanna build friendships and connections with other butches!

#dmv #washington dc #dc metro #dc metro area #Washington DC metro area #butch #butch lesbian #stud #stud lesbian #masculine of center #masculine lesbian #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #lgbt #lesbian #queer #queer community

[ccs-masc]

#androgynous women #androgyne aesthetic #gender neutral #gender queer #tomboy fashion #androgynous fashion #tomboy #androgynous #masculine of center #masc #masculine women

[oh-wow-im-still-here]

Im so sorry but I just cannot understand people that read the entirety of scum villain and then say they don't like binghe. He's awful, toxic, overbearing, ect. Like?? Yes, but also no??? Did you not read the book? Or even looked past the unreliable narration?

Like, I get it, you're reading it in the moment and sqq is a super fun and imaginative narrator, he easily traps you in the same mindset that he has. Trapping you in the world of genres, tropes, character archetypes, what makes a story a story. So it's easy to get clouded like sqq and just scratch your head and try to figure out what type of character archtype luo binghe will turn out to be. If he's not the stallion protagonist harem master anymore, than what is he? So you read book 2 and the start of book 3 and you think, "oh! If he's not gonna be the toxic male power fantasy anymore, than he's gonna be the toxic male love interest fantasy you see in BL!"

You know the ones. They're incredibly sexy, incredibly tall, needs an incredibly in depth course on the meaning of consent and boundaries, and the narrative never punishes them for doing weird and out of line shit, but actively romanticize it. Which fits binghe in some respects, but not all of them, same as the stallion protag box. So I can understand you and sqq's apprehension throughout the story. Waiting for the hat to drop already. Is binghe a cute wholesome wife or a possessive bloodthirsty demon lord?

But then you and shen qingqiu are supposed to learn the lesson near the end that binghe is a person!! With thoughts and feelings and grievances he wants addressed!!! That ultimately he is in the exact middle of the harem master protag to toxic yaoi male lead scale, but also not on the scale at all!!!

Because, ultimately, he is just a guy that desperately wants to be loved! To be wanted! That's it! And shen qingqiu realizes this and takes this complicated emotional wreck of a man and promises him that love and companionship. Shedding the notions of following some sort of thought out narrative and live out their happy ending. Because scum villain's story does end up happy. Messy, but happy. Shen Qingqiu is not suffering. He does not regret choosing Luo Binghe. They are both happy and in love and they both deserve each other. So like, what more do you want?

#conclusion: yeah hes toxic bingqiu is so toxic but also not but also yes in the sexy way but also not- #literally scum villain is not scum villain without binghe #hes sooo interesting!!! he is malewife demon emporer sweet maiden sheep disciple harem master bad at sex husband narrative power source ect #he IS the center of universe but also he wants to live out his lesbian cottagecore fantasy for the rest of his days #also ps i do absolutely believe binghe does understand bounderies and consent and is a gentlemen #xin mo the embodiment of toxic masculinity just had a grip on him for a lil bit but hes fine now hes a respectful boy #literally says he'd never do anything without complete consent in one of the extras #sorry my rambles arent very eloquent and dont make much sense lmao #luo binghe #bingqiu #shen qingqiu #svsss #scum villain #scum villains self saving system

[fluffydice]

There’s a joke about Kusuo’s daddy issues and kubosai that I don’t know if I’m strong enough to make. It’s not even the low-hanging fruit of just saying “haha kubo daddy” it’s more “haha Kusuo can’t handle affection from a guy who takes care of him and protects him”

#there’s a reason I put a lot of emphasis on Aren’s voice and Kusuo’s reaction to it #as someone who has written in their psych notes ‘afraid of men’ I GET IT #anything resembling masculinity can be frightening…and Aren is all that #but I think I could see Kusuo craving it all the same #he wants to be taken care of…wants to be the center of safe attention wants to not worry constantly #just thinking this is really stupid #kubosai #saiki k #fluffy cooks a headcanon #ig??

[farmerlesbian]

poll - read all options before answering!

for lesbians, sapphics, wlw, gay laydies, bi and pan goils, enbies and androgynes and bois and queer dykes.

i'm curious again so here's a lil poll. i find we focus a lot on the term butch but there are a lot of terms and identities that are similar so i'm curious how folks identify. while some of these can be genders in themselves i'm not so much looking for like what your gender is, but more describing how you look and what your presentation is, which is why i'm not listing nonbinary. if you feel that's the best way to describe it and is how you describe yourself then go ahead and say that! if the term that resonates most for you also is your gender, that's fine select that term. also there are a lot more terms i would've included if i had more space so if the word you'd pick isn't here please choose other and list it in the tags or comments! i understand there are a lot of regional, subcultural, ethnic, and non-english language terms that you might use. so again, please feel free to use the 'other' and say what your term for yourself is.

some english language terms that i didn't include are: diesel dyke, bulldagger / BD / bulldyke, AG / aggressive, futch, stem, transmasc, dyke, boi, fuckboy/fuckboi, kiki, tomboy, drag king, stag, tomcat. and the subsets of butch: soft, hard, stone, LHB (long hair butch)

plus there are sooo many more non-english language terms out there that i'm not familiar with but you might identify with! please share 'em!

as always, talk about it in the comments n tags! i

#lesbian #identity #labels #polls #wlw #sapphic #butch #stud #masc #masc of center #queer #queer women #masculinity #gender nonconformity #gnc #gender nonconforming

[jennycalendar]

ah MAN season one in particular seems to have me in my xander feelings this time around, specifically because he is so WILDLY and OBVIOUSLY incorrect about buffy and about buffy/angel!!! like, okay, in the pack he is talking incessantly and obsessively about how buffy wants her men "mean and dangerous," and we will see this line repeated by him many, many times -- his perspective on the buffy/angel relationship is that buffy wants a hot older guy & that xander himself is the nice one who deserves to be rewarded! which, again, of course, disturbing gross i understand why this would hit a Really Really Specific Button with viewers.

BUT THE THING IS -- buffy's draw to angel is not because he is Mean and Dangerous, it's because he is guiding her! from the very start, he's been demonstrating that he cares about her, albeit through cryptic warnings and shop talk, and she is at her core this little girl who wants someone to look out for her and protect her. angel is someone who is objectively very attractive, QUITE emotionally unavailable, but consistently through s1 and s2 providing buffy with a place of cozy, cuddly vulnerability where she gets to be seen as a little girl. AND YES sometimes that can be patronizing as all hell but it also means she gets to feel like she's being protected! THIS, not the danger, is why she is so into angel. he is older and he is strong so he has the capacity to (ostensibly) keep her safe.

and so i'm looking at the people going "xander is gross because he thinks this way" and i'm like. yes. fully. absolutely. but i feel that then this line of thinking is continued on into "xander is gross because he thinks this way and the show agrees with him" which i do not agree with at all. we are shown very consistently through the way that buffy/angel is presented that xander is misguided as hell in the way he frames the buffy/angel relationship and that it's only in s3, when he is very clearly over her, that his anger starts coming from this very anti-vampire specific place.

#celia watches btvs #i guess this time i am scooping up xander and caring about him so hard. couldn't have predicted THIS #i just really feel that there is not a lot of nuanced criticism of him out there #specifically because his brand of toxic masculinity is especially familiar to many! #he's entitled as hell + so often self-centered + introspective in this way that's really self-flagellating #and i'm watching him this go round like ... #wow wow wow. i want to take that man apart for real

[pfox-pfashion]

This might be a new all-time favorite outfit 😍

Shirt: thrifted, tailored by me

Pants: thrifted

Tie: thrifted

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#pfox #pfox pfashion #queer fashion #masculine nonbinary #masculine of center #transmasculine #transmasc fashion #transmasc #nonbinary #nonbinary looks #agender #agenderootd #queer #palette #pfox pfav

[04tenno]

Nakai [Arakawa] on Y:LAD's script. He was so real for this

[Full video in source!]

#yakuza #like a dragon #yakuza 7 #yakuza like a dragon #masumi arakawa #arakawa masumi #kiichi nakai #my clips #my translations #SOWWY TO REDIRECT </3 i'm testing something. there is always Something Or Another i'm doing wrong with these though so #i had to re-render this one fifty fucking times as well gkdsljgjdhhd #A WEEK LATE BUT WE GOT THERE EVENTUALLY. #no this one is actually really good #'cause the character descriptions at the end are scripted but here they ask nakai for his own thoughts on arakawa #and it's very interesting nakai sees him as this like. Idealized Man #in spite of arakawa's feminine qualities being kind of front-and-center when you start the game #and him being very emotionally vulnerable. openly crying. yknow. #like the Only time the word “trauma” leaves any rgg character's mouth it's arakawa's #he's a single dad. he takes work nowhere near as seriously as jo. #of course he does have classically masculine traits like leadership and strength #but......... that's perfectly in-line with rgg's themes isn't it #the ideal man is not one burdened by toxic masculinity [although. ARAKAWA IS but not to the same degree as some ok] #also obviously i chose this section to clip for a reason he is SOOOOOOO REAL FOR THIS #i LOVE when actors sound exactly like regular fans of the series #unrelated but it's funny that nakai chose to wear all-white and tsutusmi chose to wear all-black for these #also nakai's mannerisms align really closely with arakawa's compared to tsutsumi's with jo's i think #on that note i wish they asked him if he'd play the game or asked tsutsumi what he thought about jo #anyway i'm not gonna spoil too much of the interview scroll back up and watch it yourself that's an order private #but if you have read this far :] thank you

[mustangs-flames]

I'd just like to understand a bit better (half a year fan yay)

Reeds treatment of 10 year old Mark & Reeds treatment of 17 year old Mark main differences, plz?

When Mark was 10, his grandparents were fine with him, it wasn't until he was about 13 that they started taking issue - a lot of it was prompted by the fact that Mark was starting to look less like his mom and more like his dad who the Reeds resented for killing their daughter. Mark's mental health also started to decline into his teens and that wasn't something his grandparents wanted to acknowledge was happening. On the occasions they did, they would have no patience for him because it was all a reminder of their now-estranged kid, Sam.

Mark got stuck as the scapegoat for his grandparents issues and eventually it slowly became an environment where he couldn't do anything right for them. He was always in the wrong no matter what.

#hail true body #mustang answers! #htb mark owens #htb the reeds #also throw in john reed's ideals about masculinity and how mark fails to meet those expectations and yeah. mark is useless in their eyes #it all comes from trauma. neglect. grief. strict religious upbringing. to create one big mess that mark was unfortunately the center of #black sheep just like his uncle/godfather was

[nicejewishsoyboy]

I had facial and body masculinization surgery yesterday. Went well but I’m very swollen and bruised.

#trans man #ftm #trans guy #transgender #transmasculine #gender confirmation center #gender euphoria #gender affirming surgery #gender affirming care #tboy swag #facial masculinization #body masculinization

[positively--speculative]

I wonder how many men actually *like* football or other sports. I'm sure there are a lot that do, but I wonder how many others just like it because they were taught that they're supposed to.

Like, when I talk to a really boring guy who doesn't seem to have much of a personality and they REALLY love their favorite sports team...I just....wonder.

#Idk what to tag this #Sports ig? #Masculinity #Toxic Masculinity #Like my dad likes college sports #But he also likes cooking and coloring #He likes music #He's a pretty upbeat guy #Some of these dudes center their lives around sports to a degree where I wonder if they know they can like other things

[kennys-parka-jacket]

Always hilarious when people complain about fanon!craig being overly macho while fanon!tweek is the twinkiest twink that has ever twinked. My guy, they were literally assigned seme and uke roles in canon. What did you expect

#For the most part they fit those roles pretty well too #The 'omega's conflict being centered around his anxiety and lack of emotional support from his loved ones #The 'alpha' being very masculine and doing his best to provide for the omega's needs #There's more complexities to them of course #But still. Gosh darn the fandon for treating the seme/uke pairing as a seme/uke pairing

[nonegenderleftpain]

So I see so many people coddling cis people's feelings about their partners transitioning, and I'm normally very polite about it because attraction is complicated. But honestly, cis people?

Do better.

My partner is the straightest fucking cis man I have ever met in my life. When I came out, it was very hard for him. But I did not know that at first, because he did not make it my problem. He dealt with the initial shock on his own, rather than push it on me when I was most vulnerable, and then later, we worked through it as a team. Because he loves me and our relationship is important to him. He's not attracted to men. At all. Repulsed, actually. But he is still with me, and is attracted to *me.* I have a full fucking beard and ass hair, and we have made it work.

Normally I would add a "I know it can't work for everyone and that's okay" disclaimer, but I'm not doing that today. Do better. Do better for your partners, who you say you love so much. Put your money where your mouth is. If my autistic, laser straight partner can do it after he'd been with me as a woman for five years, so can you.

#this post brought to you by my partner driving across the city to rescue me when i was having a panic attack in a LIGHTNING STORM #because my phone had died and i didnt know how to get home and i knew if someone saw me in hysterics in my cab i could be in danger #because i look like a man now #and him sitting with me in the cab of my truck holding my hand with my head on his chest until i could breathe again #this man was being visibly gay in public #it doesn't matter that hes straight and our relationship is complicated by my gender identity #he was being visibly gay in public because he loves me more than he cares about how others view us #more than his need to cling to a rigid identity for the sake of toxic masculinity #more than his preference to be completely non-offensive and invisible in most situations #when he goes out alone he is invisible #when we go out together - him with the crippled tranny jew on his arm - he is the center of attention #and he does not hesitate to go out with me. to be seen with me. to love me openly. #so fucking do better or get the fuck out #gender stuff #trans