#its a crab bucket

[butch-bakugo]

Not to be an ass but yeah...

This lesbian was assaulted.... This trans woman was found dead.... Bi women get beat up on trains and are more likely to be hurt by their male partners than straight women..... This trans man died defending lesbians in germany.... These gay men are in camps in russia... This nonbinary person was killed.....

Amazing how you hear about violence aginest gay and trans people but i litterally cant find a single vetted article that shows violence aginest aro/ace pple for "aphobia". Like its always these excuses;

Aroaces face corrective rape! the "corrective rape" was not corrective and happend because the aroace person said no to sex and it was just mysogny because the aro/ace person was afab n would you look at that, the rapist was a cis man. Thats mysogny. Not to mention 80% of aro/ace people are cis women, trans men and afab nonbinary people aka the people raised litterally taught from birth that sex is not something for them to enjoy and they exist to please.

Doctors consider lack of sexual/romantic attraction to be a symptom instead of an orientation! Because lacking the desire for sex and relationships is a hallmark sign of trauma, abuse and mental illness. Its litterally symptom #1 to struggle with sex and commitment when your traumatized and ive litterally never met a not-traumatized aro/ace. I know this because im a traumatized aro/ace and no, "aphobia" isnt traumatic. Honestly, even if your aro/ace as a result of trauma, thats valid, just make sure your healing and that your honest about it.

Well, when i wore my ace pin, someone called me a queer! Thats a sign that me, being cisgender and heteroromantic asexual, am really queer! Experiencing misplaced oppression at the hands of homophobic and transphobic people dosent suddenly make you gay or trans. Also, they dont know what any of the flags mean so why tf would they care that you dont fuck unless its Tuesday? They just assume all little pins with a bunch of colored stripes mean child groomer gay pedo tranny, not demiaroace or wtf ever. They litterally only hate you because they assume you fuck the same gender or dont identify as ur brith sex. Thats it. It also dosent help that you go running around saying "im SOOO gay" and "im such a dirty little queer." When you are neither. When you say ur gay, they are gonna think ur gay. If they know ur cis and het and dont have sex, they dont give a fuck.

Well, your theory falls apart that aro/aceness is mostly brought on by trauma and mysogny when trans women, amab enbies and cis man aro/aces exist! Ok, you still havent disproven my point because 1. transfems and amab enbies usually have gender dysphoria which, speaking from my own experiences, complicates sex and makes it harder. Gender dysphoria is a mental illness and unless you bring to me 5 examples of cis het men who identify as aroace, you dont get to use them as a gotcha. Ive been gay for almost 10 years and ive still never met one, online or irl.

I also never stated that aro/aceness was purely brought on by trauma/mental illness and mysogny, its something that can just naturally happen. Ive just never seen it genuinely happen. Usually the person has trauma/mental illness or is afab or is trans or all three. All of these things, according to proven psychology, can affect the sex drive, attraction and desire for committed relationships.

Thats why every aro/ace you see is either really young and in pain, still healing from trauma or is older and admits to holding on out of spite or admit that its trauma related. There are always gonna be exceptions but unless those excepts make up more than 25% of a thing, im not considering it something totally stand alone. Its also why every ex-aro/ace carries the same story: they identified with it when they were younger and healing from some traumatic shit, they got older and got help, they healed and magically they werent adverse to sex and relationships. That dosent happen with gay pple or trans pple usually. Like 70% of today's aro/ace people are allo 5 years later. If not 5, then 90% by 10 yrs. If not 10, then 99% by 20 yrs.

Its not a coincidence. Adversity towards sex and relationships usually has a foot in the graves of social oppression, trauma/abuse and mental illness. Usually once someone feels empowered by their minority status, heals from their trauma and copes with their mental illnesses, they arnt aro/ace anymore. I speak from experience watching pple i knew when i was 13 go from traumatized and a "romance and sex repulsed" aroace transmasc nonbinary kid who hates allos and gags at sex scenes to being 20 and seeing them all just be ur average bisexual transmasc nonbinary person who kisses and fucks like everybody else. They might throw an arospec or acespec label in their like demi- or -flux but its usally just labels that mean that they are normal person who dosent fuck on sight or isnt always thinking about sex.

Im not saying that every incident of aro/aceness is a result of trauma/abuse, mental illness and bigotry but i am saying that coming to terms with that shit usually makes someone less aro/ace. Im also mentioning how many times ive seen aro/ace people throw out excuse after excuse and label after label that all boil down to telling someone to stop getting therapy and just identify as this because "all labels are vaild and inate to you. You'll always be this." Then they mob you when you get help and openly say your not aroace anymore and ur labled a "traitor" who "wasnt an actual aroace and is just a troll" cause you dare to talk about rhw toxicity and fandomization the aroace communities suffer from. I know this cause im aroace and i dont touch those communities with a 10ft pole. Aint happening. I see a person with a demigreyromantic pin and i turn the other way hopeing to got they didnt see my aro one cause i refuse to talk to pple like that.

The definitions of romance and sex are fluid for a reason and just because you think you dont fit the societal definition of a "average amount of sexual and romantic attraction" dosent mean ur right about society and dosent make you akiocupioangleddemiaroacefluxspike, i promise. All these bajillion labels fall apart the moment you mention that its completely natural for a human's desire for sex and romantic partnership is supposed to fluxuate over the course of your life and multiple things influence it. Im not opposed to microlabels and sexuality modifiers and other things people do in an attempt to find community with others who have the same experiences as them and i never have but what i am saying is that little shit like that dosent oppress you on a societal scale and never has and to think critically about yourself and others to understand that what your feeling isnt always the truth and emotions can betray you.

You arent always a trustworthy person and its always best to make long term decisions on a full stomache, a mid mood, in clean clothes and plenty of energy with enough time to be sure. Quick decisions can fuck you up and the amount of spite and toxicity coming from the aroace communities when you even so much as glance critically at them is worth a few months of deliberation before you go in full speed. Just dont come crying to the normal aroaces when you hit a brick wall 5 ft in and get bombarded with cishet sob stories of people who lost their partner cause they didnt disclose their aroace status, cupcakes and dragons, the gay dads kicked me out copypasta and a bajillion people claiming that their oppressed with their only sources being "trust me bro" and " how dare you question my experiences". If you arnt 100% informed, ur on a hundred blocklists just for mentioning that you dont like the ace flag or some meaningless shit like that.

Trust me, dont bother.

#levi speaks #listen i know the nb community can be irritating and cringey sometimes #i know the trans man community can suck sometimes #but exactly nothing compares to the vitrol and cringe that seeps from the aro ace and aroace communties here #like i dont support cringe culture #but hearing a person whose only oppression is being demiromantic tell me they have it worse than gay people #and the amount of homophobia serophobia and racism youll be smacked with #is re-dick-you-lous #its a crab bucket #you see fully 30 year old disney adults audibly gagging cause of a kiss in a kids movie #and people sayong valentines day is as bigoted as like columbus day #people coming us with apocolypse movies where the virus is sexually transmitted and the herione is aroace #without any sympathy or care for ya know THE AIDS EPIDEMIC #people litterally coining slurs #cause theres no slurs for aroace people #whole blogs dedicated to screaming about lgbt merch that didnt include them #you think im joking #but im litterally not #its insane and i will never associate #i dont even tell pple im aro because of that shit #jesus christ #im more embaressed of being aro than proud #Please let it all just burn down already

[knockknockknockingonhootysdoor]

quick doodle bc i havent been able to draw in a bit and i just saw atsv and i have too many drawing ideas and no time to do them. so pls enjoy silly...( u_u;)7

#my art #digital illustration #im not tagging anything else. its just to organize this for da blog. its just a silly doodle. #but one of these days. one of these days i will be the crab that finally gets out of the bucket

[archietransdrews]

oh i also meant to make this post earlier in the week but unfortunately i DID read the jason/jughead fic again and the thing about that pairing is like. you know the trixie anecdote about how there was exactly one (1) out gay kid at her high school and so that kid got tons of action because he was the only one closeted boys could go to to hook up without fear of being outed? anyway jughead is that but for Kids In Riverdale Who Are Having a Bad Time.

like jughead's whole emo loner deal is pretty textually about disillusionment with 'the town with pep;' he has experienced poverty, domestic violence, homelessness, etc. and at some point became unwilling to put a happy face on those experiences. his line about not fitting in and not wanting to fit in gets at this; that he sees all of riverdale as essentially phony and has no interest in putting on the same performance. ANYWAY.

all this to say that if you are a kid who by all appearances is fine but is actually suffering acutely, jughead is a person who even if you are only seeing him in passing in the hallways at school stands out as a possible ally, someone you could go to who would understand. when jughead later says of jason something to the effect of 'he chose me because i was an outsider,' i read it to mean this; that jason looked to everyone around him like a kid for whom riverdale was equivalent to paradise; he was rich, football captain, had an apparently loving family and a perfect girlfriend. all of these trappings of success and happiness obscured the horrifying violence taking place just beneath the surface. there was nowhere he could turn; he didn't think anyone would believe that such a charmed life could be so painful; he looked around for anyone at all who knew that riverdale wasn't what it seemed to be, and saw jughead.

#its about two people who could not appear more different on the surface but actually are uniquely positioned to understand each other :) #hashtag crab bucket blogging #little miss inciting incident

[bugdogg]

im trying to learn stuff rn

#bright color warning ig #(unsure if its too bright) #my art #oc #tried doing something lineless with no sketch #i wanna push perspective more but it tends to confuse me alot and i dont fully get it yet #im aware of mistakes in this like the messed up perspective #but i got too frustrated and decided to leave it like that #anyway i wanted to draw Mizuki in a bathing suit although its nothing special #they like colorful stuff like this #theyd probably collect crabs or sand fleas in the bucket #they wouldnt do anything with them #just catch and release

[cosmicrhetoric]

thank u for your post about fat women in discworld! I love sybil and glenda so much, but what are your thoughts on agnes? i felt like some parts of maskerade were very hurtful at times

agnes definitely has it really rough, i think the difference is that we see her get in her head (literally. perdita) about her weight way more than other characters. like for sybil and glenda, we're so rarely in sybil's pov as compared to sam's, who like, is extremely in love w/ her. and glenda has her own hang ups being best friends with a literal model but she gave off such strong Who Gives A Shit vibes its not the same.

but agnes.....yeah. i actually liked how perdita evolved from the bad joke of 'every fat girl has a thin girl waiting to get out' to just like. the third thoughts version of 'what if you lived your life without shame? what if you went after what you deserved? what if you did a handstand?'. but maskerade specifically was rough b/c nearly everyone agnes interacted with knocked her down because of her weight. the narrative is very clear about this being an injustice but pratchett makes the same little quips about agnes he makes about all of his main characters, and so it does sting a little because the nature of being in her pov is that we are intimately aware of how much someone saying this would sting for her. i still think she's a great character going through a necessary coming of age arc and for me her little 'vlad. i wouldve held their coats' moment in carpe jugulum made up for everything but there are definitely some jokes in maskerade i couldve done without

#cause maskerade is all look at how theyre treating her its so unfair she deserves better and then he makes the joke abt her turning around #and not to sound like a kindergarten teacher but that wasnt very nice. #so like as a whole. still a great character still a good book but its harder to read b/c it actively focuses on the mc being fat #as opposed to glenda who happens to be fat while deconstructing the crab bucket metaphor for 400 pgs #agnes nitt #discworld

[nudibutch]

my crab in a bucket video got flagged lol

#i appealed and said #its a crab in a bucket?

[weebsinstash]

Crazy, absolutely insane how the people being replaced by robots thing is starting to actually happen. Writers, artists, translators... Something seen in science fiction media and talked about for ages is becoming a reality is freaking terrifying. Holy shit. I used to brush this type of thing off as some futuristic fiction trope, but the fact the artist AI is already damaging real artists does not feel real. Robot apocalypse might be a possibility. Wild.

Not to sound like a boomer but like yeah basically. ai making concept art, ai music, ai art making nfts, ai writing, actors acting in front of a greenscreen completely alone for their entire movie never even told the context of the scenes or even what movies they're going in, people still arguing that "real jobs" are a thing and advocate for millions being replaced by automation, all the while the excessive environmental damage, the waste, the overproduction, the consumerism, the new release of the exact same shit next year but only minor tweaking so the patent is fresh, price gouging, just

it's hard for me to not be constantly depressed in general, I'm really just constantly getting stoned and using escapism and some probably definitely maladaptive daydreaming to cope. I like to think I've written novels and novels mentally but I guess there's just a persistent air of, hopelessness that I feel isn't just in my life but im my environment and community and just, all of us as a whole that kind of sucks out my motivation from doing anything that takes mild effort.

Like I know I'm kind of jumping from ai art to societal issues/corporate greed but like for example, i reconnected recently with a friend i used to know online like 10 years ago and he basically reached out because, covid was hell and he had some people die and a lot of people are anxious and lonely right now, and we are both those people so, he invited me to come visit. And something that happened to him is that he used to paint and he loved painting and one day at his job, his shithead bastard boss built his own scaffolding to stand on and it collapsed, and a bar swung out and hit my friend in the elbow and gave him permanant nerve damage in his arm and hand and he now has extremely limited use of that limb, period, can no longer paint, even holding his fingers in such a way is painful

It just breaks me. It breaks me how so many of us feel so trapped and unhappy and how when some of us finally achieve some sort of happiness, someone with more power ruins it. Other people just damaging your life, your dreams, gone, and you didn't even do anything, it wasn't even in your control. I dunno. I am a diagnosed doom and gloomer but I guess ever since I was a really young I always felt like people were treated so replaceable and disposable and now I'm an adult and it just kind of chills me that holy shit if I picked up on that as a 1996 baby how hopeless does the current young generation feel. Like I could write paragraphs like some manic crackhead about how worried about shit I am lmao 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

#you may have intended this as more lighthearted but i constsntly see people proudly calling for more automation #it scares me. people already being underpaid being told they should be grateful w shit or be replaced by robots #its pathetic. crabs in a bucket mentality. hatred for art and intellect #i feel like i should add i think there is certain nuances in terms of certain accessibility by the common man but #the corporate greed shit and companies using robots instead of artists is fucked cause thwy can affoed it

[crowned-ladybug]

It's October and people draw things in October, but I couldn't get myself to sit down for anything serious, so instead observe: the situation @22ratonthestreet and I have found ourselves in these past couple days

#ITS OUR PIT AND ITS A GOOD PIT AND WE DRAGGED EACH OTHER DOWN LIKE CRABS IN A FUCKIN BUCKET #(in which im the weird bunny and Dima is the clown doll with the literal rat tail) #(which is based on nothing its just the two things their physical form takes in my brain. clown and rat) #i dont have the brain to write properly rn #so i just keep sending them my dumb lil ideas #and sometimes they smack me with unfairly well written shit in response to get me to shut the fuck up #SO I MAY HAVE DUG THE PIT. I MAY HAVE BEEN HOLDING THE SHOVEL YES #for context this is about fictional men btw go look on ao3 if you wanna learn more #no1 reason this gets to escape discord containment is bc i think it looks really funny #tiny clown rat doll in a pit #digital art #original art #doodle

[dankovskaya]

Well, how did you on the cross platform Beta? Did you brought honor to our household?

It's a horror show in there all of the upper floor bitches are stuck in like floors 4-6 because they are mostly just fighting other people who are basically as good as they are and also trying to get back up and therefore are also stuck. I can't imagine what its like for. People who are actually supposed to be on those floors let alone people who just started playing bc its free 😭

#I think im floor 5 locked right now which. i havent been there since my first week playing i think . #There arent enough actual low level springboards to martyr on the way back up so its just crabs in a bucket. #ask

[1ore]

on one hand, the misinfo about content labels makes me sad because this is so clearly (to me) a baby step towards relaxing ye olde pornban (probably not completely but to an extent, too soon to know.) on the other, its very funny and very sad to see people dying on the hill of whatever website they're married to, even if its a dumpster fire in the same way or completely new and deranged ways. also yeah whats that post thats like. we gotta do something to keep the property values down around here

#this is hearkening back to the despair of every blue bird website exodus #where its like. not crab bucket mentality i think its more like the familiar is comfortable #even if the familiar is like eating a spoonfull of rusty nails every morning #anyway im having a great time on weird corners of the internet. diversify your internet community portfolio it feels great

[daughteroftheunspeakable]

ppl are so stupid. two broken people getting in a relationship doesn't fix them ok its not like pemdas it doesnt cancel out

#its just like broken squared boom now theyre both worse #u ever heard of crabs in a bucket #arthur.txt

[pekorosu]

not to be a geek but u kno how when u r a fan of a series set in a rl life place, u would have the urge to visit that place like a pilgrimage right. so banana fish is set in nyc but i have never once thought of going lol

#izumo is in my bucket list tho #but according to smth i found on the jp webz #apparently fly boy had eiji being originally from tottori (hence the matsuba crabs) #then it got revised to izumo after bf #not a big deal since they are both in the rural sanin region #but still a cute trivia if true #(forgot where i found it tho so take with grain of salt) #also would wanna visit onomichi frm shimanami tasogare #so could hit 2 birds with 1 stone with a chugoku region travel plan #dont think it'll ever happen but its nice to dream 🤤

[sunslants]

theres just smth so deeply awful and beautiful in ling chens ironclad conviction in ye zimu's continued survival. theyve both lost everything in their lives they're both empty and self-loathing they both live in barren apartments haunted by the people theyve lost. but ling chen is the only one who can kill ye zimu. ergo, he can't die unless ling chen is the one to do it. ergo, ye zimu will survive.

#villain initialization #smth smth narrative foils narrative parallels smth crab bucket idk its 3am im skleepy. maybe will elaborate tmrw #on the flip side theres also yzm #who survives only by enacting his dead fathers justice #penrose is a symbol of the villainy that yzm has been groomed to fight #and ling chen is the last person alive who understands him #idk. anyway theyre both just sinking their claws into each other to stay alive. #in his return to the past ling chen does kill yzm i guess #though its somewhat of a shallow reading i feel. anyway the new timeline yzm is never going to be the superhero 'ye mu' again #because hes free. hes been shown a more flexible path. this is straying very much fro mthe point i digress. anyway.

[atlantus]

I am a self employed business owner and I only made $14238 and so I had to pay $1211 in federal taxes and I think I could explode because I know billionaires are evading millions in taxes but I have to pay $1211. I feel like I'm ready to put some heads in some baskets. Let's pull the guillotine out the garage. $1211!!! Out of $14238!!!! That's just too much. Like what? We gotta raise the minimum deduction or something idk this is crazy how are people expected to start their own small businesses when the threshold is so low? This feels impossible.

#i underatand that its all on purpose to keep me poor and reliant on the system but come on let me out of the crab bucket

[puerifungorum]

the gender politics going on in romeo and juliet is very much not what's going on with these guys. but i thought the combination of vulgar humor and a focus on violence and dominance was pretty appropriate for them. so here's a comic!

#oc tag #oc tag: s #oc tag: shitty vampire cousin #oc tag: crabs in a bucket #<- technically it's not the crabs in a bucket because that's my tag for these two AND anselm. but i don't have a tag for just them alone. #i'm thinking of naming shitty vampire cousin “gregor” in honor of this. things to consider. #my art #tw sex mention #<- i guess? its shakespearean

[fchsadfa]

Catch this turning into a vent blog

*barely restrained rant about marketing and portfolio week*

#nobody needs to know the petty drama of the petition to reinstate the option of selling works at the end of term show #I do need to vent about my feelings of developing a Reputation around the school #but it feels somewhat all in my head. maybe if I got more sleep and ate regular meals I'd feel more normal about it #idk something something crabs in a bucket #(but maybe I really AM that special and talented. and maybe next year I can come back and teach a week of the class I only just took?!) #it's absolutely wild how little qualifications it seems to take to be a college prof?! #idk I think my alleged (in my head) Reputation is partly just down to me wandering around the school and talking to people #all the certificates are insanely intense and we tend to stick to our studios and there's a silo effect #also like. its a tiny campus. the admin staff all know my name because theres just not many students #maybe I will write up the gossip about the show vs sale and also rant about marketing and portfolio. just not tonight