#it's about controlling women

[intelligentchristianlady]

SMH

#abortion #conception #when life begins #Bible #anti-choice #it's about controlling women

[randomberlinchick]

Given everything that Dr Torres has been through, one could be forgiven for thinking that Alabama must take extremely good care of its children . . . but one would be mistaken:

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"The Alabama Department of Public Health (ADPH) announces the 2021 Alabama infant mortality rate is 7.6 deaths per 1,000 live births, with 443 infants dying during their first year of life. The state’s infant mortality for 2021 is an 8.6 percent increase over the 7.0 rate of 2020. Alabama's infant mortality rate, however, remains higher than the U.S. rate for 2021, which is provisionally 5.5. Infant deaths, fetal deaths, live births and estimated pregnancies all increased in Alabama from 2020 to 2021."

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Well, would you look at that . . . So yeah, you can miss me with the "pro-life" bullshit.

#abortion #alabama #dr leah torres #child poverty #this isn't about children #it's about controlling women

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

#warm up #writeblr #this one has bothered me for a bit #any time a woman does something even passingly annoying we treat it like a fucking crime #hey man. women are allowed to be annoying. everyone forever is allowed to be passingly annoying #as long as they aren't hurting anyone/thing #like u wanna know something? i find it super annoying that men don't wear seatbelts #why arent there thousands of comments on driving videos thats just like : men try not to die in a car crash challenge #''this briefly annoyed me''. okay??????? AND????????????????? go get ur self a cookie and calm down about it #ur not entitled to control other ppl's experiences and emotions just so u can maintain ur own peace #if being briefly annoyed ruins ur whole day! you! need! therapy!!!! #men try not to become immediately angry about nothing challenge: level impossible #ps author is nonbinary. we didn't even get into the gender presentation thing #the fact men think it's SEXY that my voice is on the lower end....

[canidaezy]

how do transmascs not want to kill themselves all the time honestly

#i experience transphobia and hardship in my daily life #and then i go home and go on my computer and learn that i dont experience any of that actually #im just pretending. and i shouldnt talk about it because im just a fake trans #who wishes his experiences could even measure up to a crumb of what real trans people (women) have to go through #ok cool. #testosterone is a controlled substance did you know that. my state is actively making it harder for people my age to access hrt #but i guess since im transmasc i dont actually have to worry about any of that! im fine! #i didnt have a 3 month time limit before it would be illegal for me to access hrt! im transmasc im too privileged to worry about that! #transphobia #transandrophobia

[despazito]

my idea for feminist birth control

#unironically why do we put up with all the invasive methods but male birth control will have one (1) unpleasant side effect so its scrapped #yes i know our genitalia isnt external but reading about rollouts for experimental male birth control makes me want to pull my hair out #you people cant tolerate anything meanwhile women take meds that have COUNTLESS awful side effects

[bonefall]

"Back in my day we loved our abusers or just disregarded them. We would never smash their heads against a wall until they agreed with us"

So... so you're just admitting you tried to Love and Kindness the abuse away?? You did that??? You think it's BAD to fight back against someone who is BEATING YOU?

Or does that mean, "we never demanded better treatment or justice. We just waited for our abusers to realize the error of their ways, like good victims."

I REALLY hope they get paid enough to go to therapy, this is actual factual abuse apologia. I am once again legitimately concerned for the mental health of these writers

#You can't 'TEACH SOMEONE TO BE LOVELY' out of DOMESTIC ABUSE #Abuse isn't about a person BEING MEAN it's about CONTROL #A conversation about retributive vs rehabilitative justice would be good. Im a fan of rehab justice #BUT NOT IN RESPONSE TO A FAN QUESTIONING A WIFEBEATER GOING TO HEAVEN #At NO POINT has any afterlife EVER been established as a place where rehabilitation happens #Even NOW #CURRENT ARC #ALMOST 10 YEARS LATER #SCREAMING LIKE A CHIMP CONTINUES #WHY HAVE THEY ONLY DONE THIS FOR THE WIFEBEATER #TOM AND CLEAR ALONE!!!!!!! #VIOLENT MEN WHO ASSAULT INNOCENT WOMEN AND CHILDREN #AND SEE ZERO CONSEQUENCES #Tw domestic abuse #Tw child abuse

[uncanny-tranny]

The worst lie you can believe and be told is that women are emotional and men are logical, that men's, essentially, men's emotions are logical and neutral while women's are not, and are in fact frivolous and shallow.

#feminism #i have 'discovered' that men ARE just as (if not more) emotional than women... #...but that their emotions are never called emotions. so many are so fundamentally separated from their own humanity that they believe... #...that the are not emotional. that they are as neutral as they think machines are. that they are as logical as the terminator... #...so you get these people who are so separated from their own humanity because they are told that to be a man is to not be human... #...and that women are made lesser FOR the humanity of having emotions and being ~in tune~ with them... #...and that even if women have emotions that is a flaw because being a person is a flaw you should cover up... #...so 1. punish women and 'women' for having emotions in any violent way... #2. punish men and 'men' to the extent they themselves are almost convinced they aren't human #i've found that as i grow up i recognize how powerful that can be to control people if there is higher authorities in place #not to get conspiratorial but i definitely think that institutions like the military REQUIRE this shit #because it is about separation from yourself and replacing that humanity with everything else #separate yourself from the humanity of emotions and replace it with the personality of the fucking terminator

[satsuha]

valerio for 60min challenge

#dragalia lost #satsuhart #valerio #it was over 60mins but i wasnt really sure how long but it shouldnt have been over 90min...? #anyway the way i went from eh to AWOOGA @ valerio the moment he tied his hair needs to be studied #like i am so neutral-neg towards long haired men (women too actually but i mind it less w female chars) but the moment its in a ponytail i #i just think alt hairstyles are nice.. but i also just really... dont care for untied straight long hair i think its visually boring #anyway i totally forgot he got a spiral LOL i was checking his release date for something after drawing this and i saw it again #icr if i ever used him in endgame? but probably not bc i kinda suck at controlling stance users and its awful to let them ai... #i must have done kaleido with him tho... i did it with about half the cast #anyway did you know valerio has a little fang ? its so cute even tho it only shows up when hes being really emo about primia

[tariah23]

This is such a harmful sentiment to push considering that you don’t necessarily have to be “attractive,” (beauty is subjective, yada yada) in order for men to want to harm you in the slightest… like man, what…

#the lady talks about being followed and harassed and so on as if every woman and girl in the world regardless of their age and #‘good looks’ #hasn’t experienced this and will continue to #I hate when these girls especially ones who are conveniently attractive talk about stuff like this under the guise of speaking for all #women while x-ing out most women #this easily leads into the realm of ‘you’re too ugly/fat to be assaulted ANYWAY-‘ #talk that I see spread by misogynists and bird brained women like it’s such a natural thing to even say it’s actually rly scary #especially when it comes to the assault shit which is usually about power and control anyway #they don’t care what you look like #you could be covered up head to toe and someone would try to hurt you just because #I hate when women like this go online thinking that they said something open their mouths I really do #rambling #tw assault #got dudes in the comments going ‘she’s not even pretty anyway she’s like a 4 out of 10’ #completely missing the message (as if they care) and see #these are the kinds of people that stuff like this attracts #stuff like this coming out of a woman’s mouth especially is so dangerous #I don’t think I’m the most good looking person in the world and I’ve been followed sm times I had to run away from a guy once and luckily #my bus was right fucking there!!! #then the guy who was harassing me years ago at a bus stop and forced me to hug him and touched my butt and no one else was around to help #me… #and he kept on trying to get me to go back to his apartment around the corner like that was so #the man who followed me into the store as I was shopping and I noticed that he kept on staring at me #then tried to holla and he looked way older than me and I think he was a pastor or something too he had a nice car and tried to get me to #come with him #sm more incidents over the years like this is crazy pls don’t say stuff like this and act like it’s normal #someone in the comments said that people like the woman in the video think that being pretty will free them from the patriarchy and like… #YEAH 😭 #it’s so obvious too lmfao #these be the same women calling themselves ‘girls girls’’

[ominouspositivity-or-else]

one thing that will perpetually piss me off is how misogynistic reproductive healthcare is. like okay, let's see who the problem is, is it the woman, who can only get pregnant once every nine months or so, or is it the man, who can get nearly 10 women pregnant in a day. hmm. i wonder whose hormones we should mess with and manipulate. i wonder who the responsibility of taking birth control should be on. i don't think it's the woman.

but no, birth control is for women and women alone because the healthcare system would never fuck around with men's hormones. no, men are too special. we can't make them a miracle pill. only women get their every concern about their reproductive functions foisted off onto birth control because hey, maybe that'll solve your acne or your cramping or your endometriosis. maybe messing with your hormones won't do anything. i think you're missing the point, woman, you are the one who needs to make sure you take a pill that messes with your hormones because the healthcare system decided that it's the only thing they know how to do for you.

no. we're not going to change. not for you, woman. your body matters less. your hormones can be messed with.

oh, we just couldn't make hormonal birth control for men. we're not even going to try. God forbid men's reproductive health gets messed with. who knows if the earth could ever recover.

#im so pissed about this #the healthcare system would never prescribe or even make men hormonal birth control #but that's exactly what it does for women #edgy post #catch me in my feminist moment

[hajihiko]

As :| :| :| :| as the series was in general, DR3 gave me two of my absolute favorite bits of Fuyuhiko characterization: he was one of the handful of students showing up to class properly, and him fighting off the sexy soup's effects.

It WAS not great. But TBH seeing any bit of content for my favourite kids makes it worth it LOL

Agree tho! Like we sorta already knew but it just further confirms: stickler for rules (one might even say a goody two shoes but only when he feels like it) and willpower in absolute *spades* (and some caretaking instinct there too hehe)

#If there was ever a mind control plot he'd be the one to fight it off the longest #(we don't talk about the bs hypnosis thing) #Fuyuhiko drinks respect women juice but sometimes he unfortunately mixes it with Really Inappropriate Threat juice #I also like how absolutely nonplussed he was being threatened by his teacher. He thought it was fun #Sorry I just can't shut up about me boy. You get it #not an art

[mintharasthrone]

i wish people would stop calling your 20s the best years of your life

#that is not how it's gone for me....even for a year #it's weird to tell people like life will never be as good as it is now rarely #and so many women are filled with dread already in their 20s because of men saying our life is over and we've hit the wall #there's so much awful shit going on like how... #i also hate when people say that about AGRS like yes don't let predatory men take your youth but we dont have to say it will be the best #but they are important years where you grow and learn a lot and men will want to control mold and manipulate you #you get to develop yourself #with more autonomy now that you're not a teenager but im just saddened when i hear it. for lesbians it's even worse like look at the world #and when you're disabled or don't have basic needs...dont have privileges like what do you do... #idk it's for more people privileged or lucky people

[tapok-eve]

Thinking about Zena again and her gayass fixation on humanity. Now that there's only Binah, an embodiment of a corresponding sephirot of the tree of life, with a body of Light. But Zena doesn't need this inhuman being. She yearns for Garion, the arbiter, the citizen, the human she once knew. She probably knew of the raid, knew of the torture Garion faced in the facility, knew of Binah's predicament in L corp. And still, she hoped that underneath all of that there's that human part laying dormant, so the moment she arrived, Garion would abandon her "programming" and choose being human again. Except she's not. Binah fully welcomed becoming a sephirot and seeing through first Ayin's story, then Angela's. She mellowed out, and while there is a part of her former personality somewhere in there, there's a very natural progression to Binah being Binah. And Zena can't accept this decision to stay inhuman. Exactly as she can't accept Angela's decision to stay a machine, as this is a decision unbecoming of a true citizen. And Zena can't control beings that don't behave as citizens. And she wants to control these two so badly.

#seriously girl why do you feel the need to control other women. that's gay #library of ruina #library of ruina spoilers #zena lor #can you see that I'm utterly deranged about this woman #Angela and Binah are having epic t4t sex just to spite the authorities

[silvermoon424]

It's so funny (read: infuriating) reading American conservative reactions to the OTC birth control news

Because it's like

Conservatives: Abortion is murder!!! It should never be used as birth control!! Why don't people have sex responsibly???

Sane people: Well, okay, then you should be happy about how the first OTC birth control for women was just legalized, right? That will lead to fewer abortions.

Conservatives: BIRTH CONTROL IS DISGUSTING!!! I CAN'T BELIEVE THE GOVERNMENT PUSHED THOSE POISON PILLS OUT!!

Like it only takes a few back and forths with them to make them admit that they just want women to keep their legs shut unless they're within the boundaries of heterosexual marriage. Then they need to be pushing babies out constantly (well, only if both parents are white or very white-passing).

#like pro-life people should be the MOST gung-ho about sex ed and contraceptives but they're not #when I was brainwashed by Catholic school and a pro-life sucker I actually WAS very pro-contraceptives and sex ed #and I was confused why the people around me weren't #it's a big part of what led to my disillusion with that whole movement and led to me becoming pro-choice #because pro-choice people are the ones who ACTUALLY help women and children #pro choice #reproductive rights #reproductive health #birth control

[bonefall]

I can't see how the writers still think Skystar's a good person. Like, twelve year old me liked him and thought he was interesting, but I was like twelve. And even I knew he was an irredeemable asshole after Moth Flight's Vision. If a twelve year old can figure this stuff out I have no idea what these grown ass writers were doing.

DOTC has a thesis, stated in The First Battle, that really explains everything.

"Fear and Greed" is just a fake-deep way to reinvent a Good and Evil dichotomy. Because Clear Sky's abuse comes from a place of fear, it means it's not malicious, unlike a "greedy" cat.

He can be "soothed," ergo, he's a fundamentally good person.

Post-First Battle, the books are focusing constantly on his feelings, how sad it makes him to not be trusted, how happy he is when people are on his side. All while he continues to screech at people who tell him what to do, manipulate and mistreat his son, and even still beats and mauls those who offend him.

But because it's "fear," that doesn't matter. That's a justification, an excuse. The writers don't seem to believe in good and bad actions as much as they do good and bad people. True 'evil' comes from a person who hurts others for the wrong reasons, like 'revenge' or malice.

It's abuse apologia. Plain and simple.

The truth is that abusers don't think of themselves as evil people, and everyone, even you and me, is capable of being toxic or abusive. Talk to those who have been abused and we'll tell you; we often stayed because we "saw the good," or even felt responsible for them. Abuse can be passed down through generations because the kids come to believe the way they were treated was normal and okay.

If you go through life thinking that abuse only comes from evil/greedy people, you won't see it when it happens right in front of you. Fundamental good and evil is childish. Abuse comes from fear all the time.

Abuse is about power and control. Fear of rejection, of losing someone, of pain, those are all very common motivators as the abuser tries to stop them from happening before they even begin. It doesn't MATTER that your abuser is in pain too, you NEVER "deserved" what they did in an attempt to break your legs so you wouldn't run.

But... we can all change. Even the worst of us. It's never too late to stop hurting others, move on to a better life, but some people never will. Skystar loves his power, and he keeps that power no matter how many times he misuses it.

He has no reason to change as long as his cruelty rewards him with status and authority.

But the writers are incapable of recognizing that, because for this entire arc, they were stuck in an absurd view of the world in terms of Fear and Greed. Abuse can be excused if he did it for the "right reason," and that makes him "fundamentally different" from the truly evil villains, Slash and One Eye.

Hopefully, it now makes more sense to you.

#I am completely sincere when I say that I am legitimately concerned for the mental health of these writers sometimes #It's a lot of words to say. Again. That evil is really really simple. #It feels good to get what you want. #Power gets you what you want-- Security. Assurance. Respect. #Everyone wants these things. #It's not about having a twisted and sadistic soul #I'm sure those exist out there. But they're so so rare #And you will get hurt if you need to believe that the only person it's okay to leave or distrust or hate is a literal monster #You can leave anyone who tries to control and hurt you actually!! #Even if they're in emotional pain and insist that they NEED YOU #You didn't deserve it! You never did! It's okay! They didn't need to be a monster. And you're not one for leaving either. #Or resenting them. Or recognizing that they can't be trusted. #Of course... well. Clear Sky DOES act like a monster in this text. #Gouging out people's eyes and slaughtering innocent women #But most of the time irl your abuser didn't like. Kill someone lmao #At some point the metaphor breaks down #BUT!!! #cw abuse #dotc hate #Clear Sky #Skystar #Anyway casting spell of I Love You on every abuse survivor who feels a connection here #bone babble

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

People on BookTok will unironically diagnose every woman who reads smutty books with a porn addiction and call everyone who disagrees with their puritanical standards for books a gooner and then pat themselves on the back for being so moral and enlightened as if they're actually going to achieve anything of substance by doing this.

#booktok #anti booktok #ah yes please tell me again how women enjoying smutty novels os the downfall of society you fucking loser #also the fact that it's exclusively women being targeted is not a good look y'all #there are actual issues with the adult entertainment industry that these freaks could be talking about #but nah i forgot Karen reading smutty novels to relax is the bigger issue #be so fucking for real #trying to censor and control what goes into literature makes you fascist #hope this helps!!!!!