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#issue being me is not caring about romance
moipale · 1 day
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aro siffrin is so important to me specifically because of their response to isa's confession in act 5... that dialogue, isa saying "i know you love me, but is it the same as i love you?" and sif responding "give me some time to figure it out" and that being OKAY. isabeau accepting that siffrin needs time, recognizing that they love him platonically first and the rest may or may not come after... it's rendered so simply and easily!! when every, every other piece of media would stop at siffrin's first "i love you too" as proof of romance. ta-da you're in love! nothing else matters!
siffrin feeling so deeply for every single member of the party, caring about them with his whole soul, is the center of isat. a platonic and significant and real center. and it means so much to me that isabeau's romantic feelings for siffrin frankly come second. because platonic love never comes first, ever. but here it does!
id5 may have word-of-god-ed isafrin as canon, if i remember right, but textually in stars and time does not actually couple them at the end of the game. and i really really appreciate that. siffrin's musings throughout the game on romance can be read in multiple directions: either aromantically, or as repressed due to their other issues, and both i would argue are very well founded with textual evidence. i simply favor the aromantic reading more. i love mirabelle deeply, but siffrin's potential for being aromantic/his textual musings on the matter echo my own experiences more directly, and so he means a lot to me
1 day i'll actually write that essay on my aromantic reading of siffrin. but for now happy pride month. come frolick with me in the aromantic siffrin fields
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mermaidsirennikita · 4 months
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any thoughts on the darkest corner of the heart discourse?
I really need people to stop thinking that a random book is a harbinger of society's moral collapse. The more I see that rhetoric the dumber it gets.
So it's a romance novel (a fiction) about two adults (who knew each other when one was a kid, yes--don't know how old that kid was, but they are now adults and there was zero romantic or sexual contact when she was underage) who fall in love. All of which is a pretty common fantasy among the book's target audience. I don't see the issue.
I mean, I doubt I'll ever read it, but I have no problem with it based on the information I've gleaned.
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Me, when Sebastian joins my party for the first time: Okay, this time I'm not going to forget about you, Sebastian. I'm going to make an effort to use you a lot this playthrough so I can better understand you.
Also me, immediately forgetting about Sebastian while finishing Act 2 and making it halfway through Act 3 before I finally notice his Faith quest: ......................Oh. Right. My bad.
#da2#dragon age 2#sebastian vael#listen in my defense..........i don't like bringing sebastian anywhere sksksks#okay look i seriously tried but every time i bring him somewhere i always think man i wish i had brought someone else#and also i do just forget about him! i finally added him to my party at one point and he had 24 points to spend...#that's how long i neglected him after i promised myself i was gonna use him more and then i didn't#it's not that i don't like sebastian as a character though i do tend to side eye him A LOT... it's just that i like everyone else more#even aveline like i'd take aveline over sebastian any day and that's saying something... or is it? i have a lot of feelings about aveline#whereas my feelings about sebastian could maybe fill a thimble...it doesn't help that in my canon run as a mage hawke#i romance anders and well... sebastian wants me to kill anders and my hawke is like 'do i approve of blowing up the chantry? complicated.'#'am i breaking up with anders for this? absolutely. do i still love him? mmhmmm. am i going to kill him sebby? i'd sooner set varric aflame#then sebastian threatens to bring an army to kirkwall and leaves so i can't say i have the greatest opinion on him#even the time where i did kill anders and he stayed in my party he was just... there#and then he glitched out and started t posing while asking if ed ever found out what anders wanted to do in the chantry so..... yeah#but even this playthrough where i'm playing as a lady warrior with a different personality and everything... i'd just rather use anyone els#also keep him away from bethany i do not approve sksksks she's too good for him#i want to understand and see the different angles of him like with the other companions but i've yet to convince myself to do it#also sebastian romancers out there can you like... explain? genuinely can you explain the appeal? i'm curious#because of all the love interests in da2 i look at sebastian and you'd think i'd maybe be more interested? but it's like...#i know about the chaste marriage and everything like that's fine i don't need sex to be a thing in the relationship but it feels less like#an asexual romance and more like... y'know... being with a priest and i guess that's just not one of my kinks? sksksks#i guess there's also the prince angle but i romanced alistair in dao and kept him a grey warden i don't really care about royalty power#and i don't have issues with him being a part of the chantry [well i do but yknow what i mean] since i romanced cullen in dai#and his whole deal with the chantry and magic and shit makes his romance interesting to me but sebastian is just.... a bit too much i think#i don't know i'd like to understand because i really don't but i also keep forgetting about him
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horsemage · 28 days
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I think we should bring back basic etiquette lessons such as shutting the fuck up when you’re watching a movie in a group that is not exclusively your friend group 🙂
#welcome to another Mick Airs Out Their Grievances and by god is it a VERY long one#prob best if u don't expand the tags#am I being maybe a bit meaner about this than I would be for any other movie? maybe but pac rim is one of my favorite movies of all time#so I think I get a pass on this one.#one of the groups on campus is hosting movie nights & I went to this one bc I've only ever watched pac rim on my laptop and wanted to watch#it on a larger screen. yay yippee I love this movie!#there r maybe 10-ish of us in this room and a three person friend group is sitting on the couch one of whom has seen the movie and two who#have not. okay so far so normal.#and then the movie starts and they won't! stop! fucking! commentating! the whole fucking movie!!! I don't have a problem with doing that#when I'm in just my friend group because I know that I can tell my friend to stop talking or pause the movie or whatnot but not when I'm in#a large group w people I'm not good friends with ffs#and the comments aren't even funny or anything they're all oh this is JUST like in iron widow!! oh they're SO gay and autistic!!! and#they're talking so loud about this that it completely drowns out the movie audio which has already been turned up a few times#like. be considerate!! some of us want to yknow actually listen to what's going on and not whatever bullshit you're saying#I nearly walked out three or four times before I actually wound up doing so#I may have been a bit of a bitch at the end but I don't care. I got up to leave because this was not an enjoyable environment and one of#them offered to turn the movie down if it was too loud. this caught me a bit off guard since I expected them to still be so wrapped up in#their convo and. well. I may have said 'it's not the movie that's too loud' before closing the door#this also reminds me a lot about my issues with online shipping culture and it bleeding through into how we interact with media irl#this is probably heavily influenced by my aromanticism but I'm so sick of people constantly reading romantic relationships into everything#AND placing more importance on those relationships than any other form. I don't mind romance in media. I think if done right it has great#emotional impact on a story but when a movie is running and when other people who may not want to hear it are in the room watching it too#is not the time to be loudly saying 'he's autistic!' 'they're in love!' 'she has a crush on him!'#I have my own interpretations of the movie some of which agree with what they said and some of which don't but that's beside the point of#knowing how to coexist politely in public#anyway. I think they were awful and annoying and they ruined my night out.#I think I'm just so incredibly mad about this because I love the movie and I was looking forward to watching it in a group of people who#found it cool as well while still having some modicum of politeness#I almost wish I had been meaner but that's the extreme annoyance talking I think#hater hour over love u guys bye
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didsomeonesayventus · 7 months
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hello i love!!! ur alearcryst art!!! it's so soft and it fits them perfectly. i've just recently gotten into the ship n ur content is giving me Life thank u.
HELL YEA please they are so incredibly soft and devoted to each other I am shaking the fandom they're so so so good stop sleeping on them stop sleeping on anxious lil guy becomes god's favorite blorbo ever and the power and beauty of deep and wholly unconditional, fully reciprocated love
frankly I do wanna make more content of them i am just a tired blob with a full time job and have trouble remembering to have fun with art and not get frustrated with the sketch not coming together or get my brain together enough to write wheezes
tho speaking of since you pointed out the art I do have a smattering of fics as well! (a total of 7; largely drabbles and a novella sized multichapter one) ... also planning on making more but also brain is not pulling together enough to get anything written because the Big One:tm: WIP is at a complete standstill and I refuse to let it die.
but yeah welcome to the club shakes ur hand somehow we're the rarepair despite how OBVIOUSLY they were made for each other and bring out the best and worst of each other and- (I am dragged away before this gets any longer)
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daincrediblegg · 16 days
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You know… I think I’d enjoy bridgerton more if it engaged in its stakes more than it engaged with its payoff. You know. Like all the jane austen’s novels it’s trying to chase through charm
#like. idk. it’s fun but it’s disenchanting bc it doesn’t engage with class social structures in any meaningful way#also where are the fucking soldiers??? shouldn’t there be some colonels running around?#it’s regency what does everyone not know that the napoleonic wars are happening#like this is what I’m saying it won’t engage with any of the history and then try to pass off small gestures as the things that love is#made of. like. did you not read p&p??? god sakes#and what’s worse is that a good portion of other copypastes in this genre that I have seen do exactly the same thing#i mean even sanditon which I would accuse of similar crimes still manages to talk about colonialism and race in a way more meaningful way#even if it does seem a little far fetched#and I’m glad penelope is finally getting an arc but even still its like. it never wants to really penetrate the fatness issue#like it’s not the crux of why she’s so socially outcast and rather make it about her being a wallflower#and yeah maybe I’m too close to this one and I care a little too much bc I have been in her position before (and spoilers it didn’t end well#but all of this is to say is that the pure wish fulfillment kinda bores me ngl. like put the characters through their paces for gods sake#and ofc I’m saying this coming off game of thrones so ofc my outlook is bleak but like. romance can be more fun and maybe it would have#a better reputation than it does if we didn’t just act like its happening in a vacuum
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boo-moved · 10 months
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Reached the point of rage
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pussy-ache · 9 months
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also thinking about a conversation about cheating i had earlier with someone who definitely should just break up with her girlfriend
#and this is coming from someone who was most likely cheated on and never REALLY got a straight answer about it but rather evasive answers#and tips from other people who observed shit when i wasn’t able to be around all the time#like on one hand i care about cheating but on the other hand i truly don’t give a fuck about other people’s relationship issues#i feel like the vast majority of people i meet who are in a romantic relationship shouldn’t really be in one#like quite literally so much of the time it’s just communication issues leading to immaturity and/or secret resentment of your partner#and i’m a strong believer in ‘’just break up’’ because i truly don’t see the point of cheating like just. break. up.#but on the other hand i have a personality disorder that causes severe empathy spikes and dips#the main issue for me isn’t even romance. it’s the safety of your partners body and compromising that safety#THATS actually something i feel strongly about. the romance and love part of it idc#but then again i truly wonder if i’m even able to fall in love with this personality disorder#i read an interesting article about how people with BPD just mimic love instead of properly experiencing it#i’m 99% sure i’ve been doing that most of my life. both romantically and platonically#so since there’s a chance i can’t actually fall in love like a normal person#there’s probably also a chance that me not caring about most likely being cheated on is also tied to the bpd#what’s weird to me is that i honestly thought i loved her but mostly didn’t give a fuck when i found out#i shrugged packed up my shit and left#like i cared about the safety of my body and i was annoyed that i had to get tested just in case when i shouldn’t have had to worry about it#but i didn’t care at all even though i swore at the time that i loved her#so i don’t care about hearing when it happens to other people either#as soon as i found out my tests were normal i was like whatever#i LITERALLY thought to myself ‘’good for her hope the sex was good’’ which is just … not normal#the way i perceive romantic love is not normal. SO MANY romantic relationships are focused on ownership and control#and i can’t figure out if the problem is whether i love wrong or whether i just love differently. or an even scarier thought#can i REALLY love at all?#or do i just pretend to make another person feel seen and/or wanted?#i didn’t care that i was cheated on and i probably wouldn’t care if i helped someone cheat#and THAT is the essence of the personality disorder itself. i try to tell people that i’m actually a very callous and uncaring person#and no one really believes me or sees it in me but i swear i catch it in myself all the time. i’m just able to not care about things often#or care WAY WAY WAY WAY too much. and there’s no rhyme or reason to what i care about and not care about#like i cannot actually find a footing with myself where i can anticipate these things cuz my brain picks things at random
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witchwhaat · 1 year
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finished crash course in romance
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(yes, i will be using this shoma pic every possible occasion from now on aldjdhsjkkrfl)
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lacomandante · 1 year
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I know there’s much higher quality clips from the Sharpe series on youtube now, but back in 2017 this was the very first clip I had ever seen with Teresa, as there weren’t many in general. (Though this one cuts off the first part of the scene). I had only ever seen pictures at that point. I’m very fond of this video and this moment in Eagle and I remember being so surprised to hear her voice for the first time!!  I loved her accent and the way she spoke and the tenderness in the scene HOOKED me. So yeah have a little snippet of Sharpe’s Eagle <3
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isabelguerra · 1 year
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300 points for 'Isabel takes the L'?
the wizau isabel catches feelings fic :-)
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#paranatural#asks#telephonestalker#wizard au#u sending this ask and making me go into the doc helped me solve a plot hole/characterization issue ive been struggling with for like#OVER A YEAR. so u get a little extra for that#the L in isabel takes the L stands for like-like. it stands for crush. it stands for losing her sanity#the OG writing (tht i really didnt like but couldnt figure out an alternative) was ‘johnny gets serious hurt and isabels stressed about it#because it impacts a bunch of stuff including a huge quidditch game they have coming up which is now in jeopardy since they dont know if#johnny will be able to play and since shes team captain she’ll be responsible for her team losing. but johnny does something idk what#bc he cares. its something heartfelt bc he felt bad abt being careless and causing her stress and that action makes her heart flutter’#and then i thought hm. i dont like this.#the angle just isnt the foundation i want to build a romance arc on. so now its much less about johnnys feelings and the actions they make#him take. and then isabels reaction TO those feelings/actions. and now much more feelings are gained because despite building a friendship#on teasing and tussling and violent sport partnership this is someone shes grown to care about and doesnt want to see hurt at all.#she’d cancel the game without a moment’s hesitation because thats her teammate and she’d do anything to keep them safe#but why does this worry feel different. why does something feel worse. she’d feel this way about any of their teemmates but#by now her nd johnny hang out together and walk to class together and study late together and practice 1on1 together and she likes it#she really cares and is suddenly freaked out bc she doesnt know when that started and how she didnt notice it. and now this is someone#she cares about that got actual-not-for-jokes-hurt and shes worried#hes fine btw. maybe hes got a broken arm but ultimately he spends a night in the informary and comes out of it with a cool new story#but even after hes fine isabels still left with the aftermath of her realization. and she marinates in it for a while#this was way more than i meant to write ANYWAY my point was#her crush isnt gained bc she realizes everything he does and cares abt her. her crush is gained bc she realizes SHE LIKES HIM#its about HER feelings. not her reaction to johnnys#this au makes me unwell#johnny does still do his little ‘heartfelt sorry my carelessness made you worry im ok see? bigger n badder than ever’ thing but rather than#‘apologizing for getting hurt’ which is STUPID its more about checking in on those u care about after u made a thoughtless action#it still makes her heart jump but for a different reason. idk im still working out the kinks
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antialiasis · 2 years
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Okay, I will write a little bit about some fiction, as a treat: we just watched season four of Stranger Things and I actually liked it a lot! Definitely some dumb bits, but there was barely any romance bullshit, Max's whole arc and guilt complex pressed several of my buttons, platonic I love yous, some engaging storytelling, I had feelings! I was so, so mad at almost everything about season three (Steve and Robin singlehandedly saved it), and was very wary when we started this season, but it actually ended up winning me over into hey I like this show again, which after S3 ended with "congratulations you managed to somehow twist a character I liked into being so insufferable that I'm glad he's dead and hope he doesn't come back" is impressive.
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thereblogbogblog · 8 months
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I need my exactly 2 mutual to understand that I didn't really like Nerdy Prudes Must Die itself because I felt super underwhelmed and there was a lot of missed potential-
but I am really banking on fandom tumblr's ability to put on rose colored glasses and make fanart and fanfiction that makes me feel something more.
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forbidden-sunlight · 24 days
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yandere!duke with wicked stepmother!reader imagine
warnings: mentioned child abuse, fem!reader, arranged marriage, implied obsessive behavior.
Imagine being reincarnated not as the heroine of the dark romance novel that you fell asleep reading, but the male lead’s villainous stepmother. Although it would be many years before you would marry his father, and your family would get out their mountain of debt from this arranged marriage. You swore to not take out your anger on the poor child as you laid in your crib.
Just because the duke still held a candle for his first wife and the mother of the male lead, his son did not deserve such cruel treatment from a woman who would never receive any affection from her husband. Arranged marriages rarely result in mutual happiness, but there is always the possibility of creating a respectful partnership between each other. 
So that is what you will do. 
You became ambitious in your studies and etiquette lessons, making connections with other young ladies of high society as your own reputation grew. Instead of becoming known for being a spiteful and superficial noblewoman,  invitations to soirees, tea parties, and banquets arrived at your household every other day.
The Mad Dog of Macaluso became The Blossoming Flower of High Society. Despite the marriage proposals your household had received, none of the gentlemen in the Umbra Empire were as rich as Giovanni Lombardo, the grand duke and the male lead’s father. 
So, the marriage still happened; but you were not bothered by your new husband’s declaration on your wedding night that he would never have a child with you, citing that he found you unpleasant and nothing at all like his deceased wife as his tall frame towering over yours, his gray orbs glaring down at you with icy disdain. You stared at him for a moment before you smiled.
“No one can ever replace a loved one, and it is a relief to know that you do not care for me romantically, Your Grace. This is a situation that is beneficial only to my house, and the Emperor had forced you to select me because he was tired of hearing everyone talking about how his most trusted aide has refused to remarry since his wife’s passing six years ago during childbirth. Your son is your heir, so there is no need to have another child. If you would permit me, I would like to get to know him more. If you do not believe me, you can assign a servant to watch me interact with him and the rest of the staff. Is that acceptable?”
The baffled expression on the duke’s face at your words had been worth all the hard work you have placed into being a better side character that wouldn’t be killed in the novel’s third chapter. You would not disappoint him. 
You would prove to be a valuable partner and protect the male lead until it was time for you to leave the stage. 
Three years passed. You performed your duties as the duchess, overseeing the household and organizing any functions that were to be hosted in the duchy. When you weren’t doing paperwork in your private office or speaking to the head butler on how to improve the workplace and other matters, you spent time with the male lead. 
Alessandro was a sweet little darling, possessing his father’s shiny platinum silver tresses and his mother’s bright blue eyes that sparkled in delight when you praised him for doing so well in his studies with a big hug or a kiss on the cheek. He was precocious for a six-year-old, though he still could not understand why his Papa didn’t like Mama. Mama being you, even when you have had to gently correct him more than once that you are his stepmother, not his birth mother. 
“Some day when you are older, you will understand.” You said, resting your chin on top of his head as you carefully adjusted your grip around his middle. He liked to sit in your lap under the garden’s pagoda during tea time, and you saw no issue with it.  “Papa may not like me, but we love you. That will never change, and we only want the best for you.” You ran a hand through his hair, tucking a stray strand behind his ear. 
In the original work, he became obsessed with the female lead because he did not receive any love from his father and was abused by his stepmother. Her gentle demeanor, her kindness and loveliness triggered his desire to have her all to himself. He had even commissioned the construction of a human-sized golden cage so that he could keep the female lead by his side forever. 
Alessandro pouted. “But I don’t want to wait that long! Can’t you tell me now?”
You chuckled. “Good things come to those who wait, my dear. Believe it or not, being a grown-up can be hard in this big, scary world.”
“That’s impossible! Papa is super cool and can do so many things!”
“Yes, he is quite something, isn’t he? Now drink some tea or it will get cold.” 
What you did not realize at the time was that the duke had returned home early from work and went to search for you. The head maid had told him where you were, though the duke had not expected Alessandro to be with you in the garden. He heard what you said about him, and how you have come to accept that you will never be loved by him and it was not his son’s fault.  How affectionate you were with him, smiling and ruffling his hair while reminding him to pay attention to his arithmetic tutor because it was important for him to understand numbers because they were just as important as knowing all colors in a rainbow or which fork to use for salads. 
You had kept your promise to him. 
You did not demand his affections, prioritizing the duchy and his son’s wellbeing. You did not take any paramours nor spent more than the allowance you were given to shop for dresses and other accessories in the capital. You attended tea parties, and did not bring shame to his family name. You were a perfect wife. You were worthy.
Would you object to him spending time with his son as you do? Would you allow him to get close, to spoil you with gifts? Would you even consider the idea of giving Alessandro a younger sibling? It’s been too long, and he does have needs. 
Happy Mother's Day, guys~! :)
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lilislegacy · 2 months
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i love how in heroes of olympus, there’s a boat full of couples (+leo☺️). and yet even if you didn’t know when each couple started dating, it’s so blatantly obvious that percy and annabeth have been together the longest, and are the most serious
cause frank and hazel are still pretty nervous/unsure with each other. they JUST started dating, and are so pure and adorable. they just haven’t quite figured out the romance part yet
and jason and piper have their moments, but they’re just so… distant. like not physically, of course, but they just don’t really seem to connect on a deep level. and they aren’t super affectionate, at least not physically or openly. piper is constantly unsure about where they’re at, and while jason has thoughts about how great piper is, he doesn’t openly show his feelings too often.
but percabeth? they’re the oldest in age (physically), have known each other the longest, and have been romantically committed to each other for the most time. they act like they’ve been together for eternity, which is funny since they were technically only dating for 4 months before percy got abducted. but they just have such a deep history together and such an intense connection. they’re in it for the long run. there’s no doubt or uncertainty - and it shows. like…annabeth is so wife girlfriend. there are so many funny/cute little moments, like her scolding him for putting too much syrup on his pancakes, and telling him to take a shower when he smells bad. and when percy suggests him and jason should go on a dangerous quest instead of annabeth and piper, instead of being like “omg he cares so much about me😍” (which hazel and piper would have done) annabeth is like “what seaweed brain?? you think two guys can do better than two girls??” and percy is immediately like “uh uh NO nope i definitely do NOT think that!!” he knows better. the immediate fear is so husband boyfriend of him. they simultaneously have the most disagreements (remember when percy called annabeth out when she thought she should navigate through rome alone, and basically called her stupid for thinking it was a good idea, and then they argued and had a face-off, which percy won) - while also being the most lovey dovey (they’re constantly putting their hands on each other - annabeth putting her hand on his chest to calm him down, putting their hands on each other’s arms for support, percy having his arm around her when they’re at the edge of the ship, always giving each other a kiss on the mouth or the cheek when they separate, etc). and they have no issues sneaking off in the middle of the night to do some talking and kissing. and quite frankly, making out in front of piper in BoO (remember that? when piper got super uncomfortable at how long their kiss was lasting, and then annabeth let out, and i quote, “grunt-whimpers”). they are just so natural and comfortable with each other. piper says it herself.
i just think it’s so funny. little frazel being adorable and blushing when they hold hands, jiper is happy to be dating but they’re also a little angsty and uncertain, and then there’s percabeth just being the old married couple they are. (and leo is being cute and fixing stuff)
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