#im just a stupid transmasc what do i know about feminism right

[blueberryblogger]

just thinking about the fact that a fully grown trans woman was removed from the platform for no reason (bad, obviously) & now all i see are transfem positivity & support posts in response (good, obviously)

meanwhile a nonbinary transmasc teenager was beaten to death at school, the school refused to call an ambulance and instead suspended them (again this is bad, obviously) & all i see in response is posts debating whether or not its possible for this to have been a suicide & the same singular post about their death that i have to go searching for because none of my mutuals will reblog anything about transmasc people.

like. am i actually crazy for seeing a problem with that? am i crazy for wanting to see posts condeming anti trans violence against ALL trans people? or wanting to see posts saying that transmascs deserve to be protected against this kind of violence?

am i really a big evil piece of shit for thinking that transmasculine people deserve to be recognized & protected when something fucked up and unfair happens to us?

#like #im going to have to unfollow so many of my mutuals if this keeps up #because its just so frustrating to be grieving with my brothers & siblings and then get a fuxking #and then get 'but trans women have it WORSE' #as if its a fucking competition. #like its a game to win #like if you have more opression points eventually you'll stop being opressed #but it doesnt matter #im just a stupid transmasc what do i know about feminism right #because when i 'decided' to transition i lost any and all rights to have any kind of issues or problems #that are specifically influenced by what gender i am. #im just a stupid transmasc #and nobody is going to care when its finally my turn to get beat to death in a public restroom #and nobody is going to make transmasc positivity posts to honor me or fight for me #nobody is going to cry injustice at my death either #because Nex Benedict was a child. a nonbinary transmasc child. #and they got their head pounded into the fucking ground and they died #and none of the 'trans allies' around me give a fuck #becauze a trans woman was unjustly booted from this platform #and the issues of trans women are always more important #and people like me. people like Nex Benedict. #well. we're just the fucking collateral damage aren't we? #tw vent #cw vent #vent post #vent #personal vent #transmasc issues

[remix-of-your-guts]

insisting that you're 'literally trans' over and over sounds kind of like the terf line about how everyone's non binary, so given that and your post history it looks really suspicious

okay i legit can't tell if this is bait or something because?? what???? i said i was "literally trans" one time because someone asked if radfems reblogging my post meant i agreed with their beliefs and i chose to interpret their question in good faith so i gave a legit answer. i haven't bothered to respond to a single comment from obvious terfs because im not into giving them the time of day.

i'm not sure how me simply existing as a trans individual is agreeing with the argument that terfs make to try and erase the existence of us that "everyone is basically nonbinary because gender isn't psychological at all it's just what's in your pants" (im assuming that's the line you're talking abt and if not then idk what that is) and that's frankly a bizarre leap to make. especially because i don't even call myself nonbinary, im just a genderqueer (as in my gender is inseparable from my queerness) transsexual man.

and just what the hell is suspicious about my post history? i've been posting about trans rights and trans-inclusive feminism since i started this blog, though i can't guarantee every hot take i've had on incredibly niche intra-community discourse aligns with my current beliefs (which mostly boils down to "internet discourse is stupid" and idc)

i don't understand the phrasing here as though i'm fighting widespread accusations of transphobia or transmisogyny when this is literally the first comment i've ever gotten insinuating something like that??? of course that's not including the terfs saying "so close bestie" right before calling me a "retarded tra" but since when do we base our claims of who is and is not a terf on what the terfs themself say, instead of what the person in question has actually said/done? plus making fun of how im "close but missing the point" because i said that a trans woman may have a bit of internalized misogyny is hardly saying i clearly agree with everything they stand for (in fact it's fundamentally about the fact that i dont). if thats what you consider being claimed by terfs, and if being claimed by terfs is what you consider the deciding factor in whether or not someone is one, then basically every blogger who's ever mentioned general feminism, periods, or being a woman on this website would be a terf (even trans femmes cuz ive seen posts from them accidentally get passed around terf circles without them knowing who op is). especially every transmasc on this website would be a terf then considering that they're so bizarrely determined to get us to join them while being violently bigoted against us and dehumanizing us (obv not to the extent of trans women but still it's hardly an effective recruitment tactic) and allying with the people that explicitly want our extermination.

i'd once again like to remind everyone that all i did was point out a woman who happens to be trans accidentally veering into perpetuating misogynistic stereotypes (something that i will call out even quicker when cis women do it, which they do all the fucking time) in a way that made it clear it wasn't a big deal and expecting no one except my followers (which i'm pretty confident in saying none of whom are at least obvious terfs) to see. hopefully we can all agree that trans women are not immune to accidentally perpetuating misogynistic stereotypes- not because of their gender but in spite of it because all women can be misogynistic because MISOGYNY 👏 IS 👏 NOT 👏 STORED 👏 IN 👏 THE 👏 GENDER

and for the record even in the tags of the og post i was saying that it's really sucky that people totally are going to overreact to this and give dylan disproportionate hate because there 100% is a double standard in how society at large responds to these things, and that terfs are going to use it as "proof." but i don't think that just because accusations of misogyny are often weaponized against trans women we can never engage in good faith criticism of them??? in fact i think that makes it very important to help each other make sure there isn't any grain of truth terfs can latch onto (by which i mean being conscious of misogynistic patterns for everyone in our community, including anyone who considers themself an ally to trans people, not unfairly policing just trans women).

however obviously i regret making the post now since it clearly just encouraged the transmisogyny hate-train. and has caused my asks and notes to be flooded with transphobic bullshit directed at dylan, obviously, but also at myself. seriously, i've been deleting all the anons that are from terfs (like ive always done cuz they've targeted me before) but it's been some nasty shit. and it's really fucking annoying having to block every one that crawls over here to tell me why i'm apparently retarded for being trans and supporting my trans sisters. (sorry about the r slur- their words not mine)

okay done talking abt this forever now

[nothorses]

i love my cis women friends but sometimes they make me really uncomfortable. i feel like they find every way possible to call me (essentially) a woman or a freak. i often get “🥺 baby”-fied, get called “twink” and “bottom” as jokey insult, and whenever i try to express my femininity or love for men (which has been a huge struggle for me because of the way i feel that im feminized) im either uwu’d or told i look/am “cursed”. even when i express myself masculinely, i feel like im seen as a girl making a weak attempt at dressing like a boy. the reason i have a problem with being called a twink/bottom is because the reason im small and feminine is because im trans. i feel like my body (which im already dysphoric about) is being targeted and made fun of, and even though “twink” is a term used for men, i feel that the crux of the joke is that being a feminine-looking man is stupid, funny, or beneath “real men”. I understand its a common joke, but it makes me really uncomfortable. am i being too sensitive? i might not have explained myself the best or given the best examples, but it’s something that really bothers me. im very grateful for my friends, they’re otherwise very supportive of me! this sort of thing just kind of eats at me and I don’t know whether or not to bring it up.

Oh, no, I absolutely feel that. I also get called a twink or a bottom as well, and I understand it’s coming from a good place and it’s folks who want to validate me as a gay man, but like... I wish people thought about why they assume I’m a bottom. Despite the fact that I pretty much never talk about my sexual preferences, ever, and despite the fact that the rare time or two I have, I, uh, very explicitly said I am not a bottom?

And why twink? I get that it’s a body type thing; it’s something a person can’t really determine themselves because of the way mlm culture deals with bodies. But the way mlm culture deals with bodies is genuinely problematic, and the only reason it isn’t considered fatphobic is because of the work fat gay men did to bring in “bear” as a way to celebrate fat gay men. That, uh, doesn’t solve the problems with the body type thing as a whole.

Also, idk, if you wanna validate your local trans mlm... maybe take their transition goals into account? Get to know them as a person? Figure out what they actually like to be called? Don’t default to the body type explicitly for thin, feminine young men?

I think a huge part of this problem is that people just do not think critically about mlm culture, or the way they treat transmascs as a whole. They do not place value in mlm culture, mlm struggles, transmasc struggles, or anything of the sort. To the overwhelming majority of people who say things like this, the biggest struggle transmascs have is not being validated enough in our manhood. 

It sucks. The conversation in the queer community right now is fairly dominated by queer women’s struggles, leaving little space for communities and issues that don’t revolve around women to take place. Why talk about mlm culture as it impacts mlm? Why talk about how cis mlm impact trans mlm? Why talk about how cis people impact transmascs? Men Are Trash! We don’t need to talk about their communities, cultures, or struggles; just Throw The Whole Man Out!

If you think they’ll listen, and if it makes you uncomfortable, you should absolutely bring it up. You deserve to be heard, your comfort deserves consideration, and your friends should care that they’re being transphobic and hurtful when they make these comments.

#transmasc #transphobia #transandrophobia #not horses #long post #Anonymous