#i want to understand

[paladibun]

Will Byers explain

#stranger things #byler #will byers #mike wheeler #I want to understand #my art

[alfiely-art]

Okay guys hold on

I've been seeing a lot of Desuhiko hate on my dash, and sure he's annoying when it comes to women, but like

He never came across as a misogynist...?? At least to me

Can someone show me when he was like that?

Sure it's annoying that he flirts with every woman he sees, but. Once he realizes they're not interested he backs off

Like. Compare him to this archetype in danganronpa.

Hifumi? Calls literal children shotas and lolis.

Toko? Just. Look at how she talks about Togami. The man isn't even interested AND she reminds him of an abuser

Teruteru? Drugs Hajime and tries to trick Sonia into shit.

Souda? Wouldn't stop chasing Sonia even though it was obvious she wasn't interested.

Miu? Literally assaulted people and flashed children

Desuhiko doesn't really come close? Except maybe to Souda? But Desuhiko DOES back off when he realizes he's not getting anywhere with a person

So can someone please explain why they hate him so much to me? Like genuinely I wanna understand that viewpoint

(Also before anyone asks I am simply pointing out flaws in the danganronpa characters listed. I love a good chunk of the ones I listed.)

#danganronpa #rain code #master detective archives: rain code #rain code desuhiko #desuhiko thunderbolt #mda:rc #mdarc #raincode discourse #ig?? #sa #harrassment #misogyny #<- tagging just in case #i do not want to accidentally trigger someone #im asking in good faith by the way! #i want to understand

[kikimcgee]

#I just finished dual destinies and I know the general conceals is that people don’t like it but I really enjoyed it a lot?! #so I have to know #I want to understand #I totally get some of the character choices are weird but that doesn’t break the whole game for me #aa #ace attorney #dual destinies #poll

[murder-hobo]

Someone please explain to me why people enjoy hurt/no comfort and hard angst in general??

I'm all for people reading and enjoying whatever they want, don't get me wrong! I'm just honest to gods baffled why anyone would enjoy such mental and emotional torture >.>

I personally feel actual physical pain when reading stuff like that and my brain just feels off for a good while x_x

#someone please explain #i need answers #about angst #about hurt/no comfort #i want to understand

[appalesbian]

tops of the world…. give me your wisdom. what happens in those beautiful brains of yours. you are an enigma to me but I wish to learn

#yeah yeah top/bottom is not black and white and is used and constructed differently across people and communities and experiences spare me #I want to Understand

[lemonluvgirl]

Hey other writers

Is it just me or does it sometimes feel like the stuff you don't try all that hard to write ends up being some of the stories people respond to the most?

Because I can spend weeks agonizing over and editing/re-editing certain scenes from a fic I'm completely invested in, dream about at night, and love to death and it makes about the same splash as a drop of water in the pond, but then I turn around and write some drabbles about a/b/o crack that I post on Tumblr, unbeta-read, that takes me like 30 minutes tops to write and the response like night and day...

All this to say...

I've been writing fanfiction for about 2 years now and I still don't understand how any of this works. Why do some things grab people's attention more than others?

Is it because of tropes? Is that why people read?

Is it the size of a story? Are more people prone to read drabbles than multichapter fics?

Anybody got any ideas, because while I'm not going to become a slave to the masses and churn out a bunch of fics to please people, I genuinely want to understand this phenomenon.

Because unanswered questions bug the hell out of me.

#writer stuff #questions #curiosity #help me out fandom #i want to understand #the nature of this beast

[cielpansyhive]

I've noticed the past few years that some people tag platonic relationships with ship names. I'm trying to understand the reason for it. No judgement, I just don't get it. I see it mostly in the Voltron fandom but I have seen it in others.

On AO3 there's the slash option but also the & option. So if a friendship is important they could use "Person A & Person B" instead of "Person A/Person B." With the ship name they'll tag as "platonic (ship name)." So for example, I'll use sheith, it would be tagged "platonic sheith."

At first I thought maybe if there was an actual relationship but it wasn't sexual...but then there's still romance so that's not quite right. Platonic is platonic. Is there such a thing as a relationship that isn't sexual or romantic but it's more than a friendship? Because to me that just sounds like friendship. There are friends that become family, there are best friends, there are platonic soul mates, but it's all on the friendship scale somewhere. I ask only because I don't understand, once again not judging.

Another thought I had, if somone uses the ship tag but isn't making real shippy stuff, are they saying while they don't write it themselves they aren't against it? Kind of like saying, "you're safe here." There are plenty of things I don't write myself but I enjoy reading other people's work with it.

Maybe in a later work set in the same AU there is a relationship, but it's not there in that work. Like, "warning: this series will eventually have this ship."

Or is it just that they don't know how to tag things? I'm not a tag snob, I'm not perfect with tags either. I just want to know if these are people that would be welcoming or not. I would think if they hated the ship they wouldn't use the ship name even in a platonic way. But I just don't understand the intention behind it, so I don't want to risk things. I've seen it done so often that I feel like I've missed out on something.

#please help me understand platonic ships 😭 #I'm not ace or aro but I don't even know if that has anything to do with it #I hope nothing I've said was offensive #I want to understand #I also want to respect boundaries

[caleblandrybones]

what is tommy armitages deal. I ask this with no animosity but I remember maybe one line of dialogue from him throughout the whole show and yet he gets a nickname. is it his curls and big wet eyes

#i want to understand #whats his relationship to tozer and hickey

[unabashedhonesty]

Am I...transgender?

I’ve felt my whole life like I am not a proper female. I remember me, as young as three years old, arguing vehemently with my maternal parental unit that I am a BOY, gd it! I’ve had barbies and dresses and the color PINK forced on me my entire childhood. (I despise pink to this very day because of the association.) I wanted to play sports like wrestling and football, but I couldn’t because those were “for boys”. And then I learned when I was a teenager that I like both genders — but not sex. And I was apparently “wrong” for both of those things. I always had to talk and behave a certain way because of my genitals, which never sat well with me. When I finally started to live with the notion that I-have-a-uterus-and-sizable-breasts-so-logic-dictates-that-I-am-a-girl, I tried to embrace my “place” in the world and started focusing on how to be a “proper lady”, yet all the sudden I was “slutty” and a “hoochie” “outspoken” and “disrespectful” and should dress “conservatively”, even though girls who showed off their looks apparently got praise and approval (it didn’t help that the only affection I ever got was from the “family friend” who got way too handsy with me, but I took it because here was someone who was finally being nice to me).

When I finally got away from toxic relatives and out on my own, I tried to be a proper woman, but the label “woman” never settled in and I waited my entire twenties to feel “right”. Then tragedy hit me and my partner and living became survival again, thus I no longer cared what I looked like or what people thought. I stopped wearing makeup so much, I stopped shaving my legs and armpits, I stopped the painful process of waxing my face, and THEN!! For the first time, I actually felt comfortable in my skin. I stopped wearing bras so much. I started wearing geeky t-shirts and jeans and biker boots. I talk in a way that feels right to me, and not how a “lady” should. I stopped sitting like a “lady” and I don’t take shit from anybody anymore. I began to realize that I never liked being referred to as a “she” and would jokingly tell my friends to not accuse me of being a woman. Then I started an anonymous, faceless, genderless Twitter (before the muskrat takeover) as a social experiment, and learned that I LIKED it when everyone just assumed I was a guy. I didn’t correct them because I didn’t want them to change the way they talked to me.

I then came to the conclusion that I’m genderfluid. I prefer they/them pronouns, but I really do enjoy he/him. I still know how to be a “woman”, and I still occasionally present myself as one when it’s needed (or when it’s not a good idea to get into correcting people). I still thought I was stuck being a woman when I met my partner, so I will happily be a woman for them from time to time, because that’s what they’re attracted to and I still want to be attractive to them. But they never try to make me be anything, and certainly doesn’t shame me for my gender issues — they love and support me whatever I’m feeling. (They still refer to me as “she”, but that’s what I still was when we met nearly a decade ago and it’s hard for them to switch, so I don’t hold it against them; they’re not malicious about it at all). And if I’m feeling particularly masculine — even for weeks or months at a time — they don’t try to stop me from being just that. For most of my life, I’d never heard of transgender or gender-affirming care or anything of the sort (due to being raised in an EXTREMELY conservative environment), but once I started educating myself about it so I could support others, it started to make a lot of sense to me. But I’m still learning and trying to understand it all, so I beg of you, LGBTQIA+ side of Tumblr, to PLEASE help me understand what exactly I am and what I’m going through. I know how I feel — have ALWAYS felt — and that is most certainly NOT feminine. Am I genderqueer? Am I Trans? Is this real? Am I a hypochondriac? Is it all in my head? Am I just confused? Please help!!! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤎🤍🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #queer #genderfluid #genderqueer #trans #transgender #am i trans? #Am I just genderfluid? #Please help #i want to understand #they/them #pronouns #he/him

[fretbored34]

To be fair, I don't understand much 🤷‍♀️

#dank memes #fresh memes #funny memes #memes #lol #funny but true #so true #me irl lol #funny but not funny haha #oh no lol #adulting #mental health #i don't understaaaaand #i don't understand #i want to understand #what's up with that #getting older #growing #growing up #adulthood #adultish #young adult #early 20s #life in your 30s #am i stupid #am i dumb

[platypusisnotonfire]

I want to be the kind of soft dude that gets poetry but I am just too stupid to understand it

#I am trying to read Walt Whitman #and I simply am too dense to comprehend it #I tried to look it up online to see if there was like a study guide #but instead all I find is stuff like “this is the greatest poetry ever written and I’m like but why #i want to understand #but it seems like everyone gets it but me #is there such a thing as a a guide to poetry for dumb people

[celluloidbroomcloset]

I am so perplexed as to why there seem to be newer (female? queer?) fans of The Avengers who don't think Steed and Mrs. Peel are sleeping together? What do you think is going on there, then?

#the avengers #john steed #emma peel #patrick macnee #diana rigg #not judging here #just perplexes me #i want to understand

[vastimagines]

Everyone here: Wilburs a bad dad

Same mother fuckers: OH MISSA ITS OKAY YOURE A GREAT DAD

#im sick and venting #im gonna start biting people #someone help me understand #i want to understand #WHATS THE DIFFERENCE

[groty-codi-dolls]

Why are dolls still even made with click-knees

#nobody wants them #they only work if the doll is supposed to have seamless limbs #or like those new my first barbies #that possibly have seamless limbs unintentionally #otherwise just make jointed knees #i want to understand #doll #dolls #dollblr

[sadsoftserve]

barges in as a fellow Transformers fan after liking half your content Aight, just hear me out. EE OC crossover AU where the Ashling family are Cybertronians. (If you have any questions as to how they reproduce w/o the use of the Wells as per usual, we can just go with them using budding, but communally as so to avoid their offspring getting less sapient as the generations go on. Or we can figure something out later, lol) Moving on, the Ashlings were among the last to leave Cybertron as the Great War was breaking out. Getting aboard one of the last 4 Ark-class cruisers (which also have aliens from Iacon's Xeno-Quarter (Space in, well, Iacon for organic immigrants to live in, as most of Cybertron isn't suited for them)), they were headed for Aquatron to wait out the Great War At least, that was the plan. Unfortunately, some tampering via Decepticon saboteurs malfunctions from hastily retrofitted technology (the Arks having been mothballed for a long while) screwed up the coordinates & sent them to the EE world's solar system, a couple decades before Canon. They've got the supplies to set up camp, but not their FTL has been damaged & they can't fix those w/o getting help from Earth. The one coordinating the evacuation in the first place, Dai Atlas (renowned war hero & all-round good guy, but dealing with PTSD from it all & has strong personal convictions) is, along with the Autobots who were tasked with seeing these refugees to safety, has struck deals of sharing non-military technology in exchange for resources to fix the ships. Cue Canon going completely off the rails, Sylvie & Sabrina make new squishy friends, all while the shadow of the Autobot-Decepticon War loom over everyone's heads. (Made this at 11 p.m. , so sorry if it's of bad quality.)

Hey uhhh @demonitizedstuff can you dumb this down in a way I can understand?

Look, this sounds like a great idea. But the only piece of transformers content I've consumed is Rescue Bots. This hit me like a sack of bricks. And I'm only slightly familiar with the franchise as a whole.

😔😔😔😔

#epithet erased #ee #art #artists on tumblr #transformers #crossover au #epithet au #i litterally do not inderstand a word o just read #im sorry #like genuinely #i want to understand #im trying #but #im an idiot

[dummerjan]

But you like it, don’t you? When I am like this.

This is the line I keep coming back to.

Vegas says this and yet, when they have sex he shows no trace of anger. He is overwhelmed by Pete initiating the kiss, he is reverent when taking the rope and binding Pete’s hands. His kiss, to me, is an expression of gratitude, accepting Pete’s submission and thanking him for it. He worships him, every touch tender and gentle, appreciative.

(I just had to include this pic, I couldn't help myself.)

I don’t think Pete ever looks like he is enjoying Vegas’ cruelty and mood swings. Yes, he is fascinated by him during the torture scene in Ep. 7, but in that instance the violence isn’t directed at him and purely business related. It’s a kind of violence Pete is familiar with, has exerted himself without qualms. When he is the victim he doesn’t cower or back down, he laughs at Vegas in defiance and despair, but not because he finds any pleasure in it. I am not saying he isn’t a masochist. But even if he is, it doesn’t mean he derives pleasure from any kind of pain, especially not in the context of captivity and torture when he is expecting to die. Same goes for the intimidation and humiliation. So, from where does Vegas get the idea that Pete likes him volatile and moody? Was he just trying to get a rise out of Pete because he likes him defiant and fierce? Is it just something he says in self-defense after Pete saw him in such a vulnerable state, grieving his hedgehog and failing his father’s task? Vegas strikes me as an incredibly lonely person. For me, personally, the pain of being lonely and lacking relationships is as much, if not even more, about lacking the possibility to love someone, to prove myself worthy of being loved and capable of love as it is about not being loved and having someone care for me. To have proof that I am not a monster that needs to be locked up in the basement, kept away from other people. And this might just be self-projection because those are the kind of characters I latch onto, but that is what I recognize in Vegas. When I look at Vegas I see someone who is finally allowed to be soft, caring, show affection and love. Previously he only had Macau to care for, but he also had to protect him from Kan in the role of the big brother.

He is still violent, manipulative, cruel and selfish but he is also a human being capable of love and deeply, painfully lonely. To finally have someone be the object of that love must be overwhelming. That’s how I interpret the way he looks at and so carefully touches Pete in the hospital, with reverence and wonder, not yet understanding how and why he is allowed to have that and thus all the more desperate to prove himself worthy of Pete.

I thought this would help me figure out what he means when he says "But you like it, don’t you? When I am like this." but I am just continuing to overthink this obessively to no avail. I doubt it's that deep but there’s a dissonance between his words and actions that I can’t figure out and it's been driving me crazy. Maybe someone else can make sense of it.

#meins #kinnporsche #vegas theerapanyakul #vegaspete #this ended up being more about loneliness ahaha #it's probably not that deep but still #i want to understand #is it just meant in the way that pete is into bd/sm and kinky? but that would make no sense to me #and it isn't shown in the show #he wants to be restrained that's it #i wouldn't even say we see vegas dominate him #i've put way too much energy and time into wording this why do i bother #it's the kinnporsche curse #it's the most i've been into fandom in many many years #i think the only other instance was hannibal in 2015 #but i never even tried to understand what they were saying when i could barely see what was going on at any given time