#i did that one ages ago..

[keetika]

girlies ♡

#need to focus on just one #🥴 #rpr wip #colouring on yaya isn't great #i did that one ages ago..

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[fluffyartbl0g]

The one piece reread only makes the hardest moments hit even harder,,,, even when you’re rereading it poorly in portugese

Or AKA, i found out today that HINATA SHOYO reads one piece and I haven’t recovered since

#one piece #haikyuu #hinata shoyo #roronoa zoro #(kinda) #omfg okay time for my entirely SEPERATE POST IN THE TAGS #i only got into one piece at the end of last year... but ive been in the anime and manga scene for like. my entire life #i cannot understate how WILD it is that I havent noticed how everywhere one piece is.... #like once i read it... i started finding it EVERYWHERE #my sister gifted me an issue of shonen jump ages ago cause i liked act age and kimetsu no yaiba chainsaw man promised neverland etc #and it doesnt have like a one piece chapter in it actually (to my disappointment) #but IT DOES HAVE A LIL ADVERTISING SEGMENT AT THE FRONT TALKING ABOUT OKIKU FIGURINES AND OTHER ONE PIECE CRAP #AND IDK IT LITERALLY JUST BLEW MY MIND #ONE PIECE DIDNT EXIST IN MY LIFE BUT.... IT DID???? #I HAD ONE PIECE MERCH BEFORE I EVEN BECAME OBSESSED WITH IT??? (hahah if you can consider a tiny segment mentioning okiku op merch XD) #just imagine suddenly being obsessed with a piece of media. and then you look around ur room and U SUDDENLY RECOGNISE A CHARACTER MERCH??? #ITS BEEN IN UR ROOM FOR YEARS BUT YOUVE NEVER REALLY EVEN NOTICED IT OR JUST BRUSHED IT OFF WHENEVR U SAW IT #BUT ITS THAT CHARACTER!!!! ITS THAT MEDIA THAT UR MADLY IN LOVE WITH???? #also im being 100 percent legit when i say that the sense of comeraderie i feel when someone says theyve ALSO read one piece #is insane #discovering that domics and worthiikids and all these other big youtubers that ive known for years have loved one piece like me? #it makes my heart clench and my eyes water man #ive never felt so connected to the world... one piece really is peak fiction..... #i love one piece's community sm....

[orange-coloredsky]

The two most popular reads of the synth plight in Fallout 4 are that of the race allegory and the Red Scare/McCarthyist allegory. In the former example, synths get racialized in a similar way to Black Americans in the late 19th and early 20th century, but just barely. The Underground Railroad is quite literally remade, synths are subjected to slavery at the hands of their human creators and punished harshly for escape attempts. Others have likened synths to fears of immigrants or asylum-seekers from nonwhite majority populations. Synths in these imaginings of Fallout 4 are painted as needing to be saved at the same time as they are vilified and dehumanized – sometimes by the same character over the course of the story. This duality could be a great opportunity for a dive into how white saviorism tends to play out, but in reality it ends up being a messy, deeply uncritical exploration of the impact of race and racism in society. The factions doing the racialization and/or saviorism’s motives are never questioned, and there is a very clear depiction of “good vs. evil” being the end-all-be-all of anti-racism work (again, with no critical thought as to how the “good” side is made almost completely of non-racialized people making decisions on behalf of a marginalized group). Worse yet, it’s contrived. The android-racism analogy has been a thorn in the side of the science fiction genre ever since Isaac Asimov wrote the 3 Laws of Robotics. There’s very few iterations on the idea that have come from popular (white, Eurocentric) media that aren’t riddled with the same aftertaste of white guilt and fundamental misunderstandings of how racism plays out in day-to-day life.

The less common, slightly more agreeable interpretation is that of the Red Scare – which, given Fallout’s inspirations and the setting’s original critique of reliving America’s “good old days”, makes perfect sense. In this example, synths take the role of the Soviet spy: watching over everything Americans are doing and reporting back to a secret base that is plotting to overthrow the world as we know it. Psychological screenings as well as inhumane tortures are utilized to pick synth “spies” out from the good, red-blooded residents of the Commonwealth. A neighborhood is founded entirely around the protection of the “old ways of life”, complete with a white picket fence comically decorated with automatic machine gun turrets. While this is a more charitable analogy that’s grounded in a slightly-deeper-than-surface-level exploration of American history, the Red Scare interpretation is victim to the same pitfalls that plague the racism interpretation. Midway through the game, the player discovers that there actually is a secret base of evil villains hiding underneath our feet, plotting to annihilate our beautiful Commonwealth lives. People do get taken and replaced by synths, they are in our governments, there is an actual reason for synths to be feared. Sure, some synths are perfectly fine people with no wish to be made tools of the Institute’s tyranny, but that is greatly overshadowed by the fact that the Institute’s stated goal is to use synths to gain control over the Commonwealth. There is no real critique of McCarthyism, there is no ideology to be challenged, because the Communists are here and killing your loved ones in their sleep.

#4 #txt #my art #long post #meta #working on a transcript of a instagram highlight i made ages ago #with updated language and whole new paragraphs -- this is one of them #eventually i will be talking about acadia & how far harbor handles synth marginalization waaaaaaay better than vanilla fo4. of course #you didnt think this WOULDNT eventually devolve into dimaposting did you? oh you know so little of me <3

[ministarfruit]

pink-blue heterochromia outfit swap

#vtuber #gavis bettel #hololive irys #holostars #hololive #holotempus #holopromise #holofateswap #(that's just my catch-all tag for any swaps I think) #the heterochromia and the frills and the duo-toned outfit and the diamond motif. if anyone cares #I did one of these ages ago but bettel's default outfit does not look good on irys SO #when this new fit came out I was like YOOOOO #unfortunately irys' other outfits make betsy look like a grandma #so this is the one he gets. magical girl! yayyy!

[kettleghost]

first rule of fight club is to be yourself and have fun! ^_^

#my art #mixed feelings about this one #ignore that it looks kinda similar to that saul drawing i did ages ago i didn’t realise i like. basically rushed the concept <\3 #fight club #narrator fight club #the narrator #fight club fanart #fight club 1999 #Tyler durden #tyler durden fanart #jack fight club

[samuelroukin]

SAMUEL ROUKIN as (Young) Yanek in COUNTERPART (2017—2019) Episode 2.06 Twin Cities

#counterpart #counterpart starz #counterpartedit #samuel roukin #samuelroukinedit #yanek #tvedit #ben.gif #gradient text #two of them! #i watched this show ages ago and i had no memory at all that he was in it lmao #it's really good but has one fatal flaw: no one fucks their double #unless i'm misremembering #anyway the gray in his hair has me 🥴 #i did make the butt gif but it didn't really fit so f in chat #ALSO im thinking abt ghost with glasses now... maybe not these tho sjdhkjhst

[chimeride]

#ok fun fact #i'm still doing chess piece and was thinking about the next ones #but i TOTALLY forgot that i've already done the Knights #and did a whole new design based on loose notes i've done ages ago #and came up with wildely different results #i decided to show them anyway bc its fun #my second take on the demon Seer is hilarious i really have to draw it #it wont be my canon Seer but lmao #horse #pseudoartifact #the Unknown #octem 120 #aqva 4 #monster #chimera #bestiary #symetry #creature design #ink

[augustheart]

official "married couple & just some guy" post

#long post #like very long #there are several examples of this i could've added but i was already using one of the characters (ie ralph/sue+thomas) #OR didn't feel like going to find the panels (linda/wally+hartley) #i'm glad i found a gif for variant 4 because i was not going to go through a show i watched some of once ages ago for one screenshot #although i did scrub through for the iris/eddie+barry one And the venom one #i think the Historically Important Examples page is the most crucial. like you GET IT. i hope.

[moosu]

A small bouquet of Fenrises

#dragon age #da art #da fanart #dragon age 2 #fenris #my art #fenhawke #been drawing him a lot #because he's fun to draw #and i love him #for the record i did these a while ago #the small fenwis there is the most recent one #jkskdksjflsk el wiwi

[bisclavaret]

snake n otacon in matching 70s disco outfits 😮

I was listening to disco when I was playing mgs for the first time lmao

#couldn’t figure out how to pause it during the cutscenes tho so it did ruin the mood a little #I think sniper wolf should have appreciated being able to listen to September one last time tho #metal gear solid #solid snake #mgs #otacon #otasune #snotacon #my art #forgot i did the sketch ages ago lmao

[acediee]

If he didn’t know any better, he would think that you were telling him that you cared about what he was saying.

#shino #aburame shino #shino aburame #team Kurenai #naruto #naruto shippuuden #aburame #another fic fanart! #dude... maybe bc I read an old wiki page but from childhood till now I always thought his fav food was just wintermelon? #i never questioned why the focal dish in the fic was salad? like maybe it fit his vibes or smth?? #I found out only a few days ago and was like :OO... KID ME READ THAT WIKI PAGE LIKE CRAZY TOO DAMNS 😭 #anw I love this fic a ton too 👍🏻 since it's sfw I can drop the title as well! #honey stand from phoenix_is_rising #I have a lot more shino art to post + a lot of comms I did over the past month but I just need to find the energy LOL #my art #artists on tumblr #illust #illustration #had this one sitting unposted for AGES mb

[solradguy]

Happy Be Kind To Humankind week

#guilty gear #suggestive cw #sol badguy #jack o valentine #my stuff #sketches #I did this inks for this one AGES ago but I don't really like the composition so I didn't color it until now

[peachsayshi]

- minors and ageless blogs dni - 

thinking about…night owl sugu and his early riser gf …

he doesn’t know how he managed to freshen up and roll out of bed since he’s practically stumbling into the kitchen with his eyes half closed. he wanted to kick himself for promising that he would wake up for breakfast, but the moment the rays of daylight struck his pretty irises he immediately regretted his decision.

his head was pounding, his stomach gnawing at him in discomfort from being up during hours that he wasn’t used to. he really should go back to sleep, but it’s the start of your blossoming relationship and geto hasn’t figured out how to tell you that these morning activities you love so much just don’t work for him.

he sees you in his kitchen, slicing up fruit while nipping your bottom lip in concentration. he leans against the frame of the wall, and quirks his brow when he takes in the tee you were wearing. it occurs to him that this the first time he’s ever seen you in his clothes, and the black oversized fabric engulfs you, leaving only the stems of your legs and arms visible.

he’s already half hard, and when you turn over your shoulder to brightly smile in his direction it just makes it worse. you start chattering away while he approaches behind you, his arms wrapping around your waist and he rests his chin on your shoulder. you don’t catch his mood, and after letting you ramble for a few minutes longer he brushes his lips against your neck and whispers: “how about we just go back to sleep?” 

you pout with disappointment, before insisting that he just needs something delicious to eat to lift his spirits. he can only wonder how he wound with up with somebody who contrasted him in every single way and slumps his shoulders in defeat while the seconds tick away as he focuses on you slicing up the remaining strawberries. 

his hands begin to wander, slipping underneath the fabric of his tee as he molds his body against you. he kisses your shoulder as he kneads the flesh of your hips, pondering to himself if his little promise was worth keeping. he can tell you’re trying hard not to get distracted, but he wins the challenge when his hand makes it’s way underneath the waistband of your underwear to slowly rub your clit. 

it’s not long before you’re facing him, your back pressing up against the counter while his half lidded gaze focuses on the way his dick sinks in and out of your dripping cunt. your chirpy voice reduced to nothing but gentle pants, while your fists tightly grip onto his shoulders with every thrust he delivers. your thighs quiver when you orgasm, and you would have lost your balance if he wasn’t there holding you in place. with one last push he finally shakes, reaching his own climax and finding his release. 

he would have much rather woken up to this, fucked you sweetly in the comfort of his bed and fell asleep in your arms as he grows soft inside you. he pulls out and fixes himself up then uses two fingers to readjust your underwear before grabbing some tissues to quickly clean the mess. 

holding your face in the palms of his hands, he places a kiss on your cheek and another on your lips, ignoring your slightly dumbstruck expression before mumbling a quiet: “thanks for breakfast, I’m going back to bed.” 

#I forgot I had this sitting in my drafts #I wrote this ages ago thinking I would make it a full one shot or something #I just did a quick edit so now you can just enjoy this random drabble #geto suguru x reader #geto x reader #geto smut #jujutsu kaisen smut #jjk smut #suguru geto smut #suguru geto x reader #geto x female reader

[insertsomthinawesome]

GUESS WHO IS NOW A KLEE HAVER!!! 😭😭 Legit only A ENTIRE YEAR LATER BUT BABY CAME HOME!!!! Anyways Nai and Albedo have like, almost the exact same Eye and Hair color. I originally wanted to draw Vash in Albedo's coat... but the fact that Nai looked more like Albedo haunted me, and then I realized that Albedo has a younger sibling and the rest is history asdlfjdsLKJDSGLKJSDGSD -NO ROMANCE INCLUDED-

#Genshin Impact #Trigun Stampede #Trigun Stampede spoilers #For vash's scars :p #Vash the Stampede #Millions Knives #Knives Trigun Stampede #Vash Trigun Stampede #klee #klee genshin impact #Isa's fanart #insertsomthinawesome #July2023 #So this was not at all originally intended as celebratory Klee pull art (the Nai albedo piece is like 2 months or more old lol) #but me realizing that I could make it that gave me the motivation to finish this all xD #I pulled klee like. ages ago on july 4th but I'm still happy i did so there SDLFJSDLKJGDSG #This was hilarious to do honestly HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. It feels like its been a hot second since my more unhinged fanart #this was a lot of fun in the end HAHAHAHA #That last one of Klee and Vash was especially delightful to put together ;;v;; #Sweethearts. the both of them. #Vash is so stressed out by having all of Klee's explosives alsdfjDSLKFJSLKDJGSDLG

[ninjasmudge]

heres my oc for today, shī tóng, hes a guardian lion brought to life by a wealthy dragon household, but when his other half died (guardian lions almost invariably come in sets) he left to go wander. he was almost consumed by his own magic in grief until he came across two kids, one of whom had the ability to cancel out magic for a short time. long story short hes a dad now.

#the two kids are adults now they have their own stories and designs it was years and years ago that he adopted them but its important #why is he the first oc i share in ages? simple hes my fave recent finished piece fdsabhghsfhh #i liked how his hair looks and i LOVE his colorscheme #hes started out a little awful cause HE DIDNT KNOW HOW TO CARE FOR KIDS BUT HE DID HIS BEST AND THEY TURNED OUT GREAT #1 of the kids is an EXTREMLY flashy tattooist and part time con artist now and the other was a hitman with superspeeduntil he opened a bar #i love them i might post them soon too if i like the one art of diamond #lmk #mk art #my art #mk oc #mk ocs #lmk ocs #lmk oc #I DONT REMMEBR WHICH #MK #yea hes a furry look i couldnt help it what else am i supposed to do when hes fully a guardian lion #furry #yeah i should tag that for blocklists just in case #oc art #oc stuff