#i cant cope with more mentors and professionals i
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i cant afford paying for my own stupid internet and i dont want to be around a bunch of 30yos oh my god i just want to be around people my own age
#i cant cope with this at all#im so fucking sick of it#im tired#i just want someone to stick around and not feel like im just drifting#i cant cope with this drifting at all#i want someone to fucking stick around#i cant cope with more mentors and professionals i#i just cant#i deserve parents i can actually talk to#and who wont just be trying to manipulate me#i just want parents#im so fucking tired just make it liveable
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I really don't like myself, for all that I am. This quarantine period has just highlighted how much I hate my own company. I always feel the deep need to be a better person, like I'm never good enough, but I don't have the energy or motivation to do it. Everything I do seems so pointless, and the fact that I'm barely able to do anything significant (for myself or for others) makes me sink deeper. I really want to talk to my friends about it, I want to search for that support I know I need.. But whenever I try to bring up my issues, I just can't.They all have such terrible life problems, they're all going through things so much worse, I feel like I need to be there for them 24/7 and never complain about my problems while I listen to theirs, because that'd be selfish. Helping my friends is the only way I feel like I could be a better person, but I'm so tired of bottling up everything... do I even deserve to be listened to?
asking-jude said:
Hi love,
Thank you for contacting Asking Jude. It seems that you are very hard on yourself, which has contributed to your low self-esteem and self-worth. I will touch upon that a little bit later, but first, I want to answer your question. Yes, you deserve to be listened to. Your issues are just as valid as your friends, and it’s okay to lean on others for support. It’s not selfish to do so, even if your friends have their problems. No one’s problems are more important than other persons’. I know that shouldering your friends’ issues makes you feel like a better person, but it’s not healthy to do that all the time. However, it’s not your job to take on all of their issues. It’s okay to take time for your mental health. You are worthy of getting help. You shouldn’t bottle everything up. Reach out to your friends. Let them know what’s going on with you. I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to support you. I think that you would benefit from setting boundaries with them, so you don’t overexert your mental health capacity. Here is a guide on how you can create boundaries:https://www.uky.edu/hr/sites/www.uky.edu.hr/files/wellness/images/Conf14_Boundaries.pdf;You don’t even have to reach out to your friends if you don’t want to. Reach out to a trusted adult or mentor that you may have. However, I do think you should seek out therapy for your issues. I believe that a mental health professional would be more effective in helping you work out your problems. There are a few ways that you can get treatment. First, if you are in college, you can visit/call your university’s counseling center. If you are a minor, you can speak with your doctor about starting therapy. During coronavirus, it may be a little difficult to start it, so here are some resources with some steps you can take:
https://www.npr.org/2020/04/03/826726628/how-to-get-therapy-when-you-cant-leave-the-house.
https://www.vox.com/identities/2020/4/7/21207281/coronavirus-covid-19-how-to-find-a-therapist. - https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html.
https://www.thecut.com/2020/03/therapy-during-coronavirus-pandemic.html.
https://www.nami.org/covid-19-guide.
There are already telehealth options for mental health treatment that many people use due to its affordability. Here are some resources that list different therapy treatments:
https://www.moneyunder30.com/affordable-therapy.
https://themighty.com/2017/08/affordable-online-therapy-cheap/.
Check out these two websites where you find therapists that take your insurance:
www.opencounseling.com.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists.
Now I will get onto your issues with self-esteem and self-worth. I know what it’s like not to like yourself and question whether you are deserving of things. It takes a while to build up self-esteem, especially when you are so negative of yourself. I’ve only recently started working on self-worth and self-esteem. It is possible to get better, and a therapist can help you achieve this. However, there are things that you can do to help yourself until you can see one. Here are some guides and articles that I think will benefit you greatly:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/i-dont-like-admire-or-value-myself-1124155.
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Self-Esteem.
http://www.shastacollege.edu/Student%20Services/Dean%20of%20Students/Health%20%20Wellness/PDF/Building%20Self%20Esteem%20Booklet.pdf.
https://www.psychalive.org/i-hate-myself/.
https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/self-esteem_helpful_hints_0.pdf. - https://www.talkspace.com/blog/improve-self-esteem-confidence-how-to/.
https://positivepsychology.com/self-worth/.
https://medium.com/@throughadversity5/why-you-shouldnt-compare-your-life-to-the-life-of-others-78481ce22295.
https://www.becomingminimalist.com/compare-less/. - https://d3mh72llnfrpe6.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/09210135/asw-english.pdf.
In addition to the resources above, I recommend that you utilize helplines. Hotlines are excellent resources because they are free, confidential and many are available 24/7. Their purpose is to give patrons support and guidance if they ever need someone to talk to or are in a crisis. Here are my recommendations:
Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741 to speak with a crisis counselor.
7 Cups of Tea: Visit www.7cups.com or download their app (IOS or Google Play) to create your account. Once you have, you can begin speaking with a trained volunteer, attend group sessions, or talk to a therapist. Please note it costs $33/per week to speak with a therapist.
CONTACT Helpline offers emotional support listening-Call 800-932-4616 to get started.
Suicide Prevention Lifeline: If you feel like you’re in danger of hurting yourself or are having thoughts of wanting to die, please call 1-800-273-8255 to speak with a lifeline counselor or visit https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ to chat online.
YouthLine is a peer-run support line for teens and tweens. You can speak with a teen volunteer every day from 4 pm-10 pm pacific time. Any time before and after that period, you can chat with an adult. Visit https://oregonyouthline.org/ to view their different hotline options.
TeenTribe is a peer-run mental health online support group for any teen/tween dealing with mental health or family issues. Visit https://support.therapytribe.com/teen-support-group/ to create your account.
IMAlive is an online crisis network. Visit https://www.imalive.org/ to talk with a counselor.
You are worthy of getting support. Trauma, physical illness, mental illness, difficult situations, etc. are all valid experiences. Each one affects a person differently. Not one is more important than the other. Your struggles and feelings are valid. You don’t have to keep everything bottled up, okay? Rely on others. Put yourself first. You deserve it. I can tell that you are a kind and caring person. You do not need to be a better person because you are already a good one. If you need any more support, please don’t hesitate to come back to Asking Jude.
P.S check out our YouTube channel for more help at www.youtube.com/c/AskingJude.
Love,
Meggan
Asking Jude needs YOUR help! Donate pocket change here and save our safe space.
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♤(1) I really don't like myself, for all that I am. This quarantine period has just highlighted how much I hate my own company. I always feel the deep need to be a better person, like I'm never good enough, but I don't have the energy or motivation to do it. Everything I do seems so pointless, and the fact that I'm barely able to do anything significant (for myself or for others) makes me sink deeper. I really want to talk to my friends about it, I want to search for that support I know I need..
(ask continued) ... But whenever I try to bring up my issues, I just can't.They all have such terrible life problems, they're all going through things so much worse, I feel like I need to be there for them 24/7 and never complain about my problems while I listen to theirs, because that'd be selfish. Helping my friends is the only way I feel like I could be a better person, but I'm so tired of bottling up everything... do I even deserve to be listened to?
Hi love,
Thank you for contacting Asking Jude. It seems that you are very hard on yourself, which has contributed to your low self-esteem and self-worth. I will touch upon that a little bit later, but first, I want to answer your question. Yes, you deserve to be listened to. Your issues are just as valid as your friends, and it’s okay to lean on others for support. It’s not selfish to do so, even if your friends have their problems. No one’s problems are more important than other persons’. I know that shouldering your friends’ issues makes you feel like a better person, but it’s not healthy to do that all the time. However, it’s not your job to take on all of their issues. It’s okay to take time for your mental health. You are worthy of getting help. You shouldn’t bottle everything up. Reach out to your friends. Let them know what’s going on with you. I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to support you. I think that you would benefit from setting boundaries with them, so you don’t overexert your mental health capacity. Here is a guide on how you can create boundaries:https://www.uky.edu/hr/sites/www.uky.edu.hr/files/wellness/images/Conf14_Boundaries.pdf;You don’t even have to reach out to your friends if you don’t want to. Reach out to a trusted adult or mentor that you may have. However, I do think you should seek out therapy for your issues. I believe that a mental health professional would be more effective in helping you work out your problems. There are a few ways that you can get treatment. First, if you are in college, you can visit/call your university’s counseling center. If you are a minor, you can speak with your doctor about starting therapy. During coronavirus, it may be a little difficult to start it, so here are some resources with some steps you can take:
https://www.npr.org/2020/04/03/826726628/how-to-get-therapy-when-you-cant-leave-the-house.
https://www.vox.com/identities/2020/4/7/21207281/coronavirus-covid-19-how-to-find-a-therapist. - https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html.
https://www.thecut.com/2020/03/therapy-during-coronavirus-pandemic.html.
https://www.nami.org/covid-19-guide.
There are already telehealth options for mental health treatment that many people use due to its affordability. Here are some resources that list different therapy treatments:
https://www.moneyunder30.com/affordable-therapy.
https://themighty.com/2017/08/affordable-online-therapy-cheap/.
Check out these two websites where you find therapists that take your insurance:
www.opencounseling.com.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists.
Now I will get onto your issues with self-esteem and self-worth. I know what it’s like not to like yourself and question whether you are deserving of things. It takes a while to build up self-esteem, especially when you are so negative of yourself. I’ve only recently started working on self-worth and self-esteem. It is possible to get better, and a therapist can help you achieve this. However, there are things that you can do to help yourself until you can see one. Here are some guides and articles that I think will benefit you greatly:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/i-dont-like-admire-or-value-myself-1124155.
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Self-Esteem.
http://www.shastacollege.edu/Student%20Services/Dean%20of%20Students/Health%20%20Wellness/PDF/Building%20Self%20Esteem%20Booklet.pdf.
https://www.psychalive.org/i-hate-myself/.
https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/self-esteem_helpful_hints_0.pdf. - https://www.talkspace.com/blog/improve-self-esteem-confidence-how-to/.
https://positivepsychology.com/self-worth/.
https://medium.com/@throughadversity5/why-you-shouldnt-compare-your-life-to-the-life-of-others-78481ce22295.
https://www.becomingminimalist.com/compare-less/. - https://d3mh72llnfrpe6.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/09210135/asw-english.pdf.
In addition to the resources above, I recommend that you utilize helplines. Hotlines are excellent resources because they are free, confidential and many are available 24/7. Their purpose is to give patrons support and guidance if they ever need someone to talk to or are in a crisis. Here are my recommendations:
Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741 to speak with a crisis counselor.
7 Cups of Tea: Visit www.7cups.com or download their app (IOS or Google Play) to create your account. Once you have, you can begin speaking with a trained volunteer, attend group sessions, or talk to a therapist. Please note it costs $33/per week to speak with a therapist.
CONTACT Helpline offers emotional support listening-Call 800-932-4616 to get started.
Suicide Prevention Lifeline: If you feel like you’re in danger of hurting yourself or are having thoughts of wanting to die, please call 1-800-273-8255 to speak with a lifeline counselor or visit https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ to chat online.
YouthLine is a peer-run support line for teens and tweens. You can speak with a teen volunteer every day from 4 pm-10 pm pacific time. Any time before and after that period, you can chat with an adult. Visit https://oregonyouthline.org/ to view their different hotline options.
TeenTribe is a peer-run mental health online support group for any teen/tween dealing with mental health or family issues. Visit https://support.therapytribe.com/teen-support-group/ to create your account.
IMAlive is an online crisis network. Visit https://www.imalive.org/ to talk with a counselor.
You are worthy of getting support. Trauma, physical illness, mental illness, difficult situations, etc. are all valid experiences. Each one affects a person differently. Not one is more important than the other. Your struggles and feelings are valid. You don’t have to keep everything bottled up, okay? Rely on others. Put yourself first. You deserve it. I can tell that you are a kind and caring person. You do not need to be a better person because you are already a good one. If you need any more support, please don’t hesitate to come back to Asking Jude.
P.S check out our YouTube channel for more help at www.youtube.com/c/AskingJude.
Love,
Meggan
Asking Jude needs YOUR help! Donate pocket change here and save our safe space.
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