#have you seen this yet

[nocoastposts]

TZP always throwing the ✌🏾

#bigassbowlingballhead #have you seen this yet #taylor zakhar perez #tzp

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Must be a Sugondese joke.

#dungeon meshi #chilchuck tims #laios touden #senshi #Looks like I won't be able to post this on dungeon meshi thursday so instead I will have a fun past/future conversation #This is wednesday me who has not seen the episode yet but I have such a strong feeling that it is going to be extremely special. #*This* fight is what the first arc has been building up to and it has *so* many incredible moments. #We're going to see the chilchuck knife throw! The leg sacrifice! The bones! #Watch them ramp up the quality this episode and go wild with the frantic action of 'oh god our plan is going to shit'. #Hello. Me of the future who just watched the episode. #I knew it was going to be good but that...that blew my mind completely. My high expectations were beyond met. My god. #I'm just speechless at how well they handled everything. The leg. The tension. That ENDING. #If you have not already: PLEASE watch Dungeon Meshi.

[kindaokartchannel]

#have you seen the spotty piglets yet? #čumblr #like half the country came to look lmao #spotty piglet #obora Holedná Brno

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[kiashieart]

i found out about aa5 goatee concept art phoenix.... (GRIPPING HIM)...

#ace attorney #gyakuten saiban #phoenix wright #ace attorney spoilers #vaguely? #aa5 #i have not seen the second trilogy yet. tho i have been spoiled on a lot of i think aa4. waiting for the remaster :) soon. #the way i scrambled to draw this. a beast took over me. this is like bait to me. you do not fathom the power i have been given. #i was already giving him one but expect that i will be keeping one of these goatee designs for future timeskip nick art :)

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 297

“I feel like we should be concerned about Tim.” 

“Honestly we should always be concerned about him, but what made you realize it this time?” 

“Have you seen his search history- wait no you haven’t you haven’t been in the cave all day, look at this-”

“...'Is it legal to adopt the ghost of a kid? Can someone call CPS on a family’s ghost? How to take care of ghosts 101? How do you get a ghost of a child to not be scared? What to do if you find ghost children in your home? What the fuck…?” 

“Exactly, I think he needs an intervention.” 

Or in other words, after getting thrown into another dimension thanks to the GIW destroying most of Amity, a trio of ghost children decide to crash in this seemingly abandoned apartment building. No one seems to live here anyway… Tim Drake on the other hand, gets a notification that there’s someone in his main safehouse that he might’ve slightly forgotten about thanks to having his house-boat now, and sees a trio of starved looking ghost kids

#DCxDP #DPxDC #Prompts #De aged Danny #De aged Jazz #De aged Dan #Not seen is Ellie also there but in Core form because she’s too unstable to form a body again yet #Tim’s family is concerned for his sanity #Tim calling his co-dependent hero friends like Kon & Bart: How do you get a child- wait no not like that #Bernard is laughing at him on the phone & asking for pics #The ghost kids have no clue they’ve been adopted yet #They’re hella traumatized & just relieved to have found shelter #Might cry in the very comfortable blankets #Tim: Okay how the fuck do I help these literal dead kids without scaring them away #Tim: Someone call Greta I need her help-

[willgrahamscock]

#have you guys seen it yet #barbie #barbie spoilers #tiktok

[chrollohearttags]

meg baby, I promise we’ll all look the other way if you decide to strangle that chimera ant built bitch. I promise we won’t say nothing.

#nicki got to be one of the nastiest bitches I’ve ever seen in my life #you ain’t had a fucking hit in 10 yrs good enough to act the way you do #it’s crazy it took her being so vile to meg for ppl to get it #it’s always ‘protect blk women’ w/her until it’s somebody she don’t like lmao #and her only beef with her is that she collabed with cardi #the only one who stuck by her side mind you so ofc she #she’s been terrible and I remember back in 2017 when ppl jumped me for ‘defending a Latina woman’ over her #the same bitch that co opted a hashtag meant for missing and murdered blk women for her own bullshit #while cardi was using her platform to speak up for breonna Taylor and police brutality? oh okay #she’s a nasty witch and her karma will come #rap beef aside #‘how you got 3 Grammys and can’t stay on beat?’ #how are you the supposed queen and been rapping since Jesus was in Jerusalem but have zero? #bringing up her dead mother..you deserve to rot #cherry chats 🍒 #I’m so happy cardi no longer feeds into her bullshit and lets her stupid ass talk to the wall #all the new girls are outshining her and I’m so glad they don’t have to grovel to her #the fact that these girls just came out and are her competition says more abt nicki than it does Meg cardi latto or anybody else #her peers should be missy kim queen latifah etc #and yet she’s linking up with 23 year olds and beefing with girls 20 years her junior #guess that predator spirit run in the family huh

[pensbridgertons]

2.08 | 3.04

#bridgertonedit #polinedit #colinbridgertonedit #perioddramaedit #perioddramasource #weloveperioddrama #onlyperioddramas #** #bridgerton #polin #otp: you are special to me #did i make these b/w bc i got frustrated trying to color the second gif and gave up? maybe so #also dont know if this has been made yet but i havent seen it #but its the way in the first one he says come w me and grabs her hand #and the second one he asks her to come and reaches out his hand for her to grab #and how in the first one the implications that exist w propriety and society w him pulling her into a private room alone #and how that could very easily have resulted in her being compromised or a forced engagement/marriage and then didnt #and it wasnt even something on his mind at all (even if it was on hers) #vs the second one which does result in a proposal (and which also involved a compromising situation) that was very much intentional from #him (and unexpected for her)

[uncanny-tranny]

The whole "breasts shouldn't be politicized because the primary purpose of breasts is to feed babies!" can be a fine jumping-off point, but I really wish people thought deeper than that when we talk about the ways in which bodies are politicized and restricted.

Like, why's it that when we talk about breasts, they must have some Higher Purpose? It's true that breasts aren't inherently sexual, but they aren't valuable solely because they can potentially feed a baby. A human body doesn't have to serve a Higher Purpose in order for it to not be legislated against or policed, and I just wish people would remember it isn't always about babies, about other people, about anything else other than the people who have that body.

#feminism #dysphoria tw #your body doesn't need to have an Intrinsic Worthwhile Purpose so that you can live without fear #and it is fine if people say this to criticize the way breasts are overly sexualized and fetishized or what have you... #...but i encourage people to not see this as an end-all-be-all argument #because this opens discussions about how we politicize bodies and how we interpret them #i see overlap between this and the way trans bodies are politicized and policed honestly #and i guess personally i'm just so tired of the idea that to be safe your body Must Have A Good Reason To Be #and i fear this may reinforce the idea that we Must Serve Purposes and Be Useful and Used #ask to tag (genuine) #and what would this say for childless people? or people who cannot bear children? if they have breasts are they 'useless bodies' #because i have seen the ways some people's bodies are treated when they do not 'work PROPERLY' and that scares me #it scares me to potentially start treating people with different bodies as Defective and Unworthy and Unproductive #and i don't always trust when people latch onto purpose-driven arguments for human bodies that it stops at that y'know #have seen some discussion amd whatnot so 👍 #is it now time to clock put and be a silly goose yet?

[kingofattolia]

Honestly I cannot overstate how much seeing Hayden as TCW Anakin changed EVERYTHING. Matt Lanter's Anakin is a frat dude. He wears a backwards baseball hat and says vaguely offensive things without realizing, while being a fundamentally chill and outgoing guy at heart. Hayden's Anakin is... not that. His voice. His expressions. His physical presence. It's off somehow. It's just left of normal. It's completely unremarkable and yet deeply uncanny for reasons you can't quite describe. TCW Anakin was always a flatter, blander portrayal, but I don't think I realized until now what exactly was missing: the serial killer energy. The inarticulable conviction that SOMETHING unhinged is going on behind those eyes.

#also the difference between TCW anakin's charm and ROTS anakin's charm #tcw: outgoing. does finger guns. nonplussed socially sometimes but still confident. able to be charming #rots: competent. exuberant. frothing with rage. so shy and awkward he fully cant function. insecure. an entire tank yet fragile as glass #charming only because hes both SO COMPETENT and also so categorically unable to purposefully be charming #ITS SO DIFFERENT. WILDLY DIFFERENT. I DID NOT REALIZE HOW DIFFERENT IT WOULD BE #im so glad i got to see this honestly #im going to be reimagining tcw episodes with this version of anakin in them as my bedtime story from now on #i hate to be a broken record but KAREN MILLER CAPTURES THIS #star wars #grace for ts #anakin #ahsoka show #truly truly truly truly truly transformative for me as a person to have seen this #tcw anakin comes into the room loudly quipping and complaining #rots anakin stands there quietly until he smiles and you realize his teeth are covered in blood

[rollaroundincompliments]

Adaine should absolutely be extortioning all these rich ass wizards who keep bothering her for prophecies that's all I'm saying

#dimension 20 #fantasy high #fhjy #“i havent seen anything yet but if you bring me a barrel of diamonds im sure ill have a vision by tomorrow morning” #the buffy season 6 vibes are so real for adaine #its a sacred calling but stop doing it for free all the time!!! #you can find a way to charge for it!!!

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Custody Battle: START

[First] Prev <--> Next

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #jin guangyao #jin ling #wei wuxian #jiang cheng #lan xichen #Jiang Cheng did NOT care to talk to anyone else. He just straight up hones in on finding his nephew. #Jin Ling has had a tummy ache from all the guilt though. Look at that face. You have to be nice JC. #The third panel should have had a more chaotic energy. But onwards we go! #I feel like I have seen very little about the shared custody relationship between JGY and JC. #It's pretty evident that JC has had a large role in raising Jin Ling. As too has JGY. They also seem to have a very familiar banter here. #JGY has 'the nicer parent in the divorce because he only sees the kid(s) every other weekend'. JC is dealing with everything else. #Anyways. This is how xicheng-ers can still win. Jiang Cheng is the 4th in the 3zun polycule. #He might just not know it yet.

[bellamer]

Despite popular belief, I dont think that Miles' parents would hate Hobie right off the bat:

Rio and Jefferson meeting Hobie but it plays out like that episode of Daria where Trent and Jane lived with Daria's family and they didn't know what to do because they've never really lived in a household with two parents that are at least semi involved in their lives

Like imagine by circumstance Hobie gets manipulated into staying at the Morales'-Davis household for a few days after Hobie accidentally says that his parents aren't around after Rio and Jefferson say that his parents are probably worried about him being out at their house late.

Rio insists because Hobie obviously doesn't eat enough and could use a few days of good meals and the bags under his eyes have bags and Jefferson agrees because Hobie needs someone to show him "guidance" and to help him "get his life together", and Miles is just shocked that his parents not only love his boyfriend, they basically made him a part of the family.

Hobie tries to be grateful at first but then he gets overwhelmed when Rio and Jefferson actually scold him for staying out too late because he's never had a curfew and they sit him down and talk to him about going to college and shit.

He gets so overwhelmed because their need to parent this boy is so strong, he makes up some bullshit about his "uncle" taking him into his custody just so he can go back to his universe.

#punkflower #spider man across the spider verse #across the spiderverse #spider man atsv #hobie brown #hobart brown #miles x hobie #miles morales #rio morales #jefferson davis #side note #i have not seen the movie yet #so if you come into my mentions #with spoilers #i will block you

[markscherz]

In which my not-yet-two-year-old son catches a gecko for the first time, and I barely keep it together.

#personal #cute #animals #gecko #gookoo #lizard #about me #it is truly astonishing how gentle he is with animals #i have seen grown adults crush animals to death without meaning to #because they don’t have grip control #but Q is *so* gentle #just the right pressure #you can hear the tears in my eyes #the best part is that he spent the rest of the holiday turning over rocks looking for geckos #but he’s not even two so he has no concept of #(a) how big a rock is too big to turn over #and (b) how small a rock is too small to have a gecko under it #and (c) he has not yet realised there are no geckos in Denmark #*lifts tiny pebble* ‘no gookoo’ #*points at huge rock on our cycle to daycare* 'gookoo!' #Q #yes I am such a huge trekkie that I was excited my son's nickname would be Q #yes I've been on tumblr so long I even named my child Q

[holmsister]

Don't think this counts as a spoiler as it's one of those background details/extra material stuff that the anime usually doesn't cover so I'm gonna make a post about it for the anime people

Due to elven beauty standards being VERY skewed towards the feminine, Otta

Is as butch as elves can tolerate before they start getting scared.

#im saying this also because i heard (havent seen the ep yet) that the dub might have given her a very fem voice #and like. shes not supposed to read like that. shes masc af for an elf #dungeon meshi #dungeon meshi anime #im saying this because its funny but also because honestly this should help you recalibrate #like. in earnest. the beauty ideals of the different races are very useful to understanding why certain characters are Like That #for starters: now that you know that Kabru was raised by elves you also know that for an elf hes like fucking rugged. like thats a manly ma #and it also explains why Marci's shapeshifter of Laios was all her being So Scared of his manliness #while Senshi's was a baby (the dwarven beauty standard is the exact opposite) #the canaries #otta