Ok y’all, I need you to drop links for free binder services. It’s November which means that parents won’t think it’s odd for their children to request that they not inspect packages. They’ll simply assume it’s a present for whatever holiday they observe. So please do your part by dropping links in the reblogs and trying to get this seen by those who need it
edit: I’m not going to guilt you into reblogging, because that might not be safe for you for whatever reason, but if it is possible, it would be greatly appreciated if you could reblog instead of/as well as liking. Reblogging ensures that more people see this, and the more people who see it the greater possibility for good.
edit 2: ok @the-maddened-hatter made a master list of what’s been added so far
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Do you go to a support group or social club at an LGBTQ+ center in your area? Do they have a gender-affirming garments closet? Do you want them to?
Ask them. Ask them if they'll stock one. Ask them if they'll help you get a binder. Ask them for help getting a binder. See what they've got for you.
One of my favorite things to do these days is pack a box of binders for a nonprofit who's stocking up their closet. We get paid, the folks who go to the center get free binders, the nonprofit gets to do the thing they were made to do and help trans people who need help. And let's be real: we pretty much all need help these days.
Find your nearest LGBTQ Community Center here. And yes, student centers count, and yes, some student centers buy in bulk from us too.
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I have a medium bareskin binder I'm willing to trade if someone has a large bareskin/gc2b binder
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HHGHGG I GOT AN EMAIL FROM DCATS SAYING THAT MY BINDER IS READY TO SHIP I ONLY WAITED LIKE 4 WEEKS GO SIGN UP IF YOU CANT AFFORD OR GET ONE
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Hi! would you by any chance have tips on how to get a binder when your parents refuse to buy you one? ☹️
That's definitely a sensitive and complex answer, and while I might not know of the best option for your unique situation, there are some ways you can go about this.
If it's a foregone conclusion that you cannot convince them of this, what I used to do is DIY my binder. The ways I primarily did this were:
Option One: Wearing a camisole that was one size smaller than I actually was (so, wearing a small instead of a medium, for instance), then folding it up over my chest. As a disclaimer, this may only work well if you are smaller in the chest
Option Two: Layering two sports bras in my size over each other. Some of the DIY tips I found before I got a traditional binder advised to wear one sports bra in your size, then wear another sports bra backwards in a size smaller. I would advise against this for potential safety reasons, but also because (at least personally), it can be ineffective and a waste of resources.
Some people have also had friends or other family members order their binder for them, but this can be risky, depending on your situation. While I don't know the ins and outs of your specific circumstances, risk management is important to me, so I would recommend this if it is a risk that is acceptable to make.
I understand what it's like to not have access to this resource, so what I will do is advise you against:
Binding with ace bandages (I did this before (multiple times, in fact, because of dysphoria), and believe me, not only did it hurt like hell, but it constricted my body so heavily that I may have done long-term harm)
Wearing a DIY binder (or any kind, for that matter) for longer than your body can handle
Doing DIY in such a way that even mimics binding with ace bandages. This means that your binder shouldn't constrict your ribs, breathing, or range of movement
Here are some general good practices that you should use to guide you for any type of binding, whether traditional or DIY:
When you start binding, only do so in very short sessions to begin with. While binding shouldn't outright hurt, it can be a weird transition while your body is getting used to that new sensation
Minimize heavy lifting or exercise while binding. If it is unavoidable, drink plenty of water and take plenty of breaks
Stretch after binding
Don't bind while sick or have inflammation in your lungs or chest
If you DIY, treat your binder like it is a traditional binder. Don't make the mistake of assuming you don't need to listen to your body because you aren't using a "traditional" binding method
Ultimately, listen to your body. If it is telling you that it needs a break, honour that. Your body isn't punishing you, it is trying to keep you (and it) safe, even if it doesn't feel like it
In the end, this isn't perfect. Sometimes, parents do come around, even in their own ways, even if little by little, they come around. When I first came out officially around 2016, I was convinced that my transition would be completely forbade by my family; I concealed a lot of it in the worst instances of this. However, now, I think most of my family has come through their own journey with the understanding of the reality of what and who I am. I tell you this, anon, because I want you to know that this, too , shall pass. You can make it. I know this might be devastating to you, and believe me, I know what that's like. But it won't be forever. These bridges aren't burnt forever, and I hope you can find your happiness and contentment wherever it may be.
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Well, I guess it's time to debut my new F/O! He's been on my mind for a while, and this is the perfect day to share him with the world because April 1st is our anniversary!!!
There's, of course, no need to introduce Thomas but he's a 26 year old art/education major who's recently gotten back on his feet after some post-high school drama. He's insufferable and opinionated and flamboyant, making enemies much more easily than friends.
Echo is a 24 year old English/education major. The two of them met after Echo got into a shouting match with Alexander, and Thomas immediately introduced himself after class. The two of them hang out, talk shit, make furry art, and pretend they have their shit together.
Echo dated Lafayette back in first year, and knows the rest of the gang on the peripheral. They don't get along well with Alex, but they get along fine with Laurens and they're on good terms with Lafayette even after their split.
They're a casual gamer and the others make fun of them for not being as good at Pokemon :( very rude
I wrote more about their backstory here if anyone is interested!!!
tag: #insufferable pokelovers
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