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[pinksatinsashes]

The Dream Girl's Guide to Setting and Achieving Goals

If there's one thing that I am insanely good at, it's planning and setting goals.

However I have not always been great at achieving them.

Call it laziness, lack of self discipline or being over ambitious, you can take your pick. But every year I would set goals and every year I would never achieve them.

This year I was, and am determined to transform. I'm tired of putting it off. I've tried a completely different method (read about that here) and it's finally working out, I cant't wait to share it with you.

Why is Setting and Achieving Goals Important?

Setting and achieving goals will forever be important, no matter what stage of life you're in if you don't want time to pass while you stay in the same place.

If you're happy staying exactly as you are, looking the same way, doing the same thing everyday, making the same money, dating the same guy or having the same conversations, year after year after year. Then this post simply isn't for you.

But for the rest of us, who want more, who understand that wanting something different means that you have to do something different, who want to grow, learn and develop and that who understand that time is the most valuable thing that we have; setting and achieving things, day after day, month after month and year after year is insanely important.

If you are one of us, I'm sure you already knew that, the issue might be actually following through.

You're good at setting goals, not so much with actually achieving them?

Maybe it's not your fault, maybe you're just doing it wrong.

------------- How To Set Goals -------------

How many of us start the new year, or the random day that we decide we need to be better by writing a list of Goals?

Maybe that list looks something like this.

Lose 10lbs

Grow Hair Longer

Dress Better

Save Money

Get 1000 followers on X platform

Can you see the problem here? My STEM girlies are yelling at the screen saying that the goals aren't SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Timely).

The real problem?

All of these goals are end products.

And to eliminate this problem, and make these goals better, we have to turn them into habits.

-------- How to turn Goals into Habits --------

Let's go through our list again.

Lose 10lbs -> Workout 4 times a week, do one form of excerise a day and eat at a caloric deficit.

Grow Hair Longer -> Keep hair in protective styles, use hair growth oils daily, only brush hair when in conditioner

Dress Better -> Sell the clothes I don't like to buy clothes I do like, do a closet clear out once a month, only buy things that are high quality

Save Money -> Budget all money once a month, unsubscribe from things I no longer use, declutter and sell things I no longer need once a month.

Get 1000 followers on X platform -> Post 3 times a week, create meaningful content, reply to all comments left on posts daily, interact with posts from others in the sam niche every day

Can you see the difference?

By changing your goals from the end product to the process these goals suddenly mean more. They're more helpful and seem much more achievable.

End goals cannot always be controlled, you can do everything right, post 3 times a week, reply to all your comments and your following count may still not change for months... then all of a sudden something goes viral and they'll call you an overnight success.

By shifting your focus to the things you can control, rather than the end product, your sense of achievement comes from your consistency and hard work, allowing you to keep going even when you don't see any changes.

This prevents you from giving up when success could be just around the corner.

-------- How To Achieve Your Goals --------

Now that we've gone through how to set Goals, lets talk about how to achieve them.

A lot of people just stop at the first part and never think about the things that they can do to ensure that their goals are met.

Never stop at the list.

Why?

You have no initiative to ever look at this list again so you'll most likely forget you even wrote them down in a few weeks

You haven't factored how your life may make achieving these goals a priority.

The answer to this problem?

Turning your Habits into Routines.

It's all well and good setting goals, even setting good goals. But you also need to make sure that you're creating an environment that's conducive to the goals you want to achieve, the habits you want to keep, and the life you want to create.

------- How to turn Habits into Routines ------

We've written down all our goals, turned them into habits and now it's time of the most important part, turning them into routines.

This is important because consistency is key, always. Instead of saying that you'll do something 3 times a week and leaving at that, let's go deeper.

Which days of the week will you do it? What time? For how long?

Leaving it up to chance is risky. What if you forget?

We need to create consistent routines.

Pick which days to do your habits

Pick what time you'll do your habits

Pick how long you'll do them for

Pick what you'll do before and after.

Try to make this as consistent as possible, for example, same time every day, same day every week.

Make sure that every single hour is accounted for, even if it's just set as free time.

Its easy to convince yourself you don't have enough time to do things, let's put all the things you have to do into a spreadsheet with how long it'll take and when you'll do it. Better yet we can use a calendar app or website.

See all the free time you've got?

Now creating routine is so much more than writing it down and doing it everyday or every week. At first you may have to check the app every five seconds to see what you're meant to be doing but if you stay consistent, after a few weeks it'll become second nature.

------------ Removing Distractions ----------

Organising your time and creating a routine is really eye-opening because it gives you a chance to wonder what the f*** you've been spending your time doing.

Nothing productive probably. Take a look at your screentime, what apps are you spending your time on? How long are you spending? Is this part of the life you'd like to build for yourself?

It might be time for a break.

I am being so honest when I said that getting rid of every single distraction that could be keeping me from my goal was the single most important decision I could've made when planning 2024.

I went full on, no Netflix, no YouTube, no music, no games, no social media. No distractions. For at least the first month of my new routine and I plan on only adding everything back slowly.

I advise you do the same.

Remove the things that you can see could distract you from your goals. What's keeping you from going to bed early? What would you rather do than going to the gym?

I'm telling you, I haven't stopped working on myself, because I genuinely have nothing better to do. I've cut all the distractions out. Going on my one hour walk is now what I look forward to all day. The gym is the best part of my day.

My days currently consist of self improvement, wellness podcasts, reading Jane Austen, being active, cleaning my spaces, skincare and early nights.

But it feels like I'm living my dream life? Whenever I think of my ideal day it's never included 4 hours of mindless scrolling or spending 2 hours down a YouTube rabbit hole.

When I think of my dream life it's always been home cooked meals, reading and fancy skincare routines. I couldn't be happier and I really don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.

TRY IT.

This is probably the most important step because the power that distractions have on us is so real.

You can do all the planning and have the best intentions but if your want to play games, scroll mindlessly on social media, text a guy that doesn't care about you or engage in celebrity drama is greater than your want to be better? Good Luck Charlie.

---- Making Your Goal Your Obsession ----

This is actually the fun part.

All I do is listen to podcasts about my goal, read books about my goals, make pinterest boards about my goals and talk to myself about my goals. I'm so obsessed.

Make a reading list, find some podcasts that align with your goals, follow blogs with the same mindset, talk to those of your friends that will get it.

This makes sure that nothing can distract you, and you can't just 'forget' to work towards your goal.

However, you must not let your time obsessing over your goal be more than your time actually working on your goal. Do not forget that.

------------- Books that could help ------------

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport

----- May the odds be ever in your favour.. -----

#dgg #level up #level up mindset #black femininity #hypergamy #black hypergamy #hypergamous #dreamgirl #black women in luxury #2024 planning #new year #glowup #wellness #self care #mine

[patamon]

Digimon Ghost Game Episode 65 | The Black Zone of Death - Terriermon Assistant

#Digimon #Digimon Ghost Game #digigifs #digimonedit #Terriermon #dgg #Bree watches Ghost Game #Breegifs #spoiler #spoilers #terriermon assistant

[tolliver-j-mortaelwyver]

Oh. Oh my. I was not expecting THAT at all. Siriusmon jumpscare. 🤣

EDIT:

Me too Gulus. Me too...

#digimon ghost game spoilers #digimon ghost game #dgg #siriusmon #i am disturbed that he has so many teeth #gulusgammamon

[submi55ive-kitten]

Bruh I wonder if I'm anyone's parasocial Daddy

#hold on i need to be narcissistic for a sec #random thought lol #DGG #not a cult 😂 #me #submi55ive-kitten #personal #text post

[universallyarbiterinternet]

Single Schallplatte Mai 1959 (A031 / 606 S). Josef Greindl, Hertha Klust: Tom der Reimer • Die Uhr. Label: Deutsche Grammophon – 30 208 EPL Extended Play

#Schallplattenhülle #Schallplatte #Single #Grafik #Design #Gestaltung #Cover #DGG #Deutsche Grammophon #Josef Greindl #Klassik #Vinyl

[tachyonblu]

I think it’s very important that people like Destiny breakthrough into echo chambers like Minds Fest. Minds should take the security of their panelists more seriously and condemn such obviously deplorable behavior as that of the harasser / failed comedian.

#mindsfest2024 #mindsfest #minds fest #Austin #Texas #Destiny #DGG #politics

[thedearlydepart]

Unfortunately Critical thinking is being banished from the educational system in that context clues etc are not being taught regularly.

Someone said there is a war on education and to whatever extent that is i believe there is a push to have a population that blindly accepts what they're told

#education #destiny #critical thinking #self awareness #DGG #destiny.gg

[ageman-alterssimulationsanzug]

#Altersmedizin #DeutscheGesellschaftfürGeriatrie #DGG

[sexy-sexy-boy]

A simplicity , this is achingly beautiful music , I’m really enjoying this album . Roger Eno - The Turning Year ( 1LP ) @rogereno_official @dgclassics #rogereno #dgg #deutschegrammophon #classical #ambient #electronicmusic #contemporary #20thcentury #avantgarde #abstract #experimental #lp #records #album #vinyl #vinylgram #vinylpassion #vinylcollection #vinyldigger #vinylhunter #vinylcommunity #vinyljunkie #vinyladdict #vinyloftheday #レコード #レコードのある暮らし #レコード好きな人と繋がりたい #レコード屋 #レコード収集 https://www.instagram.com/p/CdFWEMqvLBc/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#rogereno #dgg #deutschegrammophon #classical #ambient #electronicmusic #contemporary #20thcentury #avantgarde #abstract #experimental #lp #records #album #vinyl #vinylgram #vinylpassion #vinylcollection #vinyldigger #vinylhunter #vinylcommunity #vinyljunkie #vinyladdict #vinyloftheday #レコード #レコードのある暮らし #レコード好きな人と繋がりたい #レコード屋 #レコード収集

[nepcoolestnuisance]

he tried the grimace shake

#tobias gregson #the great ace attorney #the great ace attorney 2 #dggs #i like this trend #its just a trend #dont think about it

[patamon]

Digimon Ghost Game Episode 61 | Resurrection

#Digimon #Digimon Ghost Game #digigifs #digimonedit #Diarbbitmon #dgg #Bree watches Ghost Game #Breegifs #spoilers

[hersweetrevenge]

joanne baron as joan cunningham, halloween ends (2023) [X], [X]

i'm so obsessed with this interpretation of joan ??

the way joanne baron talks about joan is so interesting, because she honestly gives her wayyy more slack than most other people have done when talking about her. she talks about her very sympathetically, which kind of reminded me how rohan said that having empathy for your character is how you understand them.

does joan deserve sympathy in a wider context? i don't think so. she does abuse corey and she does treat ronald, and everyone around her, terribly. but does it make sense that some of her actions resonate differently in her own mind, than they do on those around her? absolutely.

i've talked about it too much i think, but it's not that joan doesn't love corey, it's that she loves him too much. it's that he isn't really a person to her, he's a thing that she can take care of and will never leave and will always love her back.

this description of joan's behaviour feels so strangely measured, "I go to my son's room after reprimanding him and give him his favourite dessert." it's all so off the mark to what actually happens, it's almost funny. but is that how joan would have seen the events? to a degree, yeah, i think so. corey is in his mid-twenties, he's not a child who can be told off and sent to their room, and we already know he hates joan's cooking, but joan has arrested his development so badly in her bid to maintain the "perfect" relationship they have that she's never going to treat him like anything other than a little boy. her infantilisation of him reduces the care she might of been able to give him to plain abuse.

the way joan and corey's interaction is described as tender feels so out of place too, but it has truth in it. joan doesn't control corey through rage and violence alone. of course not, the slap/kiss proves as much. there's a certain amount of love there that corey always waits for. there are things he loves about joan because she's not always awful. he's easier to manipulate to joan's liking if he's playing for a prize -- navigate the anger and receive praise.

and i think the most interesting comment is this: "I saw her as a victim too, of her son's ruined life". tbh i find it really difficult to agree with this take, not only because it seems like corey being traumatised to the point of total stagnation seems like it would greatly benefit joan's need to keep him close. we're told explicitly (in the novel at least) that after the accident corey doesn't do anything or go anywhere, which seems perfect for an overbearing and controlling mother.

but then again, joan seems to have a complex about persecution -- was her life ruined because corey's was? no, but she loves to bewail the injustice of it all. she loves to be corey's defender, maybe even to the extent of (apparently) being his only defender, as she so often tells him "I'm the only person who cares about you."

#halloween ends #joan cunningham hate club #corey cunningham #lets all ignore that they spelt rohan's name wrong lol #the bedroom/work out scene has been confirmed so so so many times !! DGG when are you releasing the tighty whitey cut ??

[elegomez]

Xinjiang: China's Muslim Borderland, S. Frederick Starr. (Not sure if there's much useful here.)

The Russians in Central Asia : their occupation of the Kirghiz steppe and the line of the Syr-Daria : their political relations with Khiva, Bokhara, and Kokan : also descriptions of Chinese Turkestan and Dzungaria, Valikhanov, Ch. Ch.; Michell, John,Michell, Robert; Venyukov M.I. (second hand source babyyyy)

Music and the Play of Power in the Middle East, North Africa and Central Asia, Laundan Nooshin (not sure how useful, but worth investigating, even just to give musical flavor)

Central Asia and Caucasus, Journal of Social and Political Studies (might be the wrong era, we'll see)

Ferghana Valley: The Heart of Central Asia, Frederick S. Starr, Frederick S. Starr, Baktybek Beshimov, Inomjon I. Bobokulov, Pulat Shozimov (i want intro, chapter 1, 2, 3)

Islam after Communism: Religion and Politics in Central Asia, Adeeb Khalid (This author again! The book I read was wonderful. I don't know how useful this will be, but it talks about insights from the study of Islam and Soviet history, so I'll check it out)

Central Asia Reader: The Rediscovery of History, H.B. Paksoy (only parts 1 and 2 are of interest, and I'm not convinced they will be useful)

#DGG research

[mitchfynde]

My toxic trait is I'm absolutely obsessed with Destiny. The streamer, not the game or concept. When my power went out for a week he was one of the people I missed the most LMAO.

#destiny #dgg #daliban

[marklikely]

ohhhh the new exorcist movie was directed/written by david gordon green. goes back to sleep

#(⬆️ new halloween trilogy guy. needless to say i don't care for his work.) #now i was never exactly excited for this movie but i at least planned to give it a fair chance #but now i think i will just not watch . unless someday i do a Big exorcist deep dive. tbf i might do that. #sorry i don't even . like dgg's halloween movie that was supposed to be 'good' i think its overrated and the writing sucks #and that's still the best one in the trilogy don't even get me started on Ends. #i will admit he had some good ideas he just executed them in a way that was both. bad. and also actively annoying as hell #maybe let him be a producer or smth and let someone else write and direct the ideas. maybe #avpost #anyway cant wait to watch this guy get handed every iconic 70s horror franchise -_-

[scuopsie]

That's some next level [🤨] blurring and whitewashing...

#dgg said :here's the ghost of Minhyum and kihyun #monsta x #kihyun #minhyuk