#cliquey over there

[aa-carnivorousfatality]

I'm alive. And remembering why I don't really write in the sonic rpc anymore.

#ooc mobile. #it's sortaaa #cliquey over there #and sonadow is around every corner #sucks cause i was excited tp write silver again #but eh #pspspsp

[xoxoemynn]

I'm glad you feel at least a teensy bit better after sleeping. I feel pretty out of it. I've had a few weeks of ups and downs that have left me pretty exhausted before this news.

I hope you don't mind me leaving a message here. I've never been part of the fandom community, just outside of it, so I'm not even really feeling the 'at least we still have each other' sentiment. Ofmd helped me revive my creativity after years of not creating anything when I used to do so much. I'm still slower at it than I used to be, but it's a start. It's something.

Ofmd gave me the strength to come out at work, to be myself in most parts of my life rather than just carefully cultivated moments. I've found strength I never knew I had. Ffs I'm doing diversity training information stuff now??

I feels good. Feels great. And I really don't think it was a long shot to think that a successful, critically acclaimed show would get rescued. (I did wonder if making it very clear how valuable it was made HBO have an insane asking price but I hope not)

And I know s2 ended neatly (thank god) but I was so on board with Jenkins' view of "the will-they-won't-they is the least interesting part of a romance". Because you never see the payoff! It's just oh they're together now, the end, and you don't get to experience the characters as a couple. The story was the development of Ed and Stede's relationship, and a 3rd part would have given us the full scope of that.. *sigh

Idk I guess I'm just at a bit of a loss. Feeling empty. I was already struggling posting my work, or thinking how to adjust how I do it, because I don't feel its good enough for this fandom (which in my very limited experience feels very clique-y? If you're not in with the cool kids then no one cares and I'm too old for this!) It's all a bit "what's the point" I guess. I expect it'll pass but aaa, man. Y’know. Rant over, thanks for reading ^^'

The deepest of sighs, the tightest of hugs.

I feel you. Starting work today with swollen eyes and a tired heart. It sucks. This all just really sucks. And yes, I'm so grateful we got the show at all, I'm so grateful for the cast/crew, I'm so grateful for this fandom and the friends I made along the way. But this show, that did EVERYTHING RIGHT, ended before its time. And there's no getting around that just really, really sucks.

You're right, I don't think it was ridiculous to believe our renewal efforts might be successful. Because it SHOULD have been! It was a beautiful show with a passionate fan base that was also viewed very favorably by critics. In any sane world, OFMD's renewal would have been a given. And it's not silly or stupid to hope for good things to happen in a world where so often good things don't. The solution to the world being a shit show isn't to just bow our heads and accept it. It's to keep hope alive because yes, it might turn out different this time! Beautiful things deserve to be cherished, and that's what we did and will continue to do with OFMD. OFMD wasn't canceled due to a lack of love. It was corporate greed, pure and simple, and unfortunately that's a really difficult evil to fight against. But we still gave it our all, and people and the industry took note. That's no small feat.

And the show did so much for all of us! I'm so happy it gave you the strength to come out at work and live more in your authentic self. That's huge! That's the power of good art. And that's something studio heads can never take into account while they plug figures into their calculators and huff and puff about the numbers not being there.

I do hope you'll post your work, and share whatever you feel comfortable sharing. We really are of all skill levels here, and I've found genuine love of the show/its characters > the most technically well-written fic on the planet. I do hear what you say about it feeling cliquey, but for what it's worth, I also think it's very welcoming to newcomers? I realize that sounds like a contradiction. But I do think people have just kind of naturally formed little social circles of their friends and it can feel hard to break into, especially if you're an introvert like me. But I think if you start just getting in people's inboxes or reblogging with tags that show your personality/opinions/whatever, you'll start naturally forming those groups on your own. I'd also really recommend the OFMD Fic Club server if you're trying to get the courage to start posting your own work. It's a really supportive community there of people who've been posting for decades, as well as those who are just beginning to plan their very first fic.

Anyway, this is getting long and rambling so I'll end it here, but please know I'm sending you SO much love. It sucks right now but we'll get through it. And my DMs are open if you ever just want to chat. 💕

#ask #Anonymous #also the DM offer is open to everybody #I may be slow but I'll respond #I know fandom can feel cliquey but there's no reason for that #*Stede voice* I'M your friend! #(also if you have discord I'm much better at DMs over there bc tumblr is the worst) #(BUT I'd prefer the first message be out of tumblr just bc I get so many bot requests at discord lol) #(don't want to accidentally delete you) #ANYWAY LOVE YOU #ofmd

[virgincels]

#hate when people talk ab me like im problematic like brother im just ill #like like esp when they’re grown lol like im trying hard not to get my feelings hurt but tumblr is so cliquey it makes me upset like why f #does it feel like school all over again it should not feel that way!! it’s not that deep it’s the internet #cherry purposely attracts attention I don’t ask to get hated on trust #tw vent #it’s just like idk why do grown people make things so deep like omg a girl isn’t allowed to complain I got bpd im a chronic complainer

[aroacehanzawa]

aespa black mamba chorus routine is like a whole workout

#i randomly remembered learning this in kpop class over a year ago and suddenly had to attempt it #in the middle of night 😭 #anyway does anyone know any songs with good choreographies that are suitable for beginner #i couldn't do black mamba if i hadn't learnt it in a class </3 #sorry for being a kpop stan on main btw #i stopped taking classes because it was soo cliquey like there were two teachers and they were besties with like a whole group #in the class and it just felt like a glorified friend group instead of like. a class i paid money for... #i might join again next semester though maybe it's different now

[aqours]

my feelings on ritowa have always been kidna ambient bc like

i didn't care much about it in yashahime s1, like i even told myself "when they get more development i'm sure i'll ship it more"

then s2 came and it did happen and i started liking it more also the ritowas carved out the only non-toxic space filled with flame wars, infighting, and terfs in the entire fandom so there was that although it's still not something that gave me like, specific brainworms or seek out or anything and i definitely felt i was more one-sided and more of a "towa will probably fall in love with him in the future" and like i don't really seek out fics or art that's specifically ritowa although i enjoy it and like seeing it when it's on my twitter tl without really seeking it out (i still follow a lot of yashahime people on there even if i'm more divorced from the fandom now)

but

HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOGH

"I will be your knight."

THE MANGA ACTUALLY REMEMBERING WHEN RIKU OBSERVED THAT TOWA IS SOMEBODY WHO ALSO DESERVES TO BE PROTECTED NOT JUST SOMEBODY WHO ONLY EVER PROTECTS OTHERS WITHOUT CARE FOR HER WELL BEING

A PRINCESS AND HER PIRATE TURNED KNIGHT...

so now i'm just

YES ACTUALLY

YEAH YEAH YEAH YEAH GIMMIE

GIMMIE MORE OF THE PRINCESS AND HER PIRATE TURNED KNIGHT PLEASE

#starposts #now i can say i'm REALLY fully a ritowa shipper now #........... albeit focused on the manga more lmao #which is my suffering #because nobody draws art or writes fics of the yashahime manga. pain. #also i don't feel like making a bunch of posts about it but uh #sessrin twitter bad mostly. like i still follow a lot of peeps but it's still cliquey and has a terf problem #it's not bad over here but there's also WAY less of us

[deepseacityunderground]

do you ever meet a person whos like a grown adult like a grown ass adult in their thirties and yet their social maturity is stuck at like. 16

#not even in a cognitive way... im more referring to ppl who stir shit and act cliquey like a high schooler #ppl who cant take responsibility for their actions and act like passive bystanders to their bad behavior #had a Conversation with friends at college nd realized that my misgivings about a particular classmate are shared..... #and then i found out she was trying to shittalk me a year ago which is rlly funny in hindsight tbh #because of the comparative seriousness of the situation vs how she depicted it #and also how immature and catty and embarrasing that sort of behavior is coming from a woman in her mid 20s #said woman and i have engaged a truce (?) for now because something has come to threaten us both (political thing #dont wanna talk about on here) but idk how im gonna keep a straight face talking to her knowing she was going around #live rping 14 year old regina george for no reason last year over a minor disagreement #ITS SO FUNNY FUCKING IMAGINE ACTING LIKE THAT AS A GROWN ADULT.....

[1eos]

Miss Kendra. feel free to not answer but what kinds of zines are you applying to? Fanzines? Original art zines? (as a fellow zine enjoyer who has also been rejected quite a few times-)

99.9% of the time it's fanzines 🤔 only bc the original art zines i come across the themes are like so specific and in a vein i can't relate to lollllll like i am not the intended audience for the weird gay girls and the bugs they love zine 😭😭😭😭😭 i need to find a zine that no one is applying to bc that's literally the only way imma get in at this point

#apparently fan zines have gotten hella cliquey over the past few years and that would explain some things lol #but hey as long as there is no application fee no reason not to try

[lunanoc]

i thought i'd seen all the Bad Takes this fandom can generate atp but no 🫠

when i say people only like being in it bc they can play a giant themed dnd game, i mean it. otherwise there wouldn't be people seriously suggesting fan fiction (that's conveniently only written by themselves and their group of friends ofc) as an entry point into a fandom for newcomers who've never interacted with the source material in any way so they can get a solid grasp of the characters rather than idk. the source material ???

with all due respect, why would you ever use fan fiction and fanon perception as the basis of your own perception of characters and stories rather than the source material its derived from, knowing fanon is always going to be skewed and give you biased secondhand information. and why would you ever suggest it in the first place?

#i continue to be baffled #if this seems like it's indirecting a specific post it's bc it is #my one concession is not replying to it directly and leaving it be #but that doesn't mean i'm not gonna have Opinions about it #but it's very telling about what i've been saying since forever about this fandom #people prefer their little fan fiction fanon bubble #that spews the most out of pocket takes on the regular btw #over the canon of the source material #to the point they may as well be talking about two different things #that's how ridiculous this is #and if this was one of those cases where canon is a dumpster fire i'd get it #BUT IT'S NOT?? #that and there's ofc the insular cliquey nature of the whole thing like #ohhh yes i'm gonna rec the best fics #but it's only like the same five people #i'm not gonna pretend my own opinions aren't biased #but at least i don't present my opinions as objective and representative of the fandom as a whole #will i ever stop having opinions about the dmbj fandom? #probably not

[hella1975]

some people in the catering industry are so STUPID okay so where i work usually has two or three KPs on at a time bc it's quite big and the job of the waiting staff when clearing tables is literally just to bring it to the kitchen and leave it on the counter for the KPs to wash up. now you're supposed to put the cutlery in a bucket and scrape all the food off the plates bc that's just the decent thing to do but a lot of the staff literally just DUMP it bc there's a real snobbery thing about KPs and how waiting staff generally think they're better. now there's one woman who does the potwash a lot and ive been friendly to her since the beginning - no ulterior motive it's just the decent thing to do???? i dont understand some people - AND THE THING ABOUT MY JOB IS THAT THE KPS ARE USUALLY TRAINED ON DESSERTS TOO SO THEY MAKE THE DESSERTS anyway found out this woman my bsf had fucked up one of her desserts and she HID IT and waited for ME SPECIFICALLY and i got a free brownie

#like there are so many benefits to being nice and treating human beings like human beings #one is that it is a nice thing to do and being a jerk will make you feel all gross inside #and another is that THEY WILL BE NICE TO YOU IN RETURN #primary school level social skills and yet so many of the staff who are OLDER THAN me #treat this poor woman like dirt #i love her she's so chatty and she really likes me now which is kind of sad bc literally all i did was talk normally to her #like i say hi to her and ask her how her day is and i asked her name when i first started #and i thank her when she takes the plates #it's basic shit it's nothing i need a fucking medal for #BUT she's kinda petty in a really funny way (like not letting any of the other waitresses have the brownie then giving it me IN FRONT OF #THE OTHERS SKDGHKSHD) #like one time there was a queue in the kitchen bc a load of tables left at the same time so we all had plates that needing washin #*washing #and this woman IGNORED the other three girls in front of me and started a convo with me over their heads LMAO #i was like bestie you CANT DO THAT KSHGDKJHG #i love her and the brownie was fucking stunning #also the same way the waiting/bar staff have a real comradery against the kitchen staff when they're being dicks #the KITCHEN staff are renowned everywhere you go for being very cliquey #like you know how everyone always slates chefs? yeah now imagine a group of them who think it's a ride or die environment #and ive been pretty intimidated by the chefs here just bc they're so cliquey and they're not really interested in being friends with #the waitresses like they're there for their own people and nothing else #BUT bc im chummy with this one KP now SHE is one of the kitchen staff and like i said they're very protective of their own #SO NOW THEY ALL LIKE ME LMAO #finessed the system on accident purely by being a nice person #shocking truly! how has no one realised this! when you are nice your life is easier and better! wow! #hella slaves to capitalism

[untitled-byler-blog]

sometimes I want to be popular and other times I rather enjoy flying under the radar

#👀👀 #I just want fandom friends to talk to and interact with in posts and asks and stuff #and I had it for a minute and then I fucked it up 😔 #now that I'm more involved in the fandom it feels so cliquey and I feel like the annoying one no one wants to hang out with and everyone #feels the need to tolerate to be polite and like it's school times all over again and I hate it and it's not fun anyway #anymore* lol catch me deleting this blog in like a week when I have my annual birthday-induced existential crisis #lol SORRY don't know where THAT came from feel free to Ignore me wow #shut up Lilly #let's chat

[troonwolf]

thank you for speaking up about the cult tactics used in the pro endo community. even though i Was mostly syscourse unaligned leaning anti, the pro endo community gave me a really bad vibe. seeing a lot of shit they say screamed “cult” to me too but i didn’t feel comfortable enough calling it out because i’m not a cult survivor and i don’t know a lot about cults. i was also never pro endo so it’s not like i could speak from personal experience either. so i kind of brushed off my gut reaction and told myself i’m overreacting about something i don’t know a lot about. so i’m glad to know more now and know that the pro endo community does harm beyond what i even initially thought. i’m definitely more anti endo now because the pro endo community is absolutely the anti vaxers of the neurodivergent community. also notice how many of them support the demedicalization of autism too. idk if you remember that but i’m referencing specifically the time a few months ago when some prominent pro endo bloggers were jumping down the throats of autistic anti endos because they called their autism a disability.

Ty for your input anon! Interesting to read other folks perspectives and experiences on all this.

The funny thing is I literally only started talking about how I myself am a cult survivor because everytime I try to talk about cults in the system community, people have this knee-jerk reaction of having to respond to you with essays on how unless you're a cult survivor, you shouldn't be talking about cults.

Now first off that's obviously not true and pretty stupid. Tons of academic professionals and researchers and etc who are involved in widening our understanding of cults, were not themselves victims of cults. That's like saying I can't talk about the black plague because I wasn't there.

But literally just to make people stop having that response to me I was like welp guess I'm gonna have to talk about specific details of my trauma of being lured into a doomsday bunker in the mountains by my mother even tho both sides of this debate are constantly talking about how we shouldn't pressure people to have to talk about or reveal their trauma.

The idea of cults and cult victims have a weird status of reverence in the community, we're almost treated like a mythological creature. "Oh no, don't talk about cults! There might be a...*whispers* cult victim here...." It's very very bizarre.

Cults are an age-old phenomenon with tons of research put behind them. We actually know a fucking lot about cults. Saying you need to have been in one to be able to understand them is ridiculous.

Comparing this to other things: you don't need to have been abused as a child to have a good understanding of child abuse. We have a pretty informed understanding of what child abuse is and how it functions by this point. You can still call something out as being child abuse without having experienced it yourself.

With that said I'm glad there are people who understand my point, but honestly after this experience I've concluded both sides of the anti/endo discourse are a bunch of clowns who just want a tumblr pvp social club. People are involved literally just to be part of the community, whether anti or endo. Folks actual reasons for being against endos is dumb shit like "they're just dumb teenagers who don't know what they're doing", when if that's really the case then why are you "anti" in the first place? Idc what dumb teenagers are doing, why do you?

I hate endos because they cause harm but most people in this discourse legitimately seem like they're just anti-endos because they think it's cringe and want to be a cool tumblr hater.

#anti endo #syscourse #endo cult #also peoples response to me finally dumping my trauma after being accused of not knowing what I'm talking about over and over #was just to then ignore my existence and vague me #while pretending to be for cult survivors lol #this community is genuinely very full of shit #like just cliquey mean girl shit because no one actually believes in what they're saying #they just want to have a blog where they're a cool tumblr hater or wtfever #also I don't like how the community treats us cult survivors like we are delicate fucking flowers #that cant even skim by a post about cults #or we cant have an intellectual objective discussion on cults #because we are just so weak and fragile yknow :((((((((((( #we need them to protect us from stuff like having thoughts and sharing opinions :((((( #it is literally just ''survivors I agree with'' vs ''survivors I disagree with and therefore don't exist''

[dyketubbo]

stepped out of my bubble again big mistake forgot that like a good percentage of the mcytblr fandom is just a bunch of mean girl style bullies

#ill be honest. #id rather be in a room of cringe boobers than a room with any of the big names that constantly talk about- #-killing themselves and telling other people to kill themselves over who their favorite dsmp character is #i could survive in a room with people who think cbeeduo is better than cclingyduo but put me in a room with- #-a bunch of bullies that are like genuine dream stans and i will be clawing the walls trying to get out SORRY #dream stans are infinitely more terrifying and full of freakish behavior than any boober. inniters are only slightly above dream stans #and yes i know i sound so cliquey right now but this is a 5am personal post if you take this seriously thats on you #would rather spend time with someone who thinks real life people can queerbait than someone who says kys like 20 times a day #lesser of two evils ykwim #mask mews #personal

[snekdood]

Yknow what makes me reaentful? How ive been sexually abused so much growing up, no one did shit besides shove me off to a therapist, ive been promised by feminist spaces that ill have a place to heal within them, and as soon as my abusive ex tries to smear me and project their behavior on to me by accusing me of doing that shit too, all the sudden everyone acts suspicious, and i still dont get any of that promised healing. Its hard not to feel like my ex did this intentionally to prevent me from having a space to heal. And its my issue with the "believe victims" narrative because it seems to me like people dont actually want to believe victims but to believe the victims they *like* and *agree more with politically*. If people can just say whatever about someone and you feel obligated to believe them because "believe victims", its very clearly going to be exploited by abusive people, and while i dont think we should stop per se, we need to have some sort of actual system to vet who is and isnt telling the truth, like a pseudo-courtroom. At the very least let everyone and their side of the story actually be heard. Bc idk how you guys plan to believe two victims at once who are accusing eachother other than throwing your hands up and picking one or deciding that we're both bad, which doesnt seem very fair to me since people seem to looove demonizing me for no discernable reason.

#anyways ive lost faith in feminist spaces in actually being a place to heal #it kinda just feels like cliques to me dawg. #maybe it used to be sorta healing but i never actually got to find a support system or anything anywhere. #like idk man. maybe the reason ppl go to the right is bc yall are cutthroat and do everything based on vibes. #if i cant even get help and healing from yall like you promise whats the feminism label even for besides for spreading awareness? #because i feel like ill always be excluded because i dont fit the recquired aesthetic. #there needs to be a space for dudes to go to heal too. and id ideally not have to go to one of the mra type spaces. #idk but im just disenchanted with this whole movement. so many unfulfilled promises. #too many terfs infiltrating it also. #im left out in the cold and no one cares and everyone pretends to care about victims but cant even bring themselves to image that i #was the one who was victimized. why should i rely on these spaces at all. its clear yall favor the more fem person in any situation #like this. #also unrelated but related this website is trash and most people on here suck so fucking much. #the mostly cliquey cutthroat spaces for being so 'caring' like you like to think yourselves as. #'oh well we have to be careful so just in case we're gonna kick you out!!' oh really #is that the feminism you were talking about? #youll leave me out on the streets based on a rumor? and if you find out theyre lying then what will you do? are you gonna come over to me #weeping about how you shouldnt have believed them and how sorry you are? bc chances are ill already be dead from starving #but yknow. believe whatever anyone says about someone else. sorry i meant victims* #itd be so so funny to me if someone came up to me with that justification for why they ostracized me and then be like 'how can you be mad! #i didnt know better!! you cant be mad at people for not knowing better >:(' the hell i fucking cant lmao! #yall perpetuated a narrative about me to actively grind my name in the dirt. and im not allowed to be mad? #yall ostracized and excluded me from spaces i need to rely on for community and healing. #yall did nothing for me and threw me in the fucking trash. yeah. i think im allowed to be upset with you and want you to go fuck yourself. #if you believed them and found out theyre a liar. cool. leave me the fuck alone though. go make a post about it and try to rectify the #situation you contributed to you pos. #yknow. maybe itd be one thing if you believed them and i didnt do anything and you apologized. #its a WHOLE OTHER FUCKING THING. WHEN YOU BELIEVE THEM. IM INNOCENT. AND *IM*THE ONE WHO WAS #SEXUALLY ABUSED AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED TO THE FUCKING MOON AND BACK. and then think an apology is enough. #like go fuck yourself. ive been alone with this trauma this whole time you pieces of shits.

[enigma-the-anomaly]

we all know I’m ill about ishimondo but even ignoring that I think the first danganronpa might be my favorite? Honestly the first and second are really close, but the first one just has a certain feel to it. Like it’s the very first, it was the guinea pig, the testing of the waters, so it has a sort of wildness to it, like “throw things and see what sticks”

idk, I just like that fuck it we ball vibe it has, and without the burden of past games it doesn’t feel the need to be more shocking and more out there than what came before it. It isn’t trying so hard to have every character be wild and exaggerated. It has problems for sure, but it also has an energy that’s just fun, like “this is new and exciting and weird and we know it, just follow along and we’ll see where this goes”

idk, it just has a really special place in my heart

#also the overall cast feels so small compared to others? like more connected ig? #each new game feels like the characters are so caught up with being unique and different #that it is like interpersonal relationships between the cast as a whole is kinda pushed aside? #and feels a lot more mean and alienating #idk thh has the vibe that despite how they feel about each individual person most everyone is at least #willing to work together to escape. But by the time of V3 it feels almost cliquey #like there’s no wider cast camaraderie #which especially sucks for characters like Korekiyo that don’t even have one character that they are close to and are on their side #sooo yeah :P ramble over

[pizzaboat]

Kinda getting sick of every post I make being ignored on a certain discord server...

#I'm tempted to keep posting just so it keeps getting ignored. I hope I become annoying as fuck. #like this keeps happening on the exact same one #i leave and come back and things are fine for a month before it goes back to feeling cliquey #it feels like secondary school all over again

[simpingresponsibly]

dtblr talking about how good it was that certain blogs left because it makes it less cliquey here... is the irony not lost on y'all 💀

#your talking points cant be both 'it was a moral choice and their morals didnt align' and 'they left because they were immoral idiots' #the people who left were well within their rights to do so it was a fucked situation #the people who stayed are well within their rights to stay #dtblr seems more cliquey now to me than it did before its just new blogs were let in from the power vaccuum #this gossip feels dumb but maybe i wasnt around for enough #this isnt about anyone in particular /gen just a strange vibe ive got over the last few days