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Gender variance and it's link with neurodivergency

Okay so this is it going to be another long one

All quotes will be sourced with a link to the scientific journal I took it from

Okay Tumblr, let's talk gender (I know, your favorite topic) my preface on why this topic matters to me is: I'm autistic ( diagnosed moderate to severe autism) I'm nonbinary trans ( in a way that most non-autistic people don't understand and actually look down on) and I went to college for gender study ( Mostly for intersex studies but a lot of my research was around non-binary and trans identities) I will be using the term autism as pants when I have experience with however when ADHD is part of the study I will use ND which stands for neurodivergent and yes this is going to be about xenogenders and neopronouns.

autism can affect gender the same way autism can affect literally every part of an identity. a big thing about having autism is the fact that it completely can change how you view personhood and time and object permanence and gender and literally all types of socially constructed ideas. let me also say hear that just because Society creates and enforces an idea does it mean that it doesn't exist to all people it just me that there is no nature law saying that it's real and the “rules” for these ideas can change and delete and create as time and Society evolves and changes. gender is one of those constructs.

Now I'll take it by you reading this you know what transgender people are (if you don't understand what a trans person is send me an ask and I'll type you up a pretty little essay lmao, or Google it but that's a scary thought sense literally any Source or website can come up on Google including biased websites so be careful I guess LOL) anyway to be super basic trans people are anyone who doesn't identify as the gender they were assigned at Birth (yes that includes non-binary people I could do a whole nother essay about that shit how y'all keep spreading trying to separate non-binary people from the trans umbrella) some people don't like to use the label and that is totally fine by the way.

now autistic people to view the world in a way differently than allistic (neurotypical) ppl do. we don't take everything people teach us at 100% fact and we tend to question everything and demand proof and evidence for things before we can set it as a fact in our brains. This leads to why a lot of autistic people are atheist (although a lot of religions and this is not bashing on religious people at all I am actually a Jewish convert) this questioning leads to a lot of social constructs being ignored or not understood At All by a lot of autistic people and personally I think that's a good thing. allistics take everything their parents and teachers and schools teach them as fact until someone else says something and then they pick which ones to believe. autistic people study and research and learn about a topic before forming an opinion and while this may lead to them studying and believing very biased material and spitting it out as fact it can also lead them to try and Discover it is real by themselves.

because of this autistic people are more question their gender or not fall in a binary way at all as the concept of gender makes no sense to a lot of us. “ if gender is a construct then autistic people who are less aware of social norms are less likely to develop a typical gender identity”

no really look: “ children and teens with autism spectrum disorder ASD or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder ADHD are much more likely to express a wish to be the opposite sex compared with their typical developing peers” That was posted in 2014. we have been saying this stuff forever but no one wants to listen. the thing is gender variance (being not cisgender or at least questioning it) has always been closely hand-in-hand with autistic and ADHD people I'm even the doctor who did that study understood right away that it all made sense the whole time: “ Dr. Strang said they were initially surprised to find an overrepresentation of gender variance among children with ADHD. However, they later realized that prior studies have shown increased levels of disruptive behavior and other behavioral problems among young people with gender variance” SEE YOURE NOT WEIRD YOURE JUST YOU AND YOURE NOT ALONE IN THIS!!

5% autistic people who did the study were trans or questioning. it was also equal between the Sexes fun fact. that may not seem like a lot till you realize that the national average is only .7% that's literally over 700% higher than the national average. That's so many! and that's just in America.

in Holland there was a study in 2010 “ nearly 8% of the more than 200 Children and adolescents referred to a clinic for gender dysphoria also came up positive on a assessment for ASD” they weren't even testing for ADHD so the numbers could be even higher!

now I want to talk about a certain section of the trans umbrella that a lot of autistic people fall under called the non-binary umbrella. non-binary means anything that isn't just male or just female. it is not one third gender and non-binary doesn't mean that you don't have a gender. just clearing that up since cis people keep spreading that. non-binary is an umbrella term for any of the infinite genders you could use or create. now this is where I'm going to lose a bunch of you and that's okay because you don't have to understand our brains or emotions To respect us as real people. not many allistics can understand how we see and think and relate to things and that's okay you don't have to understand everything but just reading about this could be so much closer to respecting us for Who We Are from you've ever been and that's better than being against us just for existing.

now you might have heard of my Mutual Lars who was harassed by transmeds for using the term Autigender (I was going to link them but if it gets traction I don't want them to get any hate) since a lot of people roll their eyes at that and treated them disgustingly for using a term that 100% applied correctly. Autigender is described as " a neurogender which can only be understood in the context of being autistic or when one's autism greatly affects one's gender or how one experiences gender. Autigender is not autism as a gender, but rather is a gender that is so heavily influenced by autism that one's autism and one's experience of gender cannot be unlinked.” Now tell me that doesn't sound a lot like this entire essay I've been working on with full sources…..

xenogenders and neopronouns are a big argument point on whether or not people “believe” in non binary genders but a big part of those genders is that they originated from ND communities and are ways that we can try to describe what gender means us in a way that cis or even allistic trans people just can't comprehend or ever understand. Same with MOGAI genders or sexualities. A lot of these are created as a way to somehow describe an indescribable relationship with gender that is so personal you really cant explain it to anyone who isnt literally the same as you.

Even in studies done with trans autistic people a large amount of them dont even fall on a yes or no of having a gender at all and fall in some weird inbetween where you KINDA have a gender but its not a gender in the sense that others say it is but its also too much of a gender so say youre agender. And this is the kind of stuff that confuses allistic trans people and makes them think nonbinary genders are making stuff up for attention, which isnt true at all we just cant explain what it feels like to BE a trans autistic person to anyone who doesnt ALREADY know how it feels.

In this study out of the ppl questioned almost HALF of the autistic trans individuals had a “Sense of identity revolving around interests” meaning their gender and identity was more based off what they liked rather than boy or girl. That makes ppl with stuff like vampgender or pupgender make a lot more sense now doesnt it? We see that even in the study: “My sense of identity is fluid, just as my sense of gender is fluid […] The only constant identity that runs through my life as a thread is ‘dancer.’ This is more important to me than gender, name or any other identifying features… even more important than mother. I wouldn't admit that in the NT world as when I have, I have been corrected (after all Mother is supposed to be my primary identification, right?!) but I feel that I can admit that here. (Taylor)” and an agreement from another saying “Mine is Artist. Thank you, Taylor. (Jessie)” now dont you think if they grew up with terms like artistgender or dancergender they would just YOINK those up right away????

In fact “An absence of a sense of gender or being unsure of how their gender should “feel” was another common report” because as ive said before in this post AUTISTIC PEOPLE DONT SEE GENDER THE WAY ALLISTIC PEOPLE SEE IT. therefore we wont use the same terms or have the same identities nor could we explain it to anyone who doesnt already understand or question the same way! Participants even offered up quotes such as “As a child and even now, I don't ‘feel’ like a gender, I feel like myself and for the most part I am constantly trying to figure out what that means for me (Betty)” and also “I don't feel like a particular gender I'm not even sure what a gender should feel like (Helen)”

Now i know this isnt going to change everyones minds on this stuff but i can only hope that it at least helped people feel like theyre not broken and not alone in their feelings about this. You dont have to follow allistic rules. You dont have to stop searching inside for who you really wanna be. And you dont have to pick or choose terms forever because just as you grow and evolve so may your terms. Its okay to not know what or who you are and its okay to identify as nonhuman things or as your interests because what you love and what you do is a big part of who you are and shapes you everyday. Its not a bad thing! Just please everyone, treat ppl with respect and if you dont understand something that doesnt make it bad or wrong it just means its not for you. And thats okay.

#autism #actuallyautistic #trans #nonbinary #xenogenders #neopronouns #lgbtq #adhd #nuerodivergent #gender identity

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ferie-anon · 3 years

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Hello friend !! I’d like to request a ship for BTS please ? I’m an Aries sun, Virgo moon, Aries mercury, Taurus venus, Aries mars, and a Capricorn jupiter ! Thank you for taking the time to do this! Hope you’re having a great day. ❤️

Suree, Aries sun with virgo moon, honest and passionate yet can be a perfectionist and organized. With your virgo moon you are very organized and attentive to the details surrounding your interests and passions/goals, as aries sun show you are a bright learner with good morals. Your aries mercury show you are direct in providing your opinions and thoughts, and there is some admiration from others of your strong perception of things and astuteness derived from your sun and moon placements. Taurus venus shows you desire security and comfort/trust in someone, someone that is reliable that you can put your faith in. You may be a bit slow in initiating stuff or just may wait and see at times, and you are generally warm and kind to your loved ones and close ones. Aries mars prompts you to be driven and passionate in where you may put your heart in the things you love to do/goals/interests. Like fire burning endlessly once latching on to the targetted wood/grass. I won’t do jupiter since this analysis description will be too long to read 😅✨🐥

In Bts... your match is Jimin~

Jimin is sweet, understanding, and has a keen eye for details. With his libra sun gemini moon this creates a very intelligent combo that can easily learn new crafts/skills. The parallels of aries and libra are back at it again~ As Jimin’s calm and reasonable logic may amaze your straightforward analytical approach. Virgo and gemini are both ruled by mercury, so both of these ppl can process and learn to pick up info easier, with their brain constantly being active. If placed in a scenario, you both admired each other in the same building/school. Jimin was very eloquent and had people skills, while you were very bright and passionate about the things you learn with a constant yearn to help others. Jimin admired your kind heart, and found the contrasting strong spirit within to be charismatic. Your admiration towards Jimin stemmed from his logicality yet natural intellect, everything Jimin did sorta made your heart skip.

First off, let’s talk about Jimin’s moon~ Gemini moon, Jimin can be very sharp at picking things up and with his mental power capacity, he is inherently smart and it goes past academic lengths. I would say Jimin can be people smart like having social skills and discerning things, as well as having better ability to accomplish new skills/tasks given. With Jimin’s libra sun, he may be more cheerful and easier to get along, but that doesn’t mean that he is inherently oblivious or just an angel, he a sharp-witted angel 😇. With your virgo moon, you appreciate his strong mentality, and you two may make for a very smart and communicative pair. Virgo moon’s analytical nature allows them to dissect information and intake it easier when they are focusing on the certain topic, and with gemini moon’s quick learning nature ppl usually would be in awe when they work together in a project or partners for an assignment, cuz the big brain power and chemistry between u two is very entertaining to others (in a good way). (This might be the case due to virgo and gemini’s ruling planet both being being mercury the planet of communication) Witty banter is a must and tbh, you two secretly enjoy it cuz each others remarks and comebacks hit the nail usually towards each other, and adoration and admiration is present in this connection.

Next up, his mercury is in libra~ Yea your mercury aries is opposite to his mercury libra on the zodiac wheel, however like they say opposites attract. His mercury in libra is adept at communicating and socializing, these can make for a charismatic or easygoing person that can take social cues/sociability to the next level. That doesn’t mean Jimin isn’t smart of choosing his words, libra mercury ppl are rational through the choices of their words and decisions, and they do think quite often when they need to. Your aries mercury may seem more going headfirst before thinking and is honest and clear of your own opinions. However as aries and libra are sister signs in the zodiac, they both have similar qualities that are executed differently. Your aries mercury may be labeled as brash, but your assertiveness comes with intelligence of your own beliefs and perceptiveness. Aries people are quick to make decisions instead of pondering because they know what they want or choose quicker than others, and that shows their inner intelligence. You both will contribute to having different takes on actions and your point of views, Jimin can balance out with his slow methodical take on things, and you can provide your honest thoughts. You two would be very communicative and this creates a close connection that is capable deep personal conversations.

Also, Jimin’s venus is in scorpio! Your taurus venus and his scorpio venus are opposite to each other, and both are fixed signs. Fixed signs are less reluctant towards change, are known for their reliability, devotion and loyalty. Despite some differences of your love style and desires such as Jimin being more intense and with a sense of passion that has to be felt at times, and your desires being a bit “simple” at times. Maybe you desire simply comfort, stability, and peace within the relationship and at times Jimin’s scorpio venus can clash with this too peaceful approach at times. However, the positve aspects/similarities outweigh this predicament. Jimin is more assertive/flirtatious towards you that may give you the little push to express your affection and love back more comfortably. You both are loyal, so you both would be very commited to each other and not have trust issues, and you both balance each other out with taurus’s calmness and Jimin’s deep feelings at times. You rely on each other a lot through your close chemistry, and sometimes things can get a bit 🌹🔥✨ well we keeping it pg-rated...

Lastly, his mars is in scorpio. His drive comes from his passion and strong focus towards his professions and interests. Your aries mars and his scorpio mars are both passionate about their respective interests/hobbies. You two would enjoy working together and putting your efforts when doing a project or just understand each others work ethics well. You both are quite assertive about the things you prioritize and future goals, so I think Jimin would appreciate your professional and cool attitude during when your serious. You both are playful and can be flirty, but I think Jimin takes it to the next level lol, oh those flirty winks and smiles.

Overall, you two are like the pair that are also the closest critics and friends to each other, the inherent closeness and realness is evident, you two are best friends and lovers at the same time you could say :3 vibe energy -> 💖✨🥳☺️👥🌻🍿🌹✨🔥🌠🌌✨

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