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nervoustragedyluminary · 3 months

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"all people who talk about transandrophobia are white " Zionists" ... Oh also all the Black trans men who talk about it are sexual predators if they exist which they don't because everyone who talks about transandrophobia is white "

Do some of you hear yourselves?

Like ive seen contradicting accusations in the notes one person says "they sexualise everything" the next is "they're prudes who hate sex positivity " like not to mention the infantalisation and "stolen trans valor" & "you're not the sexuality you say you are actually" like how is this criticising misogyny and transmisogyny?

Also just the sheer hatred and erasure of intersex and multi gender people like geez

Like what was actually said because all of the notes aren't talking about that they're just making up a caricature of a "theyfab trender who isn't really as trans as real trans people but are invading lesbian spaces to force real lesbians to fuck men" to be mad at rather than "this specific thing they said was misogynistic /lesbiphobic"

Instead it's all just like "no you have to detransition to reclaim misogynistic slurs that have been used against you or to be a lesbian otherwise you hate women" or "trans men must be binary & only use binary terms and" male terms" or else they're fakers" like what? In the 70s radfem fried fuck is going on?

Like you know that nonbinary people exist right?

That trans butches (of all agabs) exist right?

That intersex people who might use language that seems "contradictory" at first exist right? Like idk if someone is being misogynistic surely there's misogyny to point to rather than claiming that their identity/existence itself is misogynistic?

#Like I go back and forth on reclaiming the d slur because it has been used against me but also like Im not a lesbian #But apparently calling yourself queer isn't allowed either and is “suspicious” like you know who else says that? (radfems&terfs)#Like idk if someone is being lesbiphobic/transmisogynistic /misogynistic then surely there's examples you can point to #Beyond “this person calls themselves a slur in a reclamatory way that i dont think theyre allowed to reclaim”#Like trans women can reclaim fag but the second a dude calls himself a dyke ppl scream at him to detransition already #Like trans people sometimes have a complex history with sexuality and labels also water is wet

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artcinemas · 3 months

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right wing propoganda is crazy in india it is downright like india is turning into israel 2.0 and these people are proud of it.

#'caste system is a western concept' KILL YOURSELF #'leftists are americannabes' girl what even is THAT? YOU ARE THE ONE SUPPORTING A US FUNDED GENOCIDE #'hinduism society is so perfect they had british change it' cue adivasi dalit women silence #girl idk what hinduism society even is i thought it was a religion whose term was coined by the british #and y'all call yourself proud hindus while 'embracing' decolonisation like israel embraces itself as a part of eurovision #despite it being the most 'progressive' democracy in middle east 🤓#which btw is in asia #?.#anyways hindutva bridgade brainwashing is just awful #india is gonna be in more danger because of these fucking hacks #i'm scared as a hindu queer woman #i have been attacked by these so called protectors of sanatan dharma #physically #i nearly was hospitalised last year due to a saffron mob in a queer friendly bar during pride month #for ahistorical shit they'll spew their pinkwshing by radfems like hindulivesmatter will end #shameful spineless fucktards using kashmiri pandit genocide to fuel hatred against minorities and alienate them #for a hindu rashtra #i hope you bastards choke on your hatred and fucking perish #like the way y'all cheered on the death of tens thousands of palestinian people #i hope your propoganda and hatred gets to you and bites you in your own ass. hard #just end yourself u genocidal monster of a zionist #israel will be dismantled #and so will savarkar's ideals #from the river to the sea palestine will be free #and we will witness it happen godspeed

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jewishbarbies · 9 months

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if there was a venn diagram of radfems who self identify as “misandrist” and/or “gender critical” and the general radfem population it would be a circle. you not identifying outright as a terf doesn’t give you a pass for your hateful and bigoted ideology. cry about it.

#g talks #radfems think they can be misandrists #and still support trans people #with the way they talk about men #and fetishize lesbians #absolutely fucking not #you can’t say your support them just bc you don’t call yourself a terf #when all your beliefs line up perfectly with terfism already #all of you fuck off a bridge #mine #/mobile #/okay to reblog #radfems dni #terfs dni

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subcoolture · 2 years

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Men really don’t seem to understand that they have to prove themselves to women if they have an interest in them. We don’t live in a neutral world. Men are untrustworthy until proven the contrary. People always new that and that’s why something called ‘courtship’ exists. A woman’s love is the most valuable thing in the world. Mediocre men throw it away. Gentlemen fight for it.

— Léia Katràud

#and yes it is absolutely compatible with feminism #the opposite is denying the circumstances that we live in #the opposite is denying that men are dangerous #and that is not feminist #oh how thing would be if people understood these simple concepts #instead of thinking any libfem bs is feminism #listen to radfems by the way #make people earn women #women's love is the most valuable thing in the world #jane austen #jane austen quotes #bronte sisters #make men gentlemen again #how about you fight for this masculinity instead of calling yourself a male feminist just because you got a manicure #christ #mr darcy #bridgerton #james fraser

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tepehkwi · 2 years

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Of course you are anti-vegan and possibly a radfem. Not surprised with your bad takes. Comparing half of the world's population to white people who have colonized most of the world. Also who are you to dictate who is an anarchist and who isn't? You're just one of the people who think neurodivergencies and mental illnesses are just "in your head" and that they don't need to be analyzed and treated.

LMAO you literally do not know anything about me! block and move on, cunt!

#i’m against ecofascist political vegans who equate individual human beings (especially poor people!!)#to corporate industrial farms for DRINKING MILK or CONSUMING HONEY #and how fucking dare you call me a radfem! I AM TRANS AND AFFECTED DIRECTLY BY TRANSMISOGYNY #I EXPERIENCE TRANSMISOGYNY #DO YOU HAVE ZERO SHAME?#ALL THIS BECAUSE YOU WON’T LEAVE A PSYCHIATRIC ABUSE SURVIVOR THE FUCK ALONE?#ANIKA’HÂNO. FUCK OFF.#PSYCHIATRISTS are the ones who think neurodivergence is ‘in your head’ and are constsntly forcing us to conform to neurotypical society!#get your fucking facts straight you dumb fucking bootlicker #have you ever considered that nobody wants to be forced into treatment? psychiatry doesn’t exist without forced treatment #you DON’T know what the fuck you’re talking about #STOP talking this way to psychiatric survivors #i pray no one ever has to be subjected to your stunning lack of compassion ever again #go fuck yourself

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ratbastarddotfuck · 1 year

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This is maybe the funniest (worst) radfem post I've come across in a while. It was a comment about cis women getting hysterectomies.

Do y'all know how many feminists have been fighting to be allowed to get hysterectomies without a) birthing (often multiple) children or b) a husband's permission? Including many people who have extremely painful and/or dangerous uterus-related conditions, like PCOS or menorrhagia? So many doctors HATE giving hysterectomies specifically because "you really should have kids first".

Also, cis men don't need to "remove their ballsack" to avoid having kids. They get vasectomies. An incredibly simple, routine procedure.

People who are getting hysterectomies are often doing so for reasons not solely related to pregnancy - if it were just about fertility, getting your tubes tied would suffice if you were averse to other forms of birth control. My mum did that after my sister was born, and then went back in for a hysterectomy a few years later because her periods were agonising. My aunty also had a hysto several years back, because not only were her periods agonising, but they would cause flare ups in some of her other conditions.

I just... how are you calling yourself a feminist while advocating for LESS bodily autonomy for women? How can you act like women are being stupid or reckless in their choice to get a hysto and not see the indescribable misogyny you're utilising?

"It's never [cis] men who remove an organ just because they don't want it" yeah, I wonder if that's because they don't have an organ that causes agonising blood loss on a monthly basis? Like... nobody's out here getting kidneys removed for fun. It's a very specific organ only being removed for very specific, personal reasons.

It's my body, not yours. Hands the fuck off.

*This post is authored by a trans person. If you're agreeing with me about this topic while being against trans healthcare, consider that your whole ideology is built in opposition to bodily autonomy for people outside your ideals of gender. Sit with that information.*

#feminism #healthcare #gender #this post really pissed me off #you're ridiculing cis women for getting hysterectomies now? your suffragettes would be horrified.#the system speaks

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backtothebog · 2 years

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if you consider yourself a radfem/ter"f" please do not follow me, there's nothing for you on this blog

#saw someone follow me with 'radfem' in the bio #benefit of the doubt - I went to see if there's some t*rf views #I didn't have to search long to at least find some t*rf apologist stuff #even if you wouldn't call yourself a t*rf #but if you go around defending 't*rf is a misogynistic slur' or whatever #you are not welcome here #even if you are not blatantly transphobic or don't openly apply misogynistic and even fascist views and vocab to your 'feminism'#but if you excuse t*rfs in any way #what made you think you are #the only reason I censor the word is because i don't wanna start another avalanche of hate #I have yet to see a radfem that didn't turn out to be a transphobe #you can claim you're not a t*rf all you want #if you need to throw trans people and especially trans women directly or indirectly under the bus for your 'feminism'#a) it's not feminism and b) you are not welcome here

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0w0tsuki · 10 months

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The concept of "Being viewed as transmisogynistic is worse than actual acts transmisoginy" has reached it's logical extreme and the term Terf has become so muddled that now it's becoming a common tactic to accuse trans women of being TERFs to have the veneer of trans allyship while harassing trans women. It's being used from "drinking radfem koolaid" said by trans androphobia truthers to "you look like a garden variety TERF" by a PickMe Transfem looking to throw her sisters under the bus to trans women being called gender essentialists for making egg jokes.

And it not just Terf accusations. It's also accusing trans of being Crypto Channers or kiwifarms users. Basically any predator of trans women are becoming the new smokescreen to harass trans women under and it's fucking insulting and disgusting. TERFs are a hate group that's specifically seeking our genocide. Kiwifarms is a site dedicated to doxing us and painting us as sexual predators.

Not only is it paradoxical and impossible for a trans woman to be a TERF but the attempt to paint them as one is an act of violence. It is attempt to to not only ostracize us from the wider queer community but from from our sisters. The very small community that we had to carve for ourselves to feel the smallest amount of safety. It's lying and giving otherwise trans positive people the greenlight to harass us and tell themselves that they are doing it to protect the rest of us from us.

If you find yourself falling for this you seriously need to reevaluate your allyship to trans women.

#transmisoginy #kiwifarms #terf painting #online harassment #egg discourse

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venus-haze · 1 month

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Power Play (Soldier Boy x Reader)

Summary: So, you lost focus and had a consensual workplace relationship. It happens all the time. Maybe not quite like this.

Note: Female reader, but no other descriptors are used. Crazy ass 80s Vought debauchery. I might be a little rusty, but it was fun getting back into writing readerfics after two months🖤 Do not interact if you’re under 18, terf or radfem, or post thinspo/ED content.

Word count: 1.5k

Warnings: Power imbalance, cheating (Soldier Boy’s with Crimson Countess). Mentions of drug use. Soldier Boy is his own warning. Sexually explicit content involving elements of forced intox, semi-public sex, breeding kink.

You were dizzy. With Vought’s investor gala rapidly approaching, you spent the better part of your day camped out in your office, flipping back and forth through your rolodex to call and confirm catering, entertainment—you still couldn’t believe the board of directors actually approved Duran Duran’s booking fee—and transportation, off the top of your head. You already told Stan Edgar you were taking the following week off, which he had no qualms about—so long as the gala went off without a hitch.

You nearly jumped out of your skin when you were interrupted by a knock at your office door, which you’d left open in an effort to be available in the lead up to the event.

“Don’t tell me Edgar’s got you working tonight,” Soldier Boy said, walking in when he saw he had your attention.

“The most important night of the year is less than a week away and I still have a to-do list as long as your dick, so, yeah.”

He huffed out a laugh. “Must be pretty busy then.”

“How about you? Where’s Countess?” you asked.

Soldier Boy probably would have sought you out even if Crimson Countess were around, but from what you’d been hearing through Vought’s extensive grapevine, they were in yet another rough patch. Though, it seemed to you like their relationship was one long, extremely rough patch with some calm once in a blue moon. You weren’t afraid to admit to yourself that you ate up the gossip of their relationship like candy, especially when the other members of Payback—including Countess herself—would rant to Edgar about it. Since your office was right next to his, and most supes had little to no sense of subtlety, you could hear just about everything.

“She’s at one of those wildlife charity things, pandas or some bullshit.” He rolled his eyes. “Bitched at me because I wouldn’t go. She won’t be back until Friday.”

“Soldier Boy, I can’t just—“

“Sure you can. I mean, I’m technically your boss too, aren’t I?” he asked. “So, I say there’s no harm in taking a ten, fifteen minute break. Relieve some stress.”

You sighed. It had been a while since you actually got up from your desk. “Alright. Fifteen minutes, tops.”

He grinned. “Now we’re talking. You keep that minibar stocked?”

“Pick your poison.”

“Whiskey?”

“Sure.”

At least, you were pretty sure. The minibar in your office served as a nice gesture for the variety of people who’d come into your office for meetings related to all of the aspects of event planning you were in charge of. Over the past few weeks, though, you’d been reaching for bottles of whatever you could find to relieve the stress. Powdered your nose every so often, but tried not to make that a habit—not that you blamed your coworkers who did. Working at Vought was brutal and demanding, but hell, who else got to work with superheroes? Especially handsome, smarmy assholes who knew just how to fuck the lingering thoughts of any deadline or event planning out of your mind if you played your cards right.

He handed you a shot glass. “What should we toast to?”

“To taking next week off.”

“Yeah? What’ve you got planned?”

You threw back your shot. “Nothing.”

“That’s no fun. How does a few days in Miami sound?”

You nearly scoffed. Of course he could make something like that happen on such short notice. For forty years running he was America’s superhero and Vought’s cash cow. After a night of schmoozing at the investor gala, he could very well clear out his schedule and fuck off for a week of sun, sand, and sex, too.

“I might need some convincing.”

“Then make yourself comfortable,” he said, walking back to the minibar to pour another shot for each of you. Almost comical, he’d have to drink the whole bottle and then some to feel the same way you did after two shots.

You glanced at the open door. “Someone might see.”

“Are you gonna make me repeat myself?”

Sparing the door one more glance, you worked at unbuttoning your blouse, tossing it aside. You shimmied out of your skirt and let it fall to the floor.

“Heels stay on,” he said, his back to you. “Everything else off. Everything.”

With a hesitant huff, you unhooked your bra and pulled off your panties, throwing them in his direction when he turned around with the shot glasses. You made yourself comfortable on top of your desk, pushing some of your belongings aside to accommodate you.

He whistled lowly as you quickly finished off the second shot he gave you. “Look at you sitting pretty for me.” His green eyes burned a hole through you, though your gaze was fixed on the prominent bulge in his pants. He brought his shot glass to your lips. “Drink up, sweetheart.”

And you did, forcing the alcohol down as your vision blurred with tears at the unrelenting burning in the back of your throat. Felt some whiskey dripping from the corners of your mouth when you drained the shot glass. He collected the excess from your lips with his thumb, sucking it clean as he kept his eyes locked with yours.

“See how much fun we have together?” he asked, leaning over you until you laid back on top of your desk. “Could do that all next week.”

He kissed you, hard and mean like you needed him to. Perfect teeth that caught your bottom lip between them for a moment before releasing. Whiskey on his tongue that went to your head even though you knew he could hardly feel it. Rough hands feeling up your breasts, giving your nipples a harsh tug that made you moan in his mouth.

“You’re soaked,” he said, his voice husky as he rubbed his fingers between your slick folds with tantalizingly slow strokes. “If you wanted it, all you had to do was ask.”

“Fuck,” you whispered.

“What was that?”

You groaned in frustration. “Just fuck me already.”

“Don’t have to tell me twice.”

His mouth was on yours again, nearly distracting you from the sound of a zipper, the your gut clenching in anticipation as he pulled his cock from his pants.

It’d been a while since you had to brace yourself to take him, but you were wet, and maybe a little more than tipsy, so your body gave little resistance when he slid his cock inside you. Though, if Soldier Boy were anything, it was a guy who took what he wanted anyway, giving you hardly a second to get used to the feeling of how his cock stretched your pussy before he was pounding into you with harsh, unforgiving thrusts that made you grip the edge of your desk.

Sometimes you forgot how strong he was. Hell, so did he, and there was little else you could do but lay there and take what he gave you. In all honesty, it was nice letting someone else take charge after having to hold it together all day. Let him fuck the stress out of you and replace it with all the aches and bruises that came with having sex with the strongest man on earth.

“Harder,” you forced out, pushing that damn rolodex onto the floor.

“I go any harder, I’m gonna break you in half, and I don’t wanna do that until I’ve got you locked away in a hotel room for a week.”

“What are you gonna do to me?”

“Whatever the fuck I want. Not like I don’t already.”

You moaned. “Soldier Boy—”

“I’m not pulling out, so you better be on the pill or say your damn prayers,” he growled, his hot breath kissing your skin. You were on the pill, but nevertheless your hips bucked at his words, pussy clenching around his cock. “Oh shit, you want that, don’t you?”

“Yes—oh my god!” you cried out, muscles cramping as your orgasm pulsed through you, pleasure stealing your breath, choking you gently enough to leave you dizzy. “Yesyesyes—fuck!” Your heart was beating so fast you thought it was going to explode in your chest, especially as he kept mercilessly pounding into you, chasing his own release.

He soon came with a groan, his cock twitching inside you as he bottomed out, practically knocking the wind out of you with a particularly hard thrust.

You felt empty and sticky when he pulled out, and you didn’t want to think about the poor soul who was gonna be cleaning the mess you and him left behind the following morning, because you sure as hell weren’t in any shape to clean up the cum that was leaking out of you and onto the floor.

You put your hands on your chest, trying to catch your breath as he stood over you. The guy hardly broke a sweat, and you felt like you just ran the New York City Marathon. Super stamina. God fucking bless America.

“Hey,” he said, waving his hand in front of your face. “You good?”

“Sure,” you managed to answer. “Except now I don’t know how I’m gonna walk out of here, let alone get home later.”

“The ride up to the 99th is quicker. And if you need more convincing about Miami—“

You pursed your lips, considering the work you still had left to do before you could reasonably call it a night. But you were tired, and admittedly drunk, and Soldier Boy was already hard again. “I might.”

#soldier boy x reader #soldier boy the boys #the boys x reader #the boys #the boys amazon #the boys tv #the boys soldier boy #the boys imagine #soldier boy imagine #soldier boy smut #im a feminist i promise #but do you ever think about how that man could literally break you in half if he wanted to?

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datcravat · 3 months

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Hey just so you know radical feminists aren't against trans rights, we literally get into fights to defend the human rights of trans people and constantly call out transphobic people who think they belong in the feminist community, they don't. We just make the distinction that women are a social class based on being born female, which is who feminism is for, and fight for our right to single-sex spaces, we literally don't want anyone dead, just our rights respected. Trans people deserve every right as literally every human being does, and radfems aren't against that.

Because I said "FUCK TERFS"? You are either entirely unaware of the damage point-blank excluding trans women from these spaces does to cis and trans women alike, or you know about it but are feigning ignorance in the name of feminism so you can be transphobic. I hate both. Whether you like it or not, your philosophy is extremely harmful to trans lives. Accept that about yourself, disgusting TERF. 👍

This is the only ask about this I will answer so my followers can clearly know my stance.

#ask #transphobia #tw: transphobia #sorry you had to see this everyone!#edit: removed the fuck off. that was immature #i was mad #the disgusting can stay however #as that is factual

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butch-reidentified · 1 year

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I've been frustrated with the beauty hypocrisy on radblr. I seen many posts how radblr say it hates the beauty industry and plastic surgery... Everyone including feminists and radfeminists say shit like "be yourself, be confident, plastic surgery is bad" but as an fat girl since early childhood and without trendy beauty features, I was definitely treated as an unworthy ogre by pretty much the whole world. Radfems on here are like: beauty doesn't matter! if you're fat that means you're ugly and revolting! just accept it and be happy! 😍😌 I hate that everyone trying to make me accept the idea that Im ugly and an ugliest skinny fucktard is attractive by the default... And that im undesirable, that every inch of my body is repulsive and offensive to all the humanity... And if i want to be considered human i need to be at least 60 kg...Radblr says that it hates modern beauty standards but has the same understanding of "beauty" as your typical tasteless male gym rat. Plastic surgery is way more than just "fixing" your ethnic nose. I definately want to change pretty much my whole face in the future. And i know the hypocrites who call me unnatractive now will laugh in my face and tell "just be myself" after the surgeries including all the "i hate beuty industry" feminists. You can't always bully "ugly" people and say you hate plastic surgery at the same time! That's hypocrisy radblr.

Girl idk how many ppl you're gonna send this to but radfems aren't bullying women for their appearances. Do you think all radfems are skinny conventionally attractive white women? Bc that's utterly false and borders on delusional. Plenty of us have embraced body neutrality and are able to exist happily as gnc women, fat women, not conventionally attractive women, etc. Hell, I actively take pride in being unattractive to males. The radfem perspective on this is consistent, sorry to tell ya.

#mine #ask #anon ask #anon #body neutrality

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menalez · 10 months

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This is going to sound mean but I don't believe it when het radfems talk about how good their bfs are. They could be lying. This is the internet, they could be lying or they could be overlooking their bfs misogyny to make a good post. I don't believe your bf is a feminist alley and I think you don't believe it either. You're just telling that to yourself bc some people online hurt your feelings and made you question your decisions. And it's not a nice feeling so you get defensive.

And listen, I personally don't care if you call yourself a radfem and you have a bf. But if you have any knowledge about radical feminism you know we're critical of men, heterosexuality and marriage. Don't come to our spaces and expect full acceptance. We will question you, we even question our own choices. You can't complain about radfems criticizing your relationship when you know what you are getting into. Like coming to a vegan party with meat and expecting people don't look at you weirdly.

I think it's ridiculous some het radfem will come here, see others saying "yes all men" and jump to say "not my bf" because what are the chances you, a random woman, happen to find a good decent man. Come on. Be realistic. Don't expect others to cuddle you. You're heterosexual, if you don't like to be questioned then go outside! There's nothing people love more than a woman happily providing her bf with emotional and sexual labor and saying he's the best man ever!!!

literallyyyyy!!! i’m sorry but every het-partnered woman on here speaks high praises of her boyfriend/husband. like no one on here is like “yeah my boyfriend is somewhat misogynistic and he makes me do most of the housework and uses the word bitch and thinks the pay gap is a myth” or whatever… no he’s always the best man ever who does everything right somehow. i don’t blame them for framing their men in this way because as you said, they’re defensive. but i don’t buy that every het-partnered woman on radblr seems to be dating the same perfect most feminist male possible. i don’t particularly care either bc i’ll never know their amazing boyfriends/husbands anyways, i just don’t get why they have to claim to be radfems at the same time

#anonymous

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littlestpersimmon · 7 months

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Philippine queer communities are existing on the 19th dimension where literally nothing matters. Words with distinction are also just used interchangeably without any policing or discourse. The truth is if a trans man here calls himself lesbian nobody cares. Also for trans fems and feminine men and nonbinary genders there are many words that share ultimately one meaning- approximated as "not cis" (not a very close translation as our indigenous genders can not be equated rigidly to western ideas of transness). When entire identities circle themselves around NOT being something. We've lost the point. When entire groups are more akin to closed religions with a rigid set of rules rather than a community we've lost the point. Maybe try to think about why radfems call themselves separatists. Maybe wonder why it is more acceptable to identify yourself as something you are not over accepting people who have never belonged to a binary in the first place. Anyway.

Mabuhay ang kabaklahan/ long live queer indigenous people forever.

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olderthannetfic · 3 months

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I would never defend them - at least not the ones who actually harass people - but I do wonder if there's some antis out there who genuinely come from good intentions.

Super serious and genuinely shameful confession: I'm an ex-radfem. I went into those circles in the first place bc I liked some of Dworkin's works. And while I obviously do not recommend anyone ever get into radical feminism, I will say this: If haven’t been down that very specific rabbit hole of ideology yourself - especially in online settings - you cannot even begin to imagine how fucking INSANELY pervasive the ideas are. Even if you've been a victim of radfem hate, if you haven't been a radfem yourself, I'm truly inclined to think you have no idea what those spaces are actually like. Sorta like how if you've been a victim of fundie hate, that is awful and it fucking sucks, but if you haven't been raised fundie yourself, you really don't know what it's like to be IN those circles, just a VICTIM of those circles.

I hate to throw around words like “hivemind” or “groupthink” but it is that. I went into radfem spaces thinking that I was above believing certain things that they believed but I clearly wasnt, it is so fucking toxic and that’s why i’ll never believe that “TIRF” (trans inclusionary radfem - something I tried and failed to be) can be a real thing. And then these same people have the audacity to call trans rights a cult, but you know, it's whatever.

Obviously terfs are more serious in the "real world" than antis are, but there are some parallels in the way that both groups feel about kink/porn discourse. (No, I'm not saying that antis "believe TERF ideology" or anything, but I do think in the specific context of sex stuff, there ARE alot of parallels.)

I am not defending radfems either, but I will say that I got into it because I was genuinely worried about things such as: PH and how they just steal content from sex workers, the abuse going on in the sex work industry, the phenomenon of young girls who are waiting to turn 18 so they can start an OF account, romance novels that were not marketed as dark but should've been considering they straight up romanticized abuse and rape.

I really do think that most antis are of a similar mindset -- people, typically young traumatized people (not trying to pull the neurodivergent minor card, it's just that statistically speaking, that label CAN describe most antis) who are truly worried that, like, idk, some young girl is gonna watch Twilight or read Reylo fic and think that an overly possessive bf is #goals. Again, I'm NOT trying to defend this ideology or line of thinking at all, I'm just saying that i DO think most of them really don't realize the harm that they're doing, and actually think they're doing good.

I actually kinda feel bad for them, but like my earlier comparisons, I feel bad for them in the same way I feel bad for fundies or evangelicals. I feel bad that they hold such an awful ideology while thinking they're doing good things, but I stop feeling bad once they start ACTUALLY hurting people and I'll always feel worse for the people who they harass and harm.

And like I'd never want to be a radfem again and I hate that I was one once but, between myself and your ~10k (ballpark estimate lol) followers, I think that my time spend in that belief system gave me some really good insight to cult mindsets, which was something I didn't understand before or have much sympathy towards, and I've emerged with a lot of empathy for people who ARE stuck in bad ideologies. I could've been born into a hate group. I could've been preyed on by alt-right people and sucked in that way. Instead, it was reading radblr during quarantine that got me. Before I fell into it, I just mindlessly hated everyone in that group, and now I just feel sorry for them (still without justifying any of their actions).

It's honestly a really, really, complicated thing to try to grapple with. Anyone, yes including you reading this, can be brainwashed into hate. The second you think you're too good for that, you've lost.

This was more of a vent than a discourse ask. I guess my tl;dr is: I hate antis, terfs, fundamentalists, etc, as much as the next guy, but I also recognize that some of those people truly truly do think they're on the right side of history, and some of those people have been sucked into an ideology they never would've believed otherwise if not for xyz factors. While hate groups will never deserve pity, there are some vulnerable people in hate groups who for some reason believe they're doing good, and I wish I could help all of those people.

Yeah, I assume many antis are perfectly sincere in their desire to protect people. They're just wrong about what will work.

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