#and she was co complex

[dreamchasernina]

Netflix, I don’t know how to tell you this but a woman doesn’t have to be self taught to be a strong female character. It’s ok to let her know her limitation and ask for help. It’s ok to let her get angry, it’s ok to let her be jealous, it’s ok to let your female character have flaws and WORK on them. Your female character doesn’t have to become a master on her own to be memorable, it just makes her accomplishment feel unearned.

#katara was so determined and strong willed #she took no shit from anyone #she was freaking amazing #but she had to train to become the best waterbender in the world #the moves didn’t just come to her in her sleep #and she was co complex #she got angry and jealous but she was still caring and gentle #this katara just felt so one dimensional #atla #avatar: the last airbender #avatar #avatar the last airbender #natla #Netflix #Netflix atla #atla Netflix

[elfcollector]

If you want to cure yourself, I’ll support you.

#skyrim #skyrimedit #tesedit #tes v #serana #dailygaming #gamingedit #vgedit #myedit #myedits #mygif #mygifs #serana and the db continue 2 be so in love #serana volkihar #or should i say SERANA KNIGHTE cos she and daiynn GET MARRIED #they dont officially because serana has complexes abt it but like. in practice. its common law #and serana does literally start using daiynn's last name cos like. daiynn is her family now :) #(delusional abt my serana x db thoughts) #she sounds so quietly relieved when she says 'just like me' serana i love u so much

[scoliosisgoblin]

doodles and some lore. I'm tired.

#Jay does this thing on second dates where he tests the other person #he wants to make sure they'd like all of him. every part of him that may throw others off or realize he's insane #Matt and Jay were friends during high school. dated in college and broke up just before finding out Jay was pregnant #they decided to co-parent Mona and just view one another as friends #Mona really likes Don and Tk. loves Peter. though dislikes Lucy quite a bit because of how much she hears Jay complain about her with Matt #Mona is very close with Jay despite living with Matt and only coming over to Jay during the holidays/some weekends #Jay moved into the complex about a year prior to meeting Peter. he's had 5 roommates since moving in #Lucy has been the worst compared to the rest but is the only one Jay tolerates (since she's young and reminds him of himself. pretransition #Jay and Don hated each other in the beginning. only really bonded over talking shit about a neighbor #and Jay saying “anyway I gotta finish watching the game.” Don saying how he wanted to too but his tv is fucked so they watch together #Tk does have feelings for Jay but Jay just can't take the hint. he simply just thinks he's making jokes and is very kind #Jay really cares about Lucy. he often checks up on her when she's out and buys her dinner if he didn't make anything for them #and she ofc tries to make his life easier by cleaning the apartment making him coffee in the mornings etc etc #also Jay and Don sometimes just talk about marriage. how both of theirs didn't work out (I headcanon that for Don) #how it'd go - Don: I just wish I showed her how much I cared... Jay: I chased mine down with a knife. didn't kill her though. I promise. #Jay also calls Don's kid (the cop) Don Jr. he doesn't mind it that much. it's mainly cause Jay never remembers his name #my art #yb peter #Yb don #Void #Jay #Yb tk #Yb lucy #none of them die btw. Peter kills some guy who treated Jay poorly #the entirety of Jay and Peter's relationship before the abduction takes place over June #I say so cause it was a bit alarming to Tk. Don and Matt how fast Jay was rushing into the relationship and such #anyway uhh idk what else to say

[alexiethymia]

a concept: Lockwood was as jealous of the Skull as Lucy was of Holly during The Hollow Boy

#lockwood and co #lockwood & co #locklyle #anthony lockwood #lucy carlyle #this is not actually a lockwood and co blog #I say as I rush to post something after once again deciding to reread #but anyway perhaps it's something a bit more complex than jealousy #a cocktail of emotions at knowing lucy was getting drawn more toward the side of the dead than the living #there's that added layer of the tv series in that in the first season lucy helps him with his recklessness #and now she's the one engaging in that sort of behavior in THB #but the thing is the nature of their recklessness if different in that #lockwood's is reckless because of his unresolved issues #while lucy becomes reckless because she wants to help the dead she can speak to #which again must complicate things for lockwood #because those that lucy sees as victims #lockwood just sees as evil causes of his sister's death #their talents play into this to #because lucy can hear them she can empathize with them #because lockwood doesn't hear them well or at and because of his exceptional sight #he only sees the ugliest of the Visitors and it's easy for him to forget they were once alive #so there's that 'jealousy' that lucy is spending more on more time on the entities who killed his sister #which causes her to put her own life in more danger as a result #resulting in lockwood getting angrier at her especially when he thinks she's missing the point by focusing on holly #and it's just a never ending cycle of them being angry at each other without fully understanding the other person's reasons #and irony of ironies #when (not if) we get a season 2 #lockwood will feel the full force of what lucy felt this season because of his jump of a cliff tendencies #books #tv

[spaceratprodigy]

thinking so many thoughts abt iris fresh out of the vault so scared, confused, vulnerable, alone, grief about to hit in full force, and still malleable, just for poppy to be the first person to find her and she has iris wrapped around her finger for a while

#thinking lots of gut-wrenching thoughts to make miss ma'ams mental state even worse this early in her story #also to help solidify some details for funsies + actually develop the poppyiris dynamic and the complexities that come with it #was even thinking abt them both being the ones to give the other their face scars #plus I can have fun with iris's design bc I decided her fresh out the vault look is one of her older iterations from way back when– #and her current look is after she meets and becomes closer with nicky and he cuts her hair for her :] #I love rambling abt iris bc I just /don't/ talk abt her in depth beyond a select few close friends lmao so like iykyk I guess #I just have SO many new ideas since thinking up poppy being iris's first companion bc it just hurts so fucking good #also random nonsense that only I care abt: #a few weeks ago went bananas over imaging them playing co-op vampire survivors bc likeeee #the implications of iris picking luminaire foscari and poppy picking genevieve gruyere.. #oooo ooouuuoughoughhhgggggoougggh #rambling #miss ma'am iris is that you #poppy

[batgeance]

god bruce fucking hates talking to wayne execs and financial advisors

#i cannot stress enough that he is a terrible businessman right now #he wants nothing to do with wayne co he wants nothing to do with anyone who 'works for him' #he wants the batman. he wants gotham. he wants 'justice' which he THINKS he can get simply by being the batman #i always think about his conversation with selina #where she literally clocks his privilege and calls him on it #because he turns his scope too wide thinking he's got the details in frame #when in fact he's got no idea #his relationship with his brother is beginning to help but only barely right now #had they the chance i think selina COULD have influence on him but that ain't happening LMAO #so right now as i have said too many times before. he's got bat glasses on #bruce needs to be on that one show #where the rich boss works as the part time employee for a week or whatever #it's always so funny to me how he claims gotham as his #and how well he knows the city (because he does know the city) #and yet he doesn't know SHIT. not REALLY. #like pack it up white savior complex get a real job DAMN #one day......one day he will become Bruce Wayne. #but right now he's just bruce. and he's barely that. he's barely the batman!!!! it'll be his four year anniversary coming up actually #of being the bat :o) #how cute........pathetic little guy

[lithopsy]

i feel like we are in the middle of a huge cultural conversation surrounding the reality of child exploitation in the entertainment industry.. so it’s funny,,,, when taylor swift describes very clear child exploitation that she very much did experience in one of her songs everyone is taking it super literally… and assuming that she’s referring to her family’s little christmas tree farm as an asylum and we’re laughing and calling her silly

#606.txt #also i know it’s hard to acknowledge that she is a victim when her victim complex is a valid criticism of her #and her public persona #and like i get it we don’t have to have empathy for a billionaire #but we could also stand to be a little less fucking dense lmao #also insane how people who hate her will willfully misinterpret her lyrics while people that love her (derogatory) also #seem to miss the point #like who is she writing for anymore my gd #me and my four lesbian friends that listen to her music and seem to understand it?? #this album cycle has been one of the worst ever in my life #and i have been a fan since debut #also something to be said about how christy carlson romano is 100% so right that #the quiet on set (and co) style of reporting on these issues is just trauma tourism #no one actually gives a shit or is thinking about these celebrities stories in a nuanced way #taylor has written some of the most heartbreaking songs in the past few years explicitly about exploitation in her career and personal life #and those songs are never discussed outside the lens of ‘omg who do u think this about??’ #it’s yucky! #anyway i’ll shut up i’ve got to get normal

[byooregard]

thinking about how in haru's persona awakening milady tells her that "freedom, for you, can only stem from betrayal" and then three weeks later the game is like haru is really sad about her dads death because she loved him and he was good, at one point

#good haru confidante arc in my head is likr #Harus dad is dead but him being Dead makes it so much harder to have complex feelings about him #Maybe she feels freer but she feels guilty about that #Maybe she wonders what would have happened if his heart had been changed #Maybe there's no use wondering if he'd have become better cause he never would have become better on his Own #Hmm thats another thing that doesn't get explored cos akechi dies and madarame goes to jail likr. #How do you deal with a parent who's heart has been changed cos its like. I can never truly trust you because you're only good now since #We Ripped the bad parts out #And like. Is someone who's hearts been changed Perfectly Good now? #Futabas palace suggests it only removes the specific distortion #Im normal. #p5 #cleb talky

[partynthem]

something has been happeniung to me lately

#gay feelings... incited by two of my coworkers.... #one is this tech whos so aloof and stone and has such archetypal masculine energy. i've never seen her express an emotion it's so hot #i am always. wanting to stand out to her. and feeling self conscious when she's around. and delighted when she knows anything abt me #like. it's bad.. the other day she just asked me to grab something off a high shelf and was like 'cos youre taller than me' #why did that simple statement of fact get to me so much. i'm only maybe an inch taller than her like i hadnt even realized i was taller #maybe she also seems taller to me bc of her crazy dyke energy #and the other is one of the vets at my hospital whos a 60yr old lesbian that just.. do i want her or want to be her or want her to adopt me #it's so confusing... i've been dealing w my complex feelings towards my mother all year and this vet is so... i just don't know.... #i was texting her almost every day abt my cat before she passed and she was so kind and helpful and warm and ughhhhhhhhhhhhh #she's genuinely one of the most compassionate and intelligent people i've ever met and her being an elder lesbian... it gets to me #my rubber band ball of emotions is so out of wack rn. 2024 get me some gay attention and affection please i'm in need

[rmorde]

It's fucking wild to see someone defend Mei Mei and demand people to blame Gege instead for her pedophilia and grooming.

WTF?

If you love a dark character, then accept everything that they are in the story. Mei Mei is one. She is a side character that is dark despite being on the heroes' side of the fight.

I appreciate what Gege had done to her character. I like it because thru her we see how rotten the modern jujutsu society is - that the heroes' side is not exactly great especially with the likes of Gojo and Nanami being gone.

A lot of people already pointed out that Mei is used as a foil for Nanami. I agree. She is everything he is not: - Nanami left stock trading. Mei is doing insider trading. - Nanami fights for the greater good. Mei is only in it for the paycheck. - Nanami protects children. Mei exploits children. - Nanami continues to fight even if he is half-dead. Mei retreats even if she is still perfectly fine. - Nanami has morals. Mei is immoral.

But why did someone good (Nanami) die a horrible death while someone bad (Mei Mei) got rewarded (practically highlighted with her escaping to Malaysia -which was Nanami's dream retirement place)? It's to highlight how broken and bleak jujutsu society is - bad people benefit but good people suffer. It also shows how the only difference between the sorcerers (sans our "heroes") and the curse users are just rule compliance and pay checks.

Speaking of which:

What Mei Mei is doing to Ui Ui is exactly like what that Granny Seance did to her Tojified Grandson. Both women are grooming boys younger than they into perfect tools to complement their CTs. They don't see them as brother or grandson respectively. Those words are mere "titles". It's like how you would call an giant axe "Axe" and straw dolls "Dolls."

Mei is the perfect example of what a peak sorcerer is in modern jujutsu society - strong and smart but selfish, self-absorbed, exploitative, and immoral.

I like Mei for what she delivers in the story: 1) A very dark character that represents the rotten core of the jujutsu society. 2) A complex female character - she is on your side but she is definitely not an ally you'd want. However, you need all the help you can get so you are forced to accept her but deep down you want her to get some comeuppance for all she's been doing. 3) Despite her... Mei-ness, she still has a really cool character design and powers as well as really badass scenes. 4) An excellent foil to Nanami (and maybe even Gojo if I stretch it a bit). 5) A great reminder that with the exception of the sorcerers within Gojo's close circle (Tokyo Tech staff/alumni + Utahime & her students), sorcerers are absolute scumbags. Mei's principle is pretty similar to Sukuna's! They're all about: Me, Myself, and I living it up and having fun at everyone's expense.

6) She is the closest I could get to a "villainess" in JJK. The villains in JJK is male-dominated with 2 gender-neutrals (Hanami + Uraume). Geto's family has very little screen time for me to get something out of them (Lady Secretary, Nanako & Mimiko). Yeah it's shonen but still... Gege is starving me with good villainesses 😭.

So TLDR: Mei Mei is not defensible but feel free to like/love her anyway. Being a fan of villains or dark characters is not a representation of a person's morals after all. Do not blame Gege for using her as a narrative tool to remind people again ( because we have to admit that we always kinda forget): the world of JJK is unfair and it really fucking sucks being a nice person there. Not that Gege is a perfect writer at all. There are plenty of other stuff to be angry about in his work like the pacing for example or the underutilization of interesting side characters or the story being so "scattered" into various mediums.

#sorry for the rant #it was just such a wild 'defense' #it was just pure wtf for me #blame the author for making a dark character? #what? this is a horror manga #characters like that is a given #gege just shook things up because it turns out one of the heroes' allies has very dark morality #i think maybe the reasons gojo and nanami and co. have not done anything about ui ui's situation are: #first - there really isn't anything they can do coz mei already has excellent control over him. ui ui won't allow himself to be 'saved' #second - mei hid her grooming very well and no one was aware of it #third - they can't be choosy w/ their allies coz of how few sorcerers are. they let her be so she stays a sorcerer AND NOT A CURSE USER. #i could also talk about in here the insane hot take that 'gojo is a groomer' and that's just no just fucking no wtf is even that take?! #but that ridiculous take is another whole can of worms that i seriously don't wanna get into rn #even if it is one of my pet peeves along with 'gojo has god complex' & 'yuki is at fault for geto mass killing' & the weirdest of all: #'geto was not really trying to kill gojo and his allies and his students' hot take... DID WE EVEN WATCH THE SAME MOVIE?! I SWEAR I aflkhdfa

[orangerosebush]

The Hulme poem reminds me of when my family was going through my late grandmother's belongings, which included a few marked up Bibles due to her having been devoutly religious in her personal life and in her involvement with the Church. The annotation I will never forget was on the famous Leviticus 18:22 section. She simply had written, "Love beats Leviticus".

#As all people are she was very complex #but I will always remember her as one of the most authentically non-judgemental people I have ever known #She took her faith very seriously -- just as she did her acceptance of the way I am; my sibling is; and my aunt and her wife are #her faith in her religion and her faith in her loved ones were compatible and co-existing

[dungeons-and-dragon-age]

fighting styles

got tagged by @drunken-drengr! :) I know i've done this at some point but idr who i did it for or what i answered lol, so imma do it for both my Hawkes! Cos they are On The Brain

tagging @brainworm-terrarium, @a-drama-addict, @elfrootsalad, @creativegoblin, @blueheaded, @grimelven, @lostwonderlandgirl, @fade-touched-shenanigans, @iijas-nest, @andnatiabrosca, and anyone else who wants to (as always no pressure of course)! :3

Liam Hawke

Bold what applies.

fight honorably / fight dirty / prefer close-quarters / prefer range / chat during / go silent / low pain tolerance / high pain tolerance / attack in bursts / attack steadily / go for the kill / aim to disarm / fight defensively / strike first / provoked easily / provoke their opponent / tease / get visibly frustrated / shout while attacking / use strategy / focus on their battle / experience conflicting thoughts during battle / rush in recklessly / try to read their opponent before fighting / fight wildly / fight calmly and or apathetically / fight with anger / fight with excitement / fight because they have to / fight because they want to / fight without regard to wounds / run away when wounded / hide wounds / take a blow to protect another / prefer a blade / prefer to use their abilities / prefer a bow / prefer a shield / prefer a pole arm  / prefer a personalized weapon / prefer magic or spells / prefer brawling / their greatest weakness is physical / their greatest weakness is mental / their greatest weakness is emotional / transform for battle / fight as they appear / rely on strength / rely on speed / use everything they have / hide their full potential / exhaust quickly / high stamina / doubt their strength / proceed with caution / behave arrogantly / brag after landing a hit / belittle their abilities / use psychological tactics / use brute strength / avoid civilians / strike down civilians / damage surroundings / avoid damaging surroundings / signature fighting style / making it up as they go / mastered skillset / learning their skillset / fancy footwork / sloppy footwork / messy fighter / elegant fighter / accept defeat / refuse defeat / beg for mercy / compliment their opponent / insult their opponent  / use unnecessary movements / move efficiently / barely move / prefer to dodge / prefer to block / defend their blindside / has no blindside / use all available advantages / strictly use one main method / play around / hold back / fight ruthlessly / show mercy if possible / wait for opponent to be ready / strike when opponent isn’t ready / fear death / fear pain / fear killing / has PTSD / avoid fighting / has lost a fight / has won a fight / has killed / refuses to kill / wants to die standing / would succumb slowly

Lilian Hawke

Bold what applies.

fight honorably / fight dirty / prefer close-quarters / prefer range / chat during / go silent / low pain tolerance / high pain tolerance / attack in bursts / attack steadily / go for the kill / aim to disarm / fight defensively / strike first / provoked easily / provoke their opponent / tease / get visibly frustrated / shout while attacking / use strategy / focus on their battle / experience conflicting thoughts during battle / rush in recklessly / try to read their opponent before fighting / fight wildly / fight calmly and or apathetically / fight with anger / fight with excitement / fight because they have to / fight because they want to / fight without regard to wounds / run away when wounded / hide wounds / take a blow to protect another / prefer a blade / prefer to use their abilities / prefer a bow / prefer a shield / prefer a pole arm  / prefer a personalized weapon / prefer magic or spells / prefer brawling / their greatest weakness is physical / their greatest weakness is mental / their greatest weakness is emotional / transform for battle / fight as they appear / rely on strength / rely on speed / use everything they have / hide their full potential / exhaust quickly / high stamina / doubt their strength / proceed with caution / behave arrogantly / brag after landing a hit / belittle their abilities / use psychological tactics / use brute strength / avoid civilians / strike down civilians / damage surroundings / avoid damaging surroundings / signature fighting style / making it up as they go / mastered skillset / learning their skillset / fancy footwork / sloppy footwork / messy fighter / elegant fighter / accept defeat / refuse defeat / beg for mercy / compliment their opponent / insult their opponent  / use unnecessary movements / move efficiently / barely move / prefer to dodge / prefer to block / defend their blindside / has no blindside / use all available advantages / strictly use one main method / play around / hold back / fight ruthlessly / show mercy if possible / wait for opponent to be ready / strike when opponent isn’t ready / fear death / fear pain / fear killing / has PTSD / avoid fighting / has lost a fight / has won a fight / has killed / refuses to kill / wants to die standing / would succumb slowly

#lilian ended up getting lots of stuff bolded cos it depends a lot #and bc shes got more complex/varied feelings about it than liam #who really would rather just not do it at all #also side note i kinda hc in general that killing is a *lot* less common than the games make it seem lol #like defeating =/= killing yk #oc: liam hawke #oc: lilian hawke #my ocs #oc meme #also in this case was thinking ptsd specifically regarding fighting if that makes sense #which tbh lilian probably has to lol but liam deefinitely has #anyways im rambling again #ty again for the tag! <3

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

ulf the orange is a good character and actually very complex when you don't have a bitch in ya ear tellin you she's an evil manipulative hoebag

#botbots tag 🏪 #ulf the orange #transformers botbots #botbots #tf botbots #“are you gonna be salty about the way the fandom treats ulf until season 2 comes out and she has a character arc” YES #this is an ulf stan account. like im the ceo of steak cuts but i am ALSO the ceo of being really fucking nice to ulf all the time #if the world is against ulf the orange i am against the world #again. this doesnt mean you cant critique her character and the things she says because I DO THAT #and YES she CAN be very mean #but “i dont think ulf deserves the demonising she gets from fans” and “ulf has said some very unfavourable things” #are statements that Can And Do and Will co-exist #you guys are just afraid of complex female characters that didnt get a lot of screentime and therefore lacked an arc #because i see next to Nobody talking about how burgertron was a little bitch to the lost bots #but when ULF does it you guys get out the pitchforks #and again. y'all love lolly licks for being a mean girl bc “she's funny” #but suddenly when a girl character is mean and it's not funny and there's lore and potential depth 2 be explored y'all dont like that 😐 #fandom discourse #<- does this count as discourse???? it's BotBots. #i shouldnt have to tag fandom discourse. for BOTBOTS #y'all make me tag some of the dumbest shit for this fandom /LOVINGLY

[pub-lius]

my biggest problem with a people’s history of the french revolution by eric hazan is that he keeps like. implying that lafayette defected to the enemy (meaning Austria and Prussia), but like. mf was immediately arrested bc he was seen as the cause of the revolution. the only people who saw him as a conservative were in france

#marquis de lafayette #lafayette #lowkey feel like the french revolution has so many figures who are misrepresented by people bc they were more conservative/liberal #like robespierre got the same treatment as lafayette but like reversed #i feel like the american revolution wasn’t so controversial as to have the same effect #and on top of that people have been working since it happened to counter balance whenever that happened #obviously some figures are still glorified but like there’s always been a lot of historians treating them as less one dimensional #but based off the books i’ve read about the frev at least one party is portrayed as one dimensional #and they’re always the villain too #like no one in the frev is overglorified GWKWBWKWN #they’re either a complex person or a one dimensional villain #like hazan shows different elements of robespierre’s character but doesn’t do the same to lafayette #the last author i read (forgor her name lol) showed all parts of marie antoinette and king louis’ characters #she did touch on robespierre a little bit showing his qualities but she didn’t go in depth on any of the revolutionaries really #but like brissot and co were portrayed as just bad guys who never did anything good ever #idk im just kinda used to authors at least attempting to show good and bad #even if its just ‘one time he helped an old lady cross the street and then he slaughtered someone’s entire family’ #no hate to hazan tho this book is awesome #i just wish it wasn’t trying to push such a black and white narrative in this particular instance #for the most part he doesn’t do it with anything else #but tbf i did start reading this bc i needed a more leftist sympathetic book to counteract the strongly royalist one i read before #imma tag this as #books #and #resources #in case anyone wants my thoughts on this book #this rant was longer than anticipated HEKWHWJ

[dandeyrain]

stereotypical barbie spends the film defining herself by what she is not; she's not intelligent like the barbies that win nobel prizes or a leader like the barbie that's president. she's exceptional, like all the barbies, but only to the extent that she is really, really traditionally attractive. her job isn't to make plans or to make changes, it's just to Be A Pretty Object. because it's all she's known and because being a pretty object and nothing else has secured her place in society, she thinks she wants that!

the whole movie is barbie learning that actually, she wants to be more than a pretty object! she doesn't want to just be a Platonic Ideal Of Acceptable Kinds Of Beauty. she wants to age! she wants to have ideas, not be one! she wants to be a person, not just a beautiful woman.

i get why barbie collectors or hyperfem people wanted her to stay a pretty, hyperfem, traditionally attractive barbie and nothing else. i love a lot about that kind of aesthetic! i love my dressed up dolls! but the idea that there's any satisfying end to the movie where greta gerwig pats stereotypical barbie (and therefor the audience) on the back and says, "just stay a pretty object. that's great!" is kind of nuts to me. greta gerwig was never going to make that kind of movie

#rain speaking! #does this make sense #barbie movie spoilers #like this isnt to say that u cant be hyperfem and competent. most of the other barbies are! #but i see ppl talking about how barbie should have just stayed traditional barbie and it feels kind of nuts #that just doesnt track onto the rest of the movie at ALL. if she was staying a barbie shed have 2 be a VERY different kind #stereotypical barbie is Traditional Femininity And Nothing Else PERSONIFIED and i for one think its awesome that she chose #to be something else #its also crazy to me cos like. gretas whole thing is holding complex ideas about womanhood next 2 each other #'i hate that women are defined by romantic love and nothing else AND ALSO i want romantic love!' is a huge one for jo #'femininity is cool and powerful and beautiful and can ALSO be a tool that limits women in major ways' is the big one for barbie

[thatwitchrevan]

The thing about armchair diagnosing cis people as trans is that if you accept that everyone's understanding of gender is deeply personal and that you shouldn't tell someone they're not trans or not trans in the right way, you should also accept that you can't tell someone they are trans or that they're not cis in the right way. Or that they have to either identify as trans or cis.

These are all just words and there's never any excuse to argue with someone over who they are.

I don't think most people are genuinely trying to overrule the 'cis in a gnc way' perspective but even being flippant about it is not helpful. Also I think cis people talking about gender in complex and fun ways is very cool.

#everyone is allowed to have their own gender #it's not like 'trans people get to do whatever they want and cis are boring and default' #cis just means you generally identify with the gender you were assigned or don't strongly identify with something else #not that you never think about what gender means to you or that you think you're a woman BECAUSE you have a certain body #everyone is capable of understanding the difference between sex and societal gender roles and gender identity #if we try to say that only trans people have this forbidden knowledge that's just another way of alienating ourselves #and suppressing discussion of gender #gender things #anyway i said this bc i was watching a video essay about transness in horror #and she talked about a mangaka who writes trans narratives and has this really complex relationship with his own gender #but doesn't openly identify as trans #and i think we will lose a lot of interesting stories and people if we tell cis people to either be quiet about gender identity or be trans #and i know it's like. 'no one's telling them to shut up they're the majority' #yeah yeah but like. being cis is such an ephemeral state of being #you could just as easily not be cis within a moment #so it makes no sense to me to act like every cos person individually is An Oppressor #they're literally not they're just other people under the same stupid capitalist imperialist society as us #that wants them to be stuffed into tiny marketable boxes just as much as it wants us to be #so not they're not an elevated class and they're not barred from the table #the reason we have community is for support and understanding but some cis people support and understand us and some trans people don't #everything has nuance #anyway i want to engage less with labels and more with people and let them tell me who they are