#after they quit their job

[transmascissues]

today, my coworkers’ refusal to see me as a man put one of our patients in a position where they felt unsafe for the third time. i’ve been at this job for less than two months total. i don’t even care about getting misgendered anymore, i just want the people we’re supposed to be taking care of to feel comfortable around me.

i work at a hospital where we have to supervise our patients in a lot of vulnerable situations. there are safeguarding rules in place for certain things that male employees aren’t allowed to be present for when it comes to female patients. and yet, the people training me and telling me what to do have repeatedly put me in situations where i’ve been forced to do things that the female patients aren’t comfortable with me doing. and because they have repeatedly failed to teach me the rules for doing my job as a man, i have no way of knowing when i’m crossing one of those lines unless one of the patients tells me.

i’ve had to watch a victim of SA stare at me in abject terror as my coworkers asked her to strip naked with me still in the room. it took several minutes for her to even be able to speak enough to ask if i could leave the room. i found out after that she broke down crying the moment i walked out. my biggest regret is that i didn’t realize what was happening fast enough to leave before she ever had to say something, because she shouldn’t have had to say it. i never should’ve been allowed in the room in the first place, because that’s not something male employees are supposed to be present for. but i didn’t know that yet, because i was training and i thought surely, they wouldn’t train me to do something that directly violated their own safeguarding rules. that moment was the first time, and it’s haunted me ever since, but it wasn’t the last time. not only did it happen for the third time today — it almost happened for the fourth, and would have if someone hadn’t spoken up to say they should pick someone else. i care for these people so deeply, it’s why i took this job, and i’m so tired of hearing the fear in their voices when they have to ask me not to do something i never should’ve been told to do.

i’m very used to the personal discomfort of being misgendered. i willingly deal with it a lot at work as well as in other situations, not because i’m in the closet (at this point in my medical transition that would be impossible), but because it’s such a frequent occurrence with my coworkers that we would never get anything done if i took the time to correct them every time. but to see it get to the point of causing such visceral discomfort in other people? people i’m supposed to be taking care of and keeping safe? that’s something else entirely, and i’m fucking exhausted.

and after all of that, some of them still look at me like i have two heads when they tell me what to do and i say “i can’t do that, only female employees can” because i’m learning now. clearly i’m already seen as a man by our patients, but my coworkers would still rather put them in an unsafe situation than just train me as a man.

#to be clear it’s four different things they’ve asked me to do that im not supposed to #as soon as i find out about one rule they ask me to violate a different one that i didn’t know about #i will never ever forget that girl’s face and i’ll never stop being angry for her #for all three of them but especially her #i hate my coworkers for a million different reasons #the patients are the only reason i didn’t quit this job after the first day #i just want to do right by them and sometimes it feels like i’m the only one working there who does #it kills me because the patients who know im trans have been so great about it too #most of them know nothing about trans people but they’re so willing to learn and so respectful and we’ve had such great conversations #they’re getting fucked over by someone else’s transphobia when they themselves don’t have a single transphobic bone in their bodies #i hate this place because i care about the people in it too much to stand by the way it treats them and it’s killing me #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

[o-vera-nalyzing]

look i know the most likely option for why kipperlilly hates riz specifically is that he like has amazing grades and good friends and is one of agueforts faves while like chronically skipping class and breaking the rules (and laws) but i also have 18 stupid ass reasons i wrote down from rewatching s1 that i think are funnier

#i have not stopped thinking about her mentioning him in counseling since we learned ab it clearly #i also wanna know if it was before or after gibbons died caus it would be really fucking funny if it was quite literally the first day #also it’s crazy she felt comfortable talking to jawbone about all that considering the bad kids basically got him the job #thought i think jawbone would very much understand anger issues and feeling unfairly treated in the system ngl #anyways #fhjy spoilers #d20 fhjy #fantasy high #fhjy #kipperlilly copperkettle #riz gukgak #jawbone o'shaughnessey #original overanalyzing

[entranova]

Dang. Finn has been fully messed up since Jake died, hasn't he?

Like the way he's all "let's go on an adventure!!" and " it's no probs, I love fixing people :D" like s i r...

#fionna and cake #adventure time fionna and cake #finn mertens #finn the human #finn and jake #jake the dog #simon petrikov #adventure time #like damn #Obviously we knew he was NOT ok after Jake died (see: together again)- #-but BOY does it hits different seeing it actually play out #Bc obviously Finn is a lot younger when we see him than when he died so... #Poor guy honestly #Like he's acting all “:DDD” b he is so clearly running at top speed towards his problems hoping they'll take him down #his behavior actually parallels Fionna (which. Yeah that makes sense) #Very self destructive behavior #From both of them #(Finn going on more and more dangerous adventures and just being very reckless with himself) #(And Fionna quitting her jobs over the smallest things and stuff)

[poop-flying]

realised I haven’t been showing off my new guys on the showing off new guys site so here’s a new guy I got this afternoon! he quit his job to join a pirate crew and his name is Unnamed until further notice

#i donch have lore except the quit his job I thought that was funny #he him pronouns a placeholder for now #Shann talks shit #dragon share #flight rising #the interesting AH dragons thread is dangerous btw this is maybe the 20th dragon I’ve gotten from there #maybe 30th #who knows #I’ve got three other pirate dragons so we’ll see how this goes #I’ve been on an Arthurian kick lately. Maybe I’ll post the dragons I’ve named after knights #for now. look at this guy

[ambeauty]

I don’t need a jealous Syd. What I need is Carmy constantly picking the restaurant (Sydney) over Claire. If they stay together after the fridgecident until Claire realizes that maybe the restaurant (Sydney) is really what he cares about and maybe she forced herself on a person who she thought she knew but really doesn’t know at all. It might be a nasty breakup because Carmy doesn’t realize why giving all of his focus and attention to the restaurant (Sydney) is a problem and he’s just trying to please the both of them and if Claire doesn’t get that then maybe she should leave him alone. Claire is like this is not about the restaurant. It’s never been about the restaurant. It’s always been about Sydney….

#Hehehehe🤭🤭🤭 #I really don’t see anything messy and dramatic like this happening #but all s2 was quite messy and dramatic #also after this that’s when Carmen starts to blatantly realize it’s always been Sydney #sydcarmy #the Bear s3 delusions #like if we gonna have to sit with Claire again give her a backbone PLEASE #make her realize she was wrong for inserting herself into a situationship #yall stay trying to make Sydney this scorned woman when she just tryna do her job #sydney adamu #carmy berzatto #Claire no last name

[perplexingly]

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#in case anyone’s wondering whats been going on with me #i have now officially quit my job #still need to work till the end of the month though #idk what to do with my life after now that game industry is doing so bad…..

[uncriticalbunny]

sydney and carmy have such a deranged dynamic so it's very funny when people try to put them in a "professional coworkers" box like bffr nothing about their relationship is professional

#sydcarmy #do you hand the reins of the restaurant your late brother left you over to the coworker you've known for only a few weeks/months #do you run your hands delicately along an item your coworker left behind after you were an asshole to her and caused her to quit #do you text your coworker first to calm your nerves before opening up your late brother's last message to you #do you have a panic attack where only your coworker's image and words can soothe you when the gf you love didn't #do you go back to the job you quit to pick up your last check and end up accepting your coworker's proposal to open up a new restaurant #do you tell your coworker to clearly define whether his gf is actually his gf #do you joyfully hug your coworker first after a do or d-e situation that your restaurant's success hinged on #do you gulp awkwardly and try to compose yourself after a tender convo with your coworker where you were open abt your fears #if you do all of that with your coworker well i have news for you!! #and i've called HR they're on the way #still sitting back and observing #...i scream into the void as i write yet another post about sydney/sydcarmy #text

[desceros]

soooo in order to keep y'all from sitting on the edge of your seats, i decided to put together a bit of a february road map. uh. such as i'm capable of having one, barring me being thwacked in the head by an idea i simply MUST get out, ahahhaa!

feb 14: leo valentine's day one-shot

feb 19: super secret project that definitely isn't a present for my roommate's birthday

feb... sometime: symphony 24 (will likely be before the other dates, depends on how quickly i can get them finished!)

feb 27: ...dont worry about it

late feb: donnie didn't mean to do that but well he's here now

late feb again, if i have time fingers crossed: symphony 25

march 1: mating season event

#text tag #dates are post dates not start working on dates. for clarity hahaha. i've started working on the leo one already #fingers crossed i'll have it finished...tomorrow? maybe day after? then i can start working on roomie bday thing I MEAN Definitely Not That #which... if i get finished quickly... means symphony 24. Fwah! so many irons in the fire!!!! #quick. someone pay me to write fanfiction so i can quit my job and write all day!!!! #EDIT I FORGOT ONE

[that-wildwolf]

Garrus met Shepard, immediately quit C-Sec to follow her, and proceeded to wear his C-Sec uniform for the entire game???? Fucking guy of all time.

#wild rambles #mass effect #he's so weird i love him #and yes you can change their outfits in me1 WHATEVER #he wears his uniform after quitting the job and it's funny

[oifaaa]

Alfred has such an "I didn't sign up for this" vibe but he's had several chances to just leave at this point. I could totally see him coming back to life and being just as mad as Jason for petty reasons.

Sure, he has legitimate gripes with the Batfamily. He might have felt pressured into parenting Bruce, who I'm sure was a difficult child. Maybe he thought Bruce had nowhere better to go. Once Bruce was an adult, however, he was home free. I'm sure Bruce would have given him a generous retirement package.

So, yeah, petty villain Alfred when?

At the same time tho I don't see alfred as being a good (as in interesting) villain someone else sent me an ask that I can't find but they said alfred gives off Jacob rees-mogg vibes which yeah evil alfred is just a member of the UK Conservative party which like currently good alfred is also apart of the Conservative party (tho do find people's arguments that he a Blair lib dem very convincing) so maybe evil alfred is actually a member of reform UK

#ask #thejeweloftheworld #i think its also funny that yeah alfred didnt want to look after Bruce #its been mentioned in a couple different comics that alfred was going to quit his job at wayne Manor #before the waynes died and he felt he had to look after their child #which nah bro Leslie is here hes good go back to england #also off topic #but i was recently rudely reminded about how poor i am #so might start linking my kofi account more #mmmm maybe #funnily enough my current situation is also bc of the shitty english conservates #hahaha i hate it here

[somecunttookmyurl]

all the while society conflates "being an adult" with "having a proper job" and "having money to make arbitrary Adult Purchases" disabled people who can't work - or can only work part time or can only do entry level baby jobs - will never be 'allowed' to be adults

you can say "being an adult is looking after yourself you don't have to have a job!!!" all you want but most people who say that will still assume anybody who doesn't either can't or won't 'look after themselves' actually. and every 'marker' of 'adulthood' that's observable and thus actually counts or whatever loops back around to... having a job and 'contributing' something

#yeah i have netflix on all day #i am quite literally signed off of work for the -rest of my life- #what the fuck else would you like me to do with my time when most people are in fact at work #or did you think i can't have the tv on and put laundry away at the same time or something #must i work on commissions on silence in a dour room to be perceived as an adult #anyway 'looking after yourself/your home/your pet' is not observable #to anybody who doesn't like ACTUALLY live in your house #unless you are extremely obviously NOT doing it #if a tree falls in a forest etc #owning a house? job. like not even 'in this economy? lol' #disabled people LITERALLY can't because we aren't allowed to have enough savings for a deposit #car? would you honestly trust me with a vehicle lol but also: job #you mostly cannot buy a car without one it's a requirement for the lease #otherwise you aren't 'trusted' to pay it on time #incidentally most landlords will also - perfectly legally - refuse to rent to you because you are going to be unreliable with the rent #which is being paid directly by the gov anyway like take your trust issues up with them bro #a family? if i get married or cohabit with a partner my income gets sliced in half #so to support even myself let alone a child would require. drumroll please. employment #savings? adults have savings right? yeah but unlike you i have a gov enforced cap on mine #'good furniture not shit from ikea' (someone has remarked that ikea furniture is 'college dorm-y' it's going here) #i mean do i have to say it

[pushing500]

Candlelight and Barghest are coping with their flu misadventures by discussing catastrophic disasters, and Kaz is just shouting across the hospital at Zonovo about weaponry.

Wookshys is making friends with Kawoo's dad, Brines, by the river (there's a bathing spot set up on the other side of the bridge from the fishing spot). I guess Brines must have missed the memo that we don't like Wookshys in this colony.

I'm grateful for the animals' help around my colony, I'm just saying I don't know if the murder-blade-dog-monster is a good candidate for carrying the baby around, is all.

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#rimworld #gracie plays #art #my art #traditional art #rimworld art #unpolished art #I'm going to blame the flu for Kaz being inconsiderate #I like to think he's a very polite person usually #Definitely not the type to yell about hatchets in a hospital where other people are trying to sleep #Good job Candlelight for just quietly whispering to the person next to you #Fun fact: Wookshys and Kawoo's dad (Brines) both have the fisherman trait #Maybe Wookshys has found an actual real-life friend after all #more's the pity #I do think that Bartholomew the ripper hound taking care of baby Andy is quite sweet really #It just made me do a double take the first time I saw it #Thought Bartholomew was gonna eat the baby #Baby Andy has gotten immunity from his flu in case anybody was concerned #Albina used her “word of immunity” psycast to speed it up #She's a very handy colonist to have around #The Animist Alliance

[thresholdbb]

Sometimes you just sit in a room while Kate reads to you

#listen my entire paycheck from my two-week working stint went towards this trip #yes I had a job I quit after two weeks I am a hot mess #I doubt she'll come back next year so it was a rare opportunity and I jumped on it #I'm financially irresponsible but it was worth it #was teetering on overstimulated too #I have videos from this but #there were a couple points where she got emotional and it was very moving #still just want to gush about it but now I'm all alone again #seems like she's looking directly into my soul in that first pic #I'll always have the memory of her touching me 3 separate times I cryyy

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

Since the Neighborhood are adventurers, I'd like to imagine they travel by sea a fair amount of times too! A nice boat trip while occasionally breaking out into a sea shanty, eh? (And for gits and shiggles, to keep up with the whole.. Eddie in water joke, I imagine the poor guy is clumsy enough to go overboard. He may not be unconscious during it, but it wouldn't make it any less funny with the group desperately trying to pull him back aboard-)

OH OH OH allow to ramble at length about this!!! what an idea!!! i fucking love boats & the ocean & being on the water so this ask is checking all my boxes rn

first i imagine that the length of their trips varies wildly, along with the quality due to the glorious variation in weather & bodies of water. and i'm choosing to believe this universe uses tall ships instead of like... fantasy steam ships. because i fucking love tall ships. the sails, the rigging, the elegance... an absolute bitch to maintain and maneuver <3

i imagine that depending on the ship, captain, and size of the crew, the Neighborhood may be required to help out to earn their keep. especially since they're a crew of nine eight, and some ships are woefully understaffed!

I'd imagine that Poppy sometimes takes the cook's job if the crew is currently lacking one (or if the cook wants a fucking break, jeebus it's a demanding job. there's a reason ship cooks in moves/tv are always stern & serious). Barnaby can probably charm his way into doing nothing but provide music/entertainment (much to Sally's aggravation). everyone else are plain deckhands

of course i imagine that that doesn't always happen! plenty of ships are probably content to just take their coin and tranport them. some of them (Eddie, Poppy) may still wheedle their way into helping out though. they strike me as characters that can't Not help

who i imagine loves their little water journeys: Barnaby, Wally, Sally, Wormie

neutral: Frank, Julie

hates it: Poppy, Howdy, Eddie

allow me to provide reasoning!!

Barnaby's impeccable balance probably means that he's stable as a rock even in choppy waters, and i'm reasoning that he doesn't get seasick either. his vestibular system is as solid as his sea legs! he probably finds the whole experience relaxing as anything. He gets to just recline on the bowsprit's base or wherever he isn't in the way & smoke/play his accordion/nap.

Wally just has such a love of life and new things, so why wouldn't he love being on the water? it's different! it's new every time! there are ample things to learn about and do! Home probably keeps his systems stable so that he doesn't have to deal with seasickness. though it probably takes him a little bit to find his sea legs... catch him stumbling around like a lil newborn lamb. sometimes he is facedown on the deck <3 i imagine he'd enjoy going aloft!

Sally would probably love the inherent romanticism and adventure of it all. Who knows what dangers and glory they may face! I bet she writes up a storm during this time - plenty of story material! food for the imagination! what does Anne say... Scope for the imagination, i believe! i bet she also loves having a captive audience. Literally. they're stuck on this ship with her <3

so many lines for Wormie to climb... so many little places to crawl into... new people to trick into giving her treats... down time where the Neighborhood is relaxing in one place. abundant time for affection!

Frank probably doesn't have strong feelings about it. It's a boring ship with no bugs or things to do. Except when he manages to rope crew members into having a lil impromptu fight club. Or when the Neighborhood is put to work - i wonder if he'd find the maintenance soothing or pleasant... or if he'd relish in the hard work of pulling lines

Julie is likely in a similar boat (ha) as Frank. once the initial "wow! whoah!" wears off, it can get boring! and games are limited - there's only so much you can do on a ship (depending on the size of the ship of course), and there might be strict rules to keep passengers out of the crew's way and to lower risk. She probably entertains herself by "bothering" her friends and the crew & cloudgazing.

Poppy... do i need to explain? wooden ship on the ocean, which i understand can be terrifying. who knows what lurks below the waters? if the weather will change on a dime? if one of the flammable things on board catches fire? if the ship hits something? etc. I imagine it's impossible to get her to go above decks. They have to literally push her statue-frozen body onto the ship when they first board

Howdy! honestly i just think it'd be really fucking funny if he gets Violently seasick! like, curled into a ball in his bunk & involuntarily making agonized noises. he sounds like a ghost w/ all the pained moaning. his sea legs suck unless he stances all four at the right distance to anchor himself in place. he's a weak, sickly, fragile little thing, take mercy on him... he doesn't even have the strength left to swindle or sell...

Eddie. now we get to the point of anon's ask - his sea legs would be nonexistent. he's staggering and stumbling all over the place. the ship just barely tilts and he's smacking into a mast or careening across the deck. and of course, hitting the guardrails at precisely the right speed/angle to allow him to tumble overboard. i bet this happens enough that every time the Neighborhood is so much as on a dock, there is at least one person either holding his arm or acting as a barrier between him and the water. as soon as they get on any ship, he's immediately sent below decks. any attempt he makes to come up is instantly blocked.

there's a lot of both comedic and angst potential there. small ship, calm waters? comedic. some neighbors are playing cards, there's on off-screen splash & Frank immediately sighs and gets up all "god damn it, Eddie-". lmao im imagining him floating there and rapid-fire blabbering in fear 'cause there's a shark (it's not a shark. it's a dolphin. everyone on board is so unimpressed.) he's sobbing in fear as they pull him in <3

but angst? imagine there's a storm. imagine it's an all-hands-on-deck situation, every available hand is needed, and Eddie is strong as fuck - he'd be a monster at pulling lines. probably wouldn't even need to sweat them. but a violently rocking ship, slick decks, maybe even waves splashing over the deck... oof i can so easily imagine Eddie slipping & sliding right over the side. maybe while the others watch. maybe they try to grab him, but they're too late. and in such a horrible storm, there's not much they can do - it's dark, the water is incredibly turbulent, the ship can't turn around easily, there's torrential rain. a high stress situation! i'm imagining Frank grabbing a lifebuoy, firmly fastening it to a pin, and then throwing himself overboard after Eddie. something to think about! (i'm imagining that after the storm clears up enough, everyone rushes to the side to check. Eddie & Frank are trailing after the boat, lashed to the buoy and exhausted. maybe a little banged up, but overall fine!)

and then yeah.... oh the shanties Barnaby could lead... the whole ship sings! and then them all in their bunks (or in their hammocks!) in the [insert term for living quarters here, it can vary] when its sleepytime. y'all would not believe the shenanigans that can occur in the fo'c'sle (or the main hold, basically wherever the ship's sleeping quarters are), especially before actual sleep occurs. peak silly time.

there's a lot of potential here, thank you anon!

like now i'm thinking - what about sea monsters? or jobs that Require them to go on the water, as in the job takes place on a ship? ocean battles! ocean searches!

#since eddie is pretty much banished to the holds no matter what #i imagine he & poppy are the main neighbors looking after howdy in his frail sickly state #im imagining eddie sitting on the bunk with howdy in his lap #howdy feels someone petting his hair and blearily cracks his eyes open to be all '...barn...?' #barnaby: *is actually eddie* #howdy: *groans & squeezes his eyes shut* oh god not You... #eddie: *mildly offended* hey now... #im also having a lot of fun imagining frank & eddie after they get reeled in after the storm debacle #they'd just flop onto the deck. exhausted. waterlogged. still holding hands though #they'd probably end up with colds... snifflin and sippin tea while cuddled up in a bunk under the same blanket... #everyone hovering nervously because for quite a while there they actually thought they Lost them both for good.... #SO MUCH POTENTIAL #i imagine that howdy actively avoids jobs where he knows they'll have to take a boat #oh his dismay and horror on the times he comes along and they have to unexpectedly go on the water.... #even if its just a short trip across a river you know howdy is bent over the stern & feeding the fishes #LMAO WAIT #im imagining wally going over too but in a really funny way. he's standing normally but when the ship tilts too hard #he just slides across the deck and right off the ship. not even blinking or moving. he just goes 'oh! im sliding now' #and everyone turns just in time to watch him vanish over the side w/ perfectly posture #i think this is a situation where barnaby would toss his hat to the side and jump right in after him lmao #but in a funny way! the waters are Calm! the ship is Slow! he climbs right back on with wally (perfectly fine) slung over his shoulder #home lectures wally the best they can w/ the language barrier <3 and barn resolves to teach wally how to swim #because apparently that's not in his skillset! he just falls in the water and Sinks! well. he floats for a minute until he inevitably sinks #& he does not react to it at all. he's exact opposite of eddie on the 'how they handle being in water' scale #eddie: lowkey panics. swims for safety #wally: lets it happen <3

[dailypokemoncrochet]

I forgot I have to remake an Onix because I somewhat impulse gave it to someone at work

#text #i thought he was having a bad week/month #and i knew onix was his favorite #so before leaving for work one day i grabbed the onix from my ceiling #(felt like picking a fruit off a tree lol) #and then handed it to him when we passed in the hall #i ended up quitting like a few weeks after i think #but i heard he was walking around with it on his shoulder the other day so thats good #i got way too attached to people at work and i feel weird about having quit so suddenly for ostensibly a dumb reason #but uh im too autistic for whatever middle management shit they got going on. and possibly too autistic for any job 😔

[moonpaw]

The uranium protagonist did not win the healthy good relationship with parents lottery

THEY DID NOT😭

#mp answers #i have a few more comics under my belt planned out on just this cause. yeah its kinda fucked up LMAO #dad is a dead beat (but hey he's trying now? but its been 10 years man) #and your mom um #well she #uh #how do you get over her threatening to kill you while getting real close to killing your father and your friend and his dad #its obvious the protag loves their dad (given the side quest post story) but also. he was a dead beat for 10 years #and he officially quit his job to be with his family after lucille was revealed #with lucille being the reason why and never you (you are a part of it but never the main reason) #lucille needs all the care she can get if she wakes up but MAN. #theres no way the protag doesnt have some kind of mommy and daddy issues #pokemon uranium