#Vaneet Mehta

[qbdatabase]

Being a bisexual man isn’t easy – something Vaneet Mehta knows all too well. After spending more than a decade figuring out his identity, Vaneet’s coming out was met with questioning, ridicule and erasure. This experience inspired Vaneet to create the viral #BisexualMenExist campaign, combatting the hate and scepticism m-spec (multi-gender attracted spectrum) men encounter, and helping others who felt similarly alone and trapped.

This powerful book is an extension of that fight. Navigating a range of topics, including coming out, dating, relationships and health, Vaneet shares his own lived experience as well as personal stories from others in the community to help validate and uplift other bisexual men. Discussing the treatment of m-spec men in LGBTQ+ places, breaking down stereotypes and highlighting the importance of representation and education, this empowering book is a rallying call for m-spec men everywhere.

#Bisexual Men Exist #Vaneet Mehta #bisexual #bi rep #pansexual #pan rep #mga #mga rep #Indian rep #poc rep #lgbt nonfiction #nonfiction #lgbtqia #daily book #bookblr

[slipperymeteor]

Bisexual Men Exist — Vaneet Mehta

Like another reviewer on Goodreads, I too wasn’t sure what I’d get from this book. If the main message is the title—bisexual men exist—then the cover page has made the proclamation clear so what’s in the rest of the book? (Also, I exist, don’t I? QED? what more do I need?)

Still, it’s an important message because it’s (/we are) too often ignored, dismissed, or overlooked.

I started reading the book anyway, though, learned a new-to-me term in the first couple of pages (m-spec: multi-gender attraction), and found myself devouring half the book in one sitting. This is a very readable book. Vaneet Mehta did a really good job in writing it.

Partly I think it’s because he’s starting with the familiars: the few representations in TVs (and missed opportunities). (Although there’s no mention of Nick Nelson’s character from Alice Oseman’s Heartstopper or the forced outing of Kit Connor, but the Netflix series is maybe too recent to have made the cut.)

The book cites some statistics, weaved together with narratives from Vaneet’s contributors. These contributors are integrated into the narrative with very little introduction: just their names, mostly. In various sections we get slightly more details (eg., what culture they come from in the section about intersectionality, or their degrees in a section about accessing mental health, but little more). These mostly work, although there were a couple of places where I noticed I was a little confused. At the end of the book there’s a complete list of names (several dozens of them) and pronouns but that’s it.

I came out of reading this book finding out more materials to read. The Bi-ble: New Testimonials (eds: Lauren Nickodemus); Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men: Bi Men by Women (Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli); Bi-America: Myths, Truths and Struggles of an Invisible Community (William Burleson).

#bisexual men exist #Vaneet Mehta #bisexual men rep #bisexual

[biblionerdreflections]

ARC Review - Bisexual Men Exist

Hello, everyone! Today I’m reviewing my first non-fiction book of the year, Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta. This book is available TODAY. So, happy book birthday to the author! Continue reading Untitled

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#ARC #Bisexual Man #Bisexual Men Exist #Book #Book blogger #Books #Netgalley #Reading #Review #Vaneet Mehta

[biphobia-archive]

one thing people REALLY dont understand is that bi men exist. i think we’ve come to a general understanding that women are capeable of not being monoseuxal, even if its fetishized and disrespected. too many guys i know are like “i like women so im not queer” while also being confused that they find dudes attractive. its just not presented as an option for us.

🩷💜💙

#submissions #it's awful #i suggest reading the book 'Bisexual Men Exist' by Vaneet Mehta if you want to read about your fellow bi men

[kiwiana-writes]

Happy sleepover Friday! 🥳 I guess this falls under advice…what are five books you wish everyone would read?

Oooooooh what a THINKER of a question!

In no particular order, and a very small selection of a much longer list...

Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta is an absolutely vital read for everyone, and I do mean everyone.

Queer: A Collection of LGBTQ Writing from Ancient Times to Yesterday edited by Frank Wynne is a stunning collection of queer writing. We're here, we've always been here, and this is such a wonderful collation.

Always Italicise: How to Write While Colonised by Alice Te Punga Somerville is hands down my favourite poetry collection; it's incredibly thought-provoking as well as being beautiful writing.

The Pairing by Casey McQuiston -- I was lucky enough to get my hands on an ARC and y'all. Y'ALL. Casey has outdone themself for SURE. Tattoo some of the lines from this book on my heart, honestly.

Sins of the Father: The Long Shadow of a Religious Cult by Fleur Beale. A lot of kiwi have read Fleur Beale's YA novel about a religious cult I Am Not Esther and its sequels (which I also recommend!), but this is a non-fiction account of the children of the leader of Gloriavale here in Aotearoa. It's incredibly eye-opening and I've recommended it to a few people whose position on Gloriavale had previously been 'oh well if that's how they want to live, let them'.

#lacroixbabe #sleepover saturday

[the-bi-library]

hello! i love your blog! i was wondering, do you have any nonfiction bi book reccs?

Of course! Here are some

💕Anything That Moves: Beyond the Myths of Bisexuality 💕Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution by Shiri Eisner 💕Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta 💕Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World 💕RECOGNIZE: The Voices of Bisexual Men 💕The Bisexual Option by Fred Klein 💕Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out 💕Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality

#Bi non fiction books #Bi books #Bisexual books #Bi rep #Bi representation #Bisexual rep #Bi nonfiction books #Asks #My posts #Lists

[lgbtqreads]

Hello, I am looking for non fiction bi/bisexual books, could you please help me with that?

Sure, try these:

Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution by Shiri Eisner

Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta (out January 19th)

Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality by Dr. Julia Shaw

#LGBTQReads #Bisexuality #Nonfiction

[bi4bihankking]

I accidentally ended up talking about it...

Tbh it sometimes feels like tumblr forgets that non-cishet men are actually marginalized groups that are oppressed in unique ways, and also I think a lot of tumblr is incredibly weird about them.

Read Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta from cover to cover right now 🔫

[sethmeeyn]

#BisexualMenExist with Vaneet Mehta | JOY Breakfast - JOY Media

In 2020, his campaign, #BisexualMenExist, went viral, highlighting that yes, men who identify under the bi plus umbrella actually do exist. Vaneet ...

[drdemonprince]

Live now! Chatting with Vaneet Mehta, author of the book Bisexual Men Exist!

[londonbisexualsmeetupgroup]

Tonight (26 Jan) is our first pub social Meetup of 2023, we're out in Soho from 7pm with plenty of other London Bisexuals — and the author of the new book Bisexual Men Exist, Vaneet Mehta. https://meetu.ps/e/LJg0T/tlPK/i

#bisexuallondon #Meetup #pansexual

[qbdatabase]

Hi, could you please recommend me bisexual memoirs? I have already read Boyslut btw. Thank you!

Memoirs by Bisexual Female Authors

A Cup of Water Under My Bed: A Memoir by Hernández, Daisy

Bad Feminist by Gay, Roxane

Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body by Gay, Roxane

Death Threat by Shraya, Vivek

Tomboyland: Essays by Faliveno, Melissa

Unbecoming: A Memoir of Disobedience by Bhagwati, Anuradha

A History of Scars: A Memoir by Lee, Laura

Marbles: Mania, Depression, Michelangelo, and Me by Forney, Ellen

A Song for You: My Life with Whitney Houston by Crawford, Robyn

Yours Cruelly, Elvira: Memoirs of the Mistress of the Dark by Peterson, Cassandra

Believe: Boxing, Olympics and My Life Outside the Ring by Adams, Nicola

Good Talk: A Memoir in Conversations by Jacob, Mira

Girlhood: Essays by Febos, Melissa

Wow, No Thank You. by Irby, Samantha (she has several other books I haven't yet had time to add to the database, but they are on the list to be added!)

Manifesto: On Never Giving Up by Evaristo, Bernardine

Memoirs by Bisexual Male Authors

Sorted: Growing Up, Coming Out, and Finding My Place by Bird, Jackson

Baggage: Tales from a Fully Packed Life by Cumming, Alan

Trans Mission: My Quest to a Beard by Bertie, Alex (he's pansexual, not bi, but there's so few mga male memoirs here that I wanted to include it, esp bc I have personally read and do rec this one!)

Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-spec Men by Mehta, Vaneet (not a memoir, but he does discuss a lot of his personal life and experiences)

Memoirs by Bisexual Nonbinary Authors

Fairest: A Memoir by Talusan, Meredith

(if anyone knows of others, please let me know!!)

full notes on representation and publishing info at qbdatabase.com

#bisexual #bisexual rep #bi books #lgbtqia #queer books #ask #anon #answered

[slipperymeteor]

Bi Men by Women; Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men — Maria Palotta-Chiarolli

I started reading this a couple months ago after ordering this book-after seeing this book in the references of either Vaneet Mehta’s Bisexual Men Exists or Julia Shaw’s Bi and I-just-gotta-have-this-book.

But now it’s been several months and I’m only halfway. The problem is: this book is very academic. With my partner we recently read Boyslut by Zachary Zane and it reads very easily. This.. is not that.

This book is still a treasure though, and I thought one thing that would be interesting (to me at least) is to copy the summary of each chapter and note how the themes in this book resonate/not with my experiences and relationship, being a bisexual man in a marriage to a straight woman.

Here’s how Palotta-Chiarolli organized this 541-page book:

Introduction

Theories and debates

Women talk about their partners’ bisexualities (“you know, the old Kinsey scale”)

The women’s sexualities (“I have a sexuality too”)

Negotiating the beginning of the relationship

From closet to confrontation; changing course midstream

Staying the course or splitting up?

Rules in relationships

Masculinity, misogyny, privilege, and power: (“the problem is that he’s a man, not that he’s bisexual”)

“What do we tell the kids?”

Spreading disease

Navigating the heteroworld

Homonormativity

“The priest told him to marry me and he’d go straight.”

Family honor and shame

Erasures in health services

Final words

We’ll just start with chapter 1 below the fold, and I’ll make a separate post for each chapter as I go (I’m only on chapter 7 so far).

MPC interviewed 78 Australian women. Age range:19-65. Mostly the research relies on women who came forward and responded to recruitment flyers and emails to various support groups plus snowball sampling.

Of the women/couples: 30 are in Sydney/NSW, 28 in Melbourne/Victoria, 8 in Adelaide, the rest are scattered. Most of the women and their partners are of European descents (Anglo-Australian), with a minority of Pakeha NZ (4 men and 2 women), mixed Chinese (2 women), one of each: Egyptian, Ghanaian, indigenous, and Chinese.

Roughly half are atheist/agnostic/unspecified religion which includes Wicca and pagan, the other half are mainly various flavors of Christianity (catholic Protestant anglicans), and two Muslim converts (both Anglo-Australians).

24 couples are married. About the same number divorced/separated from their partner. The rest are de-facto together but not married. The married couples have been married for a long time: 2/3 of them 15 years of longer. The separated/divorced ones separate after being together/married for fifteen years! A lot of them have children, only a minority did not: 15 couples. Not all of the men identify as bisexual, 14 of them are tabulated as Gay. (And of the 14, 10 of them are now separated or divorced).

Why this book? MPC: women and their bi male partners are subjected to underrepresentation/erasure, misrepresentation/biphobia/bi-negativity, outdated representation, homogenized representation.

Quotes:

Steinman (2011) found that bisexual men were less likely than bisexual women to publicly and analytically articulate their experiences.

#bi men #bi men by women #women in relationships with bisexual men #Maria pallotta-chiarolli #bisexual men #bisexuality #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia

[queerwelsh]

Join Project Unity and Cynon Valley Museum for a panel discussion on the 25th September at 3pm for Bi Visability Week with guest speakers Rania Vamvaka, Vaneet Mehta, panel chair Dan Vo, Ele Hicks and Fennec. 

Bi Visibility week is an important date in the LGBTQIA calendar and annual fixture of celebration in September and centres from Bi Visibility Day which is held annually on September 23rd.

The celebration was established in 1999 to promote cultural acceptance of people who identify as bisexual and create a platform to advocate for advocating for Bisexual rights

Spaces are limited, to book your place email [email protected] to confirm your attendance, we look forward to you joining us for this conversation.

#bisexual awareness week #this looks like it'll be really good! #glitter cymru #project unity #cynon valley museum #link #I hope everyone bi had a great celebrate bisexuality day #if you're not sure you can email in time just ask me for a link!

[kiwiana-writes]

ooh for the au prompt trope game...can u do 777? the 7th au with the 7th trope with the 7th prompt ?!🎰

Ooooh, fun!

bookstore!au + childhood friends + “you had no idea, did you?”

"Hey." Alex is digging in his pocket for his wallet with one hand as he deposits his selection of books onto the counter. "Just these, thanks."

"…Alex?"

Alex's head snaps up, finding wide, shocked blue eyes. It takes him a moment to connect those eyes and that accent before he's slammed back into high school, to laughing in the back of History, to walking home with the Texas sun beating down on them, to—

"Henry?"

Henry nods, a wide grin spreading across his face. "I can't believe it's you."

"I can't believe you're back in the States." Henry's dad had died near the end of their senior year, and Henry had just… vanished. They'd gone back to the UK to have the funeral and burial there, and Henry had never returned.

"Yes, well." Henry bites his lip, looking down at the counter before his gaze sharpens as it lands on the top book on the stack: Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta. "Alex, are you—"

"Sure am, sweetheart." He hates that he can't read the look on Henry's face. "Is that a problem?"

"Alex, I'm gay." Alex's jaw drops, and Henry shakes his head. "You had no idea, did you?"

[au + trope + prompt game]

#au trope prompt game #kiwiana-writes #the-marathon-continues-nip #and then they kiss or something lol

[the-bi-library]

Bi/bisexual books of January!

Books listed

💕 One Night in Hartswood by Emma Denny 💕 A Ruinous Fate by Kaylie Smith 💕 Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta 💕 Six Times We Almost Kissed (And One Time We Did) by Tess Sharpe

💕Sorry, Bro by Taleen Voskuni 💕 The Daughters of Izdihar by Hadeer Elsbai (edition 1 and 2) 💕 Then Everything Happens at Once by M.E. Girard 💕 The Buried and the Bound by Rochelle Hassan

#bisexual #bisexual representation #bisexual pride #bi books #bisexual books #sapphic books #achillean books #f/f books #M/m books #m/m fiction #f/f fiction #booklr #book blog #wlw books #mlm books #f/f #m/m #m/f romance #m/f books #queer books #lgbt books #lgbtq books #bisexual romance #bookblr #book tumblr #bi4bi #bi4bi books #My posts #books of the month