By: Martin Daubney
Published: Mar 15, 2016
It’s time for us to face up to an ugly truth: it’s not just men who can be murderers and violent, abusive attackers of the opposite sex.
This was brought into grim focus last week with the horrific case of Sharon Edwards, 42, who brutally murdered her husband, David, 51, by stabbing a 13-inch carving knife through his heart.
A serial man-abuser, Mrs Edwards inflicted 60 stabbing and prodding wounds to her husband. While in court, Sharon brazenly lied that David “walked into” the knife. She is currently serving at least 20 years in jail for murder.
[ Sharon Edwards on her wedding day ]
You could argue, or pray, that Sharon Edwards is a monstrous one-off. Yet cases of female brutality against men – and other women – seem to be becoming more prevalent.
Women murdering men is still mercifully rare. In 2014/15, 19 men died at the hands of their partner or ex-partner, compared with 81 women. However, the number of women convicted of perpetrating domestic abuse has more than quadrupled in the past ten years, from 806 in 2004/05 to 4,866 in 2014/15.
Male domestic violence charity The ManKind Initiative say that for every three victims of partner abuse, two will be female and one will be male. According to the Office for National Statistics, 2.8 per cent of men – 500,000 individuals – suffered partner abuse in 2014/15.
While it's important to state that more women than men suffer domestic abuse in Britain (4.5m women versus 2.2m men over the age of 16, according to the ONS), there remains a theory that men under report their experiences due to a culture of masculine expectations.
Staggeringly, a recent report from liberal Canada, where men are encouraged to talk about their feelings, showed that men are more likely to suffer spousal violence, with 342,000 women and 418,000 men suffering abuse in the preceding five years to 2014.
Could the same be true in other countries – like the UK? It’s possible: the ManKind Initiative say only 10 per cent of male victims will tell the police, as opposed to 26 per cent of women.
What's more, violence against men by women isn’t limited to partner abuse.
Last September, Sarah Sands stabbed her neighbour, Michael Pleasted, 77, to death after learning he had 24 previous convictions for sex offences against minors. Despite committing a "frenzied attack", she was sentenced to only three and a half years for manslaughter.
Last July, Tom Borwick, 27, the son of a Tory MP, was viciously beaten and left unconscious by a “girl gang” in a Leicester Square KFC. Then, to add insult to his serious injuries, he was ejected by security who refused to help him.
In January, Shadiya Omar was given a suspended prison sentence after she stabbed Justin Lloyd, also 22, in the eye with her stiletto shoe after a bust-up in a Manchester taxi queue. Hundreds blasted the lenient sentence as “a joke,” pointing out Omar would surely have been jailed if she were a man.
Such stories shatter the false narratives that only women get battered, that men are never victims, and that women never attack.
But politically the system is stacked against men. While ending violence against women and girls (VAWG) has rightly been a governmental priority, there is not only no specific strategy to end violence against men. Attempts to modify the VAWG strategy to include male victims have been actively resisted.
As a direct consequence, while last week Nicky Morgan pledged another £80 million to end VAWG, the ManKind Initiative – one of only two UK charities that specifically helps male victims of domestic violence – will close its helpline in May as it couldn’t raise a comparatively modest £45,000.
By so clearly intimating that victims don’t matter if they are men, it can only further add to male victims’ reluctance to come forward.
We should unite in condemning all perpetrators of partner abuse, men and women, and treat all victims, men and women, with equal compassion.
Mark Brooks, Chairman of the ManKind Initiative, says: “Domestic abuse is a crime against an individual, not a crime against a gender. Those that hold that view are clinging to an old-fashioned, politically correct view of the world that has no place in the 21st century when equality for all victims solely based on need has to be the answer.
"Taking a gendered approach to domestic abuse is only acceptable when both genders are included”.
We desperately need to de-gender the domestic violence debate to help smash society’s last great taboo: female violence against men.
[ Via: https://archive.today/PBHRk ]
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Fallout New Vegas characters & the animal that I associate with them:
Courier: my first Courier would be a Retriever. Sixx would be a feral little house cat.
Boone: Elephant. They’re the kind of animal to watch. And get so ingrained in their grief that they almost die/kill themselves.
Veronica: Rabbit. Desperate for change, but optimistic. Also likes to wear dresses and dresses are so rabbit coded
Arcade: Ravens. They’re really damn smart & I think they’re fun. He would refer to them by their science name and Boone would almost shoot him.
Rose of Sharon Cassidy: Beavers. Can you name an animal more likely to get drunk all the time? I sure as heck can’t.
Raul: Tortoise. Long living, unable to reach places in time to save those who they care for. Some people think look scary but I see as kinda cute. (Raul please be my Grandfather.)
Lily: Buffalo. Large, protective, family/herd oriented. Also she looks after Bighorners and I think those are just fallout buffalo.
Vulpes: Fox. It’s the name. Either a fox or a Falcon. Falcons are fast and tricksy, and strategic.
Ceaser: Bull. It’s his whole identity man.
Christine: What animal sums up a loss of the self in a mission to protect others? I don’t know but my brain is thinking Jaguar. Also she’s cool.
Dean Domino: Weasel. I don’t need to explain this one.
Dog/God (NO GOD I DID NOT COME HERE FOR MONEY. MY SISTER MADE ME): I mean. It sounds like a cop out to pick a kind of dog. I think I’d choose a Rhino. Idk why. Just fits them
Follows-Chalk: Blackbird. No I don’t know why.
Waking-Cloud: Koalas. The way they protect their young. Also they’re fun and so is she. Koalas or a bear. Same reason. Also she hits people with a bear fist. Sadly koalas are not bears. So I cannot fit them as one.
If you would like any other characters please either reblog this asking/comment/send me an ask
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So, to you guys. I'm so lucky to have you as parents. And to Eve, I remember the day that you moved here. We were like nine years old. I marched across the street. And you were like... "I'm Riley, you want to be best friends?" Exactly. And you have been. Jake, you know, Bode never wanted to share you growing up, but... over the years you've become a good friend of mine, too. And I'm really grateful. And to my big brother Bode, you, uh... You fought your way through a really tough year. With the baseball injury and all of the mess that went on with it... The pills and the rehab. You fought some demons and you won. I love you, big bro. Love you, too. Okay. Cake time.
FIRE COUNTRY
1.02 | The Fresh Prince of Edgewater
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I just watched all of the first season of Fire Country and I’m so fucking furious right now
Like yes I understand that this is a series, so they have to have drama and cliffhangers, etc. But that ending is so fucking infuriating I cannot handle it.
WHERE WAS THE PUBLIC DEFENDER. WHY WERENT THEY IN THE ROOM. WHY WOULDNT HE AT LEAST ASK SOMEONE “Hey, does this seem right to you?” BEFORE FUCKING CONFESSING. ALSO GETTING FREDDY OUT THAT SAME DAY IS SUCH BULLSHIT IT DOESN’T WORK LIKE THAT.
Like I know that this kind of crap- manipulation of people charged with crimes and coerced confessions by law enforcement and prosecutors- is exactly what happens to people around this country every single day. And its been pissing me off for a long time, for as long as I’ve known about it and especially since I took a criminal justice ethics class where we did a deep dive into the absolute atrocity that is the public defense system in New Orleans.
But I literally just graduated from law school and I was hoping to at least have a break from law-related stress (well, other than bar prep).
Instead, I just about dove through my tv and am now trying to strategize how best to join the damn writers team so I can prevent this bullshit from happening again. There is so much room for drama on a show about incarcerated firefighters like you have literal natural disasters and a shit ton of family and relationship drama and you could show the difficulties of adjusting to life on the outside of prison and also the ways the prison system is truly fucked up. You don’t need to add in even more shit like this!!!
Okay end of rant, but NOT the end of my anger.
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