So, I met this guy, he's 25 and I'm 19. I met him in my first semester at uni, while he was in his second last. We met in a very absurd way, in which I approached him first as a joke, while I was wearing a jughead crown and asked him (he was just a random person walking past me that time) if he recognised who I was dressed as. I felt oddly attracted to him since that very day. Admited it was also because he is smoking hot and talked liked a proper gentleman. He started greeting me/waving at me every now and then after this and I developed a very, weird odd crush on him. Its difficult to explain. However, I used to linger outside his classes, as I didnt have any other way of seeing him, he barely spent any time in uni. Basically, the probability of him & I ever happening was 0 at that point but I tried. One day I bluntly went up to him and asked him to join me for lunch. He said yes and we spent more than an hour or two together. He asked me how old I was and he was a little caught off track at my age. It has bothered him since. Anywho, a few days later I asked him for his number and he bluntly walked away and said no. So heartbroken I gave up and winter vacations started and I assumed I was over him and that he'd be gone and graduated when I came back. On coming back, I ended up seeing him on the first day. The next day, he approached me and asked me to accompany him to get coffee. Shocked, I said yes. We spent a few 40 or something minutes together and upon asking him why he was hanging out with me, considering he'd just told me he doesnt hang out with people a lot, he said "you're different". Confused but flattered, I was like, alright, I'm just going to go with the flow with this guy. We started hanging out every now and then, and he ended up being in my group of friends' philosophy course. We hung out one on one many times, as friends, a lot. He also ended up drawing me for his art class and while doing so called me beautiful and gave me random compliments. One day while hanging out, he bluntly told me, that he knew I had liked him but we could never be together because of our 6 year age gap and that he'd experienced a lot and to him, I was a kid, but he loved to be friends with me. Broken, I said okay, and we exchanged numbers. Few days passed, he started befriending my friends, and introduced one of his other friends to us. He started hanging out with my group of friends (obviously with me) on a daily and quick enough we became super close, as a group. The only difference was, him & his friend, drank alcohol every now and then and did weed. We didnt, not because we didnt have opportunities, but because we never got into it. This, according to him was a blocking factor between him & I as well. We became super close. One day, he texted me drunk at 2am, followed by different incidents of the sorts. We never confronted these face to face, but my friends started to mention how he might like me as more than just a friend. I didnt exactly believe it, because Im a doubtful human, and his declaration of our age gap being too much. However, one day we were alone, and we started talking and our conversation got sexual. Now, I'm a virgin, and he's been with MANY women in his past. And we got really close until he jumped back and started shaking his head no. This moment, he admitted he has lots of sexual feelings for me, as do I for him. Howver, he doesnt want to have sex with me, because of me being virgin and pure and too young. He said he has to distance himself from me, but I really started liking him, even just as a friend, so I told him that wasnt an option for me. We agreed on being just friends. Things got intense after this, a glimpse, a touch, an excuse for a phone call, friends purposedly leaving us alone, hugs getting longer, hangouts getting longer, and during this time we ended up developing a very strong emotional connection. Our friendship got stronger, as did our feelings for each other. We started hanging out alone, in a seclluded hockey ground where we started off by just chilling, but started lying down together, watching the sky, reading together etc. By now my friends were certain he liked me a lot.A few days later he hung out with another few mutual friends, and they came to me later to tell me that throughout all he talked about, was me, and how Im a beautiful human being and hes never met someone like me etc, and he started texting me asking me why I wouldnt show up at such hangouts.weeks later we ended uo going to a music fest together. And that day, I drank with him for the first time and it was the most beautiful day ever. We danced together, sang together, experienced live music, just generally had tons of fun and we got very intimate. That night while we were sitting together, he kissed my head and bit my cheek randomly. Now I was sure he liked me.Weekend passes, and next week, he becomes distant and a bit off. We hang out, the 'same', except I start resting my head on his shoulder, he starts picking me up, spinning me around and just, getting real close. None of us talks about the weekend until one day we break and he asks me "What are we even doing?" and we get into a heated argument, where he confesses he really wants to ask me out, take me home, lie me down get some wine and just be with me. He ends up saying he doesnt even care about the sex, he just really likes me. But then he says I cant give him what he wants, like being able to spend the night at his place or show up at his place whenever and shit. While, yes I couldnt offer him that right now, it was something I would be able to offer in a while. Then he brought up the whole, he has to graduate and go abroad for 3 months problem. Confused, both of us came to no solution. He suggested we stayed friends until he came back and then tried this out, but then he declared hed hook up with girls in this time and I wasnt okay with that and he understood that. So we came to no conclusion, until I told him we could be just friends, until he came back and he could be with whoever, but then he himself told me he couldnt do that because it would hurt me. A nervous wreck, both of us just went and hung out with the rest of our friends and didnt continue this conversation. Things seemed okay until next Monday he didnt show up to uni and instead asked me to come over to his place. Nervous, I quickly got my things and went over. We started hanging out and just chilling until he started cuddling me and we ended up making out. It got real hit and heavy, clothes off, hands all over and went on for a bit until we stopped. We got high together that day as well and then he took me out on a date to get the best pizza, and we drove around for hours. It was the most beautiful day. We started hooking up almost every other day until one day I thought we'd have sex, but he told me he couldnt do that to me and thats not something we needed to do. We went on dates, he made me breakfast in bed, Id play with his dogs, his house staff recognised me now and people started to see us as a couple. We started dating. Until one day, we stopped. He started ignoring me a bit, I started losing my shit. This went on for a week until I confronted him and he told me we couldnt date. He said he started off thinking we could be just fuck buddies until he realised Im not that girl, and that I was a relationship girl and he would want me to meet his family and stuff, but he couldnt introduce me to them because, I looked TOO young and I made him feel like a kid from school, by having to sneak me in, take me home during daytime and stuff. Hurt, I ended up begging him to not leave. He said he wouldnt, but we'd be just friends. I said alright.Next week, he stops coming to classes, I start hearing about how he's drunk a lot and how hes sick. Worried I start calling him asking him to come to uni and stuff. He delays responses and I panic again. The thing is, we had barely 2 months before he left, and both of us had fallen hard for each other, the problem being, Im anxious as FUCK and he's calm. One day I end up telling him to see me the next day because I HAD to talk to him. We met and I bluntly told him, that we were just friends, I wasnt going to make any move on him now, apologised for coming off all clingy and that what happened, happened. And that Id love to give us a shot later when he returned, but until then, just friends. He calmed down and we went back to being normal. We hung out more and stuff until we, once again started getting physically close again. And now his friends told me how hes never been this way with a girl, and they started recognising me more, and asking me about where he was and stuff as if I was his girlfriend. We started hanging out, getting drunk together again and getting close and personal. He started going back to being a little romantic, and while he tried hiding it, it was obvious. One day we ended getting too close again and not sexually, our closeness just became intimacy. He ended up dropping me home one day and meeting my mom and promising her that he'd come over again and said hed have dinner with my parents before he left. His friends started telling me how Im all hes about and how hes genuinely in love with me and I, with him. We're going through a weird back and forth, where hes telling me hes going to be back in september amd how we should all go on trips together and shit. 2 days pass, and he starts being a little cold again. Everything seems fine, until a few days ago we got too close again and he bluntly says how him & I can never happen. I ask why and he says the age gap is too much. And he doesnt know when or if hes coming back, after when he goes abroad.The thing is, Im very much in love with him and him with me, and hes bluntly declared how he doesnt want any other woman, or hes sick of just sex, and how he doesnt have time for relationships etc, and his friends keep saying how hes too hooked on me to ever be with someone else.How do I deal with this? I have a strange feeling he thinks, I only want him for sex and that he'll never come back and that both of us will never move on and will always want to be with each other, but his age insecurity will hold him back for quiet a while. Im hurt, scared and confused. How do I be patient with him? via /r/dating_advice
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i am lonely
Name?
jen
Age?
20
Hair color?
blonde
Eye color?
brown
About Him.
Name?
connor
Age?
going to be 27
Hair color?
brown
Eye color?
brown
About you two.
When did you two begin dating?
May 2016
What did you think of him?
i thought he was funny and cute
What did he think of you?
he thought i was cute but idk really what hsi first impression was
Who asked who?
mutual
Did you like him before he asked you?
yeah
How old were you two?
i was 19 and he was 25 but he turned 26 like 3 days later lol
What did you think of it at first?
i was happy and it felt awesome
Has it been a good relationship so far?
yes
Has it been worth it?
yes
Do you think it will continue?
i do
Do you guys have a special place?
not really
Cutest thing he’s ever done?
prob one of the things i can think of was when i was having abad panic attack and he just held me and he told me he loved me and etc
Cutest thing you’ve ever done?
i dont know ask him
Best gift he’s ever gave you?
truck
Do you have a “song”?
i cant help falling in love with you
Any inside jokes?
sure
What was your most memorable experience?
theres a lot
Could you give up something for him?
i would
Is he your first anything?
not first boyfriend but first for sex lol
Are you HIS first anything?
i dont think so but idk for sure not first gf or sex partner lol
Would you change anything about your relationship?
he lives far away right now
Has he ever cheated on you?
not that i know of but i know he hasnt
Have you ever cheated on him?
no
Have you two broken up before?
yeah we actualy dated in oct 2015 then didnt talk til april 2016 and then started to date in may 2016
Have you talked to any of his ex-girlfriends?
no unless i have and i didnt know
Has he talked to any of your ex-boyfriends?
no
Do you think he would go behind your back?
no
Do you get jealous easily?
yeah i hate it
Does he?
no unless he does and im just not aware
Do you think he’d make a good father?
sure
Would you even have children with him?
we dont want kids
Do you even want to get married to him?
yeah
Kissed you in the rain?
no
Fought with a guy for saying something about you?
no
Would he even fight for you?
maybe, sure
Have you two ever had someone try to break you two up?
yep -____-
Has he ever bought you anything expensive?
kinda but he did give me his truck
Has he ever made you feel warm & fuzzy?
yes
Would you make it long distance?
no but we are right now until june
Have you two ever gotten into a fight?
yeah
A physical fight?
no
Has he ever written you a letter?
no
Have you ever gotten into it with a girl about him (fight with girl over him)?
no
Would you ever?
no unless a bitch was trying to fuck him or something then id fuck her up
Have you two ever spent the night together?
duh
Been absolutely, ridiculously silly?
yeah
How much do you love him?
a lot i cant really describe it
What would he do for you?
idk ask him haha
What would you do for him?
anything he wanted except murder lmAOOO
How often do you two talk?
everyday
When is your actual anniversary?
05.10.16 (May 10th 2016)
Does his family like you?
yes they do
Does yours like him?
kinda
How long do you plan on being with him?
forever
Anyone disapprove?
some do , fuck them
Has anyone ever tried to interfere?
morgan did but i told him to fuck off
How often do you two argue?
not overly
Do you like it when he surprises you?
depends..
Are you proud to be his girlfriend?
yes
Is he proud to be your boyfriend?
i hope lol
When do you feel closest to him?
when he spills his heart out to me
Do you prefer his hugs or kisses?
kissing
Would you change anything about him?
where he lives <-- same
Would he change anything about you?
i dont know
What do you love most about him?
he makes me smile when i dont want to
Have you ever gotten on his Myspace/facebook?
yeah but i dont need to
Do you trust him?
i do
Does he trust you?
i hope
Do you guys tell each other everything?
i do
Any secrets?
i dont think so!
What’s your favorite thing to do together?
everything
What reminds you of him?
elder scrolls and anime LMAO
What’s the hardest thing you’ve overcome?
having to let him leave for a bit but hes coming home :D
Do you truly love him?
i do
Does he make you happy?
honestly he does
How long have you known each other?
almost 2 years
Were you friends before you dated?
ehhhh kind of? we were flirty
Where did you go on your 1st date?
he took me to the college to play smash bros and it was awesome, then to Noodle house for lunch and then back to his place to hang out. it was awesome
Most fun date you two have been on?
theres a lot
Do you go on more alone or group dates?
alone but i dont mind group ( depending)
Who usually pays for the date?
he always does but i will pay for other stuff.
What does your man do to make money?
renovations
How many years apart are you?
6.5 years
Do you normally date older or younger guys?
older.
How did ya’ll first kiss?
we were watching donald trump vids and then we were chilling and joking and then we were cuddling ( yes WHILE WATCHING DONALD TRUMP MEME VIDS) and then he asked to kiss me and it happened
Did he use any cheesy lines?
no
Who said, “I love you” first?
me lol
What was the first thing he gave you?
i cant remember
What’s the most expensive thing he’s given you?
his truck
What’s the cutest thing he does?
when he cuddles me and makes happy noises lol ( if that makes sense)
What does he call you?
Jen, babe, baby, babygirl
How well does he know you?
pretty well
How well do you know him?
more than most people
Do you know any of his ex’s?
no
Is he friends with any of his ex’s?
i dont think so
What is one thing that really annoys him?
stupid people
Are you happy?
with him
Is he the best kisser out of all that you’ve kissed?yes
How many kids does he want to have?
0Longest relationship you’ve been in and who was it with?
the one i am in now
Shortest relationship you’ve been in and who was it with?
like 3 months and was with this guy named dylan barf
Are you happier single or in a relationship?
relationship
Do you tend to date outside of your race?
not really connor is half white doe
Ever had a rebound?
no
Have you ever been someone’s rebound?
probably
Have you dated both sexes?
no
Has anyone ever seriously proposed to you?
no
Who was your most painful breakup with?
when connor dumped me trhe first time hahah but were together
Are you one of those people in relationships who break up and get back together frequently?
no we dont play games. the first time was just timing
Do you believe in breaks?
no youre pathetic if you take them. its really just a way to fuyck others
Has anyone ever cheated on you?
no
Have you ever cheated on a significant other?
no thanks that is disgusting
Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship?
we kinda are
Did you ever have one of those elementary school boy/girlfriends?
no
In relationships, do you tend to be the clingy one?
yes
Are you currently with your first love?
kinda
Do you still talk to the person you first fell for?
no
Do you seek approval from your friends before going out with someone?
no
Have you ever been “the other person”? How did that go?
no
Have you ever been in love? If yes, how many times, and how do you know it was love?
yeah this one and because all the songs make sense and when i see him happy thats all i want and i dont think about myself anymore
Have you ever changed for someone, if yes, how? yeah but for good
What’s the most important part of a relationship?
trust, communication, happiness
Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?
serious
How many people have you ever hooked up with?
0
Do you believe love can conquer all things?
not cancer
Do you think long distance relationships can work? Why or why not?
I am in one currently but its short time, so yeah they can you just have to work at it and trust them. I dated someone who lived acrossed seas and that didnt rly work. i hate ldr i am only in one rn because its short and i love him enough
Have you ever fallen asleep in someone’s arms?
yes ^-^
How’s your heart lately?
lonely
Do you feel like anyone is playing mind games with you right now?
no
Would you fight for love?
yea
Do you have something that belongs to someone from your past?
yea
Was the last time your heart pounded like crazy for a good or bad reason?
bad
Have you ever kissed two people in one night?
yea lol
Do you want to be in a relationship with someone?
i am in one
Do you think anyone has feelings for you?
he does
Are looks important in a relationship?
yep you have to be attracted ok, dont even lie about that
Are relationships ever worth it?
yes
Are you a virgin?
no
Are you in a relationship?
yes
Are you in love?
YES
Do you forgive betrayal?
depends
Have you ever cried over a guy/girl?
yeah..
Have you ever experienced unrequited love?
when i was younger
If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say?
i dont know what i would say because were dating so it would be rly hurtful
What is your definition of cheating?
when you want someone else as your bf/gf. when you flirt with them, kiss them, fuck them, tease them, etc, lead them on. theres emotional and physical cheating. both are awful. if you are NOT happy dump the other person pls!!!
Are you nice to people you dislike?
im an adult
Have you ever thought about giving up on someone but couldn’t?
yea
Can you recall the last time you liked someone a lot?
right now
Is there someone that you’ll never be over?
i dont have to worry about that
Is he sweet to you most of the time, or is he mean towards you?
sweet
Does he ever go out drinking? Is this something you’re concerned about?
no
Does he ever really open up emotionally to you? Is he that way to everyone?
yes and he doesnt open up to anyone else
Does he truly care about how you feel and what you have to say?
yes
Is he usually more optimist or pessimistic?
realist
Does he treat you like you’re royalty?
no but i dont expect him to because i dont treat him like a king or a god, i treat him like my lover/soul mate/best friend, and he does the same. he treats me well
Does he ever hold you hand in public?
yes :3
Are you all into the ‘public display of affection’ thing?
no but kissing is cool
Is this relationship more based on love or lust?
love
Do you feel closer to him than anyone else you associate with?
yeah… i do..
Tell me exactly in detail how he makes you feel:
i cant explain it and i feel stupid that way but he makes me feel like everything is gonna be okay and that life is alright and that im safe wit him. he makes me happy and peaceful, he brings out the best (unless hes moody then i get annoyed lolol)
Has he ever let you wear any of his clothes before? Which items?
not rly i dont wear
When you’re sad, broken down and crying, what does he do to comfort you?
he holds me in bed
Have you two ever shared food or a drink with one another?
yes
Do you two ever go to the movies? Do you just make out the whole time?
we pay 11 bucks each for a movie we aint gonna make out, thats a netflix n chill thing bru
When you first met, did you think it would end up the way it is?:
no
if it came to it, would he rescue you at 3am if needed?:
im sure but it woiuld be kinda hard rn ,lol
Ever layed in bed together in each others arms?:
yah
Would you trust him if you left the town for a month with no contact?:
honestly i couldnt live like that i would get nervous and i need to hear from him
Does it bother you if he doesnt say ‘i love you’ when he leaves?:
not rly unless i say it
Do you text a lot?:
yes
Does he ever stick up for you and defend you?
he doesnt have to no one saying shit about me
Would you say he’s overbearing when it comes to protecting you?
no
Do you ever keep the notes he writes and things he makes you?
he doesnt makew me anything
Does he normally explain to you how much you mean to him?
only when we fight. thats the only time he makes an efffort lol
Do you like being kissed spontaneously or asked?
either
Have you ever loved anyone else?
no
Has he ever loved anyone else?
im sure
Have you talked about a future together?
yes
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