#IT WAS ALWAYS ON YOUR TERMS I WAITED ON EVERY CARELESS WORD HOPING THEY MIGHT TURN SWEET AGAIN

[francesderwent]

I know I’m probably better off on my own than loving a man who didn’t know what he had when he had it

#and it WAS always on your terms!! I waited on every CARELESS WORD hoping they might turn sweet again…..like it was in the beginning

[kuiinncedes]

better man is a charlie spring song 😭

#i'm just looking at the lyrics trying to pick one to do for my lettering thing but now i'm sad #bc it's making me think of b*n h*p* lmao and charlie <333 #EXCEPT FOR THE 'MISS YOU' PART LMAO #altho ik he could maybe still like miss when he thought it was good like before meeting/getting together with nick #the brainrot jhgjfdkd i was listening to kid k/row the other day and just thinking about charlie bc a lot of those fit with him and ben too #;-; anyway ahhhh i love better man sm i hope my lyric design thing doesn't flop horribly bc i'm running out of ideas XD #jeanne talks #idk why i'm so obsessed with better man tbh i just rly like how it sounds lmfao can't relate to the lyrics lol #OK BUT THIS LINE IS CHARLIE WITH BEN #IT WAS ALWAYS ON YOUR TERMS I WAITED ON EVERY CARELESS WORD HOPING THEY MIGHT TURN SWEET AGAIN #i'm. screaming i'm just gonna scream lyrics in these tags bc i love the lyrics and alsooooo h/eartstoperieroerjeprejerrrrrrrr #TALKING DOWN TO ME LIKE I'D ALWAYS BE AROUND PUSH MY LOVE AWAY LIKE IT WAS SOME KIND OF LOADED GUN!!!!!!!!!! #O H YOU NEVER THOUGHT I'D RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #god this song :') ok i'm done lol #caps in tags #i have not chosen a lyric for my design thing XD #aaaaaand accidentally chooses 4 lyrics jfhgkfgkgj oops #oh well i'll narrow it down lmao

[arrowverse-next-gen]

I know I'm probably better off all alone Than needing a man who could change his mind at any given minute And it was always on your terms, I waited on every careless word Hoping they might turn sweet again like it was in the beginning

#arrow next gen #quinn lance #ricardo diaz #did i turn this into a song about a careless father? yes i did #artist: taylor swift #song: better man

[har1een]

a side ( @crimeloyalty ) ⸺ cruel summer ; i love you, ain’t that the worst thing you ever heard? the archer ; i’ve got a hundred thrown out speeches i almost said to you. delicate ; my reputation’s never been worse, so you must like me for me. dancing with our hands tied ; swaying as the room burned down.  dress ; i don’t want you like a best friend. mirrorball ; i’m still on that trapeze ; i’m still trying everything to keep you looking at me. august ; so much for summer love and saying us, ‘cause you weren’t mine to lose. ivy ; so tell me to run or dare to sit and watch what we’ll become and drink my husband’s wine. renegade ; are you really gonna talk about timing in times like these? treacherous ; nothing safe is worth the drive, and i would follow you,  follow you home. holy ground ; we block the noise with the sound of ‘i need you,’ and, for the first time, i had something to lose. begin again ; i think it’s strange that you think i’m funny ‘cause he never did. state of grace ; we learn to live with the pain; mosaic broken hearts. forever winter ; live my life scared to death he’ll decide to leave instead. false god ; the altar is my hips,  even if it’s a false god. lavender haze ; they’re bringing up my history, but you weren’t even listening. anti-hero ; one day i’ll watch as you’re leaving ‘cause you got tired of my scheming for the last time. snow on the beach ; you wanting me tonight feels impossible. high infidelity ; do i really have to to tell you how he brought me back to life? glitch ; we were supposed to be just friends.

b side ( @shepurrs ) ⸺ this is why we can’t have nice things ; stabbed me in the back while shaking my hand. all you had to do was stay ;  all i know is that you drove us off the road. the story of us ;  this is looking like a contest of who can act like they care less, but i liked it better when you were on my side. better than revenge ; soon she’s gonna find stealing other people’s toys on the playground won’t make you many friends. haunted ; something’s made your eyes go cold. last kiss ;  i never imagined we’d end like this. if this was a movie ;  it’s not the kind of ending you wanna see now. exile ;  you were my town, now i’m in exile seeing you out. my tears ricochet ; and if i’m dead to you, why are you at the wake?  mad woman ; and women like hunting witches too. champagne problems ;  she’ll patch up your tapestry that i shred.  tolerate it ; where’s that man who’d throw blankets over my barbed wire?  happiness ; i hope she’ll be a beautiful fool who takes my spot next to you. no,  i didn’t mean that, sorry. i can’t see facts through all of my fury.  coney island ; and do you miss the rogue who coaxed you into paradise and left you there? will you forgive my soul when you’re too wise to trust me and too old to care?  you all over me ;  had you, got burned. held out and held on god knows, too long. and wasted time, lost tears. swore that i’d get out of here. but no amount of freedom gets you clean.  forever and always ;  this thing is breaking down ; we almost never speak.  sad beautiful tragic ;  distance, timing, breakdown, fighting, silence, the train runs off its tracks. kiss me, try to fix it, could you just try to listen?  better man ;  and it was always on your terms ; i waited on every careless word, hoping they might turn sweet again like it was in the beginning.  i bet you think about me ;  and the girl in your bed has a fine pedigree and i bet your friends tell you she’s better than me. death by a thousand cuts ;  you said it was a great love,  one for the ages. but if the story’s over, why am i still writing pages?  maroon ; that’s a real fuckin’ legacy, to leave.  question . . . ? ;  do you wish you’d put up more of a fight when she said it was too much?  do you wish you could still touch her?  bejeweled ;  sapphire tears on my face ; sadness became my whole sky.  

#edits.

[nowcrashing]

File this under "things no one is allowed to say to me ever again":

And it was always on your terms, I waited on every careless word, hoping they might turn sweet again like it was in the beginning.

Months later, here's roughly how I wish I'd responded to this:

Me: Why did you send this? Him: [Says something about how he's just joking or how he sent it to me because I wrote him a long message] Me: Let me approach this question differently. When I read these messages, what it made me think is that you want to talk less, and because of that, when I contact you too often or write too much, it annoys you and/or makes you feel stressed, but for whatever reason you don't want to tell me that, so you made a joke. Am I right about that, and if I'm wrong, what am I missing? Him: [A) he admits to it, or B) he responds with something along the lines of "whoa I was just joking calm down it's not that serious"] My response to A: Ok. Well in the future it would be a good idea for you to try to be more in touch with your emotions and be honest about it when you're not feeling something anymore. I'm glad to hear you didn't meanto hurt my feelings, but the reality is that this is the kind of thing that's likely to actually impact me. Like I can see myself talking to someone in the future and having this niggling thought in the back of my mind that's like "don't say all this. You're annoying him. He doesn't want to hear all that. You need to talk less." Even now I'm kind of feeling like I should edit this message a few times for length before sending it to you. But anyway... given the nature of our relationship and the fact that we weren't going to see each other again after ___ no matter what happened, I don't think we need to fight about this. But I don't think there is any need to get together again either. I hope you feel better soon and that you have a good visit with your mom. My response to B: Ok. I'll take you at your word that you were just joking and you didn't mean anything by it, but I want to be honest and clear and say that I don't like this joke. I can control the way I talk, but the reality is that when I'm comfortable with someone or when I'm trying to get to know someone, I can be long-winded at times. Hearing you say that my natural way of talking is anxiety-inducing just signals to me that I should stop talking to you, or if I do, I should talk to you like an acquaintance rather than a friend. So that is actually what I'm going to do. We weren't going to see each other again after ___ anyway, no matter what happened, so I feel like now is as good of a time as any to cut things off. I hope you feel better soon and that you have a good visit with your mom.

Obviously this is just my imagination of how the convo could have gone. Probably this little dialogue tree would have been derailed immediately. But my point in writing this is to highlight two things I wish I had done:

Speak up for myself and say that that was not a nice thing to say

End things there.

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I can't even tell Zebby about this because if you want to meet up again I know I'm going to go, and I don't want anyone to know that I let you say that to me and get away with it.

I'm so mad and bitter that this started off so good and now I'm just letting you walk all over me.

I keep telling myself never again, and most of me believes that I will be able to hold myself to that in situations that aren't like this where we're breaking up no matter what and that makes everything weird. But at the same time, I've never done it before. I have done fine at leaving/breaking up when it's time (even though I often wait until all plausible deniability is gone, even when that's way too long), but I've never truly spoken up for myself in a relationship and demanded a change in behavior or demanded that the other person thinks about things from my pov and tries to understand how I feel. So idk. I don't know if my somewhat faith in myself is warranted at all.

Just picking a random post to write this at the bottom of bc I'm tired of making new ones.

My affirmations:

It's good if I don't hear from you.

I don't want to hear from you.

The sooner I stop hearing from you, the sooner I start properly moving on from this sad end to the relationship.

I don't love you.

I don't need you.

I'll be happier once this thing is over and done with.

Again:

It's good if I don't hear from you.

I don't want to hear from you.

The sooner I stop hearing from you, the sooner I start properly moving on from this sad end to the relationship.

I don't love you.

I don't need you.

I'll be happier once this thing is over and done with.

One day down.

[classified-bluerose]

FAVOURITE LYRICS FROM EVERY ALBUM: RED (TAYLOR'S VERSION)

1. so you were never a saint, and i loved in shades of wrong // state of grace

2. regretting him was like wishing you never found out that love could be that strong // red

3. put your lips close to mine, as long as they don't touch // treacherous

4. and the saddest fear comes creeping in, that you never loved me, or her, or anyone, or anything // i knew you were trouble

5. well maybe we got lost in translation, maybe i asked for too much, but maybe this thing was a masterpiece before you tore it all up // all too well (original)

6. it's miserable and magical, oh yeah // 22

7. we made quite a mess babe, it's probably better off this way // i almost do

8. i'm really gonna miss you picking fights, and me falling for it screaming that i'm right // we are never ever getting back together

9. no choice but to stay, stay, stay, i've been loving you for quite some time, time, time // stay stay stay

10. this is the last time you tell me i got it wrong, this is the last time i say it's been you all along // the last time (ft. gary lightbody)

11. and for the first time i had something to lose, and i guess we fell apart in the usual way // state of grace

12. distance, timing, breakdowns, fighting, silence, this train runs off it's tracks, kiss me, try to fix it, could you just try to listen? // sad beautiful tragic

13. and they tell you that you're lucky, but you're so confused, 'cause you don't feel pretty, you just feel used // the lucky one

14. come back and tell me why, i'm feeling like i missed you all this time // everything has changed (ft. ed sheeran)

15. and we were dancing, dancing, like we're made of starlight // starlight

16. i've been spending the last eight months, thinking all love ever does is break, and burn, and end // begin again

17. and they're all standing around me singing, happy birthday to you, but there was one thing missing, and that was the moment i knew // what do you say when tears are streaming down your face in front of every one you know? // the moment i knew

18. this is falling in love in the cruelest way, this is falling for you when you are worlds away // come back, be here

19. but, honey, i am no one's exception, this i have previously learned - girl at home

FROM THE VAULT:

20. and it was always on your terms, i waited on every careless word, hoping they might turn sweet again, like it was in the beginning // better man

21. how long will it be cute, all this crying in my room? when you can't blame it on my youth and roll your eyes with affection // nothing new (ft. phoebe bridgers)

22. we're a wreck, you're the wrecking ball // babe

23. feelin' like a face in the crowd // message in a bottle

24. and i bet you think about me, when you say, oh my god, she's insane, she wrote a song about me // i bet you think about me

25. if i was standing there in your apartment, i'd take that bomb in your head and disarm it, and say i love you even at your darkest and please don't go // forever winter

26. there's a heart on your sleeve, i'll take it when you leave, and hold it for you // run (ft. ed sheeran)

27. back then we didn't know, we were built to fall apart, we broke the status quo, and we broke each other's hearts // the very first night

28. the idea you had of me, who was she? some never-needy, ever-lovely jewel, who's shine reflects on you, not weeping in a party bathroom, some actress asking me what happened, you. that's what happened, you // all too well (10 minute version)

#personall~ #taylor swift #red taylor’s version #taylor swift lyrics #fave lyrics

[astranva]

i was just listening to better man by taylor swift and the way that song basically describes bsgf yn and harry perfectly. ex: “I know I'm probably better off on my own.” “than lovin’ a man who didn't know what he had when he had it.” “and I see the permanent damage you did to me” also Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again, But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man” “hold onto this pride because these days it's all I have And I gave to you my best and we both know you can't say that” “I know I’m probably better off all alone.” “Than needing a man who could change his mind At any given minute.” “And it was always on your terms I waited on every careless word. Hoping they might turn sweet again”

literally speechless.

this breakup is seriously sponsored by taylor

#backstage girlfriend #backstage gf!yn

[jinhyun]

was listening to better man by taylor swift and immediately thought of watercolors hyunjin

like half the lyrics fits him perfectly

I know i'm probably better off all alone

Than needing a man who could change his mind

At any given minute

And it was always on your terms

I waited on every careless word

Hoping they might turn sweet again

........damn

#don't touch me i'm entering my emo hours #can i just say tho that i love it so so much when you guys listen to a song and thing of this au :( #it genuinely makes me so happy you have no idea #think* #ask #au: watercolor

[infernallyhate]

It was always on your terms, I waited on every careless word, hoping they might turn sweet again... like it was in the beginning.

[herefortayloronly]

Ever since she sang better man at the show I’ve been thinking about this line a lot tbh

“And it was always on your terms, I waited on every careless words, hoping they might turn sweet again like it was in the beginning” 🫠

[martialartsandcrafts]

better man

I know I'm probably better off on my own Than lovin’ a man who didn't know what he had when he had it And I see the permanent damage you did to me Never again, I just wish I could forget when it was magic

I wish it wasn't 4 AM, standing in the mirror Saying to myself, "You know you had to do it" I know the bravest thing I ever did was run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man And I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man A better man

I know I’m probably better off all alone Than needing a man who could change his mind At any given minute And it was always on your terms I waited on every careless word Hoping they might turn sweet again Like it was in the beginning

But your jealousy, oh, I can hear it now Talking down to me like I'd always be around Push my love away like it was some kind of loaded gun Oh, you never thought I'd run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man And I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man A better man

I hold onto this pride because these days it's all I have And I gave to you my best And we both know you can't say that I wish you were a better man I wonder what we would've become If you were a better man We might still be in love If you were a better man You would've been the one If you were a better man

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man And I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man A better man (Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again) We might still be in love, if you were a better man (But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man) Yeah, yeah I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man A better man

We might still be in love If you were a better man You would've been the one If you were a better man

#i feel like this song for months honestly it's exhausting

[howtopickachick]

I know I'm probably better off all alone than needing a man who could change his mind at any given minute. And it was always on your terms. I waited on every careless word hoping it might turn sweet again like it was in the beginning.

#taylor swift #better man

[kaitlinj16]

"And it was always on your terms,

I waited on every careless word,

Hoping they might turn sweet again,

Like it was in the beginning," -Taylor Swift 🖤

#better man (taylor's version) #taylor swift

[songs-ly-rics-blog]

Better Man - Taylor Swift

I know I'm probably better off on my own Than lovin' a man who didn't know What he had when he had it And I see the permanent damage you did to me Never again, I just wish I could forget when it was magic I wish it wasn't 4am, standing in the mirror Saying to myself, you know you had to do it I know the bravest thing I ever did was run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man And I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man A better man

I know I'm probably better off all alone Than needing a man who could change his mind at any given minute And it was always on your terms I waited on every careless word Hoping it might turn sweet again Like it was in the beginning But your jealousy, oh, I can hear it now You're talking down to me like I'll always be around You push my love away like it was some kind of loaded gun Oh, you never thought I'd run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand And I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man A better man

I hold onto this pride because these days it's all I have And I gave to you my best and we both know you can't say that

I wish you were a better man I wonder what we would've become If you were a better man We might still be in love If you were a better man You would've been the one If you were a better man Yeah, yeah

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand But I just miss you and I just wish you were a better man A better man

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again (We might still be in love, if you were a better man) But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man I know why we had to say goodbye Like the back of my hand But I just miss you and I just wish you were a better man A better man We might still be in love, if you were a better man You would've been the one If you were a better man

#taylor swift #better man #lyrics #song

[destinyudogie]

sometimes, in the middle of the night, i Can feel yoU agaiN buT i just miss you, and i just wish you were a better man and i know why we had to say goodbye like the baCk of my hand bUt i just miss you, aNd i just wish you were a beTter man a better man

i know i'm probably better off all alone than needing a man who could Change his mind at any given minUte aNd it was always on your Terms i waited on every Careless word hoping they might tUrn sweet agaiN like iT was in the beginning

#been trying to come up with secret messages for like ten minutes and i cant think of anything #we go again 💪💪💪

[autumpixy]

I know I'm probably better off on my own

Than lovin' a man who didn't know what he had when he had it

And I see the permanent damage you did to me

Never again, I just wish I could forget when it was magic

I wish it wasn't 4AM, standing in the mirror

Saying to myself, "You know you had to do it"

I know the bravest thing I ever did was run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again

But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man

And I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand

But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man

A better man

I know I'm probably better off all alone

Than needing a man who could change his mind

At any given minute

And it was always on your terms

I waited on every careless word

Hoping they might turn sweet again

Like it was in the beginning

But your jealousy, oh, I can hear it now

Talking down to me like I'd always be around

Push my love away like it was some kind of loaded gun

Oh, you never thought I'd run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again

But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man

And I know why we had to say goodbye, like the back of my hand

But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man

I hold onto this pride because these days it's all I haveAnd I gave to you my best and we both know you can't say that

#abuse survivor #exhusband #imbetterthanyou #you lost me #goodbye