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tenderpreyy · 9 months

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I’m thinking again about Astarions sexuality and how I've seen some people (to be fair, just a few) talk about it. Mainly, people pointing out his flamboyant behavior, and that us as players are learning more about his past male lovers than female ones and basically all these things for some people pointing to him being gay or at least not interested in women in the same way he is in men. And him only being a romance option regardless of gender, because, well, all companions are and he is therefore just "playersexual", only showing interest in female player characters because he has to, because of the game mechanics.

I think what really rubs me the wrong way about this topic is that it echoes the kind of things bi/pan people (speaking as a bisexual woman myself) find themselves dealing with irl. Whether through some form of internalized biphobia or from the outside through other people's comments. Of course this is about a fictional character so it’s not like he has any feelings that could be hurt. But when i see people tallying up how often he mentions men vs. how often he mentions women it really reminds me of a way of thinking I sometimes fall into in regards to my own sexuality. This is definitely just an internalized response and not something I actually believe when I truly think about it for a second, but I know these patterns of thought very well. Of observing my own behavior. How often do I find which gender attractive? Am I attracted "enough" to women? Do I talk about men's attractiveness too often? Is it the other way around? Am I only saying this woman is attractive to prove something to myself? I literally have a girlfriend and my attitude towards mine or other's sexual orientation is generally a huge big "whatever, I don't care". And I still have a passing thought like that from time to time.

So seeing people talk about a fictional character in this way really sends home how many people (whether consciously or unconsciously) see attraction as some sort of equation, you can solve, where in the end you get a result of either gay or straight.

#bg3 #baldurs gate 3 #baldur's gate 3 #astarion #this has been sitting in my drafts for a few days but i thought why not just post it. its been on my mind.#i saw someone in the notes under a post about astarion literally counting off how often he mentions men vs women #and asking for proof of where he shows he is in fact attracted to women.#like... do you see what you're doing here??#aaaand another thing since people love bringing up his flamboyancy.... he is obviously playing that up a lot #because you know... that whole 'i have to seduce people so i am safe' thing #not saying that thats not also the real him but breaking it down to flamboyant=gay makes even less sense in the context.#its not that i think people shouldn't headcanon him as gay or asexual or whatever #i think thats great too. seeing different people's readings of the character.#just.... leave out the bi-/panphobia ffs. people dont have to show proof that they are in fact bi/pan.

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beesinspades · 11 months

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something something ace people often being told they're not human for not experiencing sexual attraction and/or not wanting sex, something something vash seeing his sex-averse asexuality as yet another thing that makes him even more different from humans than he already is because of it

#trigun #vash the stampede #asexual #acephobia #internalized acephobia #bee talks #ace vash tag #when i was writing hualian i was very much doing so with 'xl is super duper comfortable with being ace' in mind at all times #but vash............yeah no i don't think he'd be #anyway i just like thinking that when he pretends to be asleep to avoid having sex #and thinks the attention/kisses (?) were already more than he deserved / wonders if he regrets it at least a little bit (98 anime)#it's a combination of his self-loathing (both in general and about his scars) and his asexuality #i've seen people sometimes going 'it's not about not wanting sex it's about his self-loathing'#well i say it's both. it can be both.#disclaimer these are obviously headcanons~#canon ace in my heart though!!!#anyway that's why personally i like writing my wolfwood allo even though I like him acespec too #i need whoever vash's partner is to be allo but still tell him it's okay #but also obviously he needs ace human friends

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confused-disaster32 · 4 months

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Hi! So you can call this a rant or a vent or whatever I don't rlly care - I just wanted to put some of my opinions out there bc it is eating me inside out to keep my opinions on Alastor's sexuality and all of the discourse about him being shipped to myself.

Also i'd like to state that I'm writing this as someone who is aroace but has no actual wish to be in a romantic relationship and actually struggles to so much as picture what that's be like for myself. I would also like to state how I'm not speaking for the whole community and others will have different opinions to myself.

Firstly - aroace is a spectrum (as someone who is on the aroace spectrum btw) and I completely agree with ppl who say that it is a spectrum and shipping has always existed and you can't rlly stop an entire fandom. My only problem is when ppl completely ignore that he is aroace while doing this, bc to me it seems like there's so much potential to having him have to go through those types of emotions and to write him off as if he's completely allo not only can make some people feel unseen but also just isn't as fun.

Also I kind of believe that he'd possibly date someone for the entertainment - like even if he didn't exactly feel romantic attraction maybe he'd be willing to be around someone closely bc he might like the reactions he'd be getting. (example: he might've stayed in a relationship with Vox maybe not out of pure attraction but if he found out that affection could make the TV short-circuit? He'd be interested)

Adding to that, I personally do not actually ship him with anyone romantically due to his character + the fact that I am projecting my own distaste for romance on him but you do you ig.

Also, on the note of nsfw around him - sometimes you cannot stop a fandom, rule 34 exists and some people who are asexual sometimes may want to have sex and all of that stuff. Personally I think he'd probably be sex-repulsed due to the fact that he canonically has issues with being touched.

ALSO, i personally think that way too many people are brushing over the idea of putting Alastor in a QPR - like that would literally be so awesome.

Alastor x Rosie? Cute af (to me Rosie gives of aro vibes too, but more romance - favourable) like they're already besties and honestly I think that Rosie would defo help him figure out about his identity considering that he's quite obviously not all that sure about slang and stuff.

Vox x Alastor - It has the potential to be SO FUCKING FUN like, you get to experiment with how they feel for each other, maybe what Alastor's got going on bc he died before being aroace was rlly a thing and he'd be confused about how he felt about Vox for sure.

Lucifer x Alastor - I quite like it, ik that Lucifer is supposed to be with Lillith but she did take an extremely long hiatus on her family up in heaven so i think it's okay. Plus the idea of them bonding and becoming close due to Charlie is wonderful.

Even angel and Alastor - maybe after Val Angel doesn't want a super sexual relationship - maybe he's not all that interested in something purely romantic either and though I love huskerdust this would still be pretty cool.

Really all I'm saying is; be considerate. Incorporate the fact that Alastor is Aroace, even if you do ship him - in or out of QPRs - and ofc sometimes writing someone who is part of a group ur not in is difficult (coming from someone who often struggles in writing especially when it comes to romance) but taking a crack at it might actually turn out to be rlly cool.

But please don't ignore his aroace-ness, there's not a huge amount of aroace characters out there and acting like someone isn't can be annoying for ppl who want to find rep around their identity, esp if they haven't seen much before (I can relate and he was one of the first aroace characters I was introduced to after I found out what it meant).

So yeah, that's my piece.

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crescentfool · 2 months

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having the hc that minato is ace is incredibly funny sometimes when you think about how ryoji is oh so very bi because it's like. "ah. death stole my ability to be attracted to people," in the same way that ryoji stole minato's eye color and energy level. like wow, thanks ryoji, you just keep finding things to steal from minato!

#persona 3 spoilers #minato arisato #hc and au nonsense #lizzy speaks #happy international asexuality day to my fellow aces out there i hope you know that you are loved!!! 🎊🎉🥳#i like viewing minato with the lens of him being gay / ace. esp bc it stems from my own experiences so it's fun to look at-#him from that perspective even if that's not what was intended by atlus y'know?#and im sure others have other hcs from me that are informed by their own life experiences and i think that's great ^_^#something that i found interesting while playing FES was how. stilted? minato's animations felt when hugging the girls #you could definitely go with the perspective that it's a graphical limitation or they didn't have time to polish the animations #and that's def true!! but sometimes i see the hug @ yakushima beach + the other hugs and then i compare it to the sou/yo hug in p4 #and there's like... a noticeable difference to me with how intimate and close together the hugs are...#that said i do know that the animations for reload are updated and the hugs are much more natural (good on them tbh!)#the other thing is (pensive sigh). the way you couldn't reject any of the girls when doing their social links in FES #objectively speaking i'm glad that they did away with that and i like how the rejections were handled in reload. it feels naturally written #but also a part of me enjoyed looking at the “hey atlus what the FUCK” moment and thought of how to interpret it differently #specifically with the idea of minato having like.. little to no autonomy and kind of going along with the relationship #it kind of reminded me of myself tbh with like going along with the rship without considering what you want bc #it's what others want or expect out of you... LOL. i dont think atlus intended for someone to interpret it this way but #eh i think that's the fun part of hcs and looking at characters with certain lenses!#regardless of how you perceive minato i do think there's something to be said about him being the kind of guy who molds himself-#into someone that is needed. not wanted. but needed. important distinction here.#the one caveat my brain runs into when im like “minato is ace!” is when i remember thanatos exists and i go #“you know what these ideas can exist simultaneously” GKLHFHDFHD when in doubt schrodinger's headcanons #anyway that's all i've had this thought in my brain in awhile and haven't sat down to share it properly until now 👍#have an excellent weekend everyone !!! lizzy loves you all lets all nurture our inner yippee!!! 🥺💙

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jubjubmaz · 7 months

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Babygirl babygirl vampire he’s everything to me I have so many HEADCANONS things omg

Minor spoilers??

1. I think this man is so ace. Like I am convinced this man is ace and just doesn’t know it because he was conditioned to think he likes having sex. I will die on this hill

2. I think he would be super soft for poetry and art about him but would try not showing it at first and then would show it when he’s more comfortable. I could see this man sobbing while holding a piece of writing.

3. He definitely sleeps with a dagger under his pillow. He doesn’t when sleeping next to someone he trusts because he feels safe but I could easily see a situation where someone startled him awake and he immediately whips around with the dagger threatening them. And then he would mutter an apology and put it back down asking what you want.

4. He probably loves cuddling but physical touch is far from his favourite love language. I’d guess he’s probably more of a words of affirmation and reassurance person.

5. This man would devote himself to you 👁️👁️

Anywho enjoy my brainrot I’ve actually been losing my mind about this man to the point of feeling nauseous.

#astarion #bg3 #bg3 spoilers #bg3 astarion #headcanon #balls deep gate #baldur's gate 3 #astarion fanart #vampire #losing my mind #nauseous #i’m so normal #hes so pretty #i would kill for him #anyways #the brainrot is real #asexual #i would do anything for him

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twenty-orange-balloons · 1 year

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I totally get people wanting to write characters as asexual, and that is completely valid, I just find it hilarious when people write Lan Wangji as asexual.

The man who had a dream about shoving the most beautiful, annoying, trouble making cultivator to the floor and fucking him into oblivion in his own clan's public library.

The man who, first chance he got, shoved that same beautiful, annoying, troublemaking cultivator against a tree and all but tongue fucked his mouth.

The same man who constantly horny grips™️ his sword because he is probably trying to restrain himself from tearing off his crushes robes and slamming him into the ground, against a wall, a tree, any where he can.

The same man who tied his ribbon around his crushes wrists whenever he could, the same man who fucked his zhī jǐ on the ground behind a bush because he couldn't wait any longer.

That man? As asexual? Is just hilarious to me.

#not saying you can't headcanon or write him that way #it just always gives me a giggle whenever I see it #cell rambles #mdzs #cql #lan wangji #tbh I headcanon him as wwx-sexual #but that could also just be because he's never met someone that he found attractive #as much as he finds wwx attractive #either way I do think he and wwx (especially wwx) are in the ace spectrum #just can't help but get a giggle when I think of pretty much canon 'sex with wwx obsessed' lwj as completely asexual

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sweethome-thoughts · 1 year

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Finishing aromantic week on a cool note because who am I if not the Number One Aroace Hyun-Su Enjoyer !!

#if they pull the romance card on S2 I might just fucking end it #NAVILLERA BEING THE ONLY SONG KANG SHOW IN WHICH HE DOESN'T END UP WITH SOMEONE IS !!! Sweet Home do the same pls #cha hyun su #sweet home #headcanon #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aroace #sweet home netflix #sweet home headcanon #also yeah i hc him aroace REPULSED ok thank you

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mars-ipan · 5 months

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look i love my asexual headcanons to death and what i’m about to say in no way discounts said asexual headcanons. with that disclosed i do not think aziraphale is a “virgin” (<- virginity isn’t real but you get my point) take one look at that angel and tell me he didn’t go to bacchanals i mean come the fuck on

#marzi speaks #i have no opinion nor do i care about whether people think crowley fucks. i think it’s funny if he doesn’t but i could see it either way #but aziraphale? while i don’t think it’s his favorite thing in the world you cannot tell me he never dabbled #bacchanals (and dionysian raves before that) seem right up his alley #plus there’s the fucking. ‘discreet gentlemen’s club’ (THE FUCKING HUNDRED GUINEAS CLUB??? SIR.)#and this guy lives in soho!!!! i mean truly #i don’t think he really seeks sex out or anything #i mean there’s those diary entries where he turns down the woman who essentially flashes him (and i believe a man later?)#so like he’s clearly not someone who really wants sex that much #but there’s no way in hell he never tried it at least once. he’s wayyyy too curious for that #i have a feeling he really stopped ‘trying it out’ after 1941 though. i feel like after he realizes just how deeply he feels for crowley #he’d like. feel Extra Weird about having sex with anyone else #especially bc he isn’t attracted to humans (perhaps beyond like aesthetic attraction)#but he’s definitely dabbled #crowley? could go either way. on one hand: demon. temptations. et cetera #on the other: he’s far less cool than he acts and while having sex isn’t necessarily cool it feels like smth he’d lie about to seem cooler #plus i doubt he’d ever really have any proper interest in humans. probably even less so than aziraphale #see this still coincides with the asexual headcanons. it’s chill 👍

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silverstream2 · 1 year

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*points at Vergil* Love that asexual!

#Sil Talks #“But Nero exists-”#yes so do asexuals that have varying levels of libido #and can be sex favorable #(tho tbh I headcanon that Vergil just tried it once #just out of curiosity and annoyingly insistent libido #and then was just like 'nah; I'm good'#I could still see him being open to sex like. once in a blue moon MAYBE.#if it was with the right person #but in general? Nah.)#also don't headcanon him as aromantic #tho in my mind him trying to be in a romantic relationship with ANYONE would be a whole 'nother can of worms #because the dude basically stopped having a normal life at like. 8?#and then had a “normal” for a devil hunter life only until he was like. 19?#so yeah #dude has so much trauma to work through before he even has a decent relationship with his family #never mind friendship #or romance #Devil May Cry #totally fine with people headcanoning him as aro too #I see you and ilu #I could see him as maybe demiromantic?

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pewpew08 · 1 year

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ace tuffnut

#enough said #ive had this headcanon for so long #i HAD to #ok but hear me out #i literally cant see him in any other way. like. he is ACE. PERIOD. all his previous relationships have failed bc of it #poor tuff #tuffnut #tuffnut thorston #httyd #thorston twins #inspired by those flags that have dinosaurs & shit on them #he is also a pyromaniac. he told me himself #guys please listen to me #hey everyone! ive got an announcement to make! i...had...an....IDEAAA #he canonically has a tattoo. who wants to bet on what it is😳#ngl i think this image goes pretty hard #if i do say so myself and I do say so myself #asexual #asexual pride

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the-irrelevant-trumpeter · 2 years

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not to post about friends, but i’ve seen gay chandler bing headcanons, and bi chandler bing headcanons, but i haven’t seen any aromantic chandler bing headcanons and i am here to change that.

#asexuality is optional. going off canon there’s moments i think would work either way.#anyway please tell me that someone else has seen chandler ‘afraid of commitment’ bing #and thought ‘maybe that’s because his amatanormative society has convinced him that he needs to have a fulfilling romantic relationship #but when he tries he gets freaked out and cuts it off #and equates his own inability to move onto ‘romantic’ stuff #to being afraid of commitment’#queerplatonic vibes are also optional #bc that could also definitely fit #anyway i’m so sorry to expose myself as someone who has watched friends #i have a love-hate relationship with it #anyway i’m not tagging this but if people do find this. can’t stop you.#also just wanted to say that gay/bi headcanons are well and good. no hate. i’m just aro and want more aro representation

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tev-the-random · 2 years

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Oops, my hand slipped again.

(A remake of an old art. Happy pride month!)

#I haven't properly drawn Sonic once ever since that first drawing #Yet the way I draw him changed oh so much #What don't several Sonic OCs do to your art skills amirite?#yo my signature changed since then as well #My headcanon never changed and it never will #Sonic is still AroAce and all who disagree are wrong /j #Sonic the Hedgehog #AroAce #asexual #aromantic #Pride Month #LGBTQIA+#Tev Pretends To Be An Artist

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stomach-rental · 2 years

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reeses pieces … reece my poor little guy pls im keeling over at your feet what did rhey do to my sweet boy —spitwick

WELL you see [cracks knuckles] (talking about Reese's problems is one of my favorite things sometimes)

Reese and Beni typically come as a pair. BUT. Benita is easily fired up and doesn't like dealing with emotions. If it turns out she may have soft spots or that she may be feeling weird or awkward about something, she will turn directly away from it into another direction to look for distractions. In Chicagoverse, that direction is partying, getting with people for flings, etc. She is running on high strung energy and wants to carry those highs as far out and away from all of the bullshit and things that need therapy in her life as possible.

Normally this isn't a problem for Reese, as they always usually have time for each other, but, uh. He starts getting emotions, and suddenly he's the one Beni is avoiding because of it. Reese really, really likes Beni, not necessarily in a romantic way, but seeing Will and Louis getting closer makes Reese realize just how spaced out his own life is, and how he doesn't get very close to other people but really does want to have those same comforts, and the closest person in his life IS Beni, so. You know. Maybe he wants to talk about doing their own thing together. A platonic partnership of sorts, maybe hugging and cuddling more often with none of that weird kissing stuff, just. Testing out the waters.

Beni is TERRIFIED of emotional closeness and would rather do sex with strangers at a party than actively admit and talk about any sort of familial closeness between the two of them. She starts acting weird because of it and Reese feels really bad, everything is just Tense. Reese doesn't just have a magical solution like vore to deal with his internal trust issues and his need for closeness that he's been shoving down for years now, and that's why he is having Problems in this fic. It may not seem as dire or stressful as the stuff will and louis get into at times but it IS pretty stressful for him, as he Really does not have a lot of people and he Does Not want to lose the one person he's got, you know?

This is based off of a Couple of RP things I have done in the past with Reese, one of which Louis ends up asking for Tactical Sleeping Hugs in attempt to scare away nightmares because no one else is available, and the other of which Reese is attempting (and failing) to understand how vore actually Helps will and louis. I actually DID do a drawing of one of them, let me see if I can find it since it's relative to this fic

#asks #reese's pieces is such a good name for the fic too I'm so glad I came up with that #chicagoverse is my personal verse of headcanons of how they work-- I have...an Extensive amount of them and not all of them are canon #also in the fic where he attempts to understand vore he ends up putting Louis on his chest and I. soft. ok #in chicago verse reese is grayromantic and asexual which means that while he many times PRETENDS to be interested #and also secretly does desperately Want that romantic attraction he only gets a taste of #he never really knows what to do with it and he's just Bad at keeping romance in general #what I am describing here for him and beni would be an entirely different direction with more of a queer platonic partnership going on #he's never done something like that before and while he has never even been SLIGHTLY romantically inclined towards his best friend #he has definitely wished at times they would just live together and do everything together #reese is also just a LITTLE bicurious. he's figuring himself out #CANONICALLY peachnewt has pegged him as more. uh #grayromantic/graysexual straight #which is fair and good I just love him so much and end up Projecting ffjfh

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snobgoblin · 2 years

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well first of all he reproduced using only one parent, if that isn't by definition, asexual, I dont know what is

#professor utonium #ppg #the powerpuff girls #besides that like #literally let ppl have their headcanons if they arent hurting anyone #:[#he wanted a family first and a wife second #sex is not a priority to him #you do know romantic attraction exists right? and that aces can experience it?#also i know full well what theyre trying to say #just being a jackass #bc i like this headcanon actually #ace #asexual

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murky-tannin · 4 months

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People learn the difference between canon and headcanon challenge

#murky mumbles #tannin bitching hours #qcellbit isn't canonically ace. there is nothing wrong with the headcanon. it's a great headcanon. it's not canon.#Imagine I called him a canon sa victim. Purely for the reason that a lot of survivors don't want to have sex #you'd go 'that's misinfo. Don't call your headcanon canon. plenty of people don't like sex and arent sa survivors'#just because you relate to a character doesn't mean their reasoning is the same as yours #so why the fuck are we doing this with asexuality simply because qCellbit doesn't want to have sex #It's a great headcanon! I have it myself! I'm a sex repulsed asexual! It's also a headcanon and I'm not claiming it as canon!#He's not ace rep. He's not rep of sa survivors. He's not rep of anything other then someone who doesn't want to have sex #he can be RELATABLE to certain ace people or certain sa survivors or anyone who doesn't want to have sex for whatever reason #but that does not make him a representation of whatever reasoning you personally headcanon for him #Fuck for all we know he loves to have sex but has erectile dysfunction and is insecure about it #Stop claiming your personal headcanon for why he doesn't want to have sex or whatever labels he uses to describe it is canon #begging y'all

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the-archpriest-and-the-outcast · 11 months

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So are you a virgin or nah?

"I have never been interested in anything of a sexual sort. I never found humans to be appealing in that way, nor anyone, truly. So yes, I am a virgin."

#hello the hermit behind the blog here #i headcanon lorgar to be asexual #sex-repulsed for his own personal self; otherwise he's indifferent to what other people do #if you try to use this information to be a dig at him please know im going to be genuinely pissed an any asks that are of that sort of lean #are going to be deleted and ignored. dont use being a virgin as a gotcha for someone.

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