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nn-ee-zz · 1 year

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This is a total complement. You are like THE nicest artist I have seen on the internet ever. I have met and read some super cool people of course, here in there m, but your inbox and tags are just so wholesome. Keep doing what you are doing.

THANKS!!

My approach to social media is inspired by one of my oldest inspirations and fave artist. They were always so patient and kind when I was an unknown beginner and I rarely ever seen them get angry on main. That became the energy I wanted to convey.

This might be silly but there's some things I do to keep it together online. I hope it doesn't come off as too preachy. Managing your social media is a skill that can improve with time, just as much as your art does. It saves you a lot of headaches...

-Don't reply while angry. Sometimes I crave chaos and want to quote-retweet or share what's making me upset with thousands of people. I just stop myself and think ''i'll post this tomorrow''. Then I don't post at all and feel SO GRATEFUL that I didn't do anything in the heat of the moment. Writing it down on paper is great too

-Keep a private account. You don't owe anyone your feelings or thoughts. A private account is the difference between rambling with a mic in a full stadium vs talking to a group of friends. It's also very freeing. I love tweeting about my silly characters of the week (these last few weeks it has been aemond)

-Block and mute as you wish. It's not a sign of hatred, you're just curating your social media. One thing that shocks my art friends is that I mute artists whose skills make me jealous or insecure. No hard feelings, but if something is bringing me down I don't wanna look. I might un-mute them in the future. If someone says something I don't like, I mute or block them too.

-Don't feel guilty. I see a lot of artists unsure about this 'calculated' approach because they're afraid it might come off as fake. It's not! People are so complex and made of many sides. The way you act with your friends irl isn't the same way you act with your teachers/bosses, for example, and yet you're still you. When in my art accounts, I use my mentor/peer side (professionalism to me is mostly for emails).

Oof, I write a lot....

#ask #personal

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aspecpplarebeautiful · 11 months

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Previous vent Anon here about the unorganized spaces.

Someone in the comments mentioned the same thing pretty much about unorganized spaces and how people want to vent, with something else (I forgot that quickly, my memory sucks) and then said it’s best to scroll on if it doesn’t apply.

I think the same applies here. My vent doesn’t apply to everyone’s experience so if it doesn’t apply, then scroll. I don’t mean that in an ugly way but it’s just how it is. Personal experiences and what I’ve seen vs what you’ve seen is different. I do scroll on if it’s not of my interest, I’ve even blocked people that way I don’t have to see their stuff on my feed. But it still pops up anyway.

My main frustration here is the ones who generalize it and make it seem like it’s bad in general to experience love, yes those types of people exist.

Love can fucking suck. Love is complicated, complex, heartbreaking, and I hate it sometimes; I hate that it’s put on a pedestal saying that should be our only life goal. I’m not invalidating ones who experience that feeling 24/7 and want to vent about it, I don’t have a problem with them. I’m annoyed by the ones, again, who generalize it. Love can mean a lot to others. Ridding amatonormativity will be able to promote both the idea that love is beautiful but it can also suck and no one’s obligated to feel it or engage in it for whatever reason. Promoting the idea that love sucks and isn’t beautiful and it��s disgusting that others feel it doesn’t help.

Yeah, I get where you're coming from, Anon. I definitely agree that amatonormativity is the real issue, and it affects us all in different ways. I think part of the problem is that venting itself is rarely nuanced and thoughtful and just the circumstances of a bunch of different people being pushed into the same space, people are going to butt heads. It's not just relationships to love I see this for, either. We're a big diverse community, and there's a lot of competing needs going around.

Scrolling past is one option, but I think it's just human nature to be affected by posts that seem to be attacking what's important to us, even if you do understand where that person may be coming from. While I agree it's best to move on and not to interact, you can't always help having an emotional reaction and that's OK. I am a big believer in utilizing the block button. Unfortunately Tumblr doesn't give us a muting option, but blocking someone doesn't necessarily mean the other person is even doing anything wrong, it just means they're posting things you're not interested in or don't want to see.

It's important to use the tools we have to curate our online spaces as much as we can. This can also mean unfollowing people, hiding certain tags, if possible, etc. Don't be afraid to do what you have to to have a good experience on here.

All the best, Anon!

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smolghostbot · 6 months

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Decided "heck it, i'll make a pinned post" so uh hi, welcome to my pinned post. I'm smolghostbot, or any combination of those words because it's a mouthful, or Quinn because that's my name.

This is my blog for g/t, whumpy stuff, maybe a pinch of monster appreciating, and generally things that I'm not comfortable posting on main since people there know me IRL. This blog isn't NSFW or anything most of the time but I do reblog NSFW textposts occasionally with the tag [#smolghostbot after dark], so if you don't want to see that there's the block tag. I also try to content warn when appropriate, if I miss something please (politely) send me a message about it, I have anon asks on if you're afraid of confrontation about it.

Anyways, uh, what I do here... Mostly memes and sometimes writing and art. There's a few different things that I do that I wanted to list out here though, with links.

Self-Posts

My Art Tag

Unsorted Writing Tag

Patchwork Melody - A whumpy yet comfy G/t story about communication conflicts between a mute borrower and an AuDHD human who both have too much anxiety for their own good. Only the first half of the story is released right now, but I've done a lot of slice-of-life writing prompts, some of which are being adapted into the full story.

Battle Against A True Hero - Set in the same universe at Patchwork Melody, this is kinda a writing practice gone out of control, a mostly lighthearted story about a 2-inch tall self-proclaimed hero trying to take down a human who simply is not having it. (Character tag.)

Unlucky Clover - A combination of my two Normal(tm) brain cells, size and vampires. A borrower shelters in a home for the winter, unaware that the occupant is a bit more than a simple human.

The Protector - Very tonally different from my other writing and 100% a horror whump story with a sprinkle of G/t, but I'm still proud of it and want to list it here. A woman meets a mysterious... something on her way home at night in a mixed-size town.

#g/t community #giant/tiny #g/t writing #g/t whump

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sproutzai · 2 months

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Rules and Info about Zai!!

✦˚. Hi !! This blog is a mix of angst, nsfw and fluff content. all of which will be tagged accordingly. You can see which tags to mute / block here !

✦˚. I am a self shipper, and with certain instances I may get jealous over sharing. but this is pretty rare most of the time.

✦˚. read my carrd before interacting ! it has some info you'll probably need on there and I am not rewriting it out ( lazy )

✦˚. dms are !!always!! welcome, and my askbox is literally constantly open for anything. i adore talking to you all. mutuals + followers can reach out for literally anything at any time, i love u all. small little community :)

✦˚. I draw goobs!! lots of goobs!! if you ever want me to draw a goob for you send an ask in and I'll see what I can do !

✦˚. i looove to roleplay. love love love.

✦˚. I MAKE REALLY DARK JOKES !!!!! Aside from the usual joking threats and "kys" I may mention dark topics !!! usually to do with trauma!!! but it's funny!! dark humour!!!!

✦˚. this blog isn't technically MDNI, but try to refrain from openly interacting with my nsfw works . same with my writing blog !

✦˚. I have really strong opinions and I'm not afraid to voice them. don't like it? block or ignore.

✦˚. further dnis include -

ㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ- BL fans

ㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ- those who call it yaoi unironically

ㅤㅤㅤㅤ- ppl who only ship gay ships

ㅤㅤ ㅤ- doubles (fictive)

ㅤㅤ ㅤㅤ - "silly car :3" people. gross.

ㅤㅤ ㅤ- people with intense xenopronouns. ( eg 💧/💧self , )

ㅤㅤ ㅤ- other usual dni criteria

ㅤㅤ ㅤ - self diagnosers ( you aren't valid )

ㅤㅤㅤ - under 14 ( I genuinely can't believe I have to put this. )

#wip

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rottingsick · 2 years

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honestly these things aren't talked a lot in the vent blog community but, as someone whose run multiple vent blogs for a long time both as a teen and an adult, some things I think are extremely important to know- especially if you're new to any vent community.

(some of this stuff can apply outside of people who run vent blogs, but thats the target of this post)

it's okay to own a vent blog. it seriously and genuinely is okay and many people on here can attest to their therapists approving of it. however, this is only the case if you're venting rather than triggering yourself. vent blogs are a little different because usually you'll also consume others content. please avoid content that triggers you. block tags and words, ask people to tag, tag your own stuff for others. block every user that has a blog with triggering content even if they only just liked one of your posts or even if you just saw one of their posts. you've got to actively put up barriers to what triggers you due to the nature of this community.

block every single not sfw blog you see. every. single. one. if you're old enough to have and own a blog like that, make it on an entirely different account. don't be afraid to report those accounts if they start touching your vent posts.

diagnosises are not everything. it can be helpful to talk abt in certain circumstances or for instance if yer blog is centered around dealin with a specific disorder, but its the symptoms that make the disorder- thats how mental disorder diagnosises work. the disorder doesn't cause the symptoms. (altho perfectly fine to in just casual conversation say "i do xyz because I have abc" because the disorder is just a label to the symptoms). no one needs to know yours or others diagnosis if its not relevant. don't feel pressured to give them out. don't pressure others to give theirs.

it is ableist to be against serious, detailed, and well researched self diagnosis. not everyone can afford therapists and those with more stigmatized disorders have to lie to have any legal rights a lot of the time. of course, self diagnosis can be harmful, but literally everything can be. and if you realize your self diagnosis is wrong, simply move on. admittin you were wrong is not that big of a deal.

don't fake claim people. seriously, don't. you cannot make that judgement of others.

speaking of disorders though, you can find almost any disorder tags and blogs by adding the word "actually" in front of the disorder (ex: actually npd)

how others cope does not mean anything to how you cope. your issues are still issues even if someone else deals with similar issues differently. you don't need to "do" or "prove" anything to be worthy of a place and recovery. (read: for the love of god do not start sh if you don't already just because its so normalized in vent blog communties)

do check periodically if your vent blog is actually helpin you or makin things worse. moniter your mental health closely and take breaks and compare how you feel.

don't join vent servers. just. don't. its temptin I know but it's literally invitin more stress in your life and makin you feel less than. people will ignore you in them and you will feel pressured to try to help others. it's literally like screamin into a void that destroys you.

mute every vent channel you see when you enter a new server. keep use and openin them to a minimum. similar reasons as above but usually not as bad, but still.

letting people around you directly vent to you and helpin them and then only keepin your vents to your blog is not healthy. please have boundaries and let people know they should respect you too

on the other side of the coin, please always ask before directly venting to someone even if its on anon. and actually make sure its really okay. don't vent to someone if they can't handle it. but again keep above in mind. these two points go together

don't feel pressured to force positivity on your vent blog. that's not what its for and that's okay. however, do try to bring positivity in other areas of your life if you can. gush about positive things too in other ways. however, it is okay if there is positive things & things you like on your vent blog. my vent blog here is more of a mixed blog if you really want to get specific. vent and gush in whatever ways helps you most.

don't be afraid to delete your blog if its no longer useful. don't be afraid to move blogs.

and most of all: respect dnis. includin on this post. specifically gonna call out ed blogs here. don't interact, seriously.

#bpd yandere #irl yandere #actually yandere #yancore #text #info #yandere tags because thats the vent community Im in #if it leaks outside of yandere community idm though #altho note: vent servers and just servers for ppl who have mental issues are different #however there is an overlap and its really case by case #I am in two yandere servers but one is more just a lot of gushin and talkin abt magic weirdly lmao #the other somehow is the most normal fuckin server. if it werent for the yan brandin or a little unhingedness here n there.. lmao #but yandere stuff is in more the 'mixed' category of vent and fun #it takes vent into smth fun #but this post is abt vent community in general and most vent community dont have that same kind of weirdness with vent vs fun as yan does #long post #yeah gsjshdjdjhd #mine

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extasiswings · 4 years

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(1/2) Tumblr: "Unpopular opinion: Buck had every right to file that lawsuit!!" Me: That's.... not an unpopular opinion but alright. 🥴 Twitter: "Eddie was completely wrong, and he needs to apologize for everything, including calling Buck exhausting/selfish!!" Me: Yes, we know.... you post this same opinion every other day.... he wasn't completely wrong though. Now can we talk about something else? 🤣

(2/2) Fandom: "They only threw Buck one welcome back party, when he's gone through several traumatic events!! They cared more about Chim when he was stabbed!! The 118 doesn't care about Buck at all!!1!" Me: ....okay.... I'm gonna move on lol Honestly tired of people recycling the same rhetoric everyday lol how do you handle it/opinions you don't agree with but keep seeing?

Ohhhhhh nonny, there there. Honestly? I deal with it by...mostly not seeing it. I am not on Twitter because approximately four months there a few years ago was enough to scar me for life. When I see Bad Takes here on tumblr it’s usually on the rare occasion that I venture into the actual tags because I’m looking for something after an episode, or when I’m checking reblogs of something of mine and happen to see other things. And when I do get fed up, I will, instead of reblogging the Bad Takes and explaining why they’re bad, occasionally vent right here on my personal blog (or in private conversations with friends) where no one has to see it unless they follow me, and 99.9% of the time I won’t tag those vents with anything related to the fandom because frankly I just don’t need the Drama. I’ll tag actual meta/speculations/fic/reactions, but otherwise...yeah. When it comes to the Eddie (and/or firefam) Bad Takes I’m more likely to get frustrated but even less likely to tag original posts about my frustrations because White Fandom is gonna White Fandom and I am far beyond the point in my life where I have the emotional capacity to get in those weeds over something as low-stakes as fandom (especially when I get in those weeds over much higher-stakes things on a fairly regular basis).

Basically nonny, I have long since learned that your fandom experience is what you make of it. In some fandoms, I will read fic from a lot of authors. In others, like this one, I don’t usually read fic except from people I trust because I know the prevalence of certain things (characterization issues, etc) is going to put me off or, with more egregious examples, actively upset me. I am more than happy to flail excitedly with whoever happens to come up to my porch and knock on the door (fic comments/asks/meta requests/prompts/whatever), but I’m less likely to venture outside into the wild wild west of fandom space because I have been burned (so very, very burned) before. And because I’m not here for unnecessary drama, I am also, as seen this week, willing to step back and turn off anonymous asks, etc when I feel like I need a break (that particular decision was sparked by a nasty bit of anon hate and again, I just don’t have the time or the energy). Also, don’t be afraid to unfollow/mute/block people! This is not life or death, it’s fandom, and fandom should be fun. If someone keeps putting negativity on your feed, or even if they just post too much and you’re tired of seeing it, hit those buttons! It’s what they’re there for!

Anyway, xoxo nonny. You’re always welcome here. Have a great day <3

#chapel talks #ask #Anonymous

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