In that simple, authentic, vulnerable place where your questions are hard and your words are unrehearsed, He’s waiting for the real you among the muck and the mire
Have you ever heard of the movie ‘The Truman Show?’
I often have felt like I’m living in a real-life episode of 'The Truman Show' without the script or the paycheck and it’s more a ‘True Crime!’ My ex has turned stalking me into some kind of full-time surveillance club of unwitting accomplices or possibly some just as deviant as him. If only I could cash in on this level of dedication and creativity to sabotage, infiltrate my personal life, my Job’s, my relationships, my friendships, every social media platform, and physical surveillance of 19 years, I'd be rolling in royalties!
But alas, here I am, the unwitting hot coal of a twisted reality game I never wanted any part of, where posting a profile picture feels more like I’m sending out a distress signal that the plane just waves as it passes by. At least I've mastered the art of social media disclaimers on almost every platform – 'Caution: I’m being Stalked! Please Handle with Care.'
Who knew my boring life could be this entertaining? Stay tuned for the next episode of 'Stalked and Stifled' – coming to a platform near you!
Why shouldn’t I divulge any of my personal life publicly like everyone else does?
What would a normal care-free life feel like?
Because my ex-husband’s idea of a good time and hobby includes using others and himself under the guise of fake profiles, fake friendships, fake relationships, fake job offers to lurk in dark shadows more persistent and vicious than a “pop up” phishing scam.
Now imagine a life of 19 years of this and police reports later and no relief and he won’t go away. How much damage could one do and how much more damage when he uses many more to include their harassment and stalking in his game of manipulation of you and everything and everyone around you and the ppl you love?
What would become of you?
So here’s to wishing that All Of My Loved One’s Never Know And Have A Happy Life Ahead Of Them! ❤️❤️
When things don't go how you like them, you stop at nothing to get your way.
I use to have panic attacks because of your behavior.
You would constantly call, text, and email me until I answered you.
Keep me on the phone for hours, and falsely accuse me if I didn’t pickup my phone.
You spread false information to my neighbors, friends, co-workers, and anyone that would listen so you could stalk me.
I can't help but wonder if you ever considered the harm that you’ve caused to our son and everyone around you.
You consistently demonstrated animosity towards me and attempted to make me feel guilty for pursuing my personal growth, including going to college and building a life beyond our past relationship.
You couldn't bear to see me moving on and improving my life, and as a result, you’ve been resorting to threatening me.
I knew that divorcing you would bring out your worst side, which is violent, malicious, and cruel, and it became a source of fear for me.
Your actions have caused me trauma that has affected every aspect of my life, including my jobs and relationships with others.
It wasn't until I met someone else that I realized how much I was still affected by the damage you had done to me.
He helped me see that I was still living in a cage, trying to prove my worth to myself and to others who stalked and harassed me.
He also showed me that some of the negative aspects of my personality were learned from you, and that I wasn't truly free from your influence yet.
Moving forward, I want to live for myself and find real love that isn't based on false rumors or connections to you.
It's time for me to break free from the past and live my life on my own terms.
While we have a shared past, that doesn't give you the right to continue to control my life.
I refuse to live in fear or distress, constantly looking over my shoulder.
It's time for you to move on and allow me the freedom to live my life with someone who truly loves me.
I hope that you can come to accept that we are not friends or anything more than a memory that I have finally healed from.
He is a wonderful man who has shown me what it means to love.
He has also helped me see that I was still carrying the trauma of our past relationship and that I needed to heal and let go of your hold on me.
I am done letting you dictate my story.
From now on, I choose to live for myself and pursue the happiness and love that I deserve.
I am moving on, you will no longer have a place in my life, and I will never look back.
How will I know if this man you brought into my life is a blessing or a lesson?
God replied…
The wrong person will say or do things to make you feel unwanted, unappreciated, unloved, make excuses, show you little or no effort, their words will not match their actions, and you will question the way they treat you.
The right person will say they want you and prove it in their actions, they will say they appreciate you and prove it in their actions, they will say they love you and prove it in their actions, they will say you are worth it and prove it by the effort they put in, and you will know you are a priority without having to ask it.
Whether he’s the lesson or blessing is up to your discernment.
If you’re hoping to provoke me, harm me, lie about me, or be apart of seeing me fall down and struggle,
I’m praying you get on your feet, you find peace, you received blessings, God is with you and forgives you and gives me His grace to help me give it to you.
I wasn’t raised to harm others. What we do on this earth we will answer to God for.
The 8th Commandment Exodus 20:15 Thou Shalt Not Steal
Stealing is trying to get as much as possible, while giving as little as possible.
Greed – the desire to get as much as possible.
Laziness – the desire to contribute as little as possible.
Stealing goes hand in hand with falsehood, because thieves must lie and deceive in order not to get caught.
• Stealing stems from a lack of genuine conversion; a main cure for stealing is truly to trust in Christ as your Savior.
• Jesus said (Mark 7:21-23), “For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders, adulteries, deeds of coveting and wickedness, as well as deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride and foolishness. All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man.”
• Paul warned the Corinthians (1 Cor. 6:9-11), “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.”
• The great news of the Bible is that none of these terrible sins put a person beyond the reach of salvation. Jesus came to save sinners. Even though your life has been consumed with any or all of these sins, as many of the Corinthians’ lives had been, God can deliver you from them through the power of the cross (see 1 Cor. 1:18-31).
• But, Paul’s warning indicates that a person may make a profession of faith in Christ and yet continue to live in these sins. Such a person is deceived into thinking that he will inherit God’s kingdom, but he will be shocked to hear the Lord say, “I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness” (Matt. 7:23). In other words, while believers may fall into these sins, if they characterize someone’s life, with no repentance and no effort to change, it is evidence that he is not genuinely converted. So the cure for stealing is to make sure that you have been washed from your sins through faith in Jesus Christ, crucified in your place.
• STEALING STEMS FROM A TEMPORAL VALUE SYSTEM.
• A CURE FOR STEALING IS TO ESTABLISH BIBLICAL PRIORITIES.
• STEALING STEMS FROM NOT TRUSTING GOD TO SUPPLY YOUR NEEDS.
• A CURE FOR STEALING IS TO TRUST GOD FOR FINANCES THROUGH PRAYER AND FINANCIAL FAITHFULNESS.
• Stealing stems from selfishness and greed; a cure for stealing is to look for opportunities to serve and give.
• A CURE FOR STEALING IS TO LOOK FOR OPPORTUNITIES TO SERVE AND GIVE.
• STEALING STEMS FROM LAZINESS.
• A CURE FOR STEALING IS TO ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY THROUGH HARD WORK.