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loveless aroallos. you agree. reblog

#hell yea i agree #aroallo #loveless

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"Heartless" is a short zine about the authors' experience with being aromantic, coming out as aro, dealing with aphobia, and learning to love the fact that we don't love!

#aromantic

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Oohoohoo actually:

This is definitely not comprehensive, but it's what I could come up with off the top of my head!

#tulipian #humilian #pulchellian #clusinian #mogai #lgbt #mspec #monospec #aspec #polls

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For many girls and women, aromanticism is inherently a form of gender nonconformity, just as asexuality is for boys and men.

Romance novels are seen as being “feminine,” and romcoms are often derogatorily called “chick-flics,” for example. Women are expected to want flowers and chocolates and care about things like anniversaries and marriage to a greater extent than is expected of men. Even many of the things women are expected to do to conform to female gender roles are centered around looking attractive: having long well-styled hair, wearing makeup, shaving, wearing skirts and dresses, etc.

So shoutout to aro women and girls who want to be feminine but feel like their aromanticism makes them feel like an outsider to womanhood. Shout out to women and girls who feel left out of “girl talk” because they don’t have a crush or significant other to tell their friends about, or because they don’t think any of their classmates/coworkers/etc. are “cute.” Shout out to aro girls who are sick of being asked “who you’re dressing up for” any time they want to wear a bit of eyeliner and a pretty skirt. Your femininity is not made any less real or valid by your aromanticism.

And shoutout to gender nonconforming aro women and girls. Shoutout to aro women and girls whose aromanticism makes them feel disconnected from femininity. Shoutout to aro women and girls with short hair, and deep voices, and hair on their upper lips, chins, chests, stomachs, backs, armpits, arms, and legs that they choose not to shave off. Shoutout to aro women and girls who are non-binary, who are both male and female, who use pronouns other than she/her. Shoutout to intersex aro girls and women. Y’all’re cool as hell and the aro community wouldn’t nearly as beautiful and vibrant without you.

#oh never thought about that actually #as someone who aroace and trans nonbinary aha #anyway yall are lovely #|| #reblog #aro

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shout out to ace and aro kids who are constantly bombarded with the opinion that sex and romantic love are directly connected to living a happy life.

#reblog #aro #ace #aspec

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Aromantic Ask Game

(Reblog and get people to submit a number, then answer the corresponding question.)

What is your aro-spec label?

Where do you fit in the aro community (ex, alloaro / aroace / nonSAM aro / etc)?

Do you consider yourself lgbt+?

Are you out as aro?

How did you figure out you are aro?

What is your favourite part about being aromantic?

What is your least favourite part about being aromantic?

Do you associate anything with being ‘aromantic culture’?

What is your favourite aro-spec identity flag?

How long have you known you are aro?

What is one thing you wish people knew about being aro-spec?

Do you have any friends, acquaintances or other people you know that are aro-spec?

What do you wish you could tell your younger self related to being aro-spec?

Do you have any other attraction labels (ex, sexual orientation / platonic orientation / etc)?

What advice do you have for other aro-spec people (or those questioning being aro-spec)?

What are your views on romance? Could include if you are romance repulsed / favourable / etc?

Do you have any aro related labels that don’t fit into the other groups (like loveless / lovequeer / amatopunk / etc)?

Do you have any aro-spec headcanons?

Is there a song that is very aromantic to you?

What kind of relationships are you interested in, if any?

#oooooh!!!! #anyone? >:) #|| #reblog #ask game #aro #aromantic

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Quick reminder that aromantics are not a subset of the acespec community! They have overlap, but they exist independently of each other! Don’t tag posts that are exclusivley aromantic as ace and vice versa!

#important reminder! #if something talks about ace experiences it isnt about aro people #|| #reblog #aro #arospec

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Thinking about. That one boringqueer post again,,,,,, /pos

#reblog #boringqueer

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it’s so funny to me when I point out t*rfs I was on HRT at 12 as an intersex kid, and they’ll do be like “that’s different!!”

not really???

I as a 12 year old had the same capacity to consent to that treatment as a 12 year old trans kid would. no one batted an eye about me being on those hormones.

“but you have an intersex condition!!!” so is it that you don’t view the gender dysphoria many trans kids experience as a valid medical condition worthy of respect and treating the way professionals recommend? or is it that you don’t mind those weird intersex freaks taking things that will make us ‘more normal’? or perhaps both?

#terfs are so dumb #''you shouldnt give kids hrt bc they cant consent unless they dont fit my conventional ideal of what a person should exist as :(('' #like SHUT UP terfs #|| #reblog #// #terfs #intersexism discussion #transphobia discussion

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TERFs are never and can never be allies to intersex people by the way

#reblog #// #terfs #intersexism discussion

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not a fan of the assumption that loveless aros are all non-partnering by virtue of being loveless :/

#im loveless and polyam #loveless people can def want partners! #like. to me saying loveless people are inherently non-partnering is like saying #''i dont love ANYONE in anyway including platonic. so i will have friends but not partners despite the feeling being exactly the same :>'' #it just doesnt make sense #|| #reblog #loveless

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Ok yeah I've decided. So I said this was gonna be a mogai blog, but I've been like. Super restrictive with myself on what should go here. So basically I'm just gonna put whatever here. This might turn into an aro blog lmao

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just a reminder, battleaxe bisexuals are not welcome on my blog, keep your shitty opinions to yourself and fuck right off, don’t interact with me ever. just block me.

sincerely, a bisexual who wants nothing to do with you assholes

#reminder that im pan and will not accept hate to pan/ply/omni etc people <2 #|| #reblog #mspec

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It’s been so long since i said it but if you live with homophobic/transphobic parents no matter if you’re a minor or a young adult don’t come out <3

#reblog

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while I'm still posting. you can't be radically inclusive and anti-endo. sorry. you either believe what people tell you they experience, or you don't

#i hate when people say rad-inclus in their bio #and then immediately follow that with ''dni mspec gays/think lesbians can date men etc'' #and aggrhgg like! #that means you /arent/ radinclus! #shut up! #|| #reblog

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Actually, shout out to aspecs with romantic/sexual intrusive thoughts.

They don't define who you are. You aren't any less aspec because of them. You aren't ant less worthy of respect.

#is this slightly influenced by a realisation of my own? maybe. maybe no. #i still stand by this #also. i am so sorry if those intrusive thoughts make you extra uncomfortable because youre romance/sex repulsed/averse #youre not alone in your experience. #im here with you #|| #reblog #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #intrusive thoughts

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Saw something a little while ago that pointed out how claiming that only "ugly" people identify as ace is just "lesbians just identify that way because they can't get a man" rebranded and like....true. Lots of aphobia is recycled and rebranded homophobia.

Anyways ace people are ace because they ARE. lesbians are lesbians because they ARE. shut up.

#are you KIDDING #ace ppl are HOT #[insert the. people from this country are hot meme] #bro how do aphobes not see its literally homophobia rebranded #its queerphobia rebraned BECAUSE ITS INHERENTLY QUEERPHOBIA #|| #reblog #ace #asexual