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[etherealsign282]

Until you can smile at an enemy you created in your own head, from a situation you caused, and exchange polite formalities without thinking of what you can say or do behind their back afterwards, don't say ANYTHING about treating people with kindness.

If you can't swallow your pride for two seconds to be kind towards someone you don't like, because YOU mistreated them, you aren't looking for kindness. You're looking for compliance and royalty treatment. You demand for respect while scarcely giving it out because you hold your broken, fragile, insecure, and hateful ego to a higher regard than other people's humanity.

You believe your lack of love to another human gives you the right to destroy them, while you tell everyone that kindness is important so that they're kind to YOU.

#kindness #hypocrisy #toxic #mental abuse #ex abuser chronicles #emo

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Here are some tips and tricks even *I* know as someone who does not do sw.

You have to post at the highest point of engagement, not at 2 in the fucking morning when everyone is sleeping. That's how you get buried. Even if you get reacts later in the day, you could get more if you work with the schedule.

You have to actually advertise on something bigger than an art page filled with broke fetishizers who would rather tug to 2 dollar ai art than a real person who demands more.

Good lighting, good poise, and good equipment.

You have to actually set yourself apart from others instead of "boobs" to get long term customers.

And finally if you can't handle a simple retail job because of anxiety, you won't be able to handle negging, reporting, fetishizing, possible harassment, threats, low balling, negotiations, etc with your lack of ability to communicate and your lack of career management.

I find it crazy how people lack any work ethic but think selling asshole pictures online will be easy peasy when it's worse. You're running a whole BUSINESS and the product you're selling is YOURSELF. Not just your labor.

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Wishing for my ex abuser to have a horrible life is not enough. I wish her mediocrity.

A boring relationship that has nothing wrong with it other than not engaging in competitive, toxic, non-communicative behavior like she wants, but she clings to for stability.

Enough money to live within her means but not enough to splurge and act impulsive and irresponsible like the boujie queen she thinks she is.

A job that isn't a bad job, she just doesn't want to go to it because it doesn't involve a get rich quick scheme or fame from a skill she doesn't actually have

Friends who just have too much going on in their life to constantly care and cater to her mediocrity

If you're not first, you're last, and if you're neither then you're forgotten. That would make her have the worst life ever by extension. 💚 All she wants is to either be a winner or a loser, and it will kill her to realize she's always going to be mid. Not enough to tell everyone else around her that she has a worse life than everybody else, not enough to pretend she's got her shit together before everyone else.

As mid and unimportant in terms of the universe, as everyone else

#ex abuser chronicles

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My ex said I was an attention seeker because I have Leo placements but I never had to post pics of my ass on an app meant for drawing and artwork just to get some traction because the reacts for her art was too measley 🥰🥰

*not a slut shamer, just ironically funny

#ex abuser chronicles

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Tired of the "all feelings are valid, all behaviors are not" community. Some emotions derive directly from the behaviors. Some people are actually mad/offended/frustrated etc when you tell them that what they're doing is wrong. When they get told no or stop. When they're not being applauded for being a bad person. "but anger is a secondary emotion" aht aht. It's still an emotion. That means you would have to validate anger as a reasonable (bc that's what valid means) and REAL emotion, not just dismiss it as a "secondary" in order to continue validating your own words.

That means you're out here telling rapists, when they get unjustifiably mad that they can't rape, that it's valid to be mad that they can't rape, but rape still isn't okay. Nah. You can't shun the behavior but tell them the emotions derived directly from those behaviors are okay.

What you want is people to *acknowledge* and *accept* their emotions as real. That's different from *validating* them. "Validating" makes y'all think it's okay to feel them and we just can't act on whatever we're feeling, and no. It's not okay. You have to still talk to a professional about your shitty, entitled feelings. You still have to admit that your feelings of anger and entitlement and hatred for someone YOU abused (when they did nothing wrong) is not okay or in any way resembling any truth, that you are in the wrong, that they are directly based off of your shitty behaviors which are wrong, that you can't be an emotionally fucked up human being and feel justified in what you're feeling because as long as you do nothing about it, it's fine, right? It's fucking not. You're a fucking horrible, no good fucking person. Feeling like you are the bees fucking knees doesn't change that and your feelings aren't valid just because you feel them. You can acknowledge them but you can acknowledge them as a fool's ideal. You can acknowledge that you can't help it but you can still try to be understanding and use a logical approach to telling your delulu feelings to shut the fuck up and ignore them.

Half of y'all "feelings are valid" love to throw the narcissist buzzword around but don't realize that people with NPD may lack remorse, guilt, etc and instead feel anger, offense, shame, embarrassment, etc and still will apologize and tell themselves that what they feel is not reality, that they are still the ones that fucked up even if everything in their mind and soul is telling them to protect themselves by refusing to acknowledge they did something wrong because they FEEL like they were wronged. Like they can apologize and go about their life with these bad feelings, but instead a lot HAVE to learn to acknowledge them while simultaneously discrediting them so they can train their brain and therefore their emotional responses to not be so defensive and painful for the next time. It's not shaming yourself, it's REALITY. It's learning to be OKAY with sometimes being the one in the wrong, with sometimes having loopy feelings that don't correlate whatsoever with reality.

Because the more you validate those shitty emotions and treat them like they actually mean something more than a natural trauma response that needs to be corrected like everything else that comes with trauma responses, the more likely you will actually base your ideals and behaviors on them. It's hard not to justify yourself and your behavior when you're simultaneously like "my feelings are valid tho". Therefore y'all are worse than the narcissists you shit on. Have fun choking on that.

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"be nice to each other", lol not only were you unkind to me while we were dating but you had so much ugly hatred for me AFTER the fact, after I explained to you why you were a piece of shit despite your uwu emotions telling you that I was the bad guy because I upset you, for you being a goddamn rapist, during your peak "I'm a little princess angel baby cakes uwu girly who loves everyone and is growing"

Try talking to people about kindness when you can look a rape survivor in the face and not be immediately filled with contempt and rage and disgust and a need to try and get involved in their life to ruin it, just to actively avoid them and avoid all the bad feelings that come up from remembering the way you treated them terribly lol

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"good things are coming" what, do you just expect for it to fall from the sky while you continue sitting around doing fuck all, feeling sorry for yourself and fantasizing a fame and fortune you don't even deserve? Stop trying to manifest a miracle with a fake positive attitude while you sit around moping on your ass all day about how mean life has been to you, when you have done nothing for yourself and mistreat everyone around you and fuck up every opportunity you get that gives you even a mild taste of freedom, because pretending/swindling your way to being a victim of some kind tastes so much better to you

#ex abuser chronicles

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Oh it hurts? It makes you feel like bleeding? It makes you feel like dying? You sit in agony with these thoughts of why, why couldn't I just stay a little longer? Why did I have to leave?

That's cute, I'll remember to spare some sympathy for you after I'm done with my 3 year long trauma spiral where I keep asking myself why you couldn't just listen, why you couldn't just love me, why you had to say such awful things, why you had to make me feel worthless and useless, why you made it seem like anything I did was never good enough, why you had to rape me and ignore my boundaries, why you had to victimize yourself and blame everything on mental illness but I couldn't even cry, why you were allowed to withhold kindness and affection, why you had to project all these evil thoughts onto me, why you tried to ruin my relationship with another person on purpose, why I wasn't allowed to be mentally ill but you could let yours run rampant, why you had to accuse me of things you felt, why you were so jealous and hateful when all I did was try to fix you and love you, and why you then had to lie online for attention and validation and then have the audacity to play victim when I didn't want to see it , so on and so forth.

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My toxic trait is I want to be a stay-at-home homeowner that spends his days working on new projects, building patios and fencing the areas and fixing doors and putting in shelves and making knickknacks and painting the kitchen walls little strawberries and finding cute lil matching plates and bowls and maybe even adding a second floor one day

But I also like money (obviously) and my job, so I wouldn't mind working as much if it meant I could just afford to get someone to do it all for me

But I love learning how to build and make stuff so if I did go the money route, i would obnoxiously be standing behind them and watching them to see how they do it

Instead I have just enough money for bills and a fun thing here and there to decompress, never enough money to drop for the house and not enough time to renovate the house myself

This isn't an "I'm a cuck for capitalism" it's a "damn do you know how progressive my life would get if I had either the time or the money or BOTH to make my house better and yet I have NEITHER because capitalism makes it so that even tolerable jobs don't give you enough money or time to follow your dreams"

And some people can't even afford a house to begin with, let alone fix everything that's wrong with it if it's suspiciously affordable (although the only issue with our house is we don't have a living room light fixture and our laundry room door leaks when it rains)

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Obliterated that twink

REWARDS: 36 Gold, 17 EXP, Twink Hide (x1)

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A brief moment of rationality from the bird place.

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"everybody has a story" should never be to justify being a cruel person. It should be to gently remind people that you need to be kind to others because you don't know what they're going through.

But it's the same as tolerance. If you are intolerant or don't believe in tolerance, you're revoking your rights to being tolerated.

If you don't fit the contract, if you don't sign the waiver and agree to the conditions, you're not protected under it. So no. "everybody has a story" doesn't mean you can be a mean person to everyone and then tell those people they have to be nice back to you because you have a story. Did you forget the part where they have a story too, and you didn't give a single shit

"everybody has a story" also implies the fact that you're not special and at the end of the day you still have to work on yourself like everybody else, regardless of the story, you're not the lone exception just because you can sympathize with yourself and only yourself.

#selfish #self awareness #self reflection #accountability #you're not special #egotistical #tolerance #toxic

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Imagine calling yourself the black sheep of the family and you're just continuing your family's generational curses with black eyeshadow and tattoos and saying you're allowed to treat people like sh*t and contribute nothing to anybody because you're mentally ill

#but not mentally ill the way your parents are which is due to years of trauma and abuse and neglect #mentally ill the way a cis white male who wants attention rolls up at school with a gun after being told no for the first time ever #clearly only one is an excuse and youve determined that to be your parents #and theyre not allowed to be imperfect or have outdated views or anything because they shouldve known better #but you? forever fucked up by their imperfections to the point that you will never be able to grow and learn your lesson and be an adult #you can remain believing youre just a lil baby uwu person who cant be held accountable for anything #its everybody else who uses excuses for mental illness but you? oh yes you #you dont “understand” morality or ethics so your excuses are definitely more justifiable than any parent working to break their own curses #you calling yourself the black sheep is pretty much just you saying out of all the shitty people in your gene pool #youre the shitty one who is allowed to be garbage #not like people havent tried to justify themselves like this before you #black sheep #fake #excuses #accountability #generational trauma #generational curses #ex abuser chronicles #toxic

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“If you have time to watch Netflix you have time for a side hustle” my side hustle is relaxing so that my body and brain can heal from by this nose-to-the-grindstone bullshit. I refuse to feel guilty for being a human with the need to relax sometimes. my side hustle is no.

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My ex abuser called it the "Sasuke rxpe position"

... And people wonder why I can't stand the bitch

#ex abuser chronicles

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Honestly the episodes of south park I remember most, in which Cartman was displaying abusive behaviors, is really important to me because the way they call him out on it/portray it hits every single time

Such as the episode in which he was being sexist and insensitive about women with breast cancer, proceeded to try and privately apologize or manipulate the situation out of fear of the consequences, and then huffed and puffed and did this whole "go fuck yourself," attitude in front of his homies to try and look good in front of them. Not only did he look like a tool in front of his friends because it was obvious (for most) that he was getting carried away, he also looked like a coward to his enemy. He couldn't be hostile with his whole chest, and he couldn't be genuine with his whole chest either.

He did what he thought was best for HIM. Doing what he could for HIMSELF. Saving both his ego and his ass. Making sure he wouldn't deal with the consequences, but still wanting to make the other person look bad so people would hate her for literally NOTHING other than disliking him (because he was being a piece of shit to begin with). The only shame he felt was the shame of getting stuck and not being able to finesse his way out.

He didn't give a shit about anything other than saving his ego to look good. Knowing what he said was bad but only caring about apologizing just so he wouldn't deal with the wrath, even though he still full-heartedly believed in/didn't care what he was saying. Groveling for the forgiveness and then being so embarrassed by being called out that he backtracked almost immediately.

Absolutely disgusting and it's people like that irl that I will never forgive. Why I will never forgive people like The Demon (my ex) for doing the exact same shit.

(the worst part is Cartman is still more redeemable in some episodes than the demon will ever be)

#you always said you liked Cartman and acted like him #bet you didnt think it was because you and him are the most abusive and manipulative #and the most cowardly #sniveling little whiny babies that need to protect their egos but cant be bothered to accept the consequences #when it turns out your ego is a pile of horse dung and shouldnt be touched within ten feet #let alone protected and saved #emotional abuse #toxic #cartman south park #southpark #manipulative #coward #lil bitch #abusive #ex abuser chronicles #ex abuser

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Ppl don't understand

You cant condemn people for not creating a rebellion, resistance, or uprising if you haven't even tried doing it yourself.

What's with this obsessive virtue signaling where you're mad that OTHER people haven't come together to fix any problems yet, and you're just like, sitting on your ass, having a mouthful of potato chips while scrolling through Facebook, with this weird sense of egotism because you're telling other people who are sitting on their ass scrolling through Facebook to go do something about a human rights issue. YOU go do something. YOU go start a revolution. YOU stop being happy for yourself and your situation and uniting with people over silly lil shit until YOU can go be the leader you expect everyone else to be. No, spam posting a cause that nobody sees doesn't count for you to start telling other people who spam post that they're not doing enough. GO DO SOMETHING. Otherwise YOU can shut the hell up.

Lead by example or shut your ass up. All you use politics for is a superiority complex.

#rebellion #justice warrior #fake #sjw #politics #virtue signaling #nihilism #lazy #emodemon666