dreaming-like-a-girl

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

i will twist you into the spaces between my ribs,  memorize you in song and color and breath.  i will memorize your patterns of speech,  your voice and the shape of your eyes. 

i will pretend you into being at my side— a ghost of what it will mean to have you in months or years,  when the space folds shut,  i’ll still be waiting. 

i will pull every secret and story you’re willing to give i will lock them in a box with my lungs i will memorize the shape of your hands and the touch of your breath and treasure the moments we spend. 

i will capture you in my mind’s eye to carve out the space in my heart i will keep you to fill i will learn the path of the smile to your face, and the course of your laugh from your chest—

and maybe when you’re here we will see the strings that bind us  that pulled you to me in the beginning they are written as red in the stories i read— i’d like to think ours would be green. 

i will learn the weight of love with nothing to hold us apart— the same as your head on my shoulder i take a bit of your weight, you take a fraction of mine some people belong. 

there is such a thing as forever.

there is something beyond the usual romantic love there is devotion, the exchange of soul and joy and pain  there is the room we have made for each other with so much more to go, so much to gain. 

there are dreams i will force unto earth and you are one of them.  i will learn what it is to love you in person—

no matter how long, you will always be worth it. 

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

how is he so perfect **screams into pillow**

#qpr #queerplatonic #queerplatonic relationship #alterous attraction #alterous #lgbtqia+ #qpp #love #queerplatonic partner #transgender #romance #queerplatonic marriage #queerplatonic relationships #spread the word my boyfriend is the best #demisexual #demiromantic #demialterous #alterous relationship #i love him so much #pansexual #panromantic #aroace #acearo #asexual #aromantic

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[dreaming-like-a-girl]

I occasionally get the urge to just grab my gf and kiss her because I’m frustrated with how cute she is (and ofc she doesn’t see it) and my feelings are too big and all encompassing for my brain to handle. I’ve got so much love to give her and words only express so much (the feeling ranges from a longing to kiss her fully to just wanting to hug her and pepper her with kisses). I got it bad lol

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Okay, I'm gonna rant a bit about love, queerness and amatonormativity.

I love my best friend. I hug her, I kiss her, I cuddle with her. But we're "just" friends.

People think we are a couple all the time, they even ask if we fuck, if we are together, if we are exclusive. We're friends, why can't I cuddle with a friend?

If we're out she usually sits on my lap and I hug her waist and rest my head on her shoulder. Yes, it's intimate and we're both bisexual girls, but why can't we be "just" friends? And why do I have to say "just"? When someone asks it's always "oh no, we're just friends, nothing more". Wtf? She's not a "just", she's the person who helped me during my depressive episodes and who still helps me, she's the one who listens to my rants, my insecurities, my special interests, literally everything. We went on holiday together, I know her allergies and her medical problems, her coffee order and her little obsessions. I'm more comfortable with her than when I'm alone with myself.

Nothing of this happened with my ex boyfriend. He sure as fuck didn't know all my insecurities and didn't held me when I cried.

But he was someone I loved and she's "just a friend".

I love her too. It's not romantic love but why is it so important? Why do I have to have a hierarchy of people and the love I feel for someone is worth more than the love I feel for someone else?

I'm a bisexual, demiromantic, lovepunk, polyamourous anarchist, what makes you think that I want a hierarchy of any sort in my life?

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

My qpp bought me an ace ring <333

#qpr #queerplatonic #queerplatonic relationship #alterous attraction #alterous #lgbtqia+ #qpp #love #queerplatonic partner #transgender #acearo #aroace #demisexual #demiromantic #aromantic #asexual

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

Gonna marry my qpp so much

#qpr #queerplatonic #queerplatonic relationship #alterous attraction #alterous #lgbtqia+ #qpp #love #queerplatonic partner #transgender #aroace #acearo

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the love I feel for my queerplatonic partner sometimes feels so overwhelming. I can not put into words how much he means to me, I just want to spend the rest of my life with him and just him. I'm committed to this one person with my whole heart, body and soul

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I wish romance and sex wasn’t so commonly seen as synonymous. I have a crush on someone whom I want to ask to hang out and so many of my friends are making jokes like “oooh asking her out already? You gonna invite her back home? Can’t wait to get in her pants eh?”

…No? None of that even crossed my mind??? I just want to ask to go get coffee and TALK to her. Ideally if we clicked I think it’d be nice to watch our favourite movies together and snuggle.

It’s actually incredibly easy to get sex these days, whether it’s through Grindr, sex work services, even just going to the club and bringing someone home. What isn’t easy, however, is finding that unique emotional connection and intimacy that comes with having a romantic partner. That doesn’t come too often.

And anyway, seeking friendship is my priority because I’m not one to act on romantic feelings unless the other person also explicitly shows interest first. The fact I’m trying to be friends with a girl and people’s instant reaction is to make it sexual is… so weird. I don’t like it. I wish this kind of shit wasn’t so normalised. People should be able to be friends with the gender(s) they’re attracted to without other people making it weird. You absolutely CAN be friends with someone you’re attracted to and if you can’t… that’s a you problem, pal.

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Normalize more queerplatonic relationships in media. Normalize more best friends who kiss. They don't kiss because the other person's lips make the butterflies in their stomach flutter or make their cheeks turn rosey. They kiss because each other's lips are enough to keep each other warm. Their touch is enough to melt off all the years of winter on their skin. Their embrace is enough of a reason to cherish their moments together, because they won't last forever. And they take the world on, smiling, knowing they have each other. And that is all they ever needed.

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

More people need to hear this: all asexuals are valid, no matter where you fall under the umbrella, and no matter the "reason" you're asexual. You can be naturally ace, ace because of meds, ace because of dysphoria, ace because of trauma, ace because of a disease... Any reason that has an impact on your way to live your (a)sexuality, makes you a valid asexual and you're welcome in the community. Fuck the aphobes and the radicals who say otherwise.

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

REBLOG IF YOUR BLOG IS A SAFE SPACE FOR AROMANTIC PEOPLE AND IF YOU THINK THEY ARE VALID

I want to see how many people actually are willing to say this and not just act like it

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

Hi I'm just curious, not hating but I read your ships and saw in some of them with "queerplatonic" isn't that just friendship??

it may seem that way at first! queerplatonic relationships (also known as QPRs) don't exactly have a set definition, as they can differ from QPR to QPR.

bascially, queerplatonic means "queering a platonic relationship." it's vague enough for it to mean whatever people in a QPR want it to mean. however, many tend to define it as such: queerplatonic relationships are (usually) committed, intimate relationships that are more than typical friendships but are not inherently romantic in nature. people in QPRs can still (and many often do) participate in traditionally romantic and/or sexual acts together, but it doesn't necessarily make it a romantic/sexual relationship. even then, that definition may not apply to everyone in a QPR. relationships in general are very complex and should be left up to the individuals in said relationships to define them. another thing to keep in mind is that people in QPRs are usually on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrum, but they don't have to be!

i recommend doing some more research yourself if you're curious since i'm not the best at explaining things. there are a couple blogs here on tumblr that talk about queerplatonic attraction/relationships if you're interested (@/our-queerplatonic-experience is a good one).

thank you for asking and stay curious. it's good to learn new things ^^

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a collection of the universes in which my partner and I are soulmates in <3

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

i want to be loved like the women i read about. like i’m the person they would do anything for. the person they look for in everyone else and everywhere they go because they can’t get her out of their heads. the person their entire being burns for. the person they are patient with, even when she’s rambling, being emotional or sick. the person they go out of their way for, over and over again, because it’s her. the person they love. the person they… love and keep loving.

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

animals are so right about nuzzling your face into things

#my boyfriend is things #qpr

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

animals are so right about nuzzling your face into things