#y’all and your weird fucking parasocial relationships

[siryellowpurplehelmet]

Why are people acting so fucking weird about Mick’s new girlfriend. Y’all need to seriously rethink your life choices. It’s giving parasocial relationship.

#second hand embarrassment #f1 #mick schumacher #formula 1

[cmyknoise]

i hope the people who worry about complete strangers personal relationships and speculate on them go outside and focus on like, anything else.

put that much energy into your own personal relationships. 

not only is it parasocial, it’s creepy as fuck. some of the shit you guys dig for is no better than paparazzi with big celebs, if anything it might actually be creepier ‘cause y’all have been doing this since some of these online creators  were kids. some of you are older than them by a whole lot.

its fucking weirdchamp, who cares if your favorite streamer stops interacting with their friends as much publicly. it is not up to you to decide or dig for the reason.  either nothing happened or they’re not saying it for a reason, but it doesn’t matter. 

go outside. make friends, get a hobby. put your energy into bettering your own personal relationships instead of clinging to relationships of people you most likely won’t ever talk to beyond a photo or meet up, if that.

it’s so fucking weird. they’re still people. you wouldn’t want thousands of total strangers STALKING your spotify and social media and scrutinizing ever second you’re not with a specific person. you wouldn’t want someone trying to pry into your personal relationships or love life or every day going ons. 

these people are still people, even if they have a big following. 

be a decent person holy shit why is it so hard. if two strangers on the internet have a falling out it doesn’t concern you! if a stranger on the internet talks to one person more than the other, it doesn’t concern you. 

just like it doesn’t concern you if they cut their hair, or change their style, or do anything normal people do. if you do it, they can do it. it doesn’t matter if they’re ‘public figures’. they’re still human people with a right to privacy. 

if it’s not publicly posted then it’s PRIVATE. you have no right to try and dig for answers. that is borderline- that IS a form of stalking. that shit is weird. concern yourself with something else. put that energy into something else

stop being fucking gross and weird because you’ve based your life around complete strangers on the internet. what they do in their personal lives DO NOT CONCERN YOU. 

you are not their friends, you are not entitled to information they don’t give you. 

just. stop being fucking weird. 

#i'm not tagging this as discourse only because people really need to stop this #its so weird and gross and borderline predatory to these people's private lives #yes this time it's about ranboo and tubbo but this can be applied to pretty much every social media influencer #its weird and crazy and you're no better than the paparazzi who take invasive photos #its weirdchamp #lemon's stuff

[the1975attheirverybest]

I'm having such a sad day I've not even watched the live yet 😔 I think it's because of the hiatus, I'm so parasocial 😭 it's stupid because I'm happy for them all taking a break, I think it will be good for their families, relationships, mental health etc. I'm looking forward to seeing what individual projects they pursue and I know they'll be back. But I've become so dependent on this constant new photos/information coming in that my brain hears "hiatus" and goes into panic mode. Anyway I'm just rambling now

Has your power returned? I hope you're not feeling as anxious today ❤️

Sending love

🌷🌷

Not stupid at all. I feel the same way. I’m still processing the announcement and I know people in my asks have already messaged me about it (will reply to all y’all after I’ve finished watching the show cuz I want to have the full context) but yeah. We’ve grown up alongside the guys. They’ve been at it for a decade now. It just won’t be the same without them. I’m sure we’ll have this discussion and more in the coming 6 months or whatever it is. For now, it’s okay to feel your feelings. It’s a bit of a weird thing. To look at everything they do and think “gosh this is the last time that they’ll be doing X for god knows how long.”

Watching the show right now. And I keep having to pause cuz I get so emotional over how good it is and how much love I have for these guys and their work. They’ve really done something special. Not just the music. But like even the people. Fans working on the live/ war child project and stuff like that. That’s so rare and precious and wonderful.

We’ll all be okay. And look after each other.

Yeah power is back but gosh I fuckin hate this “tropical storm Ophelia” bitch. Let me tell you, Ophelia does not fuck around. There’s a massive hole in my ceiling and my plumbing is fucked and I have a serious and stressful meeting in an hour. Also, guess who is back to smoking fully now??? 🙋🏻‍♀️

Yeah. Anxiety and emotions are off the charts. Proud of the boys though. And filled with awe and love for y’all. And it’s almost over I mean it’s Wednesday. We can do this. Gotta take Franklin out in a bit. Gosh I really shouldn’t have started watching the show haha.

#🌷anon

[jeonqkooks]

the reason why Im not a fan of my boys working or seen with women is because of this type of ARMYs who like to make it some romantic interaction like CANT YOU ACT NORMAL?

even before the news comes out, there are some army who make the whole fucking thread that indicate they're match together, the vibes and all. I get it, but then it leads to, offfs i want them to be together, they looks so good together. and then boom, another type of ARMY who seen this and goes to that women instagram and left all the bad comments. GOSH THIS IS SO EMBARRASSING. and they lose focus on our BOYS because they are busy to stalk, made a video, get their name trending, editing some photos to match the vibes and all.

you guys can't be NORMAL for once. can you chill tf out for a bit? go streams and hype our Boys. that's all. Thankyou.

my boys can do whatever they like you know? you army who make it hard. let them be. we here to support them okay? apobangpo 💜

i want to say this a long time a go actually it makes me sick because all twitter and tiktok are full of this. ughhh. but seeing you open to talk about it then yeah here.

I’m sooo exicted for SEVEN tho 💜💃🏻

I’m not hating on anyone okay. to army, you need to be normal for once. don’t over reacting. and lets just wait for them 💜

please no hard feelings okay 🥹💜🫶🏻

no yeah a lot of people’s reactions are so 😂 most of the time. exactly like you said, some people tend to immediately turn toward hate, going on their social media to say WEIRD things. and on the other side of the spectrum, you have people who are already making their wedding invitations. this morning i was watching youtube shorts (yes i am that person who doesn’t have tiktok but would indulge in a couple hrs of insta reels and youtube shorts here and there 💀) and i came across this one of han so hee walking through the airport recently with the caption “jungkook’s baby 🐰” like …… aight? 💀 if you’re (not YOU anon, i’m addressing people in general) the kind of person whose immediate reaction is either “i hate you, [insert member’s name] would never date you 🔪” or “their babies are going to be beautiful 😍” then sorry i think you’re weird ……

this is why i stay away from twt and tiktok bc most people there are not cpaable of being normal 😑 and 99% of the people i follow on tumblr only post official news and never speculate or make comments about these things so my dash is very peaceful 🫶

like, when we feel a certain way about certain news, i think that’s completely ok bc you’re entitled to those feelings, and no one is telling you that you can’t be feeling like that. as long as you recognize that those are your feelings and as long as you don’t go attacking people who have nothing to do with this then that’s fine. we’re all allowed to be upset as much as we’re allowed to be happy and excited but at the end of the day this is literally a parasocial relationship and if you’re going around commenting barfing emojis on a stranger’s ig posts then you’re only embarrassing yourself 🫶 live laugh love and make sure you have a nice and healthy fandom experience y’all

apobango 💜🫶

#anon #answered

[overbearingstruggles]

the last anon "really shouldn't have posted that", well maybe hailey should be told she "really shouldn't have posted that" as if you send your "minions" to get her in "trouble". like she's 5 and can't stand up for herself? if she'd like attention so badly she can have it bc clearly this is what she wants, a bunch of "40 year olds with parasocial relationships" or something. I think the "minions" should fact check before they have hailey looking like a dunce over and over bc im pretty sure kalina is younger than hailey? they'll come for you but you ever see hailey coming around to stick up for herself? she's a cyberspace coward that smiles to your face and hides behind a screen. catch her in public to stand up for herself, oh wait she won't bc she can't. big fucking baby and I'm tired of her and muting her doesn't help bc all her "friends" still pop up like they don't have a weird parasocial relationship with her.

You have to understand that sending this to me only makes me have 100% of the onus on the hatred tho right? I can be a sounding board but y’all aren’t good because you yell into an uninvolved yet curious blog

#there’s literally no good outcome for me lol 🤡

[mantorokk]

Yes damiano david is insanely gorgeous, talented, poetic and blessed with the physique and bone structure of Greek god, but uHh don’t fucking write smut about him?? He’s a person?? a 22 year old person? You fucking gremlins??

#you don’t know ANYTHING about him besides his appearance and music #and do NOT pretend you do #y’all and your weird fucking parasocial relationships #he’s just a KID still. like an adult but also I was still mentally younger at 22 #please treat him with the same respect you would a friend #damiano david #maneskin

[midethefangirl]

y’all white tom hiddleston fangirls are so fucking weird

today on God’s green earth and beyoncé’s internet, i had to see the white hiddles starting their bullshit again all because the white man they want to fuck so badly is engaged to a black woman (zawe ashton) and they are so mad about it. first, it was an open letter from a bitter hiddles mad that their fave is with ashton, then it was another claiming that tom was gay (despite his history of dating women) and using ashton as a beard, then it is this dumbass tweet from a dumbfuck claiming that ashton is controlling tom using some photos that are probably photoshopped as proof. also, the racist implications of using a sapphire caricature on ashton.

can y’all just stop this delusional and pathetic bullshit y’all are doing? turns out you are not the default/only desirable ones, right? i have observed how when black girls/girls of colour express their desire/attraction/love for a (mostly) white man (or male character) who is an object of desire to many people, white fangirls come out with their racist bs saying “oh, he cannot like you, he’ll never date a black woman/woman of color” because they have been the default for so long, they use to put down women of colour.

and when it turns out that indeed, this man/male character does find women of color desirable, that is when they froth in the mouth like rabid dogs because in this case, they have been proven wrong about women of color not being desirable; that is when they show their true colors because they realize that “oh, it turns out i am not the default”.

while all this drama can be chalked up to the formation of parasocial relationships, let us not ignore the elephant in the room, which is of course misogynoir. this is the primary reason why a lot of white hiddles are going after ashton, because how dare that black woman be engaged to the white man i have always written erotic fantasies about? how dare she hold that attention i have always wanted to be focused on me?

look, ain’t nothing wrong with daydreaming about wanting to be with a celebrity (i’ve done it a few times) but you gotta realize it for what it is - a daydream and nothing but that. there is a .000001% chance that you are gonna end up with that celebrity you’ve been dreaming about and kudos to you if you are within the minuscule number of folks who do end up with their faves, you must be God’s favourite 🤷🏾‍♀️. however, life is not like that.

most of the hiddles embarrassing themselves like this are either 14-year-old kids or middle-aged women who are already married with kids. you really think a 41-year-old man is gonna wait for you or break up your marriage? are you seriously that pathetic that you believe that is gonna happen? this is the real world, tom hiddleston is happily engaged to zawe ashton, a black woman and if that offends you so much, i hope you choke on your tears.

#tom hiddleston #zawe ashton #tom and zawe #parasocial relationships #tom hiddleston fandom #misogynoir

[bisluthq]

If you think she’s crappy in everything, why did you Stan in the first place? Just because you think she is fruity and you wanted to tuck her?

No. Let me explain why this is such a huge deal for me: the main reason I like Taylor is her songwriting and the extraordinarily firm morals she appeared to have on artists’ rights. I love listening to her talk about the music industry, like her pieces with Zane Lowe are some of my favorite bits of reporting on this (not in like a lmao way in like I genuinely can’t get enough of them talking). I also love how transparent she is with her songwriting processes when she’s in long form interviews. Like yeah she’s “pinned” songs on people before but when she’s on tape she talks extensively about how everything comes together and it’s so cool and so interesting. I also love her ability to smash awards records, set firsts, and like outsell everyone. I adore her icon status. Her interviews with Lloyd Webber and McCartney? UNPARALLELED QUEEN SHIT.

When she called out Scooter and Scott and decided to re-record? Iconic. Take your fucking shit back. And she did it so publicly and righteously, with so much indignant anger and for me like... wow that takes guts. That’s impressive. Damn.

Which is why I historically liked Taylor more than any other artist working right now. Because yeah all celebs are a bit shitty, and a bunch of good music gets made, and lots of people are cute and funny and have sweet relationships. And honestly? Taylor is shittier than average and has annoying fans. Like yes she seems smart (not about media interpretations but otherwise) and she’s funny and she seems sweet. But she also lowkey stands for nothing right and has flubbed allyship and feminism repeatedly.

But none of that mattered to me because Taylor had her issue. She was allowed to fuck up on all that other stuff because there were two things I was confident she’d never do - fudge credits or cheat with awards, particularly the Grammys.

And yet that’s what she did.

So don’t try twist this into some saga about relationships or her sexuality. I honestly don’t care about that. Y’all appear to a lot tbh. There’s a lot of projection and parasocial vibes and an absolutely rabid obsession with her love life. But for me, Taylor’s appeal HINGED on this songwriting icon queen shit thing. Because she’s not my friend. And she won’t ever be. She was, however, impressive as fuck and I had no choice but to stan.

Fudging credits - which is what happened here regardless of whether he was in the room or whatever, like there was a 9 month lie - is antithetical to what I liked about her. Cheating on Grammys - which is what happened here because the website is literally lying - is antithetical to what I liked about her.

The issue is how this was handled. As a huge fan of Joe I’m pleased he has a Grammy. Good on him. But I am VERY bitter over how they did it and it does leave an extremely sour taste in my mouth.

If there’s an explanation I’d love to hear it.

But I don’t think there is, I think she thought her boyfriend deserves a Grammy and she went out an organized one. That’s deadass what I think happened and tbh I think y’all think that too.

And honestly? Yeah then I don’t get the appeal. And I can’t get over the Brauns LITERALLY PULLING THEIR KIDS OUT OF SCHOOL BECAUSE OF HER DERANGED ASS FANS SENDING DEATH THREATS or her dragging Calvin for keeping a secret they agreed on or her misery on the day of the Grammy announcements and Rep’s snub. Those things do not marry in my head with going “lmao let’s just leave you off to win” or “oh baby but I think you really deserve it 🥺”.

They don’t marry but they kinda do. Like she really does seem to be a spoilt brat throwing her toys out the cot and then crying “SEXISM!!!” over it. Which is fine like that’s how a lot of people see her. This isn’t like a fringe opinion. But because I really like watching longform stuff with her I really didn’t think this was the case. And yes I’m like ACTIVELY disappointed and it does weird me out that people aren’t and it 100% ties back to me saying I don’t think y’all are fans of her like the vibe is to stan her dumb annoying marketing and project oneself onto her and not to like... actually focus on her.

The fact that the immediate response to her being called out for like high nepotism and cheating and shadiness is to go “you don’t like her relationship” or “you don’t like her being straight” is TRULY FUCKED. Like she genuinely has the most annoying fans and the most insidious marketing I’ve ever encountered and like yeah I’m very disappointed and y’all flabbergast me.

#grammygate

[dukeofriven]

So Scott Cawthorn has announced his retirement for specious reasons (he wants to spend more time with his kids and is not at all upset at the blow-back that he financially supported traitors and monsters. Reagan was friends with gays and actively made the AIDS crisis worse, why can’t Scott fund the same level of harm and still be beloved?), and I just have to say:

The scope and scale of the FNAF fandom baffles and confuses me. I have been confused and baffled by it ever since a friend approached me for help because she found FNAF porn on her daughter's computer (just some really, really bad CGI gifs of smooth furry robots grinding), and I didn’t know how to help her... or entirely understand what help she was looking for, admittedly. (This ranks up there with the day my boss’ wife turned to me and asked if i knew what furries were.) I go forward now no less goddamn confused about what emotional fulfilment so many people were getting from the What If Chucky Cheese Murdered People game.

"Man FNAF was already there when I needed it-" People say, to my puzzlement. I played that game: it's you trapped in a badly rendered room with some cursory game mechanics and jump scares. How is this a deep emotional well of comfort?

But obviously my total fucking ignorance on the subject doesn't matter, because it clearly matters to these people anyway. Anyway, I just wanted to specifically say to all the fans bemoaning Scott’s retirement because of your love for the franchise and the vicissitudes of cancel culture (and this is not all of you): This is the dude who made the What If Chucky Cheese Murdered People game, why is this the cornerstone of your personality, why are you defending the bad behaviour of the What If Chucky Cheese Murdered People Game Man, what the hell is wrong with you?i Parasocial relationships are weird, y’all.

#Scott Cawthon #FNAF #parasocial relationships #I know the games have lore #I've seen the lore #it is as mediocre of the games #the jump scare games #THE CRUMMY JUMP SCARE GAMES #WHY ARE YOU LITERALLY CRYING ABOUT THIS MAN? #I feel like fucking Pontius Pilate in Jesus Christ Superstar right now #This guy? This guy is your king? #this loser? #The gu ywho made the FNAF games? #That guy? Really? no seriously #REALLY? #Your king is the FNAF man? #WHY?