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#supposed to be. where are you supposed to draw your boundries? how much leaning is too much leaning?
hopefullyababe · 2 years
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i have no clue if im doing any of this right.
#daphnes talking again#LIKE BESTIES. WHAT IS A FRIENDSHIP SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE.#how much informantion is like. too much information. and how much leaning is too much leaning?#like? i dont want to bog anyone down. but i dont mind it when people tell me about their struggles. is that an uneven balance?#people seem so uncomfortable when i try to talk about MY shit tho. ukno? maybe i just made a rep for myself being optimistic#shits been. kinda rough. and i cant make it feel better and i feel like i cant talk to anyone.#or like. i guess i can. but when then? now ive just spread my shit and i STILL feel like garbage. i dont need advice so why would i. ukno.#share.#ugh. im being such an asshole. im sorry :(#i just feel generally like garbage.#anyway. i dont. really know whats supposed to be a healthy friendship. i like supporting people but i dont really know where the line is#supposed to be. where are you supposed to draw your boundries? how much leaning is too much leaning?#im so bad at finding the balence btwn being overbearing and being absent. like. jesus i had no idea i was my mother until i started having#friends. this is so fucking difficult for no reason.#i love havibg friends. i just don't know whats healthy and what isnt. what are the patterns youre supposed to look for?#what does a healthy frienship look like? is there meant to be a GOAL here? is a healthy frienship supposed to serve a PURPOSE?#is there a singular right answer?#or is there a whole bunch of archetypes i can base things off of? are there friendship catagories?#what are the traits of a toxic friendship? and further: is it possible to fix one?#I GENUINELT DONT KNOW. are there friendship experts? are there people who know about these things?#what is someone meant to gain from a frienship? is there a gain? or is it simply a 'this makes me less lonely' type of thing?#what sorts of things am i MEANT to be talking about with friends? am i meant to talk about myself more? am i meant to listen to them more?#GOD. GOD /FUCKING/ DAMMIT.#SOMEONE GIVE ME A FUCKING LIST TO CHECK OFF.#hi sorry i should tag this actually#negative vibes
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thechangeling · 3 years
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Eutony in a whisper
Genderbent kitty!!!! Thank you so much to El for letting me use her username.
Tiberia Blackthorn had grown up constantly having her boundaries violated to the point where she was trained to expect it. Right from a very young age people were always demanding things of her and her body. Telling her to hug people, be polite, make eye contact, eat your dinner without complaining, no matter how terrible the sensation of cooked vegetables is. Be nice. Put on a smile.
So Ty adapted, she learned to control herself in public and suppress her urges. The urge to move her hands, and tap and spin around or rock back and forth. She still did those things sometimes, but less so, and never in public. Ty had the tendency to be quite blunt and harsh with people, and her parents were absolutely not a fan. In fact most people weren't.
"You're so aggressive," was the comment she got the most. Right along with, "act like a lady!" Which wasn't fair because she was usually right in these situations. She was only being honest, but everyone seemed so afraid of the truth. So utterly unwilling to listen to anything she had to say.
After awhile she had just gotten used to it. So when people came to take things from her, she let it happen. Because it was polite. And when people touched her she let it happen because that's what she was supposed to do. Livvy tried to help Ty with boundries. Tried to teach her how to say no when men put their hands all over her. But Ty was so used to always having to say yes. And she didnt want to be rude.
So after years of, "you have to" and, "you'll get used to it," when Katherine (Kit) Herondale came blazing into her life and told her with such an easy going sincerity that she didn't have to do anything she didn't want to. Ty had honestly felt like she could cry.
Fast forward four years and they were in Kit's bedroom at Ciernworth and her 19th birthday had just passed. Kit was trying to master her first heir powers with no luck. Tessa had told her to try and focus on something that might work as a catalyst for her powers. Usually it had to be something that would trigger strong emotions, but nothing was working.
"I give up," Kit cried out, flopping back onto her giant bed, her blond curls spilling out around her. She groaned, squeezing her eyes shut. "I'm hopeless. There's no point." Ty fought the urge to reach for her. To stroke her hair, or touch that small sliver of bare skin on Kit's stomach from where her shirt was riding up.
"Don't say that!" Ty protested. "You've done it before remember?" Kit gave her a solemn look and Ty thought of the events that had taken place before Kit had made the riders disappear.
But things were different now. They had made up, and now they were dating. But the wounds would probably always be there.
Ty decided to reach over and touch Kit's face slightly. Instantly she stopped tensing up. "It'll be ok. I promise," Ty said softly. "You're more capable then you realize. I believe in you."
Kit stared at her, gaping a little. Her big blue eyes were filled with not only surprise, but overwhelming adoration. Kieran had once called Kit's eyes the colour of an ordinary sky, but Ty disagreed. They were the most beautiful baby blue colour. Soft and calming. Not too bright or overwhelming.
Ty smiled involuntarily, sliding her fingers through Kit's hair. "I don't believe in anything except you." Kit let out a harsh breath and gazed up at Ty with a soft, worshiping look. She smiled.
"Baby I just don't know what to do," Kit whispered. She looked a little scared. "I feel like I've tried everything." She squeezed Ty's free hand.
"I'm really scared," Kit admitted.
Ty was overwhelmed with a frightening intensity of emotions. She wanted to wrap Kit up in her arms and never let her leave. She wanted to go out and kill every single person or thing on the earth that was making her so afraid.
Ty shook her head feverishly. "Dont be scared," she said firmly. "I will protect you." Kit looked a little shocked at that, but then she broke out into a grin. She smiled at Ty like she was the greatest and most beautiful thing Kit had ever seen.
"Hey I know something we haven't tried yet." Kit smirked mischievously. She slid her arms carefully up Ty's sides and gripped her arms, pulling her down slowly.
"Kiss me," she murmered. Ty felt her heart do a flip as she instinctively brought their mouths together in a soft, slow kiss that rapidly became more passionate as Kit pulled Ty on top of her. Ty continued kissing her girlfriend as she placed her hands on Kit's and pushed them down, closer to the skin so that Kit was gripping her more tightly. Satisfied with the pressure, Ty weaved her fingers through Kit's long golden curly hair, stimming with the thick, rough peices.
Kit deepened the kiss and instantly Ty felt metal against her tounge from Kit's piercing. It was a weird sensation, but she could bear it. Ty dug her fingers into the blanket on the bed and felt the fabric. Kit was scratching slightly along her lower back, pulling at Ty's shirt. Ty moaned into her mouth before slowly breaking the kiss and leaning back.
"I dont think anything's happening love," Ty said apologetically. Kit pouted adorably. She looked Ty up and down slyly.
"Well theres only one way to be sure right?" She asked innocently. Ty rolled her eyes fondly and laughed
"If you wanted to make out with me all you had to do was tell me," she pointed out. Ty bopped Kit's nose lightly and Kit squished up her face. She brushed the hair out of Ty's face carefully. Ty avoided Kit's gaze.
"Are you ok?"
Ty was fiddling with the bed cover in her hand. "No it's fine. I was just getting a little overwhelmed." She lay her head down carefully against Kit's chest, breathing deep.
Kit pressed her face to the top of Ty's head, nuzzling her. "Say your words," she suggested. "Your favourite words."
Ty smiled at the fact that Kit still remembered. "I added some new ones."
Kit pressed a kiss to her head. "I wanna hear them if that's ok." Ty could hear the steady sound of her heart beating.
"Glass, twin, apple, stars, crystal, lilt, shadow," Ty stopped and looked up at Kit, staring into her piercing blue eyes.
"Whisper."
Kit looked like she was trying not to cry. "Whisper would be one of mine too." She quoted. Ty grinned and bent down to kiss Kit on the cheek.
"Mine," she whispered in Kit's ear. Kit shivered underneath her, gasping.
"That's one of your new words?" Her voice was shakey as Ty pressed a kiss to her pulse point.
"Yeah. One of them. Along with sister, remember and forever," Ty avoided Kit's gaze slightly. Kit squeezed her arm.
Ty shook her head, shaking herself out of thoughts of Livvy. They had finally found a spell to put things right and let her rest. It had been excruciatingly painful, letting her go for good. But Ty knew it was right. She had already caused too much damage.
"I'm fine," she reassured Kit. She traced the outline of her lips. "I also have another one. Wanna hear it?"
Kit's eyes shone as she kissed Ty's fingers. "Tell me."
Ty leaned over her, pressing their foreheads together. Ty's long dark hair fell like an ebony curtain, shielding their faces.
She closed her eyes, letting her emotions wash over her.
"Kit," she breathed.
"Yeah?" Kit answered, clearly puzzled.
Ty laughed, drawing away. "No. I mean Kit is one of my words," she explained.
An unreadable expression fell over Kit's face before she smiled in awe. "Really? One of your favourite words?" She seemed taken aback.
Ty reached for her, gently pushing a lock of blond hair out of her face. "My absolute favorite," she whispered.
"It's my favorite word in the whole world."
Kit made some sort of indescribable sound and grabbed at Ty's shirt, pulling her forward. "I love you so much," she whispered, pulling her into a brusing kiss.
As Ty kissed her back, framing Kit's face with her hands, a burst of light exploded, shining so bright Ty could see it through her closed eyelids.
She frantically broke the kiss and opened her eyes, completely unprepared for what she was about to see.
Kit was glowing.
@bedspells @ti-bae-rius @zfoxdraws @anxiousbookenthusiast @dianasarrow @julieandthefandoms @older-brother-kit @stxr-thxif @magnus-the-fabulous-entp-bane @waterlillies @thelandunderthehilll @doitforthecarstairs @banesbitch @talia-lightwood @jazzkaurtheglorious @flynnsupremacy @adoravel-fenomeno
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Lysander Scamander and Lily Potter II
I have a feeling that growing up, Lily and Lysander were best friends. Lorcan was super, super, SUPER close friends with Lily, and obviously Lysander, since they are twins, (trust me on this,), but Lily and Lysander just shared a bond the tiniest bit stronger. 
Lily being an adventure seeking, adrenaline junky, while was Lysander, also adventure loving, but with limits. He knew his boundries and where to draw the line, but struggled to show that line to Lily, who would just jumped into every tree, every river, wanting to ride the hippogriff that she found in the woods behind the Scamander’s house. 
Lysander putting his head into his hands each time, saying “Lily. It’s dangerous. It could bite you, you could fall off, it could have rabies, fleas or something even worse. “
Lily rolling her eyes and attempting to do it anyway, running up to the hippogriff and almost getting trampled to death. Like Scorpius’ dad, but actually life threatening. 
After getting her out of there, Lysander smirked at her and said, “Don’t really wanna say I told you so, but....... *Pause* Oh who am I kidding, of course I do. Never tell me I’m wrong Lily, and expect to succeed in whatever dumb thing you’re doing. Lily just scoffing and said “I’m Harry Potter and Ginny Weasley’s daughter. The only reason I almost got trampled was obviously because the hippogriff sensed you behind that tree.”
Lysander, used to these egotistical comments, says “Oh yes, how could  I be so stupid. It’s not like I’m the great-grandson of Newt Scamander, or anything. And the situation we are talking about involves a damn hippogriff. “
 On the Hogwarts Express, Lily, Hugo, Lysander and Lorcan in the same compartment and a tall, lanky dark haired boy comes in. He introduced himself as Matthew Corner, and Lysander, being the best with people, gets up and politely introduces himself, and introduced the others.
Matt is immediately liked by everyone in the compartment, and they form their own little quintet, bonding over candy and pranks in the compartment. 
When Albus and James come in to check on Lily, she just giggles and waves, before redirecting her attention to Lorcan, who had eaten one of those cool sweets that make you grow features of an animal, that Hugo had brought on the train.
The Sorting Ceremony went as expected, really.
Matthew, was one of the first, and had barely sat on the stool, before the hat shouted “RAVENCLAW”
Hugo went next. He was on the stool for a long time with that hat on his head. Not enough to be a hat stall, but just enough to be notably long, before the hat yelled “HU-GRYFFINDOR!”
When Lily was called, she sashayed up to the stool, with an overwhelming amount of confidence, and James yelled “YES, LILS! WHOO!”. The hat suprisingly sat there for a while, debating between Slytherin and Gryffindor, before ultimately deciding on Gryffindor. 
Lysander had a feeling of dread at that moment. He did have seperation anxiety from Lorcan, just a mild case, but enough to make him dread the thought of them being in different houses. He hadn’t thought of it until that moment, becuase Lorcan and him were so alike. He ruled out that thought, and focused on relaxing himself
Lorcan jumped on the stool and only had a couple seconds of deliberation, before  “HUFFLEPUFF!”
Lysander knew even before going up there, that there was no way he would be in Hufflepuff. He wasn’t exactly the definition of hardworking. Not that he wasn’t, no, he just had a tendency to quit things that no longer interested him, rather than working throught it.
When his name was called, he was immediately sorted into Ravenclaw. He knew he should feel proud, as he was taking after his mother, and had one of his closest friends with him, Matthew, but being away from his twin, best friend and other close friend, was paining him. But Lysander was known to almost always be happy, so shut these feelings down, sucked it up and got used to it. Eventually, he found that it wasn’t that bad, and that Lily and him were still best friends, and Lorcan was still his right hand man. And vice versa.
In their second year, Lily tried out for the Gryffindor quidditch team, and made it, as their Seeker. A few weeks into the season, it was Lily’s third match, Gryffindor vs Hufflepuff and literal miliseconds after Lily caught the snitch and secured the win for Gryffindor, in a rage, one of the Hufflepuff beaters bat a bludger straight at the back of her head, knocking her out. 
Lysander, Lorcan, Hugo and Matt sprinted down the stands, running over towards her. She was crumpled on the grass and being levitated onto a stretcher by Headmistress McGonagall. 
The culprit of the injury had jumped on his broom and flew towards the castle, and Lysander was trembling with rage. He snapped at the other boys (Hugo, Matt and Lorcan,) to follow him to see if they could find the boy. They found him trying to run into the castle without being seen, but Lysander jumped on him, and pinned him down, so he couldn’t get away, while Lorcan and Hugo sent red sparks to the teachers, letting them know the found him.
Then, of course, Lysander did the unexpected. Just when the teacher and the student were coming into view, he let go of the boy and punch him straight in the nose, breaking it, as soon as the first met the boy’s face. A single punch before Lysander pulled him close and whispered in a deadly calm tone 
“Never. NEVER touch my Lily, EVER again.” Dropping the boy on the ground, before walking over to a shocked twin and Matthew. Leaning against the wall behind them and wiping the blood from the boy’s broken nose in the white-blond hair, not even caring at the streak of red in his hair. 
Consequently, he recived three weeks of detention. Could have been worse, I suppose, was his attitude. For the next month, he recived fist bumps from James in the hallways and tiny smirks from Albus, telling him, they were proud. 
Three years later, in fifth year, Lysander was noticing that he was catching feelings for Lily, but then, Matt had shyly asked her out, and she replied with “Why not?”.
Everytime they held hands, hugged, kissed or did anything of the sort, Lysander felt a rage build up inside of him. But for Lily’s sake, he tried to be happy. For Lily. 
Lorcan noticed immediately, and after teasing that Albus owed him 12 Galleons, comforted him and said that he was sure that Lily felt the same way, but just hadn’t noticed it yet, and told Ly to just play along and calm down.
Hugo noticed it in History of Magic, his first class after breakfast, where after seeing Lily and Matthew snog right in front of him, Lysander had crushed a goblet with his hands. After giving him some kind of twin telepathic look that Hugo couldn’t interpret, Lorcan sighed and muttered “Reparo”.
Hugo thought it was weird, but thought not much of it until he realized in the middle of HOM. (He is Ron Weasley’s kid. Ofc he wouldn’t fucking notice.) 
Hugo sent a note to the table where Ly and Matt were sitting, across the room, in a oragami swan (^-^) that read on the outside
Matt, if you’re reading this, just give it straight to Ly. Nothing really that interesting here, 
In it, read 
Lysander, mate...I realized you like Lily. Or Matt. I’m not sure, mate, i’m not going to make any assumptions. If it is Matt though, good for you. If it’s Lily, It was kinda obvious, so maybe, don’t crush a goblet next time they snog... just trying to help, but just know, that if Lily doesn’t choose you or doesn’t feel the same way, (Which she does.) the whole Potter-Weasley-Granger-Johnson-Delacour clan is on your side. 
If you need anyone to talk to, I’m always here, mate. Just say the word.
-Hugo
and Hugo got a paper dragon back, saying
Well, I shouldn’t really suprised, but it’s Lily. I’m not fucking gay. But thanks for being supportive. Love you, bro.
~Ly
Lysander walked out of that class feeling a lot better,  while Hugo felt smug. Hugo ran up to Fred II saying how he was about to have won his little bet with Rose. But they walked into the middle of the hallway to see Lily and Matthew, both looking solemn, (which was a first for Lily, who was almost always happy.)
They were speaking in hushed tones, Matt nodded and hugged Lily in an almost friendly manner, before walking away, with a smile on his face.
“What happened?” Lysander asked Lily, plainly curious.
“Oh, Matt and I both agreed that this relationship wasn’t working. We did like eachother.. but we agreed that being friends was more benefical for both of us. 
Lysander tried very hard not to break out into a grin, while saying “Aw.. You two were cute together. “
Lily snorted and just walked into the Transfiguration classroom and plopped down in her chair.
During the passing period after the next class, Lysander quickly told Lorcan the news, who encouraged him to ask her out at dinner. And Lysander agreed
Lysander worked up his courage to ask her out and was about to walk over to the Gryffindor table, went she walked into the Great Hall, smirking. 
“YOU!” she yelled, pointing at Lysander. The hall went silent. 
“ME!” Lysander yelled back, sticking his toungue out at her. 
“GO ON A DATE WITH ME ON THE NEXT HOGSMEADE TRIP?” Lily shouted, across the hall and out of nowhere. 
“ANYTHING FOR YOU LILS!” The sentence slipped out of Lysander’s mouth before he could stop it, but he was glad he did. 
Lily ran over to them, while Lorcan and Matt nudged Lysander, but Lily ignored them, pulling Lysander into a kiss that lasted a good forty five seconds. 
The Great Hall cheered, and Lily whispered “I saw you crush that goblet at breakfast today, Ly. I didn’t even remember it until an hour ago. I knew you felt the same as me, so I did something so you wouldn’t have to ask me out. Carriages to Hogsmeade at 10 sound good?”
Lysander couldn’t say anything, so he nodded. 
“Perfect! “ And Lysander watched Lily walk to her awed girl friends and a particularly smug Hugo. 
Let’s just say a lot of money was exchanged that day.
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adashofstarshine · 4 years
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💕Avar- I would like to know more about him!
💕 How is your OC like with physical affection? What are their boundries? Do they enjoy being touched or is that a no-go? Is there any reason behind this?
This is a very fun one for Avar.
Avar is touch-starved. He grew up in a very austere household where intellect was prized over emotion, and etiquette over affection. So when he met Caz and Caz’s family, he suddenly was exposed to a whole new world of holding hands and being hugged and just generally being in contact with other people. As a child this was overwhelming. As a teenager, this brought out a lot of feelings in Avar he didn’t understand. Caz 100% understood what was going on and encouraged Avar to feel more comfortable with physical affection. 
I have written a fic about this exactly! Here’s an excerpt:
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“I have an idea,” said Caz, “Indulge me, would you?”
It was Avar’s turn to look curious. Caz picked up a cushionand placed it in front of him.
“Sit here,” he said, before remembering his manners, “Please?”
Still confused, Avar nevertheless did as he was told. No sooner had hesat, than Caz had wrapped both of his arms around his waist. They were now sat so close, Avar’s back was touching Caz’s chest, his legs stretched out either side of his.  A feeling like heat, like magic, rippled through Avar’s entire body, causinghim to shiver a little at so much contact. He felt his body relax back intoCaz’s as if he knew on some deep instinctual level, there was nowhere saferthan in Caz’s arms. Such a strong reaction to a simple gesture should havefrightened him. Yet, even with them both shirtless like this, he couldn’t bringhimself to fret. He gave another little shiver as Caz moved one hand across hisstomach, drawing him a little closer.
“How’s that?” Caz murmured as Avar couldn’t help but resthis head against the taller man’s shoulder.
“I-I like it.” Avar wasn’t sure why he was suddenly sobreathless, “I like…being so close to you.”
“You like being touched,” Caz replied with a soft smile,“You like it when I’ve got my hands on you.  You want it so badly.”
Avar nodded, heat rising to his cheeks.  He’d noticed. He’d noticed the emptiness thatcame whenever Caz let go of his hand. How cold his face felt once Caz’s palmhad left his cheek. He didn’t know why he revelled in such small gestures, buthe wanted them with a passion so intense he almost frightened himself. Hewasn’t supposed to want. It wasn’t his place to be so selfish. Not when Caz hadalready given him so much. His attention. His care. His love. He found himselftearing up, embarrassed by his own base desires.  Hating himself for wanting more than themiracle he’d received.
“Hey, hey,” Caz leaned down to kiss him on the cheek, “Noneed for tears ok? It’s natural to like being touched. Being touched is niceand your body wants to make up for everything it’s been missing out on.”
Avar looked up at him. Caz was the only one who touched himin any sense of the word. The only one who held his hand, touched his face,hugged him when he was happy or sad or scared. At home, physical affection just wasn’t a thing. Everything was soaustere from the marble floors to the stiff conversation. Being with Caz waslike entering a new world entirely. A world full of soft touches and the brushof skin on skin.  A world where he wasallowed to be happy, to be loved…
“What-what if I like it too much?” he stammered, “What if itfeels empty when you stop. What if I want you to touch me more?”
Caz’s smile grew a little wider.
“I don’t think there’s such thing as too much,” he said, “Doyou want that? For me to touch you more?”
Avar nodded, despite his better judgement screaming at himfor being so selfish.
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