#space belongs to queer people

[menoasmess]

#of knights and books and falling in love #scatter heart of heroes #the space between worlds #wolfsong #tgcf #heaven official's blessing #lgbtqia books #queer books #queer books rec #Menoa rec #book tag #sapphic super heroine #green creek #danmei #space belongs to queer people #cozy fantasy

[aholotte]

this lesbian visibility week, i am asking monogender lesbians to be normal about multigender lesbians

#multigender lesbians belong in lesbian spaces #yes even if one of their genders is male #heck i need people in general to be normal about multigender people #“men dni” “women dni” who do you think you are i am both of those things #“we need weirder queers” you can't even handle a lesbian who is a guy #lesboy #multigender #multigender problems #transmultiphobia

[shynerdwantscuddles]

Honestly, the way that so many queer events are labeled to make them seem like only binary-gendered cis people attracted to (only) one gender are welcome isolates so much of the queer community. There’s so few queer events in my area, and even less that I feel like I’d be welcome in. The lgbtqia+ community has a history of exclusion, whether you want to admit that or not, and a lot of the people who don’t fit perfectly into the “ideal label” are not going to know if they’re welcome unless you explicitly say so.

#and that goes for online queer spaces as well #it also gives any exclusionists an excuse to be hostile towards us and tell us we don’t belong and we’re invading (insert lgbt label) space #and the people who have a history of being excluded #also tend to have way less spaces specifically for them #because of the damage done to those communities #and the hostility they face #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ #queer #lesbian #gay #trans #bisexual #inclusion

[rebellum]

Honestly I really think people haven't unlearned toxic femininity and often just use feminism to justify it. You're being the same cliquey, judgemental, rude girl you were at 13. But now instead of "ew I don't want to sit with Brenda because she's like a gross boy, she doesnt even wear lipgloss" you say "I don't want to sit with Brandon because all queer spaces should prioritize femme solidarity and that's something a man can never understand so Brandon has to be kicked out now because he started T"

And the same ideas are behind it.

You prioritize people for being culturally or subculturally acceptable, not for being nice people. You exclude people not because they're rude, or bigoted, or anything, but because YOU feel like they shouldn't fit in here.

#get kicked out of the friend group for not being feminine enough #get excluded and talked over and treated like shit because you dont belong in spaces for 'women and femmes' #and then arent allowed into queer mens spaces because you arent a 'real man' and dont pass #excluded from cis mens groups excluded from trans fems groups for not being fem enough excluded from mixed agab queer groups for being a #Dangerous Man #so then you can only hang out with other trans mascs #and then people point at that and say 'see? trans mascs are bad! theyre isolationist! they dont want to hang out with anyone else because #they think theyre better than others!' #and then if you try to coin a word to talk about experiences like this people say #'why do you need a word? youre a man you dont need a word for your oppression #'you arent even oppressed. youre just trying to take words and space from the fems who deserve it.'

[grims-sunshine]

I'm not even gonna directly respond to the ask I just got and I just blocked the anon who sent it, but I just wanna say... If you'll come to my blog to spout exclusionary bs at me, you can shut up and just block me instead because aside from this post, I'm not even gonna react to it cuz none of you deserve the time of day.

Also if you think aroace people don't belong under the queer umbrella, you can honestly shut right up and I sincerely hope you step on the pointiest, most annoying legos every single day for the rest of your miserable life

#i don't like cussing usually but genuinely: Fuck yourself. #shut up with the exclusionary bs and just let people live #we're not hurting anyone by existing #and if you think we don't belong in the queer community you're either horribly misinformed or just a damn bigot yourself #just leave me alone ffs #sorry for the discourse #i try to keep this a positive space #i just wanna make it clear that I don't tolerate people like that and anyone who thinks that way gets their ass blocked straight away

[lucydacusgirl]

So bored of jokes about bi girls with boyfriends. You know nothing about me.

#if you saw the kind of bisexual sex I’m having youd hurl #and the thing is. like I’m not the type of bi girl people are talking about when they make those jokes #because my boyfriend is trans and non binary and no one would argue she doesn’t belong in queer spaces. because he very obviously does. #and like we don’t have ‘straight passing privilege’. at all. in fact I’m more likely to be read as straight on my own than when I’m with him #but I AM a bi girl with a boyfriend and it sucks so much to constantly see people talking about that like I’m an invasive species #and I’m not going to throw other bi girls with boyfriends under the bus by being like yeah I’m bi with a bf but he’s queer too! #because whether or not my bf is queer IM fucking queer. entirely on my own merit I am queer. I’m a dyke and that’s a cornerstone of who I am #regardless of who I’m with. #anyway.

[flwrs4aust]

I come back to tumblr and there’s homophobia??? My oh MY

#to everyone getting nasty anons I am so sorry you don’t deserve this #also if you are so mad about Elvis getting it up his ass (and loving it!) that you feel the need to write a 5 paragraph essay MLA format #double spaced times new Roman then I think YOURE the one who has no life #all that effort to try justifying your homophobia??? #by the way if you call queer shit ‘strange’ or an ‘agenda’ then you’re homophobic #because here in America those are very common signs of a homophobe aka someone who belongs to the party with the red elephant #didnt want to say the term in fear of certain people finding this anyways post OVER I have shit to do buh BYE

[musical-chick-13]

I hate to tell you this, but many gays also love Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. (A musical show about discovering your identity and the negative effects of internalizing harmful societal ideas about relationships, which also has canonically queer characters in it.)

#like I don't. I don't know how to explain that sometimes people evaluate a work based on more than 'is there a tumblr-approved #same-gender ship I can ship' #and AGAIN. don't get me wrong!! I understand why people like lot!! truly I do!!!! and why sara in particular means so much to people!!!!!!! #but I think some people forget that some queer people are marginalized in other ways IN ADDITION to their queerness #queer poc exist. queer disabled and neurodivergent people exist. queer fat people exist. queer jewish people exist. and people will enjoy #some stories for speaking to those other types of marginalization or by representing the intersections of them. #not everything is about YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF QUEERNESS #sorry I just. I mean at least we're prioritizing a f/f ship this time that's a nice change. #but people act like one specific representation of queer identity is the only kind of story that matters and I AM /TIRED/ #I. A WHOLE-ASS QUEER LADY. AM TIRED. #(also like. it's telling that I only ever hear people lauding lot for the white sapphics and not any of the cast of color or who belong to #groups who are otherwise underrepresented) #(which the cx//gf fanbase is guilty of this too like people are HORRIBLE about josh. and bex's jewish background is also generally #neglected in discussions. so this isn't unique to lot. it's just that a lot of fandom spaces tout themselves as being #The Most Progressive and S-Tier Allys™ when they act like...this.) #In the Vents

[faithdeans]

realising you're ace at 24 is like spending your entire adolescence believing you're fundamentally broken but i am literally fine

#anyway this is why ace and aro people belong in queer spaces

[menoasmess]

(Last one for the pride rec🫡)

#this gilded abyss #checking out #under the whispering door #ocean’s echo #mdzs #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #lgbtqia books #queer books #Menoa rec #space belongs to queer people #space gays #space lesbians #lgbtq books #book rec #pride rec #read queer #book tag

[ihaventsleptinweekz]

Not to be crazy but I love how Miles feels like he doesn't belong among normal people and then in a place where he is around people similar to him he STILL doesn't belong because he just isn't similar enough. The metaphor is screaming at me

#And it can mean sooooo many things #Trans people in queer spaces #People of color in queer spaces #People with 'weird' identities #People with 'weird' genders #across the spiderverse #atsv #Like intentional or not it hurts me in my heart #And it doesn't even HAVE to mean queer people #The experience of isolation from places you should belong is so prevalent in our society

[feytouched]

i love your blog because you post a lot of pretty aesthetics things but you're not a terf. too many aesthetic blogs that like nature and shit are terfs. bless you

i mean yes that should be the baseline but unfortunately i understand the sentiment. the hashtag cottagecore crowd seems to either fall down the terf pipeline or the tradwife pipeline. luckily i was born with this thing called a brain which is very useful when employed in critical thinking

#rest assured this is a safe space for trans and queer people #i try my best to examine and avoid my behaviour to excise bigotry. it is a tumor that grows all too easily in the dark #but we belong in nature - we are natural - these spaces belong to us intrinsically despite whatever hateful rhetoric is cooked up by bigots #answered

[mike-wheeler-ik-what-you-are]

I feel like I need to share this so, to all the will stans: you're not alone.

I know you feel like you're unworthy of love and you've probably experienced abandonment before, but trust me when I say it won't always be like this. one day you'll find someone who really, deeply cares about you and that just won't leave you. and this will be it, no people abandoning you, just friendship and comfort.

and I also know you probably don't feel comfortable in your own skin, because you can't fit in, you just can't. but the world is so full of different people, and who says that being different is worse? you don't have to be a certain way in order to have people appreciate you, you're allowed to be yourself. being you is enough, being you is beautiful.

and yes, there will some people out there who won't like you, but if you try to start loving yourself, you'll notice that it won't matter anymore because it's ok, you don't need to please everyone.

please be kind to yourself, loving yourself is not selfish, is one of the best gifts you can ever make yourself, and you'll notice other people will feel influenced by your energy too.

and it's true that society is not kind to us, it never has been, but you have so much kindness in your heart, using a little for yourself will just make things easier.

you're not alone in this, trust me.

#btw this is a safe space #I want all my followers to feel included #this is a place for everyone who doesn't feel like they fit in #and for people who are lucky enough to feel like they belong too #and to all of my queer followers struggling to find acceptance #I hope you can find it here. #you are valid and so are your struggles #feel free to be yourself here #byler tumblr #byler #will byers

[foggyfanfic]

Random Bruno Pride Thoughts

CW: my very queer opinions

I’ve noticed that a lot of the people who identify with Bruno, like a lot of us, are demi-sexual/romantic and bi. Ever since that latest round of Jared Bush answers when he confirmed that there was a REASON Bruno is single, I’ve been thinking about what Bruno’s canonical identity might be.

I know it’s most likely that if they’re going the LGBT route they’re going to go for the more straightforward identity of Bruno being gay, which would still make me happy. (I mean, if they try saying Bruno is straight I’m laughing my ass off at them.) I just find myself hoping they go for one of the lesser known identities. There are a lot of queer stories that are still left to be told, and I think Demi-sexuality/romanticism is a good next step. I know they probably won’t go the “gender doesn’t matter but vibes are essential” route because to people who haven’t already rejected the gender binary that seems like a really complicated concept, but that would fit the character, and the fans who love him. And, there are queer kids out there who would benefit from knowing that’s an option, which (imo) is always the most important consideration when it comes to these conversations.

#I’m not going to post this to the tag #just my blog #cuz when I was a young impressionable queer seeing people say my identity was Not the Right Rep was heartbreaking #and I know I can clarify all day long that any queer rep is good rep #but if some young gay boy is scrolling through the tag #I don’t think me tacking on that I will still support a monosexual read of the character will really soften the blow #this is my opinion and comes from the very selfish place of ‘I see myself in this character and want to see my journey reflected in them’ #and not a ruling on what the Most Righteous Queer Rep is #so it belongs on my blog #not in a public space

[rotationalsymmetry]

Oof I accidentally ran into some ace discourse.

I mean hey I’m also not platforming terfs or transmeds or Nazis it’s the same principle. And yeah ace exclusion is on the same level as terf shit. It’s bad. It’s not welcome here.

(I meant to do a bullet point list but you know what? Polls are fun I’m keeping it.)

#Left out for space: dividing a line between aces who are queer and other ways and ones who aren’t #Harms aces who are queer in other ways #In some ways it’s worse #When one of your queer identities is welcome in the community #And another is invalidated #The fun times of hey there’s something different about me I should find people like me #And then some of the people like you say you’re not like them and don’t belong #And you look around and you’re still not like the straights #But there’s nowhere else to go

[aphrodoubte]

...

#where do i belong in queer spaces as a genderfluid person #i feel like sometimes i am for sure just a girl loving girls #but sometimes #i would like to be a boy loving boys #and like #what do i do #be upfront about my gender? #i don't know my gender!! #i am just a person loving people #other nb/gf people what is ur experience with this #gender #genderfluid #nonbinary #queer #narrative