#rape quotes

[goldfishkid]

Quote 27

With a bite mark on my shoulder and a scar on my mind, you stand in front of me and say, "not all men."

#writingprompts #writeyourheartout #books #spilled writing #spilled poetry #spilled words #spilled ink #spilled thoughts #writing #from a book i'll never write #excerpt from a book i'll never write #writing prompt #rape quotes

[femsolid]

"In his disgusting discussion of Dora, who suffered from “hysteria”, Freud relays her experience of being sexually assaulted at the age of fourteen and pontificates upon what she should have experienced. He describes the scene in which an older man and friend of the family, having managed to get Dora alone, “suddenly clasped the girl to him and pressed a kiss upon her lips”. Freud’s profound analysis follows: "This was surely just the situation to call up a distinct feeling of sexual excitement in a girl of fourteen who had never been approached. But Dora had at that moment a violent feeling of disgust, tore herself free from the man, and hurried past him to the staircase and from there to the street door." Clearly, Freud assumes that any woman who is “approached”, that is, sexually accosted, should respond with uncontrollable visceral desire for the man who mauls and violates her. Thus Dora’s normal reaction of disgust and self salvation is negated. Freud drones in: "In this scene, the behavior of this child of fourteen was already and entirely hysterical. I should without question consider a person hysterical in whom an occasion for sexual excitement elicited feelings that were preponderantly or exclusively unpleasurable; and I should do so whether or no the person were capable of producing somatic symptoms. Instead of the genital sensation which would certainly have been felt by a healthy girl in such circumstances, Dora was overcome by disgust." In this maze of obscene babble the great mind-shrinker announces that any woman who does not enjoy rape is hysterical. Freud’s psychoanalytic babble is a paradigm of the rapist’s erasure of male responsibility for rape on all levels. The patient is not merely blamed for being a victim who “asked for it”. She is blamed for being a victim who did not “ask for it” and who did not love being violated."

- Gyn/Ecology by Mary Daly

[elia-nymmeros]

Cersei and her vision of ruling

I waited, and so can he. I waited half my life. She had played the dutiful daughter, the blushing bride, the pliant wife. She had suffered Robert's drunken groping, Jaime's jealousy, Renly's mockery, Varys with his titters, Stannis endlessly grinding his teeth. She had contended with Jon Arryn, Ned Stark, and her vile, treacherous, murderous dwarf brother, all the while promising herself that one day it would be her turn. If Margaery Tyrell thinks to cheat me of my hour in the sun, she had bloody well think again.

I love thinking about Cersei and her inefficient and ultimately doomed attempt at ruling because, beyond her faults and terrible traits as a person, she simply does not offer any valuable incentive towards anyone who wishes to follow her, as opposite to other contestants (something that I think 100% comes from Tywin), and any attempt at ruling would've failed sooner or later.

Edit: added some quotes to show some examples and tweak some stuff!

From AGoT all the way through her PoVs in AFfC, one of Cersei's main characteristics both in her personal approach to other people and in the way she tackles ruling is that she believes she's entitled to power and she's entitled to be treated as superior both as a Lannister and as the queen regent of Westeros. She routinely dismiss and berates people with lesser social power and status, she despises people who try to 'take liberties' and who don't treat her as an untouchable regent, and she's willing to hurt, torture and kill anyone who she considers a threat to her claim to rule. I personally think it's understandable that she's paranoid about traitors and people who have double intentions about her and Tommen —especially considering that in AFfC she literally just saw her son die in her arms by poison— but her problem is that she's a bad judge of character, she's been flawed in how she interprets other people's actions since AGoT, and she's incapable of adequately judging who is on her side and who is a bad option for an ally (see for example her thinking that Kevan was a traitor when he made good criticism about her as a ruler).

"The next Hand will know his place, she promised herself. It would have to be Ser Kevan. Her uncle was tireless, prudent, unfailingly obedient. She could rely on him, as her father had. The hand does not argue with the head. She had a realm to rule, but she would need new men to help her rule it. Pycelle was a doddering lickspittle, Jaime had lost his courage with his sword hand, and Mace Tyrell and his cronies Redwyne and Rowan could not be trusted. For all she knew they might have had a part in this. Lord Tyrell had to know that he would never rule the Seven Kingdoms so long as Tywin Lannister lived." AFfC, Cersei I

For me, a very hard truth about Cersei is that she absolutely suffered physical and sexual abuse from Robert, and she did not deserve neither this nor her perpetual objectification by pretty much every men in her life, but this simply does not make her entitled or eligible as a ruler by default. By Westerosi laws —which are undoubtedly misogynistic and unfair to women no matter their ability to rule— her claim as a Queen regent comes by her marriage to Robert and her sons (which are supposed to be Robert's blood). Since she decided to go all girlboss about it and put the two sons who clearly did not have Robert's blood on the throne, she actively harmed their claim and her own, and she literally created a succession crisis by having the bad luck of marrying the one family with strong genes and zero chance of having blondes in their family tree.

But let's say, alright, put the clearly Lannister boys on the throne anyways, kingship is a social construction and the Baratheons didn't really have any more intrinsic claim to Westeros than the Targaryens other than military might, fuck it; the obvious question is, what am I offering my subjects so that their support is rewarded and their loyalty is secured? This is something that, in some way or another, is answered by the other pretenders in the War of the Five Kings, even if it's in a limited capacity and with very dubious intentions: Robb offers a rule from, by and to the Northern people that takes into account their wishes and reclaims, and also offers the people of the Riverlands justice and protection; Balon offers the Ironborn a new, revitalized rule over the islands and surrounding land with the Old Way which he claimed would improve the life of his people; Renly and his alliance with the Tyrells came with the prosperous wealth of the Reach and offers of food, pardons and a generous rule by a charismatic ruler mimicking Robert's long peaceful reign. Stannis, by contrast, is the one who pushes his claim solely by his rights in Targaryen dynastic succession (if the king dies with no legitimate children, the crown should go to the next eldest brother), and we see over and over throughout the saga that this isn't enough to secure his claim, that a ruler should also fulfill their rights as a protector if they wish to be followed, that he was demanding loyalty and obedience without offering something in return and that this won't give you support no matter how legal is your claim.

"If not for my Hand, I might not have come at all. Lord Seaworth is a man of humble birth, but he reminded me of my duty, when all I could think of was my rights. I had the cart before the horse, Davos said. I was trying to win the throne to save the kingdom, when I should have been trying to save the kingdom to win the throne." ASoS, Jon XI

Compared to all this, Cersei (and Joffrey by extension, because she encourages in him what she believes are good traits for a king) simply did not have anything to offer precisely because they live under the illusion —once again coming from Tywin— that they have the intrinsic right to power and ruling simply because they're Lannisters and they should be obeyed because of this. This would be a normal thing to believe in a normal, regular dynasty —for example, I doubt Aegon IV or Viserys I or Maekar I were particularly thinking about what they could offer to their subjects, they simply gained power because they were part of a royal lineage where a Targaryen man inheriting the throne was expected— but Joffrey's claim came from a break of this succession, and Robert justified his reign both by being the descendant of a Targaryen and also because he offered Westeros peace, protection, justice and mercy if you'd been in the wrong side of the war.

""It is, Your Grace," Lady Merryweather agreed. "The High Septon should have come to you. And these wretched sparrows . . ." "He feeds them, coddles them, blesses them. Yet will not bless the king." The blessing was an empty ritual, she knew, but rituals and ceremonies had power in the eyes of the ignorant. Aegon the Conqueror himself had dated the start of his realm from the day the High Septon anointed him in Oldtown. "This wretched priest will obey, or learn how weak and human he still is."" AFfC, Cersei VI

A lot can be said about Robert's rule and what he did right and wrong, but I think one can admit that he was a man capable of pardoning his enemies' lives unconditionally (think Barristan, Balon, Jaime), he put down disagreements and fights without sending someone to be tortured to death, and traditional customs in Westeros were respected —Aerys' rule was contested precisely because he broke the right of nobles to have a trial. Cersei doesn't simply ignore all this, being particularly vicious, cruel and spiteful to her enemies/rivals even after she supposedly made peace with them, but nothing about her rule is about anything except her and her wishes: if there's a scarcity of food, then she hoards everything to herself; if there's danger to the city, she hides herself and withdraws her resources and fuck the rest of the population, noble or not; if someone comes from the rival side wanting to join their cause, then they're suspected traitors who sooner or later will be put to death; if someone says a criticism about her actions, whether genuine or not, then that person is a traitor who sooner or later will be put to death; everyone is her enemy and everyone wants her power for themselves and nobody can ever be trusted because nobody is as smart, capable, worthy and deserving of power as Cersei is.

"It took the rest of the flagon before the queen was finally able to coax the whole sad tale out of Lady Falyse. Once she had, she did not know whether to laugh or rage. "Single combat," she repeated. Is there no one in the Seven Kingdoms that I can rely upon? Am I the only one in Westeros with a pinch of wits? (...)" AFfC, Cersei VII

"Taena had drifted back to sleep by the time the queen returned to the bedchamber, her head spinning. Too much wine and too little sleep, she told herself. It was not every night that she was awakened twice with such desperate tidings. At least I could awaken. Robert would have been too drunk to rise, let alone rule. It would have fallen to Jon Arryn to deal with all of this. It pleased her to think that she made a better king than Robert." AFfC, Cersei VII

Since she doesn't care about feeding her subjects, protecting them from harm, enacting fair and genuine justice to those who need it, improving the physical infrastructure of the realm, honoring debts to foreign entities and previous agreements to other nobles, or at least diminishing the economic problems left by Robert's rule, then she (and once again, Joffrey and Tommen by extension) literally has nothing to offer anyone who wishes to follow her. She doesn't make even the attempt to pretend she cares about any of this by the time we get to AFfC, like Renly once did in ACoK, precisely because she has the mistaken and very dangerous belief that she's owed obedience and deference and the right to rule over an entire continent, and that people should somehow be grateful to obey her no matter how shitty and depraved and harmful she is to them and their families.

""The realm is at war. His Grace has need of every man." Cersei did not intend to squander Tommen's strength playing wet nurse to sparrows, or guarding the wrinkled cunts of a thousand sour septas. Half of them are probably praying for a good raping. "Your sparrows have clubs and axes. Let them defend themselves."" AFfC, Cersei VI

"When the door closed behind them Cersei poured herself another cup of wine. "I am surrounded by enemies and imbeciles," she said. She could not even trust to her own blood and kin, nor Jaime, who had once been her other half. He was meant to be my sword and shield, my strong right arm. Why does he insist on vexing me?" AFfC, Cersei VII

All of this is remarkable precisely when put in contrast with Dany, because both of their ambitions to the throne come from their belief that they're entitled to the throne above any other consideration, and both of them had little experience ruling before their ascent to power and are continuously doubted/criticized because of their gender, but what sets Dany apart is her willingness to learn from others and take care of the people who follow her. Despite all the troubles that ADwD have brought her, Dany has always been characterized by someone who attempts to protect others and is prepared to hear her subject's opinions and make actual efforts to improve their lives; many of us root for her precisely because she makes a genuine effort into being a good and fair ruler to her subjects even when she fails, even when she makes wrong choices, even when she falls short of her goal. One of the main problems in her journey has been the question of how can she become a legitimate ruler in the eyes of the Westerosi people, and she rightfully understood that she needed to offer something in exchange for loyalty, just like Stannis did.

""There's much I don't understand," Davos admitted. "I have never pretended elsewise. I know the seas and rivers, the shapes of the coasts, where the rocks and shoals lie. I know hidden coves where a boat can land unseen. And I know that a king protects his people, or he is no king at all."" ASoS, Davos VI

"Why do the gods make kings and queens, if not to protect the ones who can't protect themselves?" ASoS, Daenerys III

I believe that the fact that Cersei doesn't ever comes close to this realization doesn't just steam from her natural self-centredness, propensity to cruelty and repeated trauma in the hands of the men in her life, but precisely by the vision Tywin had about himself and house Lannister. At the end of the day, Cersei mimics not only what Tywin himself believes about their house (that they're superior, wealthier, worthier and morally above everyone else, even other noble houses), but also how Tywin behaves as a political actor (making deals in bad faith and not fulfilling them, mistreating children, women and disabled peoople, using extreme violence as a form of correction and coercion, following no moral guidance or innate beliefs other than what benefits them in the short term, etc.). They're not the only ones who exhibits this behavior (Bronn, for example, is just as self-serving and violent as them), but House Lannister, and Tywin, Cersei and Joffrey in particular, are definitely some of the most powerful and influential people in Westeros thanks to their military might and economic power, which amplifies the consequences of their selfishness to... quite scary levels.

#asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #cersei lannister #valyrianscrolls #ugh sorry didnt mean to post this! i wanted to add some things quotes and other sfuff #but whatever #cw mention of rape #i wanted to talk more about tywin's fascist ideologies which are seen in his children but this is too long already #and cersei is old enough to see other points of view like jaime

[miaoqing]

not to bring this up AGAIN but genuinely WHAT IS IT with mxtx fans and reading comprehension 😭 binghe is NOT a rapist! he says in the extras that he would never hurt SY. i think we established a long time ago that SY is an unreliable narrator and what he says doesn't always correspond with what he feels/does. literally his entire life as SQQ is a performance and obviously that affects ALL his actions. did none of you ever learn to read between the lines/draw your own conclusions? just because it isn't said outright that SY's complaints are just for show doesn't mean that he is being RAPED omg. idk i know a lot of people in this fandom are quite young and grew up on the internet bc of the pandemic but have you never been in a situation where you've gone "hahah staaaahp...." at someone without actually meaning it?? consent is, of course, very important, but when you're close enough with someone you can often joke around/tease quite a lot without them being uncomfortable whatsoever, even when explicit consent isn't expressed. obviously this isn't exactly the same thing as consent regarding sex but you'd think that with as close as bingqiu are (!!!! MARRIED !!!!!) they'd know each other's limits. SQQ is an immortal cultivator and he is more than strong enough to get away from binghe if he wanted to. so. just. please learn to read with your eyes and think with your brain thank you

#rant #i have had ENOUGH #bingqiu #svsss #lbh #sqq #sy #meow #tw rape mention #do i need to provide textual evidence #because i will #tag for things to quote in arguments

[st-just]

In general, men in mainstream fiction are rarely raped; western fanfiction has enthusiastically fixed this regrettable oversight. Entire wildly popular subgenres, such as omegaverse, were created so that men could experience misogyny.

-Ozy Brennan, Romantic Tastes of Women

#quote #funny #rape mention #Ozy Brennan

[batwynn]

Almost every day I think about that first post I saw a few years ago where someone decided that people enjoying the cuteness of otters needed to be destroyed for the sake of ‘reality’ and ‘facts’. The post was open from start to finish that they were telling you that otters did ‘horrible things’ because they wanted to ‘break the illusion’ or whatever. It was full of language and tone that implied or outright said that people were ‘stupid’ or ‘foolish’ for liking otters, and that they should be punished with this information. This fact. This fact that was a twisted form of humans applying their moral concepts on to wild animals, to begin with, but was also simply being put out in to the world to hurt people for liking that animal. And then I think about how everyone started sharing this ‘fact’, post after post sharing the same tone and language of punishment, of implied ‘stupidity’ for ‘not knowing’. People gleefully commented this ‘fact’ on thousands of otter picture posts, they posted it a million times on the otter fan facebooks, they made tiktoks, they hammered it in over and over again. Don’t like otters. Don’t think they’re cute. They’re Bad™️. You’re a Bad™️ person if you like them. And people genuinely believed that. I saw so many people genuinely hurt by this, who thought they were a bad person and needed to stop liking or sharing otter pictures. Or they’d add a little note at the bottom, ‘I know otters are Bad™️ but I still think they’re cute.’ And I can’t not think about how pointlessly fucked up and cruel that entire thing was from the start, and how manipulative and shitty it was. And how it spun out into the universe until even now, on an otter video posted earlier this year, there’s dozens of comments about how otters are Bad™️ because one person decided that this wild animal doing something that is repugnant to humans, the animal with no knowledge that this is Bad™️ or with malicious intent (because it’s a wild fucking animal), meant they needed to hurt and punish anyone who liked that animal. And, finally, that people were so afraid of being seen as morally wrong/Bad™️ that they destroyed their love for this animal on the word of some fucking rando online without stopping to look internally at their own moral compass and understanding of animal behavior.

#otters #internet culture #moral panic #moral police #internet trolls #tw: ableism #ableist language cw #tw: animals #tw: otters #tw: swearing #cw: stupid #I used that word in quotes because that is the word I frequently saw used in these posts about otters #message me for additional tw tags #anyway just thinking #about people being fucking mean on the internet #yet again #additionally and in case people #think this means I condone rape because they can’t read or comprehend #no I don’t fucking condone rape

[gothhabiba]

The statements that both [U.S. President Barack] Obama and [President of Israel Shimon] Peres are “very good gardeners” are haunting. They reveal the ongoing transformation of indigenous landscapes due to the persistent structures of settler colonialism in the United States and Israel. In both the United States and Israel, the Europeanization of the landscape continues to be an intrinsic part of ongoing settler-­colonialism; since the colonial encounter, Zionist and European colonizers interpreted the indigenous landscapes as physical manifestations of the abject native that had to be vanished and replaced. [...]

In Palestine, “good gardening” practices by Israeli and Zionist organizations have contributed to a process I call “eco-occupation”—­through the planting of nonnative trees to resemble European landscapes and the appropriation of the natural habitat to expand colonial settlement, Israeli settler colonialism is produced through an intricate, systematic process of environmental transformation, replacement, and disappearance. Here, “eco” refers to the social, political, ideological, and material landscapes that fix Palestinian life to land; “occupation” refers to the militarized, settler- colonial presence of Israel in the occupied Palestinian territory of the West Bank as well as the mundane and seemingly benign practices of settler colonialism, including “good gardening” practices that promise to make a feminized wilderness more aptly penetrable for colonial development and expansion.

Indeed, the image of Obama and Peres as “good gardeners” invokes the origin story of a barren landscape that was made fertile by the productive external forces of European Zionists. In effect, this narrative epistemologically disappears native peoples from the land. There is no mention that, for example, the very site of the presidential complex where Obama planted his friendship seed [a magnolia sapling descended from a tree on the White House's lawn] once housed a thriving Christian Palestinian community where Palestinian postcolonial theorist Edward Said—­among others—­once called home.

These omissions point to the various cultural, epistemological, and material forms of disappearing native peoples. Indigenous bodies, memories, and lands are but a blip in a colonial history imagined as complete, coherent, and natural. [...] Vanishment refers to the processes of erasure that rely on the appropriation of the earth’s elements, the removal and replacement of native landscapes, and the erasure of indigenous culture through a system of conditional inclusion. Palestinian lands, particularly the olive tree, figure into the process of eliminating what was deemed to be a characteristically Palestinian landscape—­that is, a racially abject and soiled environment in need of colonial modernity’s raking and raping.

— Lila Sharif, "Vanishing Palestine." Critical Ethnic Studies 2.1 (Spring 2016), pp. 17-39; pp. 17-8. DOI:10.5749/jcritethnstud.2.1.0017.

#Palestine #Israel #ecology #rape m / #ecofeminism #Lila Sharif #quote

[lobotomyladylives]

''even rapists & pedos deserve to have their identities & pronouns respected!" like are you fucking kidding me lol. "ohh respect the predators even though they don't have enough respect for others to not do one of the worst things you can possibly do to someone just for their sexual gratification! you might hurt their feelings by calling them men )':" good! in fact I'd prefer to refer to these "people" as was/were after I put a bullet in their heads

#the first quote is verbatim what a tim said to me on twitter back when i used it & chris chan got arrested for raping his elderly mother #they rly are this demented

[pillowprincessvarric]

So Aveline's post-Night Terrors dialogue is pretty insane

#she goes full ''mages should be locked up'' #and then if you say that maybe shes not at peace with wesleys passing as she thinks she says. and i quote. #''i have one regret and i deserve to have my will stripped away? i suppose the rich also beg for thieves. and the beautiful beg for rape.'' #HELLO????

[k-wame]

Richard Brake as Dean Portman & Al Weaver as Mark "Kid" Dantalian DOOM (2005) · dir. Andrzej Bartkowiak · Action · Sci-Fi · Horror

#hell of a pick up line that😂😂😂 & bc they mustn't gross out homophobic gameboys the scene is played off as a rape joke #so they hav john grimm come in to defend mark w/ a threat against portman for that line---but mate portman is topbloke in this house idc #horroredit #scifiedit #filmedit #doom #doom 2005 #film #movie #horrorgifs #dean portman #mark dantalian #al weaver #richard brake #andrzej bartkowiak #film quotes #lgbt #queer #video game

[mirandahamilton]

ALICENT HIGHTOWER APPRECIATION WEEK → Day 2: Favorite Quote

To have every young knight and lord in the Seven Kingdoms fawning over you…what misery. It is rare for girls in this realm to get a choice between two suitors, no less two scores of them. 

#alicentedit #alicenthightowerdaily #alicentweek2023 #alicent hightower #hotdedit #gotedit #** #this is the quote that stands out to me the most abt young alicent even if she didn't speak it per se #rape / #it's giving: :((( #hotd

[k-i-l-l-e-r-b-e-e-6-9]

#I Spit on Your Grave #70's #70s #1978 #movies #my gif #gifs #gif #my edit #American rape-and-revenge film #70's classic horror movies #70's movies #text #quotes #title

[stromuprisahat]

One by one, every man and boy with Strong blood in his veins was dragged forth and put to death, until the heap made of their heads stood three feet tall. Thus did the flower of House Strong, an ancient line of noble warriors boasting descent from the First Men, come to an ignoble end in the ward at Harrenhal. No trueborn Strong was spared, nor any bastard save… oddly… Alys Rivers. Though the wet nurse was twice his age (thrice, if we put our trust in Mushroom), Prince Aemond had taken her into his bed as a prize of war soon after taking Harrenhal, seemingly preferring her to all the other women of the castle, including many pretty maids of his own years.

Fire and Blood (George R. R. Martin)

Wow! Now it certainly sounds SO ROMANTIC!

I mean:

Though her own children had all been stillborn, the milk that flowed so abundantly from the breasts of Alys Rivers had nourished countless babes born of other women at Harrenhal.

I'm sure none of them were among the slaughtered, and if they were, she had no relationship with them. No remaining feelings, because feeding someone else's baby doesn't usually result in that, right?!

#ASoIaF #Fire & Blood #valyrianscrolls #ch: The Dying of the Dragons: Rhaenyra Triumphant #Aemond Targaryen #Alys Rivers #Dance of the Dragons #Greens #Alys Rivers x Aemond Targaryen #ch: The Dying of the Dragons: A Son for a Son #V #GRRM #books #quotes #anti Aemond #anti Greens #Being forced to fuck the guy #who just slaughtered all your relatives #in order to survive certainly shouldn't count as rape right?! #Then how is it that reading posts about them made me expect some star crossed lovers?!

[othystt]

every day i check "your tags" like there's gonna be something new and exciting as if i'm not part of an incredibly niche fandom

#the book of mormon #sometimes i wish i was a part of tbom during 2017 #but then i read old fics and see people's takes #for example and i quote “kevin was raped uwu” #not my words. saw it on an old post #and i think Gee im really glad i wasnt #q's corner

[tragedyfetishist]

It’s very insane to me just exactly how quickly people are turning on Gypsy Rose. I’ve seen tweet after tweet with millions of likes talking how she’s untrustworthy and manipulative and she “convinced some poor boy” to murder her mum for her and how the fact that she’s going on a press tour to finally actual talk about her own story without show producers and the suchlike makes her a bad person. Li,e it’s actually insane. I’ve seen so many stories about people who’ve killed their abusers and rapists and everyone supports them so why is she so different? This literally can’t be how you all would seriously treat victims of abuse who were so desperate that they had to kill their abusers,right?

#Like even Dee Dee Blanchard’s OWN FAMILY dgaf about her murder and flushed her down a toliet. #The ‘’innocent’’ boy she ‘’manipulated’’ was said to have raped her. #There was this dumbass on twt who was talking about some sort of white privilege and as a black person I don’t think race had anything to do #with it. #She still got 8 years and prison so that’s about as much privilege as she has. #Of she were black or Asian or indigenous or Mexican people would still be going to bat for her because she’s a literal victim of abuse. #Her race isn’t what matters in this case what matters is that she had to further traumatise herself to get out of a situation that could #have killed her. #Luckily on the quotes on tweets bashing her are filled with people calling the op a loser who doesn’t actually support abuse victims #but still…… #gypsy rose blanchard

[campgender]

from #ChurchToo by Emily Joy Allison

image description: text on an off-white background with sections highlighted in blue. the text reads: When I read the many purity culture books on my shelf, I’m struck by how many of the stories they tell about sex and sin and loss of “virginity” are actually stories of harassment, coercion, and abuse—but the authors don’t even realize it.

Christian authors, pastors, teachers, speakers, parents, professors, and college administrators have a very big problem distinguishing consensual sexual activity from assault, harassment, and abuse. Moreover, I would go so far as to say that for many, consent is viewed as an irrelevant factor when evaluating the morality of any given sexual situation.

I think often of that meme where a couple is cuddling in bed and both have little speech bubbles above their heads that say, “I consent!” Next to them is white Jesus, with a speech bubble above his head that says, “I don’t!” The meme is titled “The Myth of Consensual Sex.” There’s often a subtitle that reads, “Isn’t there someone you forgot to ask?”

And given what purity culture teaches about sex, it actually makes sense to disregard consent. If all sexual experiences outside of one cisgender heterosexual man and one cisgender heterosexual woman in a legal, monogamous, lifelong marriage are sin, then why would it make any difference whether someone “consented” or not?

Consent isn’t important to many conservative Christians because consenting to sin is a nonsensical idea in their worldview. To people with this belief system, consenting to sex, if it’s not the “right” kind of sex, is as pointless as consenting to bank robbery or voter fraud. You’re still doing the wrong thing. end image description.

#emily joy allison #churchtoo #purity culture #exvangelical #consent #rape culture #quotes #image described #impurity culture #mac’s bookshelf