#raise boys and girls the same

[myfateislosingitspatience]

This left me in tears!!! <3 We need more parents that love their kids for who they are, having their backs in exploring and learning who they are, rather than keeping them scared, in a box of conformity. Your kids already seek comfort by appeasing others, give them one less person that makes them feel they have to play a part.

Let your kid be themselves now so they don't have to cope with the trauma of you not, later. PLEASE!!!!

We can't change who we are, or what makes us happy, as a parent it's your job to want what's best for them. Support them, THE ACTUALY PERSON THEY ARE, not a cardboard cutout of a concept. Your child isn't your character to play a role in your perfect version of what you'd like them to be, they're a human with thoughts, feelings, and experiences separate from yours. LOVE THEM THROUGH THOSE.

#personal vent #lgbt pride #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #lgbt #gender spectrum #genderqueer #raise boys and girls the same #nonbinary #fuck gender #fuck social norms #fuck social media #let people be humans #live your life #live your life for you #be true to yourself #self love #self acceptance #love yourself #i love you #Youtube

[theogbubblesnake]

teach girls to respect boys teach boys to respect other boys teach girls to respect other girls teach boys to respect girls

#Teach Equality #Teach Love #Raise Boys and Girls The Same #God Loves You #Gender Equality #masculinity is beautiful #masculinity is not toxic #femininity is beautiful

[welcometogrouchland]

Babygirl I can concieve of stephcass dynamics you couldn't even imagine (arospec Cass not understanding why "probably bi but has a job so she doesn't have time to think about that" Steph apparently needs a man (she doesn't, it would just be nice) and doesn't want to platonically settle down with cass in their old age)

#ramblings of a lunatic #dc comics #stephcass #another sure to be no-notes banger #anyway I think steph and cass are both very. meh on labels #like i said Steph has a job (in my heart it's retail or like a fast food joint or something but in canon its just being batgirl/spoiler) #so she's not thinking about that rn #and cass was raised so outside of conventional society that she. technically understands why ppl want labels for things #but when you grow up in essentially a few rooms with just you and one other guy 90% of the time it just feels unnecessary in her heart #likewise she was raised so far from conventional romance and has such strong emotions about those she cares about #that she's just. not that interested in delineating romantic vs platonic feelings. She Likes You. Deal w/ it #steph on the other hand. oh boy steph #I'm not gonna say comphet I genuinely think she was deeply madly in love w/ tim and that's important to her character #but at the same time she's so. she's so #steph puts a lot of stock in her romantic relationships bc shes on a perpetual quest for connection and to be seen and appreciated #but. at the same time. she resents that part of her i think (at least early spoiler characterization does?- #-local girl desperately wants your approval and would rather be waterboarded than admit that to herself bc that's embarrassing) #so she's just kinda. acting like she's in it for the fun of it but that girl is searching for a soulmate #i genuinely think pre break-up she thought tim was the guy she was gonna marry. not consciously but if it were anyone it'd be him #and the whole ''married with kids'' thing IS something i think she wants. not every female character wants to be married/a mom #but Stephanie does imo #(also lets not even get into how much her breakup with tim SHOULD'VE effected her considering how it went down- #-and how that was never really gone into besides being hinted at in batgirls and kinda. dismissed in Tim's pride special- #-like on the one hand i get it bc of optics but on the other hands. he's really important to her! this should make her so much more upset!! #ahem. anyway #I'm not even the worlds biggest tim/stephanie guy i just think they're inch resting #and Cass. is close w/ Tim and Steph and should Get all of this since she's so adept at reading ppl #but like I said she's bad at categorizing platonic/romantic feelings in herself and doesn't totally Get it w/ steph #i should just write fic about this at this point these tags are too much

[ishouldsleepbut]

so i just found out about this thing called gender apathy. the term was coined in 2015 and it's when you don't care what gender people perceive you as. you're indifferent to gender and how it applies to you. and yeah, that's pretty much me :)

#veero rambles #gender stuff #coming out? #gender apathy #gender apathetic #i feel like it just fits me the best #because i never really cared what people referred to me as #she/her? #sure that's what i was raised as so i'm used to it #they/them? #fuck yeah it relates to my overcall apathy on gender #he/him? #yeah i love mismatching gendered terms and pronouns and presentations #neopronouns? #yes please i barely ever hear them #i just want to be everything at once #i'm a boy and a girl and both and neither all at the same time #and i don't care which one you choose to refer to me as #<3

[animezinglife]

Boy moms are something else.

I get that moms will always see their children as their "babies." That's completely fair and to be expected.

What I'm a little less comfortable with is when your fifteen-year-old son who's over six feet tall is somebody you consider "too young" to stay home by himself.

My parents would toss the phone at me (landlines back then), make sure I knew where the guns were in case there was an intruder, tell me there was enough food to cook whatever, and say "have fun" when I was eight.

#boy moms #wtf #if I had a fifteen-year-old son I'd be WAY more worried about him having a girl over or throwing a party #SHE WON'T EVEN LET HIM COOK #WTF #this is how you raise a manchild #I don't know ANY boys who hadn't already been staying home on their own from around the same age I did that I grew up with #I love her but she also complains because her husband is the ONLY man out of our group who won't cook and clean #MA'AM YOU ARE REPEATING THAT CYCLE

[tibli]

people that genderbend m/m ships into f/f and then hyperfeminize the shit out of them even when it doesnt make sense for either character..... im exploding you with my mind

#genderbends are fine but like. its not even the same characters anymore at that point #like yeah i know girls and boys are typically raised and socialized differently #but that still didnt stop me (a girl) from being as unfeminine as i am #so use some critical thinking maybe #and examine why you feel the need for two genale characters to be hyperfeminine to be a palatable ship to you #*female gdi

[maddy-ferguson]

"Quick test tho, replace girlfriend with boyfriend and see if ur still bothered by it." me when i'm 7 and have yet to realize that men and women have a very different place in the social hierarchy because we live in a society

#joke 7-year-olds have already realized this because they're smarter than the person i'm quoting #and because they're boys and girls themselves and are treated differently based on that from the moment they're born lmao #i was reading a book the other day (last month) where boys were already doing the weaponized incompetence thing and girls already cleaned #up after them automatically without being asked BEFORE THE AGE OF 5 like it's bad for us (it was like a sociological study) #and literally the weaponized incompetence thing makes sense it's normal/smart to try to get out of doing something you don't wanna do like #chores and stuff but it's the fact that girls internalize that they have to be the ones who stop doing what they're doing to clean up after #boys/men AS CHILDREN and then keep doing that for the rest of their lives. i'll kill myself #i was raised with just my sister and my mom and my sister is the man of the house in the sense that i'll ask her to do things a certain #way a thousand times because it's better for everyone and she'll always be like yeah you're right and then never do it. and i'm always like #if i actually had to go through that with a partner...and with male partners statistically i probably would #when women make posts like oh look what my boyfriend/husband bought vs what i asked for haha he's so silly...KILL HIM #anyway. my point was you internalize it early enough to realize some of it is off as a kid. so why would you say there's nothing wrong with #saying something about women if the same thing being said about men doesn't offend you #like are you stupid #and like i say: brf slt

[leotheloaf]

So…there’s a cannon trans ace attorney character and I HAVEN’T HEARD OF HER UNTIL RIGHT NOW??

#ace attorney #ace attorney dual destinies #ace attorney posting #I know it’s probably debated the same way Chihiro in danganronpa is but like. #you don’t get much more cannon trans as I was raised as a boy and guess what #im a girl

[stavrakas]

i kind of love being a woman, or even better, a person who happens to be a woman. i love being unshaven, i love having unkempt short hair, i love being nerdy and into physics and mathematics and political history and punk music, i love swearing like a sailor, i love not having to eternally worry about other people's perception of me, i love being mistaken for a boy and correcting people with a smile, i love little kids who give me the chance to explain to them that i'm still a girl even though i look like a boy, i love being confident enough to speak up against unnoticed, subtle misogynistic comments and not cower back when people jokingly ask me if i'm a feminist, i love being here to study and learn and exist as a person that doesn't have to conform to restrictive gender roles

#if you asked me abt my feelings on this a year ago i probably would've said that i'm not even sure i'm a girl #i've given it a lot of thought though and like #why would i not be a girl lol #what defines being a girl and being a boy #i'm masculine in the way a geeky teenage dude is and i look the part too #i hated being seen as a girl because i knew everyone has this specific idea of what a girl is and once you place yourself in that box #they'll try to assign those ideas on you no matter whether or not they fit #but then i thought. being born female is neutral. if people think i have to like‚ shave my armpits or wear makeup #just bc i was born with a vagina #then that's their problem. not mine. #i think the thing that really did it for me was realizing that by being as butch as possible while also being confident in my “womanhood” #(whatever that means‚ because womanhood implies pretty much nothing except like maybe being raised along those stereotypes?) #by doing that i would i guess somewhat inspire other people who question their girlness for the same reasons to like. stoo giving a shit #idk #i'm just saying things but i had a revelation today #hm #i think a tricky part of this #is if i want to exist as a neutral human being then why would i still call myself a woman #why not try to ignore that term altogether and shun my “birth gender” #well i guess for me it feels odd #because we don't live in a utopia. society is still ruled by this weirdass binary #misogyny thrives dude! #i would be escaping the “restrictive nature” of “womanhood” but what about the other women #or the other men who aren't going to want to abandon their place of privilege #like i guess it's too individualistic for me #because like i said the thing that tipped me off the edge was thinking about my expression's influence on others #idkkkkkk #gender is extremely weird #vs

[rotisseries]

just remembered in march how I scrounged through the entire ellabs ao3 tag on some sort of feverish mission after binging playthroughs of both tlou games in the span of about 3 days. who else here remembers that

#“who else here remembers that” <- did not do anything more than vaguepost about it out of weird shame #hiii guys this is actually what my last post was about lollll I am lowkey falling into ellabs again just a little #read some new fics these past few days #I know why actually it's cause I'm really in a narines mood again and narines does not have as much content to pick through #and narines is not the same as ellabs they're different in a lot of ways actually but I get the important stuff #and I'm filling the hole I guess #sorry anyway yeah that's what the last post was about #I actually just went into the regular tlou tag I was just bored #was maybe gonna rb some fanart of ellie or abby or smth cause I lovee those two girls sm #and I just saw someone's post bitching. tagged with every possible fandom tag too btw (although admittedly not the ellabs one at least) #and I was like girl that's fine your opinion is your opinion but you're so boring😭 also you don't get it #“they could never be lovers??” OH BOY I FUCKING AGREE. THAT'S NOT WHAT I'M HERE FOR #anyway who loves mutual destruction raise your hands if you love mutual destruction

[angstics]

i dont hear "daughter" in last night's noise jam. i hear "father" right before get FUCKED. which works more neatly. a sister -> a brother -> a mother -> a father (get FUCKED!!!!! CONCEDE!!!)

#my sisters and my brothers still.. i will not kiss you... #boy/girl youve got to see what tomorrow brings #jenny/johnny in bulletproof heart #the entire demo lovers concept. #you shouldve raised a baby girl i could have been a better son! #and the same song's im her kind of girl and she's my kinda boy. obviously #lots of dual gender shenanigans in the mcr discography #so ooo fun #mcr #mcr queer studies

[skania]

It’s midnight and I’m DEEP into my Scheris/Ryuho feelings. This episode will always, always gut me.

#scryed #scheris adjani #scheris x ryuho #ryuho x scheris #one day I'll rewatch the series and write meta about all the ways it reminds me of SK #in fact I genuinely can't remember which I shipped first #I am so glad that at least scheris and ryuho had a happy ending in the manga #otp: eternal devotion #otps: should've been #straight to my heart #always and forever #no seriously though their meeting is textbook sasukarin #it's INSANE #how similar the entire set-up is #stoic boy saves girl's life and shows her out-of-character kindness #girl is inspired by this kindness and by this boy #having lost everything but having gained this boy she joins the same organisation as him #ends up raising through the ranks and gaining his trust to the point she becomes his partner #and sticks with him through thick and thin trying to help him to achieve his goals because she believes in his cause #and when he's in danger there's nothing that'll stop her from reaching his side #I am w e a k

[funhomo]

re my tag ramble on my last post, i won’t repeat everything i just said but i really think feminist moms matter

#i dodged a lot of internalized patriarchy bullets #part of my being 'not like other girls' was i think the fact that i really was raised differently from other girls #when i was 12 i felt deprived and went back and watched some princess movies (mulan) #but like. i was never taught that my value was my appearance. i was never taught to dream about my wedding. #i played outside in exactly the same way as the boys. #cat talk #feminism #feminist mothers

[thedeadthree]

♫ for vharion and ♫ for olga!

HI RHYS DEAR ty ty so much and i hope your doing well! AHH MY ANGRY BABY BOY AND MY SWEET SWAN GIRL ! 🥀🥹

OCS AND SHIPS + SONG ASKS

🗡 — VHARION

ANTI LIFE — health, tyler bates, chino moreno

so no one remembers you, but me // the last we spoke // was i so hard to trust? // those years turned black // but i gave all i had

⚕️ — OLGA LITVINCHUCK

ONCE UPON A DECEMBER — the hound + the fox

glowing dim as an ember // things my heart used to know // things it yearns to remember // and a song someone sings // once upon a december

#👑: rhys #nokstella #oc: vharion #oc: olga litvinchuck #leg.ocs #leg.txt #leg.asks #THANK YOU SO MUCH DEAR #honestly that entire song is soooo vharion coded it makes me crazy skxjjxjx #it was a TIME deciding which one fit him the best and this one won out <3 #(though perhaps in other asks of him for these maybe hehe <3 BUT ANYWAY) #its the memories of his childhood turning had raised alongside the hunter and to return to his home? #and the things that would follow that would alter his perception of then! #if they were to be the two sides of the same coin intrinsically tied then why was he not their chosen as well? #he gave all he had to them he gave all he had so that he could protect his people and like.. he’s thinking this is the thanks he gets? #ITS A TIME ITS BEEN A TIME MY POOR ANGRY SAD DEAR BOY deserved better he does! #I FOUND AN ACOUSTIC VERSION OF OUAD ty ty s*potify for my life ✨🥹 IT FITS HER SO WELL <3 #memories of her childhood from before the outbreak the one she hardly remembers for she was young then! #memories of lost loves from before (@ kilian! and the yearning to have that love again with someone new *cough* LOGAN *cough* ✨😵‍💫✨😭🥀) #she’s a romantic at heart truly! she wants to love and be loved u know? DEARIE GIRL my neurosurgeon <3 ✨🥹🧠⚕️💞🌸

[wizardnuke]

beau....ohhuuugh

#youre telling me this character that was originally supposed to have frat boy vibes didn't keep that vibe bc it was a front she had put on #to protect herself... ure saying asshole with a heart of gold over here... angry women supremacy. I think abt her so much all the time #she's The Character I can't look directly at bc. Well. day one when I watched cr and saw her I was like #oh yes this one I love her <3 I understand her <3 and by GOD do I understand her. too much. ow! #characters that scramble your brain #she's so smart and she's so angry and she was talked down to and ignored and treated like a burden for so long ohhh #she's not a burden. she made a show of shoving her way into tmn but they had always wanted her there #even when they fought. when she started shit or when someone else started shit and she spoke up #she's an extra perspective she's incredibly loyal she wants people to be safe and sane and she helps with that in her way #oh my god and she is so nonjudgemental. caleb told her his backstory in ep fuckin 18. that's SO early. and she gave him some shit for it #for a while but when it comes down to it she didn't tell the others and she didn't start a fight then and there #she cares. she's just not the most careful. but then she learns how to be. ohhhhhuggh #her character growth was her learning that she's respected and an equal and feeling less like a burden and more like a friend and getting #VALIDATED. being told by not only tmn but The Cobalt Fucking Soul that what had happened to her shouldnt have happened #I am going to. Die #also DEEPLY insane to me that it took as long as it did for her backstory stuff to come up not because I think it should have come up #sooner but because that's so thematically appropriate. you have sea gods and evil archmages and archfey cultists and yasha's missing #memories and then you have a girl from a winery who wasn't raised kindly or fairly and that's it. the hag wasn't her fault. it shouldn't #have been something she had to deal with. most of it is so mundane but that trauma is treated with the same seriousness as everything else #hbbngngnhngnnhnh...