#please do not r/eblog

[mandaloriangf]

one of the reasons i get so heated about the thing with amber heard and johnny depp is as an abuse victim i know what it’s like to sometimes do and say things that aren’t ok because you get pushed too far

even if amber at some point hit him unprompted, people will hyper focus on that and not all the times he beat her or destroyed entire rooms out of anger. victims are only ever allowed to fit what people want us to fit. if we step out of that, suddenly we’re the real abuser, we deserve what happened to us, we aren’t to be believed.

as someone who has been abused my whole life, sometimes i snap and say something mean or slam a door too hard or have an urge to break something or sometimes even slap that smug smile off my abuser’s face because i feel so fucking powerless and small.

abusive relationships are complicated and so many people don’t understand that.

#abuse #please do not r/eblog

[thor-suggestion]

So this is for @queencfthestarsdrfoster who asked my opinion on a very a/nti-Thor post. Because I don’t engage with a/ntis, I am not replying to the post directly. Instead, here is my opinion on why I feel most aggressively a/nti-Thor topics stem from a complete lack of understanding for his character and his development. And, just as a general disclaimer, I really don’t care if you hate Thor; that’s your right. I just have a lot of issues with a lot of the arguments surrounding it.

I ask that you do not reblog this, because I really don’t want to engage with any a/ntis. 

Some of the things that were listed were, “he has a tendency to point his finger at other people and seeing things only in black and white”, “he himself invaded realms and caused wars”, “he bullies and intimidates Loki”, “he is narcissistic and entitled” and “he isn’t a hero if he needs motivation to do something”

Thor is shown changing and growing through every movie. A huge key in Thor’s personality is that he is constantly changing. This is very evident from his behavior in Thor 1 vs Infinity War. People tend to fault him whenever he does something that isn’t deemed appropriate, forgetting that Thor has had to do almost all his learning by himself. Both Loki and Thor are young, and from what I observed in Thor 1 it’s pretty safe to say they’ve lived a relatively sheltered life. On top of that, besides maybe Frigga (who isn’t mentioned having much hand on Thor) they don’t have very many strong guiding hands; especially when it comes to respect and humility. Most of Thor’s learning and growing as a ‘better’ person occurs after he was able to break away from Asgard and was able to see past his views that were ingrained in to him from childhood. Thor has more unlearning to do then he does learning at this point, which sometimes can be even harder.

Whenever Thor does something or says something that is inappropriate or harmful there is never anyone behind him saying, “hey, maybe you shouldn’t do that”. A lot of times he has to learn by outcome. Thor’s intentions have never been malicious, and often times he is unable to see what he is doing wrong because of the lack of direction. Is it shitty? Yes. But the issue is that it’s a slow unlearning process that he has to deal with almost entirely on his own and through self-awareness after the fact.

Which leads me to the Loki topic. I don’t know how many posts I see saying he is abusive towards Loki, as if Loki is completely free of blame. Thor grows and changes, and like Thor called Loki out during Ragnarok, Loki stays the same. The difference between Thor and Loki is that Thor changes when a negative outcome occurs, whereas Loki tends to continue. Loki actively acts violently and maliciously and sows a lot of anger and chaos and has a tendency to take pleasure in it. People like to get on Thor and say he pushes Loki around and tries to intimidate and bully him, but Loki is seen doing the same. How would you like someone going around and literally stabbing you constantly, even once you’ve expressed your distaste for it? Loki has consistently put Thor in positions that were unpleasant if not incredibly dangerous, without taking any sort of blame for it, and proceeding to do similar things. It’s frustrating to say the absolute least. 

Loki and Thor at times actually have quite a toxic relationship, and it is not one-sided in any shape of form. Yes, Thor has said and done some shitty things, but it’s not exclusive to him by any means and there is some reasoning behind it. They’re both shitty and toxic towards each other, and again, I believe it comes from the lack of proper upbringing. 

And I can’t believe this is even an argument, but because of Infinity War, a new argument is “he isn’t a hero if he needed motivation” (aka losing everything/Loki dying) And frankly, I think you need to ask yourself “is this consistent to the character? Or is this lazy writing?” Thor is shown to help out when needed, regardless of whether or not it benefited him or directly affected him. A good example is the Ultron incident. Just because one movie *coughs* Infinity War.... decided to change his motivation doesn’t automatically change his whole character. I have a hard time buying if Asgard and everyone was safe from harm and in one piece that he wouldn’t go help. No. He still has people he calls friends on Earth and he still finds value in life (which is the whole point of Thor 1). If anything this “motivation” just made him reckless (ei. not going for the head). You can still fight for something and have ‘motivation’ or ‘reason’ and not have it be exclusive to it (aka still fighting because it’s right)

Listen, I am not justifying everything Thor does. Like I said, he still does a lot of things that aren’t acceptable, but as I said before it’s an unlearning and learning process that he has mostly taken on alone. He is a complex being with complex emotions and reasoning just like everyone else and will act on emotion and instinct as well; the same way every other character has. And it’s as if people like to ignore this and criticize him as if he’s suppose to be perfect. Which, he’s not, and that was established from Thor 1 with his bratty behavior and absolutely poor, impulsive decisions, that lead to his banishment which resulted in him being able to branch out and begin seeing things differently.

TL;DR: If you genuinely feel Thor is a bad person and you can’t see the fact that he is ever changing and growing then you have no concept of his character or development and pulling the ‘Loki is pure’ card is not helping anyone. Both are the product of a toxic upbringing that they both have to unlearn and be better from and it comes from personal growth and it’s a challenge they have mostly had to take on alone.

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk

#please do not r/eblog #this is a readmore post #this is the short version too damn sorry #ooc;

[gravelyhumerus]

if my mutuals could tag jj and/or jemily hate as “#jj hate” or “jemily hate” so that i can blacklist it?

i totally get the anti-jj/anti-jemily can be funny and why u might want to share those jokes on ur blog. like, i love jeid jokes, i get that they’re funny. I’m on tumblr because life sucks right now and jemily makes me happy! jj and emily are comfort characters for me, so it makes me sad when i see things hating on them

no hard feelings!!! we all have our own thoughts and opinions about this silly crime show but i personally want to curate my feed to my interests!! :)

#my post #do/not! reblog #DO * NOT r/eblog #mutuals please read! just requesting some tagging on some posts so that i can better curate my feed #thanks all! :) #i overused exclamation marks and smiley faces because i want to make sure this is the most non confrontational as possible #please like if u read

[lifetrader]

it’s all painfully real lol

#don't r-eblog please #tbd #Look Gordon! Depression! (VENT) #like if you've read please #it feels like i'm.. nonexistent in groups unless i'm doing what everyone else wants #or just. in general in life #it feels like most interactions i get are out of pity #specifically when i vent and THEN people suddenly want to be around me and talk to me #but who am i to say anything!! i'm stupid and selfish and have nothing to complain about #i should just fucking shut up and zip my stupid fucking mouth before MORE people leave over this shit!! #anyway i'm fine i'm just stupid ignore this all </3 #not looking for pity. do not pity me because of my venting. #anyway [turns dad mode back on] [throws this vent in the trash]

[highkingpetermagnificent]

I miss.... Great Comet....

#:( #lynna rambles #i miss knowing it was going on somewhere #i'm so excited for the korean production #but i do also miss the broadway production quite a bit #heyo d/on't r/eblog please!

[link-lonk]

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#just need to vent in the tags for a minute please don't r/eblog this #I just ahhhhhhhhhhhhh #ok so I'm trying to get officially diagnosed with stuff from my therapist and I have to fill out a bunch of question thingys #they let me take the stuff home because of covid so I don't have to sit in an office and fill it out #but like the vast majority of these questions don't make any sense to me at all #I know they should but I can't figure out what they're supposed to mean #I'm trying very hard to answer most of them but they jusy don't make sense to me so I keep skipping #and I'm just getting really frustrated because I don't understand what these stupid questions are supposed to be asking me #the only answers are false sometimes true mostly true and always true #there's no I don't have any fucking clue what this is supposed to mean option #and because I'm 18 I have to take the adult tests and some of the questions are asking about drug use and alcohol and driving #I don't do any of that what to answer #like one of them was ''my drug use has caused problems'' I DON'T DO DRUGS I DON'T UNDERSTAND #or ''I've stopped drinking as much as I used to'' AGAIN I DON'T DO THIS BEGIN WITH I DON'T UNDERSTAND #a lot of these are just worded really confusingly #I'm sooo confuseddddddd #I just... I fucking hate this I don't understand any of it

[peachblushed]

some musings? if this comes up in any kind of search bc of terms i’ve used, disclaimer:

minors dni with this post or this blog, i will block you, sorry. it’s for both your safety and my own.

anyway.

i am very much a lesbian—like, i’m somewhere on the aromantic spectrum and i have no romantic inclinations toward guys At All. like. at all. and for me, personally, that informs my experience Much More than any of my sexual inclinations?

like. the d*scourse surrounding who can and can’t use the term “lesbian” to describe themselves is just so... absurd? bad? unimportant? insipid? genuinely 99% of the time pointless?

as is the d*scourse surrounding the term b*sexual lesbian? like it is TIRING and if it’s being used by a lesbian to describe themself then i genuinely don’t see much of an issue, as long as they’re not using it in the t*rf sense of the term.

(however: t*rfs using this term to describe lesbians who have sex with trans women are fucking horrible and horrifying and should fuck right off. that’s not the usage i’m talking about at all.)

anyway. i Very Frequently feel alienated from the lesbian community here on tumblr dot com, because sometimes—albeit very VERY fucking rarely—i am attracted to men-aligned folks?

not really ever in memory binary cis men, but still, even then, there’s a rallying cry to exclude people like me from using the term lesbian, because of a fleeting thing that happens once in a blue moon and doesn’t actually inform my experience at all, and that’s kind of fucked up? because, if it wasn’t clear:

i don’t date men

i don’t have romantic feelings toward men

i’m literally ROMANCE REPULSED when it comes to men

and god i’m giving all of these qualifiers as to why i am still a lesbian when it truly doesn’t matter. and that’s fucked up!

maybe it has to do with growing up in the rural south where you’re forced into the closet unless you don’t care about fearing for your literal fucking life, but the priorities of online d*scourse in spaces like tumblr are so detached from reality that it is actually sometimes startling, and is always immensely frustrating. like please, please put your energy into something that matters more than this. i am so tired.

#🍑 #this is not for r/eblog/ging. please do not. #there is talk of d/iscour/se under the readmore. ftr. #not horribly negative but sometimes u just gotta vent ur frustrations and exhaustion. which is what i did here!

[lascapigliata]

hate to say i told you so but...

#no r/eblogs i don't want to deal with either disney bootlickers or disney haters... it is exhausting #the sonic movie #not in the industry but i said they weren't getting paid enough for this and apparently... i was right! #like everyone in the replies is like 'it isn't disneys fault :( the owners have bad business practices' like yes they do! because #the only way any shop can get jobs is if they pay like shit and treat workers terribly! bc places like disney won't pay enough! please Think

[sunshinequeer]

Here"s my thing about me that I experience

A very fuckin, REAL ass fear of zombies, not in a cute fun "I like to be scared" way, like stemming from PTSD and a general lack of control that has attached itself to this notion of a horror character

My general stress dreams? Zombies.

Me seeing something Zombie? Exact feelings get when my PTSD is triggered

And let me JUST say that telling people this is impossible, it immediately sets off this giant group discussion of a zombie apocalypse that will actually and truly 100% increase my heartrate

You would think of all the many triggers a person could have that zombies would be safe and avoidable but apparently not my dudes

#maybe it's my personal feelings about rage zombies #but like why #please #stop #wes whines #moody wes #also like #i dig horror because i can easily detach from it most of the time through the fact that i do character makeup #and that's what i like horror for #but also consider i do not want some person detailing their super fun kill plan in intricate detail about the #actual embodiment of my triggers #d/ont r/eblog #i needed to do a fu nb little rant cause talking to people has been difficult for a bit and this is #less energy

[cuppa-ale]

I’m afraid to self-ship with any character because I’m so paranoid about making someone uncomfortable or “jealous”

I respect that people have boundaries but sometimes I wish we could all be okay with sharing and have a Good Time and not stress so much about it like I’m doing right now.

BASICALLY I’m afraid of not being able to please or cater to everyone.

And self-shipping should be a comforting thing that helps you and makes you happy, but for me it keeps bringing up self-deprecating thoughts about myself and how I simply don’t have the qualities that any of my faves would like.

I’m probably overthinking it and a lot of it has to do with my own self-image anyway. This is just me being negative and venting.

#d/on't// r/eblog/// #BUT I really do like seeing others having fun with their faves. Please don't stop. #NOT about anyone I follow/who follows me #delete later/////

[legoyuri]

idk if ive posted these pics before but happy trans visibility day

#pic of me #my thotty ass beany #my sister got it for me i swear #please do nt r eblog #no o kay to r ebl og #im not out at my school so i dont want these spreading

[border-collie]

I appreciate that tamu has monthly memorials for students that pass while attending the school, but wow it’s an emotional toll to see students my age and younger pass.

#one girl who they are honoring was less than a year younger than me and was doing a exactly what I wanted to do my senior year of high schoo #and it just felt #don’t r. eblog please #personal #death

[4waystreet]

ive got 5 bucks and a stick of gum to whoever can blow my fucking brains out in the school parking lot

#please i cant do this shit #ask to r/eblog dont be a dick #rad rants

[lifetrader]

look at lovecore penny so far <3

#w.i.p #don't r-eblog please #dont rb just tell me what u think do u care her

[autobotmedic]

{ SLAMS THIS DOWN I have done no drafts since I started on it BUT HERE this is how cv/rba ratch look on this blog aka they do not have a slender waist thank you

Please Dont R eblog for the sake of my activity feed I do block ppl for that

#V: Cyber #V: Post RiD #[BLUE ARTS] mun art #[THE MEDIC] buried in bandages hiding the hell

[cerillosvillage]

Doing an FR stream tonight!

And it's NOT a coli stream! We're gonna be rescuing, making over, and rehoming fodder! There's a rule, though - they can only be made over using genes/breed scrolls/eye vials I already have in my hoard.

If you'd like to participate and donate some scrolls, feel free to send them to Maybelline #39268, though please don't go out of your way!

If you'd like to be pinged when the stream starts, I'll r/eblog with a l/ink to my forum thread!

#flight rising