“trans men don’t have any real safety concerns to worry about” i can’t wear a mask when i go into public bathrooms even though i’m higher risk and bathrooms are some of the easiest places to get sick because i don’t reliably pass when my facial hair is covered and i can’t risk not passing when i use the men’s room, but i also can’t just use the women’s room for safety anymore because i don’t reliably pass as either binary gender anymore. so my only options are to risk getting sick, take my chances with the consequences of not passing, or just never use the bathroom in public (which has its own health risks).
and today, it almost didn’t even matter that i was putting myself in danger to ensure that i passed because, thanks to a faulty lock and a man who didn’t think to knock, i came very close to having my half-naked body exposed to a bathroom full of cis men. if i hadn’t been holding my coat on my lap because there was nowhere in the stall to put it, every single guy waiting in the (very crowded) bathroom would’ve seen that i didn’t have a dick. how well do you think that would’ve gone for me? my money’s on Not Well At All.
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Proud: I have treated myself more kindly this year, allowing myself grace after making mistakes and making strides towards having a healthier relationship with myself. Good: I got a job before my old job was eliminated, so there was no gap in my income which was a huge relief.
Aw that's GREAT to hear, excellent job! Hopefully 2024 treats you equally kindly <3
Here is a very cautious Wendy, not sure what she thinks about the treats I put down
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"Stevie," Eddie says, wincing at the stale air in the room. It's almost pitch black, except for the lamp in the corner that colours everything dark blue, and the glow stars on the ceiling that they'd put up together, making pretend constellations in pretend galaxies.
"Go 'way," Steve mutters, head buried beneath two pillows and hands clasped tight around them, as though that will be the thing that fixes him, that keeps the bad away. Eddie sighs, not at Steve, but at the awfulness of it all. He fiddles with the blister pack in his fingers, and allows the condensation from the water bottle in his other hand to soak his palm.
"Please, baby," Eddie says. "You need to take your meds. The doctor said - "
"Fuck the doctor," Steve curses angrily, muffled.
"Maybe later, once you've taken your meds," Eddie says calmly, or aiming for calm. He hates seeing Steve hurting, and Steve hurts a lot. More than he'd like. More than he knows he realises.
Steve emerges from his pillow prison slowly, blinking like it hurts him to do so, and Eddie knows it does, so he just holds out the water bottle, cap off, and Steve drinks greedily, throat working hard, whilst Eddie pops out two pills. Steve makes a pitiful noise as Eddie hands them over, but reluctantly takes them, screwing up his eyes against the taste before swallowing down more water.
"You did so good," Eddie says. Steve shakes his head then moans. "It's okay," Eddie says. "Back under the pillows now. The pills will work soon."
"I hate this," Steve says. "I hate that you have to see this."
"I know you do. I hate seeing it. But only because it's my favourite person in the whole world suffering. Not for any other reason. Please don't think it's for any other reason," Eddie says softly. Steve makes a small noise, already piling the pillows back over his face. Eddie reaches out and strokes the back of his hand.
Steve's hands clench, then unclench, before relaxing.
"I'll be around, if you need me," Eddie says, before standing. He pauses at the door. He looks at Steve's prone form, the invisible war in his head. "It's not rotten work, you know? Never, actually."
He pulls the door to, but doesn't close it entirely, just to make sure he can hear Steve if he needs to. He never, ever wants Steve to think he's a burden. Not when he loves that boy more than breathing. Not if it's you, not if it's me.
not if it’s us
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aaron hotchner top five autism moments
“its a dog” lmaoo “maybe a dad knows” my ASS thats the autism babe
any time he stims. especially in eps like psychodrama or ashes and dust
wearing a whole ass suit no matter where they are. especially when the others complain about the heat like in a thousand words
“where are my clothes please” frazzled and out of it and being vulnerable in a new place without anyone he knows without his suit without any of the usual things that can ground him. still unerringly polite but his voice is raised and he’s growing louder and louder bc he’s upset (not angry) and there’s too much happening at once that he isn’t in control of
in revelations when reid calls him a narcissist and he immediately leaves the room and starts leafing through the bible while he asks everyone what his worst quality is. like yes it’s a little bit self deprecating but it’s mostly a genuine, practical question—even while his hands shake. he distantly knows that he’s making everyone else uncomfortable with that question but he has to ask so he can be sure he’s on the right track and he can’t waste time trying to make it easier for them to understand that
there are so many more that im probably missing but these are the ones i can think of atm. @eldrai would be a better person to ask
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Do we think one of Charley's kids is named after Frank bc to me. There's a little Kringas with the middle name Franklin. and every time Charley sees it it makes him sad because how to explain to his son that he's named after somebody Charley loves so much, Uncle Frank who used to be here all the time and used to be so silly and make him laugh when he was little, and now Uncle Frank doesn't visit anymore and now Charley gets sad every time Uncle Frank comes up in conversation and now when little Daniel Franklin Kringas asks if Uncle Frank can come to his birthday party or his baseball game or how come it's been so long since Uncle Frank came for supper, Charley has to take a deep breath like he doesn't know what to say. and when Evelyn and Charley are telling their kids the stories of their names it's so easy to say Hannah is from Grandma Kringas and Alexander from Mama's brother Uncle Alex, and Josephina Mary, well, Aunt Mary still visits sometimes. But Uncle Frank? How do they talk about Uncle Frank? He's still their uncle, but they don't see him. Where did he go? Why did he go?
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