#ocd scrupulosity

[six-of-cringe]

tumblr is to moral ocd what tiktok is to adhd and post

#i gotta be careful what i see. the all or nothing thinking is rampant #its so exacerbated here i only follow like a couple ppl #even if i like someone's content i might not follow them bc if i see something that makes me Think too hard #i'll get stuck in a spiral and i Have to Keep Reading. so i check their shit manually when i can handle it. #even other soc blogs lol sorry guys love yall #anyway sorry i can't think about every issue always forever. no one can but especially not me #when you try to enjoy the internet but the tumblr environment makes your brain beat you with a stick yelling BAD EVIL BAD PERSON #epic crippling empathy moment #ocd mention #moral ocd #ocd scrupulosity #not soc #ocd

[goodluckdetective]

Look, this is what moral OCD is like for me:

I walk past a piece of paper. I don’t pick it up because I had a long day at work and it’s very cold outside. This then becomes my internal monologue:

I didn’t pick up that piece of paper, I should have. Don’t I care about the environment? It’s not my trash, I shouldn’t have to pick it up. But also that’s how these things happen right? We place the blame on others as our environment degrades. It was just a piece of paper, it’s not like it can do that much damage. But also how do I know: I’m not an environmental expert. Maybe stray paper scraps are killing the frogs. You’re literally killing the frogs. You should look up how many frogs die a year so you know how shitty you are-No stop it.

I care about the environment, and I recycle and I joined green activism movements but is that enough? I could be doing more. I should be doing more. I should donate my entire check to charity. But isn’t it self serving to think that my one check could help that much? Do I really think I’m that important, how self entitled and-no stop it, reset! You are obsessing and if you fall for it, you will not eat dinner. Let it go.

Okay it’s just a piece of paper. It’s okay you skipped it this once: it could have had something dangerous on it. Yeah that makes sense. But also, that means I’m putting my own safety over trying to help the environment, which is very selfish of me. I’m just one shitty person: god how could I be so self absorbed. I should have picked up the piece of paper. I’m so selfish, and shitty and-no, no, stop it! This is not helpful. It’s fine.

It’s been a long day and I’m cold, that’s not a crime- no that’s being selfish again, you’re making excuses. You’re just a lazy piece of shit who doesn’t care about others, and selfish and God the fact you’re thinking this much about one piece of paper shows how selfish you are, you care more about if you’re a good person than anything else, you’re a piece of shit, you’re a piece of shit, YOU’RE A PIECE OF SHIT.

I get home and open up Tumblr. The first post I see says “if you don’t reblog this post about the environment you’re as complicit as an oil billionaire.” I close my computer and resign myself to looking up the state frog populations until I go to bed.

I don’t eat dinner.

The amount of frogs that die a year is somewhere from 200 million to over 1 billion.

#moral ocd #ocd #scrupulosity #Iz rambles #this is okay to reblog I think people really don’t get it #mental illness #the issue with the social media post is not that it exists or that OP even feels about this issue: the issue is it validates my ocd #I don’t obsess about frogs but that is a bummer stat I do rather like them #obsessive compulsive disorder

[kaijuposting]

"Saw traps for people with moral OCD" is a phrase that has embedded myself into my brain because, well, Saw traps for people with moral OCD are everywhere.

Stuff that basically amounts to...

"You have to listen to my opinions on [issue], or else you don't care about [issue]. (Constantly talks about how people like you are the absolute worst.)"

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me tear you down over things you can't control or you're a bad person."

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me vent to you whenever and however I want or else you're a bad person."

"If you enjoy X media/trope, you just hate Y people."

"Everyone knows that X thing is harmful/hateful; if you engaged in it, it's just because you were fine with perpetuating hate/harm."

"You should have just known better/should know this already!"

This thread over here talks about the inherent issues of putting this kind of stuff out there. The TL;DR is that it really only works on people who are mentally unwell and have poor boundaries, while just pissing off everyone else. It really doesn't matter if you're technically correct; you're still attacking people, and that means they're not wrong to block you.

I think that many of these Saw traps are created when people effectively write posts directed toward people who don't want to help, rather than the ones who do. Like, if you catch yourself writing an angry, shame-laden post, ask yourself: who are you writing it for and what are the odds you're going to change their minds? If your mental image is some smug fuck or angry reactionary, you're writing for the wrong person. Write for the person who's curious, who's willing to learn.

Also? Work on figuring out how to transmute negative feelings into positive, encouraging rhetoric. EG:

"Why is there no X positivity?" -> "Let's hear it for X!"

"No one cares about Y problem!" -> "Hey, we need more recognition of Y problem" or "I haven't seen many people talking about Y problem, so here's some info on what's up."

"If you don't reblog this, you don't care about [group]" -> "Please reblog this, it would mean a lot for us [group]."

And if you're really super duper frustrated and want to vent with a lot of nasty words and sentiments? Consider taking it to a private vent channel or a journal or somewhere that a stranger with moral OCD/scrupulosity isn't likely to run across it.

Remember, most people don't want to hurt anyone. More people are ignorant than malicious. People naturally want to do the right thing, so if you feel like you have to guilt them or shame them into it, there's probably a fundamental communication issue somewhere, or they simply lack the context to understand why what you're saying is so important.

#moral ocd #mental health #mental illness #ableism #scrupulosity #scrupulosity ocd #abuse #emotional abuse #communication

[werewiire]

tumblr was designed in a lab to be a personal purgatory for ppl with moral ocd i think

#moral ocd #scrupulosity

[scrupulosity-comics]

dysphoria vs a dubious strategic advantage in an implausible revolutionary scenario

I have unfortunately begun to say "get out of my brain office!" aloud to dismiss intrusive thoughts... it's effective but it's an odd thing for other people to overhear

#brother bart the nafty #moral ocd #scrupulosity

[gayandloveableperidot]

I love tumblr but it is seriously the worst fucking platform for OCD like god can’t go on here without seeing “friendly reminder you’re a bad person if you do x” or smth similar

#ocd #moral ocd #scrupulosity

[scrupulosity-et-al]

you don’t have to be perfect to be a good person. you don’t have to spend your whole life making up for past mistakes. you don’t have to know everything or do the right thing all the time. good people come in many different forms

#reassurance #ocd #scrupulosity

[ineffag-swag]

Here's a tiny hammer to beat the cop in your brain

#moral ocd #but also this is for everyone who has a cop in their head #ocd #scrupulosity

[antimony-medusa]

Incidentally, because I have been seeing some wild guilt-tripping posts today to the point that I'm kind of concerned, if you are not reblogging every post you see you are not killing your fandom, you are not a terrible person who doesn't care about artists, and you are not destroying the culture of fandom space in general.

I'm a huge fan of reblogging, I do it all the time because I am a gremlin who likes sticking pictures of my blorbos on the walls of my cardboard box, and I like showing things to my followers. It's the hold up blorbo to friends emotion. I encourage people to reblog and also have fun making their blog their own with lots of fun posts. But I also see thousands of posts a day and I can only reblog like 250 of them, and I'm not always on social media, and sometimes I see art that contains a character I don't care for, or stuff that is intended for another audience, or jokes that don't do it for me, and I scroll past. I am firmly convinced that that is not an immoral way to do fandom. I'm not here to be an SEO optimized marketing machine, I'm here to be unwell about the blorbos for a bit. I am not ascribing a moral quantity to the way I reblog posts.

Reblog stuff you like! Without shame! Take those 40 pictures of a movie you just watched and inflict them on your followers, go for it! But also if you just scroll and like you are not going to be struck down by heaven for your sins. It's literally fine to be a lurker. I know plenty of people who lurk on one site and engage and keep their fandoms spinning on others. You're fine.

#like reblogging is good #we are all on the same page with that #but some of you are posting shit like you want to trigger people's OCD #I have survived moral scrupulosity about shipping in my fandom #i'm not taking it on for fucking liking posts

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

yeah we talk about how those guilt tripping posts are shitty for ppl with ocd but have we talked about how discourse is too. the constant pressure to be “pro/anti” whatever the fuck niche thing is fucking terrifying and damaging. especially when 99% of times, both are fucking oversimplified and not nuanced enough. it’s fucking hellish.

#ocd #scrupulosity

[toytle]

as the prophecy foretold

i’ve actually wondered if i had ocd for a while now, but hearing other ppl’s experiences with it never resonated for me. the puzzle pieces didn’t start clicking until i found out batman has ocd too, and what luck, it’s the same kind that i have. bc ofc it is.

#dc #batman #bruce wayne #ocd #obsessive compulsive disorder #actually ocd #neurodivergent #comic #danart #alt text #described #literally only learned the term ‘scrupulosity’ bc i was trying to do research on batman 😭

[six-of-cringe]

tumblr is doing the moral ocd thing again. it will sometimes just shit its pants and show me a wave of either the most baffling or most heinous things presented in such a accusatory way on the explore page, despite never showing interest in such a thing, and then I have to do all these mental arguments to explain to myself why it's okay to think that calling yourself "transabled" fucking sucks and that thinking so does not make me some sort of regressive oppressor

#'oooh but how is it different from being transgender?? what if i'm being transphobic by not accepting people who think they should be black' #shut up ocd. i'm allowed to think something is dogshit and not have it take up my entire week #hey for anyone out there who considers themselves 'transocd'. do not. you aren't 'meant' to have it. be happy about it this fucking blows #tumblr will just start showing me the most random stuff like. You like it :)??? #no. it sucks. blocked tags time #not soc #ocd #ocd scrupulosity #moral ocd

[yakitori-queen]

maybe a problematic opinion but the "silence is death" "staying silent means siding with the oppressors" ideology kind of fucked up everything for me as someone who has moral scrupulosity ocd. now I straight up just hate myself no matter what because I feel like even just doing nothing makes me a bad person which is made especially difficult by the fact I can barely even think of getting into anything remotely activism related because of how much emotional distress it brings me just to think about it (all the crushing guilt I just mentioned). this also expands to the idea that you have to be hypervigilant about every mundane thing you do in order to be a good person (this concept is especially prevalent here on tumblr) ie: if you buy from a problematic creator, if you consume problematic media, if you don't watch what companies you buy from when grocery shopping, etc you're a bad person. like I'm sorry I can't even try to keep up with all this. that sounds exhausting. still feel like scum about it though.

any fellow ocd havers struggle with this? I feel like I haven't really seen it discussed yet

#mental illness #mental health #ocd #moral ocd #scrupulosity ocd #moral scrupulosity

[swords-and-chaos]

I’m about to go to sleep, but respectfully, I understand that y’all have important causes to talk about, especially right now, but could you please try to properly tag or trigger warning posts that are like “you’re an awful person if you don’t do x, y, and z” or “you aren’t really x unless you do y” . like we need to come up with a new trigger warning, because that shit is awful for my scrupulosity OCD and I’d imagine for others with it as well.

I’ve had to block several tags that I’d be embarrassed to say that I blocked just because all of the posts about it freak me the fuck out and make me have a panic attack about what an awful person I am that I’m not actively doing something about these issues at all moments of the day. I understand that these situations are important and difficult, but what good to the cause does giving people panic attacks do? I know y’all have the best of intentions with these posts, but they’re not always the most helpful. Like, people who aren’t triggered by them but dissagree probably will just be annoyed by them.

anyone who wants to add on mentions of similar formats of posts that can also be triggering in that way are welcome to.

#personal #ocd #actually ocd #scrupulosity #moral ocd

[yardsards]

>see good post

>reach for reblog button

>see "you MUST reblog" at the end

>well now i am not doing it.jpg

>scroll away

#eliot posts #ive made nearly this exact post before but eugh. just found ANOTHER good post be ruined by a guilt trip. #this one actually said ''you must reblog OR donate to my paypal'' #like congrats op! probably the only people you've convinced to reblog or donate are ppl with scrupulosity ocd! #basically everyone else would have reblogged anyway. and even more people would have reblogged if not for the bait

[scrupulosity-comics]

I feel like a many-headed hydra monk of contradictory but all-encompassing self-criticism is a pretty good representation of moral OCD.

#ocd #moral ocd #scrupulosity #brother bart the nafty