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spookebich · 2 years

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The dumbest thing I can think of in all this “queer-baiting” campaign people are going on is the complete lack of awareness. Even if the person we’re discussing comes from an accepting background, I want you to think very hard about out actors. How many of them continue to recieve big roles after they’re out? How many of them are typecast or written off?

You’re not just forcing someone to come out against their will and fuck up that process. You’re forcing someone to potentially sacrifice their career.

#I’m thinking about this a lot rn #thinking about Lee Pace specifically who isn’t even very publicly out but also never wanted it to affect his career #thinking about Mackenzie Lee who wrote some books I like with a bi main character and was forced to come out on her book tour #because she was being vilified for writing an experience she didn’t have #she didn’t WANT to come out because she lived in a conservative town and it was safer not to be #and thinking of Kit Connor.#no one deserves this #no one should ever be forced to come out #no one owes you their identity #and fuck you so hard for forcing them to justify themselves

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qpenpals · 1 month

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rituals and such

#this was for grumble week but my spouse lost her job so we’vebeen quite busy and i never managed to finish it :(#i try to keep lighthearted on this blog which is why i’m keeping this in my notes but my spouse was fired because she is trans #her old place of work found out due to a coworker outing her and they fired her because of #“misconduct in the workplace #(being trans)#we are going through a rough patch in our financial stability so i won’t be one here as much #but keep your self and your families safe #you owe no one your identity #hermitcraft #hermitblr #hermitcraft fanart #mumbo jumbo #grian #grian fanart #mumbo jumbo fanart #grumbo #my art #grumboweek #dayoneprompt

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clotpolesonly · 2 months

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mister impossible chapter 10 i am kissing you with tongue

#might be my favorite chapter of anything honestly i owe it my firstborn child #tags by me #TRC #TDT #the Dreamer Trilogy #Mister Impossible #Declan Lynch #and his complicated relationship with his family and the absolutely PEAK brother dynamics #buckle your seat belt do you really wanna die in connecticut #why did i have to go through puberty lmao #there are fuckfaces out there #how does it FEEL to ask for something reasonable and be completely ignored????#Niall had made Declan a liar Aurora had made him an orphan Ronan had made him a nag but Matthew had taken Declan's youth #goodbye whatever Declan Lynch would have grown up to be #mary pls strike me deaf until the state line #Declan had put his identity crises on hold multiples times for the greater good Matthew had only been asked to do it once #Declan wanted to hate Niall. for being a bad father. for having favorites. for having favorites that who weren't Declan.#Declan said he hated him but it was aspirational #Declan's relationship with the criminal underworld was the longest and most stable one he'd had in his life #LITERALLY THE CHARACTER OF ALL TIME DO YOU UNDERSTAND

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eerna · 1 year

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gestures wildly. it's about crafting a legend out of a living person. how the Ghost is something your friend made up on the spot to make you look cool, but then it slowly starts taking over your life. until you forget everything you believed to be true. until everyone you loved is gone. your clan is disbanded, your uncle disowns you, you have gone from a honorable nobleman to a wanted outlaw. BUT you did it for love - for the fact that you love your people and your island so deeply that you're willing to sacrifice your entire existence for them. it's not something any of their leaders have ever given them, and they see it, so they start turning to you more and more, telling about their encounters with you around survivor campfires, spinning tales until you are a seven-foot-tall monster who has risen from the dead to save them. you no longer belong only to your loved ones. you now belong to the entire island, and you will stay theirs.

#watched a few of my fav cutscenes again and good lord. the SYMBOLISM IN THE MUSIC #THE WAY THE GAME STARTS OUT WITH JIN'S THEME BUT THEN SLOWLY THE GHOST'S THEME KEEPS CREEPING IN #THE WAY OF THE GHOST PLAYING AT THE END OF ACT 2 WHEN YOU DISCARD YOUR IDENTITY AS JIN SAKAI.#the way they are so similar to each other.... bc like. jin IS the ghost. he is still the same calm kind loving guy.#but now he is BLOODY and VENGEFUL and MURDEROUS. WONDERFUL. FANTASTIC. LOVELY #it sort of reminded me of botw with the ''you're falling in love with the country you're saving'' thing #you become one of the people but also one with the island. you fall in love with what your uncle sees as his right.#you start ighting for it not because it is your duty or because it owes you loyalty. you just love it too much to let it burn.#i should really make this a liveblog i am losing my mind over this game #tsushima liveblog #i now have another reason to hate tlou2: IT SNUBBED THIS GAME IN EVERY POSSIBLE WAY IT COMPLETELY OVERSHADOWED IT #i saw a yt comment that was like ''you have the woke crowd to thank for that'' and im like #TSUSHIMA IS WOKE AF WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT IT'S SOOOOOOOO AMAZING BJVSKDBVKSABK

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neighbourhoodtwo · 5 months

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Sorry for the ask but you’ve seen the giggle!?

I wish there was a way to hide what I wanna say for people who haven’t seen it but I unfortunately don’t think so,

Okay so, the toymaker was amazing! I loved seeing Ncuti, and I’m genuinly so excited for his stuff! I was a lil disappointed by the specials, they didn’t really feel like a celebration of the show, they felt like an expression for s4, if that makes any sense??

god i've got mixed feelings on that episode and it really annoys me bc it's the right kind of fun ridiculous episode that i should love and yet. hm. like first off the toy maker was sooo good, i love a campy villain and his whole vibe was spot on. ncuti really feels like the doctor to me, like he nails the vibe right away and i'm kinda disappointed we didn't see more of him in the episode. also your so right about them feeling more like parts of series 4 than general specials like ik they brought back the meep and the toymaker but to me it felt like when they brought back the macra in s3. like. modern episode but also these old guys are back. which isn't a bad thing it's just not the vibe I think they were aiming for. imo they should've focused wayyy more on ncuti's doctor, like this is his introduction, this is where he makes his first mark as the doctor but he's stuck playing second fiddle to 14 and it does a bit of a disservice to him.

#dw spoilers #i think the card game should've happened really early. like maybe before the doctor knew it was the toymaker #and he only works it out after he's lost but he still pulls the 'best of three' rule. and the toymakers like. ok. and stabs him or w/e #and he starts to regenerate (normally) into 15. and the toymakers like 'the next version of you owes me one more game' and #fucks off to wreak havoc. the rest of the story is 15 trying to find his identity and work out how to beat the toymaker #idk i've been inhaling bus fumes for 2 hours i just wanted more of 15

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chaosandwolves · 9 months

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Something I loved about heartstopper 2 is how it was repeatedly made clear that Nick doesn't owe anyone a coming out.

QUEER PEOPLE DON'T OWE ANYONE ANY INFORMATION ABOUT THEM BEING QUEER

I repeat

NO QUEER PERSON OWES IT TO YOU TO TELL YOU ABOUT THEIR QUEERNESS

IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO YOU ARE

We either invite you in or we don't.

#And if we don't you should ask yourself why that is #Hearstopper #heartstopper 2 #And now you fans who bullied Lit into coming out and demand to know everyone's sexuality and identity to validate yourself #No one owes you anything #No creator no actor no musician no author #No one #Read it all again #Queerness #lgbtqia

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worldwake · 5 months

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The older and more secure I get in my own identity, the less I find that words describe my experiences except in a very basic, literal, definitional sense. When I was 14 it seemed so important to nail my identity down, to meticulously match it with others' experiences, to describe every iota of myself with terms that nobody could really explain the meaning of. And that's sort of the point, I guess, there's no real meaning besides what an individual ascribes to a term when it comes to gender, but it's funny that now I have no words to describe my gender and I don't feel I need words to describe my gender. I suppose I should've seen it coming, I've never been comfortable describing my gender in any way. Now I just feel okay and secure that I don't like to and shouldn't have to. 🤷‍♂️

#theres nothing wrong with using microlabels (is that what theyre called?)#or describing every facet of your identity or experience #describe to whatever extent you think is necessary! the world is your oyster! etc #but i am so so so much happier and more secure in myself with the knowledge that i dont owe anyone any #description of my experience #in words that do not fit #in words that cannot explain the extent of my relationship with myself and my body and the world #and so on. and so forth.#i dont even use words to describe my sexuality very seriously or strongly #if i wanted to be accurate id have to use seven different words that only slightly differ from one another in definition and to me #i simply dont care that much #lol

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newbiealliance · 11 months

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the sooner yall stop giving a fuck and getting up in arms about how other queer people choose to label THEIR experience the happier you will be i promise. nothing comes of infighting with other queer people over labels you dont understand

#disarming voice #and like no one is fucking forcing you at gunpoint to use the labels on yourself #it's THEIR experience and it's THEIR identity they don't owe you understanding #quit policing good faith identities #dont rb

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angelsdean · 2 years

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also re: my reblog abt not being entitled to celeb’s sexualities and forcing celebs to come out is bad, i will say personally idc if people speculate abt celebs sexualities bc honestly it’s just human to be curious and people have speculated abt celeb relationships and gossip forever and i don’t think there’s really any harm in that esp when it’s kept away from the celeb in question and as long as it doesn’t lead to you harassing celebs to come out or forcing them to feel like they have to come out to prove they’re not “queer baiting” you

#i am not above speculation #and to act all mighty on the morality horse and pretend you’ve never once speculated abt any celeb is whack #but anyways back to the original point: real ppl cannot queerbait and no one owes you an explanation for their identity #vic.txt

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perennial-bee · 2 years

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trans people are not subsets of easily packaged ideologies that you can argue away. I don't care how many books or essays you've written if you can't engage with trans people like they are people. I don't wish for my or my friends' lived experiences to be used as talking points in some abstract theoretical argument. hypotheticals wither away in the face of real people, real lives, real friendships and real connections. if your thoughts when engaging with a trans person are about how you can convince them to detransition or to mull over the heresies you think they subscribe to, you are not seeing the person in front of you.

Jesus looked at people and saw them.

do you see me?

#my friends are not hypotheticals. they are not theories. they are not ideologies. they are not cookie cutter shapes.#do you know how dehumanizing it is to have an experience of yours be used as an object lesson or a cautionary tale or inspiration p-rn?#do you know how devastating it is to know that you can never introduce some of the most beloved people in your life to your family?#do you know how soul-sucking to listen to your family talk about Those People with their Disgusting Hairstyles #like their child could never be One Of Them?#i'm mildly terrified to post this but i'm also tired and worn down #i don't owe you my story or my identity. i don't owe strangers on the internet these pieces of me #but i am sharing what i wish at my own pace #if you want to jump to conclusions about it have at it. i've heard everything already #anyway this is a vaguepost @ my family and @ preston sprinkle and @ tucker carlson. mainly just those people

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elegyofthemoon · 1 year

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yknow. kinda wish there was more eternal sunshine au's out there.

#ill elaborate later im just having passing thoughts #but something about memories ok ok ok #also i need to rewatch that movie now that something reminded me of it #its such a silly movie but also owie ow ow ow ow ow ow -#but note to self later it plays a lot on the 'love and loss than to not love at all'#to not love being explored via choosing to lose the memories of the other etc etc etc #snow speaks #i sometimes fiddle around w the au but like. its more just playing around w the concept #I MEAN LIKE. eternal sunshine au and sigcorp au. my most treasured lol #esp if you like finding paradise though???? like final moments thinking about would u want to change everything u had #but then. realizing youd be getting rid of all the joys you had in this life.#'wishing my life away' for a different one #yaddayaddayadda i like fiddling with memories and identity okay i need to gorge on stuff like that again so i can destroy my brain!#wait im realizing this only circles back to pandora hearts. this is terrible im so sorry lmao

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sastiel-is-my-serotonin · 11 months

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By the way, just because it's pride month doesn't mean you need to come out!! There's a lot of reasons to be in the closet and never feel guilty about the reasons. Especially if it's for safety, your well being is incredibly important. You are still living your truth to yourself, and honestly no one else is owed that explanation.

I know that pressure to come out and be open about your identity no matter the consequences, it's not always worth it. Your truth will still be there in safety.

#I know how it feels to convince yourself you're lying to others and they deserve to know the truth #But do they?#Are you owed anyone's identities?#No #No one is #And it's not living in lies #Somethings we can keep for ourselves it doesn't make you any less honest #I'm living my truth regardless if others know what my truth is #And so are you #Happy pride month #Stay safe

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dragongirltongue · 1 year

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The way people will immediately try to justify why queer is the most inclusive term to people who specifically do not want to 6e called queer is really fucked up t6h.

Idc where you stand on it 6eing a slur or whatever I think that it's fair to 6e uncomforta6le with the word and I think some of yall need to chill out with this shit.

If someone doesn't identify with the word that's for then to decide.

Anyway uh yeah don't call me queer, you're gonna call me a 6igender 6isexual.