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[adziedoodle]

Adzie!! I've followed you for literally years, so so long and when I saw you in Dan's video I was so happy for you and proud

thank you so much for the support after all these years!!! and ahh!! thank you for the kind words ;v; ♡ it’s so nice to know i was able to make ppl happy

#danpride2021 #answered #neversecondbest

[meyhew]

Hi! Happy birthday!!! You're v cool and I like seeing you on my dash, I hope all is well and you have a great day!! You're a babe ♡

ahhh thank u! hope ur having a nice day babe 🌻💛

#seed's 22 #neversecondbest #answered

[huacademic]

Hey! 2, 3, and 4 for the book asks 😊

2: What are you currently reading?

Good Omens

3: What book are you planning to read next?

I read 4 books at once so after that I’m gonna finish Everything I Never Told You

4: What was the last book you added to your tbr?

According to Goodreads, Goodbye, Perfect

send in an ask

#neversecondbest #answered

[kkaitstudies]

hey! I love your theme, where'd you get it??

hi there! for some reason, the theme credit link isn’t right, but i found my theme at @theme-hunter! i find most of my themes/pages there. hope that helps!

have a great day!

#neversecondbest #*answered ask

[neversecondbest]

url change

Hi all! Just wanted to let you know I've changed my url. I was twentyoneaviatrices, but I have a side twenty one pilots blog here and I've had that url for years, I figured it was time for a change ♡

#hannah says stuff #url change #twentyoneaviatrices #twenty one pilots #tatbilb #neversecondbest #topnotchhalsey

[confessionsofafoodaddict]

Accidental Inheritance

A few years ago, my high school friend Heather forwarded me a video she thought I’d like. Every so often I come across it and I’m as struck and moved by it in the moment as I was the very first time I watched it.

It so perfectly encapsulates the subtle—and not so subtle—messages we not only learn from the women in our lives, but from the men as well.

Messages about what it means to be a woman, a wife, a mother, a female walking through this world.

Messages about what it means to consciously and subconsciously take a back seat to the men in your life.

Messages that tell you that you are somehow less important, less of a priority, less worthy, and have a lesser viewpoint than the men.

Here are a few pearls that particularly struck home with me:

“She shrinks the space around her.”

“She wanes while my father waxes.”

“I wonder if my lineage is one of women shrinking, making space for the entrance of men into their lives, not knowing how to fill it back up once they leave.”

“I have been taught accommodation.”

“You [her brother] have been taught to grow out…I have been taught to grow in.”

“I learned to absorb.”

“Picking up all the habits my mother has unwittingly dropped.”

“How much space she deserves to occupy.”

“I asked five questions in genetics class today and all of them started with the word ‘Sorry.'”

“Inheritance is accidental.”

I’ve spent way too much of my life taking a back seat, while never really realizing until now that I gladly sat there in an effort to be included. I’ve spent much too long accepting coming last while everyone around me comes first, and that I only deserves last or even second best.

I do not—and I’ll be damned if I allow Kennedy to ever feel that way.

I’ll be damned if I allow Kennedy to think she has to apologize before speaking her truth, her opinion, her thoughts, her feelings. I don’t ever want her to think she doesn’t deserve the space she occupies.

I don’t want her to think she has to shrink so someone else can grow.

I don’t want her to wane so someone else can wax.

I want to change the course, the dialogue that I’ve allowed to be so ingrained in me. I want her be strong and confident, while also being loving and compassionate.

And, as the poetry slam shows us, I will teach her more through example than words.

If I tell her that she is worthy, but act in an unworthy or undeserving way myself, which message do you think she’ll actually pick up?

If I tell her that girls, that women, have every right to do, say, be…but don’t do, say, or be myself, which message will actually sink in?

This is exactly why I need to think and act in the way I would want my daughter to emulate in her adult, mature life. I have to be the woman I want her to become…because in all likelihood, that’s what will happen.

#foodaddict #foodaddiction #accidentalinheritance #teachbyexample #beworthy #demandrespect #neversecondbest

[artofsumo]

Inktober day 25: HANZO(the wolf hunts his prey) #Inktober #inktober2017 #hanzo #lonewolfhanzo #overwatch #ryuugawagatekiwokurau #shimadaclan #neversecondbest #gaming #hanzoshimada #wolf #dragon

#hanzoshimada #lonewolfhanzo #inktober2017 #gaming #wolf #dragon #shimadaclan #ryuugawagatekiwokurau #inktober #overwatch #neversecondbest #hanzo

[ketogenesisltd]

Surround yourself with the people who support you to reach your goals in life, never settle for second best #wednesdaywisdom #rise #neversecondbest #strongertogether #communitylove (at Newark, Nottingham, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/B-cfKzsA3AW/?igshid=1mhoiy0hbhpl1

#wednesdaywisdom #rise #neversecondbest #strongertogether #communitylove

[feministstudy]

Hey! Lollipop and peaches for the asks :) have a great day!

lollipop: favorite makeup products? truly my daily routine is anastasia dip brow and nyx eyeliner and thats it! 

peaches- do you have a skincare routine? honestly no i just wash my face in the morning or try to 

thank you for the ask!

#neversecondbest

[pl0xy-blog1]

Always be confident, no matter what anyone says or does. You’re the best. 

#Nobackup. Frontrunner. NEVERSECONDBEST.

[thestudyfeels]

what’s one thing you’d tell your younger self?

(btw make it genuine, I don’t want any replies being like “drink more h2o bitch” even though that’d be true too lmao)

I wish I could tell my younger self how important a support system is. 

she thought she could do it all by herself. she told herself she got this, when bit by bit, she was breaking. 

she was really fucking tired. her mental health was fucked.

but she just wouldn’t accept the love, yknow? she wouldn’t do it, because she really did believe she had got it, that she would make it, that things were going to be just fine.

and guess what? she did make it. i just wish i could tell her that she had got this, definitely, but a little help would’ve made her so much happier. 

moral is, tell people. speak up. don’t hold pain in, it’ll hurt a lot. trust someone enough, and let them know you need love & empathy. there’s nothing wrong in asking for help, and love heals people. I wish younger me knew that.

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[somethinboutdodie]

Hey guys, so I’m really hoping someone can help me out. I had tickets for dodie’s concert on September 7 in Boston, but a bunch of them were cancelled because of scalpers. I though I was safe because I bought mine from her site, but I just checked and I don’t have tickets anymore and it’s sold out. Please if anyone has two tickets/knows what I can do so I can get tickets again, please reach out ♡

My main is @neversecondbest so I'll be replying from there but you can reach me here or there

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[meyhew]

Nice! What face scrub/is it good? I've been breaking out and it's probably stress but no matter what I'm NOT here for it

i forget the name of the brand but its a charcoal + black sugar scrub that u leave on for like 5-7 mins and ur good. its actually pretty good so far i think but i’ve only been using it for a few days so cant say for sure 

#i have some home remedies for breakouts but im so lazy #neversecondbest #answered

[lwttd]

#mothersday2018 #mothersday #mothersdaydinner with mom and family #neversecondbest 😍 #withlove ❤️ (at Café de Paris Monte-Carlo)

#withlove #mothersday2018 #mothersdaydinner #mothersday #neversecondbest

[bookmark---blog]

@neversecondbest hopefully this works!!!!

[rashidablackfeather]

When you grow up, inside more than out, you realize that the ones who do cartwheels to get your attention are just battling codependency issues that they haven’t resolved, and you’ll kick yourself for ignoring or mistreating the ones that gave you the space to grow and heal in your own way while remaining confident enough in their own skin to know their boundaries and keep their distance until you’ve had the time to heal those fresh wounds. I’ve been both the codependent one, seeking validation in healing others, and the one that felt like an idiot for ignoring the one whose heart bled for me in silence as I was let to heal at my own pace. I came to realize that they were waiting on me to heal myself while I was busy looking for someone to heal. Neither path (looking to heal or be healed by someone outside of yourself) leads to joy. I promise. Give me until December. If the people that pretend to love me don’t sabotage me again before then, I’ll be okay by December. That’s what I tell myself at least. I’ll give you until December, too. But, I won’t make any promises, As that’s not a lot of time, And everything is always up in the air. But, while life may be a circus, I’m nobodies trick pony. You’re not gonna ride out this wave of sorrow on my energy. I don’t allow that anymore. . . . . . . . #healersofinstagram #generationaltrauma #healing #selfawareness #codependent #glamourshots #codependency #bpd #ptsd #youseeme #itsfebruaryagain #iamworthy #icanbehappy #selflove #empathy #angrypoem #lovepoem #strength #iknowbetter #stillgrowing #neversecondbest #idonthavetotry #humbleenough #iwilldobetter #learnfromyourmistakes #yourloss #witchesofinstagram #prophetic #pagansofinstagram #shadowwork https://www.instagram.com/p/BtdHJt2HzCI/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=8ll0gtx7mee6

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