#it's all “the queer community is for everyone” until it is repulsed ppl

[redysetdare]

I've yet to find someone who can ever give a good answer as to what places repulsed people have to go when it comes to pride being unwelcoming.

"Just go to a different pride!" how many pride do i have to go to until i find one? Some people only have 1 pride nearby and if there are more some of us cant drive or travel long distances to get to them.

"just don't go to pride then!" Then where am I supposed to go? where can i go to celebrate my identity and part of the queer community?

it's all "There are other places you can go!" ok where? I cant go into queer bars. What if there are no queer groups or programs? what if those queer places are not supportive of aspec people let alone repulsed people?

"we should make a tent for people who dont want to see sexual stuff" so basically relegating us to the kiddy table? not allowing us to enjoy the rest of the event? we are forever stuck only in a roped off area, away from the rest of the queer community?

Do you get what I'm getting at here? do you see what the issue is? do you understand how there is no place to repulsed people? do you understand?

#text #if anyone brings up this post as being anti-kink at pride or homophobic i will kill you myself #I need you guys to understand that repulsed people have no place to go #and us expressing how little space we have in the queer community - hell even in the aspec community IS NOT AN ATTACK OF YOU OR UR SEXUALIT #if your response to a minority asking for space is to tell them to shut up then maybe you should reevaluate urself #it's all “the queer community is for everyone” until it is repulsed ppl #then it's “lol just dont exist in queer spaces!” #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #aroace #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #queer #pride

[britneyshakespeare]

being aroace is weird bc i’m queer but other queer ppl for the most part don’t understand the way i’m queer unless theyre also aro and/or ace

#i belong to the queer community but ppl think i'm an asterisk #queer on a technicality #queer because i'm definitely definitely definitely not straight #and i relate to other ppl under the queer umbrella but i feel like they don't. relate. to me #most likely bc they haven't seen or heard from many ppl w my experience which is...... hmph #bc i didn't really see or hear from anyone w my experience until i realized... oh shit that's me #& had to go seeking out others. i had to be inclined for my own self-interested reasons. which were totally fair #but like most other ppl are just. not. inclined to learn about aspecs especially not arospecs #which frankly i think i just get more and more aro w age #tales from diana #i'm gray aro (but very VERY aro okay very very disinterested in romance & borderline romance repulsed) #it's happened a couple times.... briefly for the most part. the 'gray' area is not very important to me nowadays #but when i was younger & i had NO CLUE i was aro & i just wanted romance i was very very confused #trying to figure out if i liked girls or not...... which i do....... but like...... in the same...... lukewarm way i liked boys #so i am sapphic and when i finally started to accept that side of myself around 18-19 it felt very important to me #& i still am sapphic. i still am queer in that way. but i hardly hardly ever care to define myself as bi these days. #not because i'm NOT bi anymore. but bc the way almost everyone uses 'bi' i just don't really feel represents me. #im aroace... that's what i am. other aroaces & their experiences represent me #my friends irl all know i'm queer but only like 3 of them even know i'm ace. bc it's not easy to come out as. #but i... do not like to tell ppl i'm bi. not anymore. they get the wrong assumptions in their head. #& those assumptions don't make me uncomfortable except for. it's not ME. #that's the only thing wrong w it. it's that there's this big missing MOST OF MY IDENTITY in my relationships. #i wish ppl fuckin understood more widely the aspec experience. for real. #my fellow aspecs i love you all btw.

[redysetdare]

Saw a post of a sex repulsed person being incredibly respectful about kink at pride and expressing how people say they don't belong at pride but then give no alternatives that help them find queer spaces that are safe for them, especially in rural places, and the replies just... Y'all REALLY hate repulsed ppl don't you? Like genuinely the queer community HATES us. The replies had ppl insinuating op was homophobic or sex negative all because they asked for a place where they could feel comfortable. At no point in their post did they say kink was bad or didn't belong at pride all they asked is that if they, a sex repulsed person, was not allowed at pride then where are they to go?

This is a question that never gets taken seriously by the queer community because they hate the idea that someone dislikes sex. They take our feelings as a personal attack on them and their sexuality. When all we want is a space for us. We are trying to find our own space like we are told but we get met with aggression when we try to do that. They hate the idea of a space that doesn't allow sex. They hate a space that doesn't allow them. It's all "Pride is for everyone" until it's repulsed people. Then it's " no where in the queer community is for you. You don't belong here"

#text #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #tagging romance repulsed too bevuz this thing happens to romance repulsed ppl as well #ppl express not liking kissing and are called homophobic #jfc this is why im making tge discord server #no one will let us have our own space so im making one for us