#is by feeling more secure in themselves

[florelia12]

So I’ve been thinking a lot about avoidant attachment styles since I’ve discovered I fall under that category like our beloved Helia hence an essay on his avoidant attachment style:

Its no secret that i love the comics and the Helia arc in The Trial comics. I think what I love about that comic is how florelia’s relationship is developed and depicted.

So, one of the characteristic of an avoidant is deciding to end a relationship without really communicating why. Helia did that to Flora after deciding that she deserved better than how he treated her, and that he wasn’t good enough for her or for red fountain. He decided for the both of them that this wasn’t going to work out because he’s not good enough. Flora didn’t get to have a say or to even confirm whether that was true because he just waltzed right out of there and cut contact.

So, he leaves and like decides to not contact anyone. After a few days of crying, Flora managed to contact him…He starts by saying that he doesn’t want to talk but she cuts him off and says I get it if you don’t want to be around me right now. “I accept that even if i don’t understand.”

When she offers her help to find him a place to stay, it was her offering the help without any strings. Which was why he took it (he was also kinda desperate). After he says yes, she even says okay thats it you can hang up if you want without forcing him to talk about whats wrong.

Then its Helia who speaks up and says hey this is kind of why im behaving this way. She senses an opening and tries asking if they can fix things. He’s not ready yet and so he says no, which she respects and hangs up the phone.

Flora then finds him once he’s settled down. Now, this could have been a manipulative move. Her taking advantage of the fact that he had no choice but to take up the rental room that she found for him so that she can force him out of his self-imposed exile and force a conversation.

However, when Helia tries to apologise because its the decent thing to do, Flora stops him and says he doesn’t have to talk about it if he doesn’t want to. She recognises his need for space right but also knows that he needs a friend right now. So, she offers exactly that and Helia accepts it.

This may seem contradictory since why is he accepting help when he’s an avoidant who’s hyper independent and wants to be able to meet his own needs. But, the reason people become avoidant is because at some crucial point in their life, their emotional needs weren’t met and the only way they could receive that was by seeking it out themselves, something that requires a lot of energy that unfortunately ends up with them not having any energy left to help meet someone else’s needs.

But, what Flora did was meet his needs while letting him know she didn’t expect anything in return. This takes a weight off his shoulders, and he feels secure enough with her promises to accept her help. Because right now, there is no expectation on him that he needs to meet which is the exact thing he ‘ran’ away (expectations he’s worried he can’t fulfil).

Then they’re okay for a while, and they can go on dealing with the matters at hand which is fixing up his apartment.

After a while, when things are going okay and he feels safe and secure. Helia opens up to her. They communicate. She understands.

Then comes the moment that didn’t really sit well with me at first but now I kind of understand.

At first I felt like why is she asking him about their relationship when he’s clearly going through hell about something else, isn’t that a little selfish when she said she’s okay if they don’t talk about it?

But, then I realised that Helia’s needs were met when Flora gave him the space he needed and accepted and understood him.

Right now…She’s asking for reassurance. She feels secure enough with him to ask for reassurance because she needs it right now.

This expectation, its a normal reaction. Its not her asking for something unreasonable. Even the way she phrases it is, do you want to end things? Is this what you need?

Not, oh lets get back together or why did you do that to me. Not blaming him for his actions. ( She even said she forgave him ). Not victimising herself.

Since Helia’s needs were met and he feels secure enough right now, he was able to meet her needs and so he offers her the reassurance she needed.

Which was this iconic moment…

I almost forgot the important part but when conflict strikes again…

Helia receives sus information about Flora and is struggling to figure out whether to believe it or not. Because he’s been tricked once, and now its happening again? Is he gullible? Is he the problem? He’s not good enough is he? A good specialist won’t fall for tricks so easily, right?

Flora senses the struggles and approaches, she’s panicky so she kind of starts seeking reassurance like what’s wrong? What’s going on? Talk to me!

This time he doesn’t walk away, he doesn’t avoid. He feels safe. He knows he can trust her because she’s proven that he is safe with her. He can trust his own instincts. Even if he was gullible, he made a mistake and trusted the wrong thing again, he knows he can communicate it with Flora because he feels safe enough to do it.

He reassures her that he trusts her. Then, they solve the problem. Together.

I just absolutely love this entire arc because its a realistic and somewhat healthy way of being in a relationship with someone who has an avoidant attachment style.

I’ve been seeing alot about this avoidant/attachment style and majority of it just straight up villainises the avoidant. I even saw someone say that “anxious people are expected to accommodate avoidants but avoidants aren’t really expected to accommodate for the anxious partner.” Which will always be true in some cases but is not what the general avoidant or anxious attachment style actually needs.

Its not exactly space that the avoidant needs (thats the coping mechanism), its safety and security. Just like someone with an anxious attachment style. Seeking reassurance is their coping mechanism, the solution is the safety and security that is offered. Accommodating someone’s coping mechanism is never a long-term solution, only healing can give you the peace you need.

Now, i did use to think that Flora had an anxious attachment style but I think she’s more secure. Like she needs reassurance, she struggles with her insecurities. But, you don’t really see her actively seeking it out very often. She understands most of the time when people want to be left alone. While she might struggle to give herself the reassurance she needs, she understands when someone else can’t give it to her at that moment.

Is she avoidant, on the other hand…i might have to sit on that a little but I’d love to know if anyone has any thoughts on that:)

This whole thing is so hard to navigate but people can sure learn a thing or two from fictional characters.

#the way I had such a hard time #trying to figure out my thoughts about attachment styles #until I could only really understand when its under Winx club context #says a lot doesnt it #but helia this is why i love you #but i hate you because why are you so much like me huh? #im going to put this in the tags because I don’t want to piss off any musa/riven shippers #but one reason why muri have quite a few relationships struggles is because they have a sort of trauma bond in my opinion? #like Riven is an avoidant and Musa has an anxious attachment style #when that happens they kind of just tend to trigger each other when conflict arises #thats not very healthy and its not doing either of them any good #but then they are also a good example of why avoidant attachment styles gets villainised #because Riven is always written off as the problem #and as someone who doesn’t meet Musa needs #but Musa isn’t that great at communicating either #i love them and I love how they heal from that but the way they heal #is by feeling more secure in themselves #which is truly the only way to get past these attachment issues #not expecting an avoidant to accommodate the anxious partner or vice versa #which is necessary yes but not what can really help both parties heal and feel safe and happy

[the-great-gullon-incident]

I think the song twins’ personalities when we first met them were defense mechanisms. They’re both realists at heart but Tam put on the front of being a pessimist to try and ground Linh’s hopes while Linh put on the front of being an optimist in an attempt to give her brother hope.

#Now that they’re safer and feel more secure they’re dropping these masks #but they’ve become so used to their siblings mask they keep trying to go back to their old dynamic as they viewed it #while not changing back themselves #kotlc #keeper of the lost cities #tam song #linh song

[koriand3r]

Willow | Spike - Clothing

“Why are you still in costume?” “Okay, still having to explain wherein this is just my outfit.”

#I call this 'costume motif' my beloved #I feel like both characters wear their hearts on their sleeves #So let’s take a look on their actual sleeves #Obviously everyone’s clothes tell a story and their character growth but I feel like these two are hyper aware of it #Its costume its armor I think they rely on it almost weaponize it #Spike i feel is relatively up on the times for a vampire yet he hasn't changed his style in 20 years #He's found his bad boy rebel image and he's gonna cling to it dammit #And Willow needs her clothes to showcase her pride/rebellion/growth as a lesbian wicca #Their clothing means to them hey look at me I'm not a loser nerd/fool anymore I got power and confidence in spades #But its just a front - superficial but clothes equal security blanket #I think they put too much power in their clothes because they're convinced it can control how people see them #But more importantly so it can control how they see themselves #btvs #mygifs #ok i made the nonsense gifset now will my brain stop this random buffy obsession or is this just a phenomenon that will hit me every decade #buffy the vampire slayer #myfaveposts

[bumblingbabooshka]

[Tuvok & Janeway: Control, Distance, Duty & Connection.] Sources: St Voyager Transcripts / Mitski 'First Love Late Spring' / Disco Elysium

#web weaving #star trek web weaving #st voyager #Kathryn Janeway #Tuvok #be the change you want to see in the world - make a long post about Tuvok & Janeway's similarities <- angel on my shoulder #I feel like a lot of people see them as 'opposites attract' sort of friends where Janeway is unhinged & Tuvok reigns her in #but in reality I think that while there is that element in there (exacerbated HEAVILY by their delta quad circumstances) #what I see most in their relationship is how they both value loyalty and duty above all and are extremely rigid with themselves #and the people around them. How they both have to maintain distance from others bc of their positions as captain & vulcan #I hate when people dismiss Tuvok as not being remotely interested in Maryana or Noss - it erases an interesting struggle that he and Janewa #both share - their desire to stay loyal to their spouses vs the 70 years of loneliness that that loyalty demands of them #But they BOTH triumph and they BOTH remain loyal (Tuvok until he returns to T'Pel and Janeway until Mark informs her that it's over) #and for both of them it's a little bit insane for them to do that. #Isn't it more interesting that Janeway and Tuvok both have feelings for people other than their spouses but don't give in #to that temptation? #They're both people who live very fastidiously by codes. Either written codes or moral codes - they very rarely if ever do things because #it's what THEY want to do. I'd say they're the least emotion-driven members of the crew and yes I'm including Seven because Seven #has a very...how to describe? It's a blunt and insular selfishness. She does what SHE wants to do and doesn't really care about others. #To me that's emotion-driven. Or...personal desire-driven? Not a bad thing at all but very different from Janeway & Tuvok who #are always more 'this is logical' or 'this is for the crew' rarely do they think 'this is what I want' bc they can't afford to #for different reasons (captain & vulcan) #they both also are in the most 'caretaking' positions on the ship from my POV. Security and Captain - both are directly in charge of #ship and crew safety. #Janeway & Tuvok #star trek voyager #st voy #when I say caretaking I'm NOT saying they're everyone's mom and dad or whatever - I'm saying they're in positions where they always #have to think about the greater good and the crew as a whole and how much danger is acceptable etc etc. #Janeway is always killing herself for the crew but Tuvok is right there beside her

[par-slayyy]

Shout out to blond kids created by men who see their son as a reminder of what they lost, their fault, and kept locked up most of their lives before meeting an adhd girl that introduced them to a new way of life filled with love and support, and work with her to defeat his villainous father

#forgot to add that they both feel more confident/secure in themselves when wearing a mask #miraculous ladybug #the owl house #hunter toh #adrien agreste #hawkmoth #gabriel agreste #belos #philip wittebane

[yunmeng-jiang]

that man does NOT think of wei wuxian as his gege

#jiang cheng #wwx #twin prides #i have a whole post about how they both think of themselves as having an older-sibling role #but even if that wasn't true jc still always calls him by his full name and the one time wwx tried to call him shidi jc yelled at him #their relationship is not that simple! it's a huge thing that wwx occupies a weird in-between role in their family! #he's definitely not a servant but also definitely not a full member of their family and that's super important to the story! #even if jc WANTED to think of him as his older brother he would need to get past seven layers of trauma to even realize he wanted that #and then he would have to admit it to himself and then work up the courage to admit it to someone else #and even then he probably still wouldn't say it to wwx's face #sure yanli calls wwx her didi but things are much simpler from her point of view #plus she's one of those people - like lxc - that can hold an opinion deep inside herself and be at peace with it even if it conflicts + #+ with what the world says and what she's been brought up to believe #jc is not like that. he internalizes way more from the outside world and if he feels conflicted he just kind of implodes #he's spent his whole life being told that wwx is not his equal and is someone to compete against #and also secretly believing that wwx is eventually going to abandon him because he doesn't think anyone truly cares for him #plus wwx treats him like a bff who is also a liege lord rather than a beloved younger brother #he would Not form a secure attachment to wwx lmao #it also really annoys me that when people write/conceptualize him as someone who thinks of wwx as his real gege + #+ they tend to completely erase jyl and minimize her importance to jc. he HAS an older sibling who he trusts unconditionally and confides + #+ in and takes comfort from! that person already exists! and they ignore her in favor of the protagonist #it also really bugs me when they have him mourning wwx those whole 13-16 years but don't put in a single word about yanli #this kind of turned into a rant about jyl... i have a lot of feelings about her especially since i'm the oldest sibling in my family #anyway. that man does not think of wwx as his gege #haterade #(kind of)

[hmsmilkbone]

if Getou received the support he needed, I really do think he would have taught alongside Gojo and Utahime. he and Gojo would have been such a nuisance, and I firmly believe they would do couple costumes at least one Halloween. Ketchup and mustard type of duo. The front and back of a horse. Minion and Gru. you KNOW they would have been terrors, and they would have loved every second because it would make their students laugh, at the very least.

#getou suguru #gojo satoru #jjk text post #jjk headcanons #jjk hc #jjk headcanon #i feel really strongly that they would have been supportive in every way they could for the kids #they know how the life can be #every opportunity to provide some humor or joy theyd take it #getou carrying snacks just in case #gojo bringing sweets and gifts #getou being able to relax because gojo has learned the kids arent him and he needs to be careful with them #both gojo and getou being so much more secure in themselves and their objectives #getou secretly helping gojo tear apart sorcerer society and rebuilding it #getogojo #satosugu

[puhpandas]

Wait what type of nose does Gregory has in his models?

heres a good pic! i try to translate this into my artstyle but i might double down on it more

#gregory just has a distinct face #very easy to make him not look like himself in art #obviously ive already crossed that line because of my design for him #ive had it for so long it wont feel like him anymore if i change it #not that i want to #but ill make little changes here and there #i just like trying to make characters look like themselves and translate their faces into my artstyle #evan was free reign but also his design is as old as my gregory design #so it could definitely look more like his sprite but like. thats evan. idc #pandas.txt #pandas talks #pandas asks #gregory #this pic is from old security breach multiplayer title screen btw

[jacksoldsideblog]

truly nothing more depressing than seeing a blog glorifying self harm in the fight club tag in an unironic way and you click through to see its an anorexic 14 year old :/ i wish i could communicate like... it doesn't make you cool or better, it's not an actual way to control things in your life, i am so so sorry you think this is the sexy answer. but also jesus why do you blog about it

#like damn weve all been 14 yrs old and making health decisions that are actively damning your future health in very concerning ways #but also like #these blogs exist because of each other and if i could nuke every single one i could because that might help even one of these kids #to recover #jesus #makes me feel old #like. ive been there lol. youre depressed and 12 and self harm seems right and also cool #but thats insidious as hell snd listening to that is whats going to make you depressed for half a decade #i think the hardest part of growing up is seeing kids make the same or similar mistakes you did and knowing if you say anything they will #almost certainly double down and dig themselves deeper #but you feel its a crime not to say anything and also remember lack of pushback being part of the problem #but its just. you cant fix anyone #i wasnt anorexic ftr but its Very Relatable unfortunately #anyway whether i like it or not i have a lot of teenagers following me i think #all of you. be nice to yourselves #actively pursue making your life better #not in a momentary happiness sort of way but in a taking the work to get over your mental illness and grow and become a more confident and #secure person kind of way #it sounds impossible and it feels like hell but literally the biggest part is just really trying to do it and letting go of the comfort of #the pains you know vs the unknown pains of change #i should stop soapboxing because this is getting silly long lol

[meyerlansky]

I have successfully boiled my problem with most of the izzy reads that i hate down to a sentence:

he's not sexually repressed, he's emotionally repressed.

#they are different and ihave paragraphs and paragraphs of thoughts on it #but dressing like a leather daddy and holding your hand over an open flame and literally everything else he does #is not the behavior of a man who doesn't know or realize what gets him going #he's not closeted. he's not homophobic. he thinks having Any Positive Emotion not related to violence makes you vulnerable #[and he's right for his experience and circumstance but i won't touch that now] #his conflict is emotional; ed's ability to captain isn't compromised by his being attracted to a man. it's compromised by Having Feelings. #their ability to survive a world that wants them dead isn't compromised by either of them being queer; it's compromised by being SOFT #by having WEAK SPOTS #pets are a weak spot. lovers are a weak spot. get rid of them to stay safe. not out of spite. #not out of a disdain for those relationships themselves. out of disdain for what Feelings Do To You #idk man maybe i am simply emphatic about this nuance because i get—more than I would like—the impulse to be SAFE #even at the cost of your self and some chances at being happier #he doesn't even care that lucius is gay in the deck scene and i'd go so far as to say he doesn't really care that lucius is slutty #insofar as. like. he doesn't know him and pete are open. from a monogamy-normative perspective it's a betrayal. #your partner being unfaithful when you expect them To Be is ALSO A THING THAT CAN GET YOU KILLED #like idk i just. i think people don't get how much of him is about safety? #and i know the show's created this atmosphere of 'homophobia isn't a real threat' #but they haven't removed the violence and danger crews other than stede face for Other Reasons #so. he's very security-driven. and that's why he speaks to me. #and it's annoying that people just make 'lol izzy's closeted' 'peak homophobic gay' jokes instead of. engaging. with the shit izzy AND ED #went through to make them emotionally closed off the way they are #THE SENTENCE IS A SENTENCE BUT THE EXPLANATION SURE ISNT

[lilyimmsim]

i think there’s a divide between the way women and men can talk + feel about themselves. it’s difficult as women to say “i am beautiful” or “strong” or “hot” or “worthy”. i think it’s much more acceptable to say these things, or much more expected, when you’re a man. it’s shown in media all the time; the main character thinks she’s ugly and is so shy and can’t see it until a dude comes along and tells her she’s beautiful; it’s seen in the lyrics “you don’t know you’re beautiful - that’s what makes you beautiful”. and i get that those lyrics are from a popular, harmless song but it injects this belief into young girls that not knowing, not admitting your beauty is what makes you pretty, rather than owning the beauty + being confident of it.

#or idk #but same for men i think they’re expected to think highly of themselves #so men being insecure about themselves is not often translated as “i’m so ugly” #it’s more often anger + needing to be secure in other “manly” things #sports/cars/working out etc. #when the root of the problem is they don’t in fact feel good about themselves #and feeling emasculated by confident women because it makes them feel useless #if the roles are an “i’m so ugly” woman and a “no you’re beautiful” man #what is the purpose of a man if the woman doesn’t need that? if she already thinks she’s beautiful? #and #likewise #what guy would love a woman who is so “arrogant” to think she is beautiful ? #anyways #idk if this makes sense

[cowboy-robooty]

Love your HCs <3!!! And your art!!!!!!!! Le Question: is Romano 99.99999% straight like Veneziano? What's his sexuality journey like? If you don't mind sharing your thoughts. Is it as weird as Veneziano's pre school BF then pussy for a millennium. Thank youu

FIRST) THANK YOUU MANAJW i always feel surprised when i remember it isnt just me and my 3 friends on da world wide web that like my stuff <:') ARIGATO! FROM ME! *points at me* TO YOU! *points at you*

Anyways now SECOND) i think romano knows he likes girls and actually is nice to them and tries to rizz them its just hes cringe fail so i actually think hes a total virgin whos never dated anyone ever bc hes so aids. i think he doesnt really see guys as an option not because of sexuality but more because hes too busy trying to catch a girl he aint even got TIME to think about other fish types we go one type at a time. like when he goes i would never date anyone in the g8 its not because theyre boys its because "theyre stupid and annoying and ugly and should kill themselves and one of them is my fucking brother" romano is a boy kisser its just that never gets addressed because he hates all the men around him too much. i also think he kinda likes the idea of a girl more than actually dating a girl because 1) he doesnt take into account that girls actually can fart (60% why he thinks theyre so angelic and wunderbar) and 2) he desperately wants to be popular asf like italy so hes like ITALY BANGS CHICKS EVERYDAY SO OBVIOUSLY THERES GOTTA BE SOME SECRET SAUCE IN THERE. but i think he never in his life ends up dating a girl because they all reject his ass bc he fumbles so hard and then prussia activates his yandere gene and he gets loyal asf (but still demented and terrible. basically nothing changes other than him no longer hitting on girls) so woooooo I THINK THE LABLE HE USES IS "normal" (he is anything except normal)

*read tags if u wanna see why i changed my mind. actually romano uses da lable

**drumrolllllll**

BISEXUAL! **judge gavel slams down**

SENTENCE: 10 THOUSAND HOT POCKETS!

#me thinks hes too preoccupied scheming and getting restraining orders put against him to really think about a lable #see hetalia characters all have aids like me so i think a handful of them dont really use lables #or if they do then they dont really follow them its more like they use it cuz they need something to say when someone asks them for it #i think theyre smart enough to use lables only as theyre meant to be used. as something that acts as a positive for them #either in makes them feel secure or gives them an answer to tell people when they ask #cuz like for example germany is the Only Boy italy likes and italys like well ill use bisexual cuz why not lol #but i think some other characters could have that same situation and stick with the lable straight #cuz its like saying wether or not you like chips #if you only like one specific flavor and brand and hate everything else then its arguable if you can say you '*like* chips or not #i dont think the way people feel love and attraction is something that can be fit into neat little lables because its always different #so i say lables shouldnt be treated as an end all be all when choosing one. its just whatever you like #after all. having a lable doesnt make you any better or worse than someone with another lable #sorry for the long tangent but yeah thats my explanation for why i dont think romano has a #solid lable #THIS ISNT ME SAYING I THINK PEOPLE SHOULD STAY IN THE CLOSET AND REPRESSED AND SHIT #its me saying that people should just be themselves and sometimes a lable just isnt apart of that and it shouldnt be required #also i take it all back actually romano identifies as bisexual so he can call germany the f slur #ask #SWAG

[braveburned]

gregory is a good kid but he is not a nice kid thanks for listening

#★ * OOC / brainrot for a sushi restaurant. ) #he like. he means well and he cares Deeply even if he pretends he doesn't #and a lot of his more unsavory attitude problems are trauma responses #but he's not nice! he is a little asshole! he's mean! #he will act out and show the absolute worst version of himself under the assumption that he Will Be Left Alone #and it's easier to know where it came from than to hope for something better and STILL be left behind #all he wants is for people to care about him because they ACTUALLY care not out of obligation or to make themselves feel better #but !!! he won't !!!! let anyone get close enough !!!!! #until he finds michael in security breach but that is a WHOLE CAN OF WORMS #and it takes SO LONG for them to settle and for so much of that gregory is So Mean

[jrueships]

maxeys chart 😭😭

#he also has one more scorpio in mercury #next time harden or doc is baffled at maxeys constant need to work.... just show him this #scorps do NOT like going into things without preparing or trying in some way or form #put that with the go getter in cap and ure gonna have a scorp whos IN in that gym namean? #the scorpio venus.... #it's like with most scorpios. when theyre doing right theyre really doing right... but when theyre doing wrong... #in thinking theyre doing right... when they might not be..... #i can see how maxey .. despite the way WE love him... perhaps.. is not the most... critically acclaimed partner to be #in wagsites #he needs a cancer or a taurus bad #BAAAD ! #hmm... ill make sure to keep an eye out for that #maxeys relationship with gemini iq and his constant pestering of iq #with the 'he too big time to answer my facetimes now 😔' from max rlly was written by the stars lmao #great deep lover and great overall surface/summary go well in a person but in two persons #always looking n feeling in two opposite extremes!! can be tuff! scorps need that LOYALTY loyalty #so they can feel secure enough to give all that back n more #if they see too much 2 sides of the coin goin on when theyre so focused on one.. might not be so gr8 ! #scorps can take a joke against themselves as can cancers n tauruses #but they all have a kinda Stop barrier to that that only scorps/cancers/tauruses can feel out the best b4 that happens #and feelings actually get hurt then #gems might be too outwardly to see that sometimes and a misunderstanding might happen that a scorp will harbor forever #maxeys cap keeps his bond strong with iq tho!! they just have to keep checkin in with eachother n stuff! #just to make sure theyre doin alright!! #i love not traditionally compatible people being a couple/friends. i love seeing what theyre wary of n what works #anyways!!! #maxey #mr power with a purpose !!!! #it's either bball or superhero and one gets paid the other gets comics!

[justsomeguycore]

sorry soooooo funny op is a r*dfem bc like this is a great quote and statement but imagining it’s applying to gender dysphoria is so funny. yeah who benefits from my transgender insecurities? american eagle and my local dispensary mostly

#american eagle boxer briefs and flannels are so…. ggh man like #flannels maybe not worth how pricey they are but boxer briefs DEFINITELY are #anyway it’s also like did you ever stop to consider that if everyone stopped being homophobic and transphobic #maybe trans and gnc people would feel uhhhhhh less insecure #like t*rfs complain like ‘bla bla trans women are just perpetuating misogynistic beauty standards by feminizing themselves’ #but like a) cis women also do this lmao and b) i think all women would do this less if we stopped imposing these standards on them #i think you’ll find they’ll be a lot more secure once they stop having to fear for their lives every time they dare not to conform

[theriverdalereviewer]

school shootings were always my biggest fear as a student and now I still fear them as a teacher

#what could I say about this that I didn’t already say after parkland? #after sandy hook? after virginia tech? after columbine? #after the millions of other school shootings that didn’t get media coverage cause the death toll didn’t break a record #that’s the part that’s getting me #nowadays a shooting where only 2-3 victims doesn’t get any media coverage #but in any other country in the world this would spark national outrage BECAUSE ANYONE DYING IN SCHOOL IS NOT NORMAL!!! #but noooo in this country (ONLY country in the world where this regularly happens) there’s no way to prevent it #like are you american exceptionalists proud? we’re the school shooting capital of the world how amazing #all because we refuse to ban guns the blatantly obvious solution that has worked out for everyone else #fuck you and your second amendment rights we do not need to adhere to these dumb ass founders beliefs #what society adheres to rules from 300 years ago that were written by some of the most evil men in history they didn’t know SHIT #and anyways they themselves said that it needs to be well regulated but of course that part is ignored #dumbass politicians coming up with anything to ‘fix’ the problem besides banning automatic weapons #TED CRUZ IS SAYING DOORS ARE THE PROBLEM AND THAT THERE SHOULD ONLY BE ONE DOOR?? MF THAT IS A FIRE HAZARD #and they’re saying we need armed security as if the USELESS POLICE DID ANYTHING TO SAVE THOSE KIDS #‘only thing that can stop a bad guy with a gun is a good guy’ oh really? and what happens when that good guy also gets shot like in Buffalo? #and saying we need to secure schools like they’re prisons cause a metal detector is gonna stop a psycho with the intention to kill #all this security will just make Black kids kids with special needs kids of color and so many more feel even more unsafe #and let’s not forget the stupidest idea of them all ARMING TEACHERS???? #teachers don’t get paid enough nor is it in their job description to KILL SCHOOL SHOOTERS #THAT IS THE POLICE’S JOB NOT OURS??? and this puts so many kids at risk too and teachers shouldn’t have to sacrifice themselves?? #we can’t even get our lesson plans to go the way we planned them AND YOU WANT TO PUT A GUN IN A CLASSROOM? #i hate that the kids teachers and parents did more to protect each other than the people that get 40% of the city’s budget #all cause they were ‘scared’ well maybe you’re in the wrong line of work you coward pigs #and let me get started on the fact that we have an epidemic of murderous young boys that we have been ignoring since columbine #all of these shootings were committed by young adult men with incel white supremacist nazi ideologies #but sure let’s act like they did this because of bullying SHUT UP #men are literally the problem. like we need to be monitoring boys more instead of micromanaging our daughters #cause look at what kind of monsters they become #all of these violent video games and chat rooms where the most vile things are said is literally a pipeline to becoming an incel nazi