#im not anti bottom will

[ineffably-graham]

hannibal did not repeatedly demonstrate that he would let will do anything he wanted with him, moan while tied up after being told will sent a guy to kill him, turn his head and lean sensually on his fridge while will pointed a gun at him, and lay on the floor after being shot while looking into will's eyes and posing like a renaissance painting for the fandom to decide hannibal is a christian grey type dom.

#i said what i said #thank you for coming to my ted talk #im not anti bottom will #just anti christiangreyification of hannibal lecter #write and let write! #but i do disagree with that interpretation of his character #to each their own #do what you want #hannibal #nbc hannibal #hannigram #will graham #hannibal lecter #hannibal nbc #murder husbands #christian grey #never thought i'd use that tag

[ecstaticfailure]

god i need my dick sucked sooo bad. I would cross endless rivers of doom and fight every single one of my demons with my bare fists, naked and blindfolded, swim through the impending sense of doom that has befallen me lately and wade through mists that whisper about long forgotten embarassing failures if at the end of my heroic journey there would be some real sloppy toppy. The kind that makes you grip their hair and bedsheets and hold on for dear life. The kinda head so good you forget your own name. When they know a good balance between tongue and sucking i swear to god I lose my shit.

#i quit anti depressants so my dick would get hard #but i have an std and have to WAIT!!!!! til i can fuck again!! #im gonna go insane #ocd babe #rambles #🦊 #ftm bottom #ftm puppy #ftm sub #ftm t4t #petpl4y #t4t bd/sm #ftm breeding #t4t breeding #ftm dom #ftm top #lmao

[butch-with-a-deep-voice]

I’ve always wondered why stone butches are exclusively a lesbian thing (as far as I know). Like, you never hear about gay men where one doesn’t want to be touched sexually, so it’s not a gay thing. You don’t hear of straight couples where that’s a thing either, so it’s not a woman thing.

The only reasons I can think of are that women have more sexual baggage and feel more vulnerable (and are less horny than men generally), so it’s unlikely a man would want this. And then on top of that a man in a straight relationship is unlikely to tolerate his girlfriend not wanting her genitals to be touched ever, so a straight woman who felt like this would probably just be single. But then again, I’m sure there are men who would be happy to be sucked off by women during casual sex with no reciprocation - and I’ve never heard of that either!

But are there other reasons do you think? Is it butch women having hang ups about their female genitals being touched, or about feeling vulnerable to a partner because they are masculine as a woman?

I find this so interesting to think about.

While I can see where this line of thinking comes, from I would like to challenge it for a couple of reasons.

The first being that stone lesbians have a long historical association with the term. For many of us, our stone-ness stems from trauma and that cannot be separated from it. The identities, what they connote, and the safety they bring to the lesbian community can never be devalued or disassociated. And I am specifically talking stone. Both top and bottom, butch and femme. This isn't a hang up about "female genitals". I have classically "male" genitals and still identify as a stone butch. Stone comes from a collective understanding of our needs, and how factors in our life made us not okay with certain things being done to us, and saying "yeah, those needs are okay actually. That's desirable. I'm not broken." So firstly anon, I'd like you to ask yourself where your perceptions of stone stem from.

Secondly though, while I can see where you're coming from, I really want to challenge the notion of men not wanting these things. Of men always wanted to be touched, wanting sexual attention. This speaks to a deep issue of stigmatization/generalization of male sexuality. As horn dogs. As sexually hungry machines. I challenge the idea that there aren't men who don't want acts associated with stone tops/bottoms because I know men personally who do. I know men who are sex repulsed. I know men who only ever want to eat their cishet girlfriend out, top her, and focus on her, never once asking for reciprocation. I know men who have that classic "infinite libido" of male hood but are the biggest power bottoms on the planet and would rather eat glass before topping someone because it makes them feel dysphoric. Makes them feel wrong.

As for "women are less horny than men", have you seen lesbian tumblr? Have you seen booktok? Some of us are SHAMELESS. Feminine libido has nigh on infinite potential for some and it is a beautiful thing that should never ever be swept under the rug with a generalization like that. Men are expected to have limitless libido and this too must be challenged. Growing up male, before coming out as trans, it was an extreme source of shame that my sexuality didn't align with the other boys. That I didn't experience sexuality the same. I got bullied incessantly for not being a sexual deviant, and I wasn't the only one. This idea of the ever-hungry masculine directly attributes to toxic masculinity and ideas perpetuated by patriarchal relationship standards.

Part of how I think collectively we can evolve and heal our understanding of sexuality and healthy sexual practices is understanding your needs intimately, regardless of gender or sexuality. Learning how to effectively communicate those needs, and subsequently accepting when others have their own needs (including when they don't align with yours, not everyone is compatible and that's okay). Just like how a classic stone4stone relationship seems to be what will be my ultimate ideal match-up, everyone's needs deserve to be met and honored by a partner with needs that align with theirs.

Stone top/bottom, stone butch/femme are incredibly unique and important identities within the lesbian community. Claiming stone for myself has helped heal years and years of shame and trauma around my sexuality that I never thought possible to heal. Those terms I can argue stay in the lesbian community for the various historical and cultural implications. But I also really do need to stress how much we should accept the experiences associated with stone being applicable to everyone, even if the terminology may not be.

#anon accidentally touched on a topic i care a lot about #im really really anti hating on men and masculinity #especially sexuality #perpetuating hatred and stereotypes just continues that cycle of patriarchy and toxic masculinity #not angry anon btw i just care deeply about the topic #bite me #ask nomi #stone top #stone bottom #stone lesbian #stone butch #stone4stone #butch #nonbinary #nblw #wlw #sapphic #lesbian

[adelacreations]

a little nsfw for your RE AU hehe

“That’s it, sweet thing,” Billy breathes as he grips the soft underside of Steve’s thighs, knowing the pretty boy must feel the pinch of his sharp nails digging in there if the cute little sound he makes says anything. Billy flashes his pointed teeth with a smile, mumbling praise, “Such a good boy, taking me so well,” as his eyes lock on the way Steve stretches around him, pressing deeper and deeper until Steve’s gasping out a soft ‘ow’ but his dick is dripping and his face is flushed with pleasure, his eyes shiny and jaw dropped, like he can’t believe how good it feels.

BAMBIIIIIIIIII

I LOVE THIS SO MUCH AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

#harringrove #billy hargrove #steve harrington #billy x steve #billy antis dni #resident evil village au #listen im a bottom billy truther #but you cannot have this size difference and not want #STEVE TO BE DICKED DOWN AND SOBBING

[russilton]

Okay this is probably a sensitive topic but I find your blog to be really fair and balanced despite the drivers' fans from both sides may not think so. Anyway my question is that why do you think George should dislike Max (even Alonso) or refrain from hanging out with them? They're not great people sure but he's their co-worker. Not everyone can spend their careers isolating himself like Lewis has done, his reasons for doing so are justified so I am not blaming him at all, but George doesn't HAVE to do it. He can and should enjoy a relatively peaceful co-existence with his colleagues. He, Max, Lando, Alex have things in common too, they're in stable relationships, they are close in age, it makes sense for them to be casually friendly. He and Max will not be besties but I don't think it hurts to have a cordial relationship with your colleagues especially when you aren't personally affected by whatever they've done. Lewis is great but his burden is uniquely his, George or anyone else can't be expected to share it. I think it's a bit absurd to expect George to dislike his colleagues on Lewis' behalf especially when he will spend longer with them than Lewis. Lewis and George aren't even close enough to demand that sort of loyalty. I am sure Lewis knows and understands this too. I usually agree with a lot of what you say but I believe we shouldn't police who George can or cannot be friends with.

Because, I tend to not be friends with people who are dicks to my friends, particularly if those people are racist.

“Lewis is great but his burden is uniquely his” not to be rude anon, but no the fuck it ain’t. The burden is on everyone else to be anti racist, not on him to stand up to dehumanising treatment. That’s the bare minimum.

That’s all I really need to say- further rant under the cut because I was writing at 5am and it’s basically a given.

It’s a bit of an unfair twist to say Lewis has “isolated himself” when the treatment he’s isolating himself from is heavily laden in micro aggressions and on track behaviour that could have killed him.

Also, not to be that George fan, but if you really need a point not about Lewis - the vitriol aimed at Lewis and subsequently Mercedes ABSOLUTELY effects George. He has been subject to mocking and harassment from Red Bull fans from the SECOND he he was rumoured to have signed for Merc. He has spoken more than once about how horrible it feels to be Boo’d at tracks, because he is in Mercedes.

None of those fans gave half a fuck about him when he was in Williams, but when he became Lewis’ teammate suddenly his every interview was being called PR trained because it didn’t shit on Lewis or was actively praising. Some of you might not have been around for “PR63” but I sure was, and Merc comments would be full of homophobic tweets from Red bull fans, when they weren’t calling him a cry baby. Max may not be directly responsible for his fans- but he’s frankly never stopped them, if anything he ENCOURAGES them.

Max himself has also called George names, made thinly veiled homophobic insults, had people imply max wanted to attack him. Max said that George was being dramatic and attention seeking for being heartbroken after Sakhir, publicly undermined his efforts as GPDA director to increase safety, to the point George himself called him out for it, said that George should get out of his way when George wouldn’t just let him overtake in Baku, and more. On and off the track Max has insulted and belittled George, the people George loves (Alex, Lewis, Mercedes), and made his job both more dangerous and more boring.

Being cold to Max isnt out of the blue either- George was the first person to speak up about AD21 (literally while the race was ongoing, look up the infamous unacceptable tweet) and was one of the first to condemn piquet sr’s (Max’s defacto father in law) comments at the beginning of last year, to the point man other drivers copied his statement. My point is George has been frequently and outspokenly against stuff max does to the limit he is allowed to say. Shit I have friends who aren’t George fans who say they only thing they like about him is he will not fail to throw a dig at Red Bull and Max if he can- yes it’s for him but he is also using his privilege. Lewis doesn’t get to say those things or he’s labelled a bad sport, attacked by the press, sometimes even F1 itself and FURTHER ostracised. But George can say it, and often he does. It’s probably not “loyalty” that makes him do that, but just… basic friendship?

Let’s be real, I have to look the other way often about things both George AND Lewis do, they travel in circles I’ll never touch, and speak to people I don’t care for, and say shit I dislike. We live profoundly different lives and our bubbles are so different they might as well be on different continents. I don’t expect George calling him mv0 or telling everyone he hates him, the same way lewis doesn’t, because they work with him. But working with someone doesn’t grant them an automatic right to friendship. And frankly f1 drivers have this weird relationship with friendship vs teammates vs on track fights as it is

Just because someone is your coworker doesn’t mean they have to be your friend, especially if they’re a bigoted fuckin asshole.

#asks #anonymous #wank/rants #I have- very RECENTLY- stopped being friends with people who were being dicks to another friend #it’s the bottom line. it’s fucking uncomfortable sometimes #but it’s necessary and remaining neutral would have made me feel awful #im under no false belief george is running round thinking max should choke- those are JOKES #hell I bet if you asked him if they were friends he’d quibble before he said anything- I’m used to it #I live my f1 life by the adage ‘expect the worst but hope for the best’ and that’s how I see all f1 friendships #anti max verstappen #anti verstappen #I started writing this when I woke up in the middle of the night rather than going back to sleep #now I’m going to go back to sleep

[uter-us]

radfem or any woman poll:

is there a specific age that you think pressure to wear makeup was at its highest? like do you think there's more pressure as you get older or more pressure when you're young?

(you can use ur best judgement to decide if you're qualified to answer-- in my experience most radfems on here are under 30 so we all only have so much life experience🤷‍♀️)

context (readings not necessary to vote): I'm 17 and so I'm highschool-aged although I've dropped out, but I still hang around highschool and college aged people and I genuinly cant imagine more pressure to wear makeup than right now. maybe it's j being a teenager ? or like idk hormones too?? but it feels indescribable and I've talked to my friends (and mom, see below) abt this and my friends also feel that sooooo much. which is maybe super self absorbed to think im at the age where its the worst so i could deffffinitely be way off. but do u think theres any relief as you get older? I talked to my mom about it and she does wear makeup, but she said something abt how it's nice to just be a "random non descript middle aged woman," and how that's kind of affected her own self image (in a good way). like she still feels the pressure to be beautiful, but maybe less so ? just curious what yall think!!

thanks yall.

#also fyi im not answering this poll ! im not doing the teenaged catagory and instead im j pressing the bottom choice #radical feminist safe #radical feminism #radblr #terfsafe #anti makeup #anti make up #anti beauty standards #anti beauty culture #anti beauty industry #question tag #radfem

[cavinginhisfvce]

I feel like I should tell you guys...

I'm a bottom!Billy enthusiast. I am very enthusiastic at the thought of Billy bottoming, some may say I'm feral.

I'm also a firm believer of Babygirl!Billy, bc let our baby wear his fucking skirts and eyeliner :/

Steve and Eddie would get it, they're also feral over Billy.

#harringrove #billy antis dni #billy hargrove #billy hargrove deserved better #billy hargrove protection squad #i always picture billy in graphic liner #like im v makeup inclined irl and whenever i do a look im like #i can see billy wearing this #so yeah #mungrove #bottom billy hargrove

[pansyfemme]

hm. i fucking hate how round my face is and I know i have a few years until t changes slow down but im starting to think about facial masculinzation despite it probably being the one surgery my family would disapprove of

#my parents are anti non gender affirming plastic surgery #and they’d probably see that as not as gender affirming as top or bottom surgery #but like. idk #it’s mostly that i’d like to go clean shaven sometimes and not be immediatly read as female #im babyfaced as hell and its very girlish #but i can get away with it with facial hair #all i’d want is to remove some fat around my jawline #nothing else. #but idk #i know bc im fat its realistic that i’d have a round face #but it really bothers me that my facial hair is the only thing about my face that’s masc

[fragmentating]

Sometimes I think too much about how my relationship to psych medication / drugs could have been if it had been one free of coercion, force, control and unethical experimentation and way too high doses for a minor. And then I lose myself a little in that rage and despair.

I hate everything about that system, but I still like the concept of being able to say. I like the way this substance makes me feel. I feel like this positively changed my life. Give it to me legally. I want legalized drugs and I dont view my psych meds as anything other than already legalized drugs locked behind a weird system. But I have yet found a psychiatrist who actually let's me be in control. Who lets me say, I need something else, this isnt cutting it, no, not another drug from the same fucking group, something completely different. Who let's me say, I dont like these side effects no matter if they seem minor to you, let's change this. Who let's me say this is the schedule I need my meds on for them to actually have much of an impact. Who let's me say hey I had this stuff years ago and it was the only thing that really helped me, it seems aggressive but can we just fucking try it again because this is supposed to be about helping me. Who let's me say this dose is too fucking high and the negatives are taking over.

Fuck I haven't even found a psych in over 4 years who has actually given a fuck about my physical health and hasn't just taken me off meds cold turkey when discharging me or switching things around, who has actually ordered blood panels to see if the levels are okay, who ordered EKGs or whatever they need to monitor that this shit isnt negatively affecting my body. They cant even fucking do the bare minimum for safety. They dont know the common side effects to what they're prescribing. A 50 year old doctor who mainly pushes anti psychotics did not believe me that I had tardive dyskenesia as a side effect because HE DID NOT KNOW IT WAS EVEN A THING THAT COULD HAPPEN. He opened google and begrudgingly said "hm well okay. I guess that might happen". He had to google the side effects to something he had been cheerfully writing me scripts for for over a fucking year. Not even because he forgot them but because he never fucking knew in the first place.

I'm dreaming of being able to control what I get and how and when. Meanwhile reality is a living nightmare and the only way to truly escape it is to completely refuse psychiatric medication and either self medicate in one way or the other or abstain from what actually could be fucking helping me. What the fuck is wrong here

#madpunk #psych critical #anti psych #anti psychiatry #actually psychotic #actually delusional #and like if this isnt your experience! its a fucking rare win okay l #im happy for you but ive been in the system for close to 10 years now. id be overjoyed if they at least stopped physically endangering me #thats how low the fucking bar is #and they still cant fulfill it #maybe youre one of the people who actually got through on the waitlists to more educated and open minded people. good. #the rest of us are wading through the bottom of the barrel #you cant exactly be picky when theres a single psych in a 60 km radius whos willing to see you in time before u hit withdrawal

[insertcommonnoun]

people need to stop blaming eastern countries for censorship in big movies, like do you think homophobia doesn't exist in western countries or some bullshit?

#its bullshit #anti disney #anti mcu #you dont think the people who own the companies arent the fuckers who are homophobic? #they care about the bottom fucking line and MANY people especially in america see queer people as inappropriate #im so angry #especially PARENTS. PARENTS WHO ARE BUYING DISNEY PRODUCTS

[ashpkat]

so i recently read a fic called the death of jericho and it’s been taking up all my brain space so. here’s some doodles:

#i fuckinf hate how constantine looks in this #and poor poor alastair got the brunt of my laziness #OH SHIT i almost forgot ! #declan’s shirt is a Bad Religion shirt; which is a band #THATS JUST THE SYMBOL FOR BAD RELIGION im not anti christian or anything!!! just an fyi #close ups at the bottom #magisterium #the magisterium #constantine madden #jericho madden #alastair hunt #sarah novak #declan novak

[woomycritiques543]

TW: Mentions of “proshippers.”

Welp.

Turns out that one of my followers that I supported was a “proshipper.”

… and then they publicly vague harassed me by calling me a “moron!” and then put it in widely used tags for thousands to see.

Its honestly interesting, because pro”shippers” say that they’re “anti harassment” but then will purposefully spread misinformation and insult people, and sometimes, even with their usernames out in the open- which is literal HARASSMENT. Hell, all of this “your representation is my jerk off material!” is harassment if you really think about it since it’s also doing just that- harassing people for caring about their representation by posting misinformation and hate porn and then publically mocking them for defending themselves against it.

I wrote this in response, but I doubt that she’ll even see it. Not that it matters, im blocking her anyway. This is sickening…

Edit:

Added this in case they try to slander or harass me further. -and then people wonder why proshippers are “dni” on 99% of the web.

“Anti harassment” nah nigga that’s virtue signaling as an attempt to get people not to tell you to stop being creepy, while also using language like this to slander people who tell you to stop, which is also harassment. It's like saying that calling out a murderer is "harassment" just because they're saying that someone is a "bad person" online, while also slandering any group who had called out said murderer. That's literally what pro"ship" is, except it's with creeps in writing communities who publically fantasize about the most horrific things possible (of which I wont describe here for you guy's sanity.) in what they write on AO3, Tumblr, and of course... Twitter.

The bottom of the barrel in any social media community.

But with that said…

PRO”SHIPPERS” DNI.

#helluva boss #helluva boss critical #tw proshippers #claims to be anti harassment- literally harasses people for defending their representation #I swear that proshippers. if I should even call you that anymore since its just a coverup… #are the most bottom of the barrel of this website #and now im having to post in the main tag to defend myself #wow… you people are actually sick in the head. #-and then you wonder why proshippers are dnied on most blogs. THIS IS WHY! YOU PEOPLE ARE TERRIBLE!

[rins-hogosha]

Every time I see (against my own will) some fugly pro-sessrin "merch" on any site at all... I always think to myself "WHo the fuck is out here buying this?" Like, who ACTUALLY, whole-heartedly can say they want this?

#nea's salt #anti sessrin #tw pedophiilia #tw grooming #tw child grooming #like someone in the anti tag just posted #something that looks like some kind of lamp? #BUT IT'S SO FUCKING UGLY #like who wants that?? you want tell me #raisins want that shit? #like im not stupid i know they lick #the bottom of the barrel but come on now

[neondiamond]

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#here is a non-exhaustive list of things i did/that happened today: #woke up at 4:30 a.m. because apparently noodle likes it when im sleep deprived #was fucking slammed with work all day #i locked noodle into the bathroom twice and another time in the pantry #not on purpose he just like to follow me everywhere and sometimes i don’t realize #found out the bottom corner of my fridge door is really fucking sharp #by slicing the top of my damn foot on it after opening it #ouch #had to go buy bandaids bc i’m not a real adult yet and didn’t have any #then taped a towel to that corner as a temporary anti-foot slicing solution lol #realized after picking up noodle earlier that he’s getting real heavy already and that i probably won’t be able to pick him up much longer #… then cried about that lol #i’ve only had small dogs before this has never happened to me and I WAS NOT READY YET OK 😅 #almost cut myself again while chopping a sweet potato #i always forget how hard they are #and texted my mom about 4 times to ask cooking questions bc again…clearly not a real adult lol #and it’s only 6 pm… room for more! 😂

[every-dayiwakeup]

#WHAT THE FUCK #what #the #fuck #you cannot be serious #someone actually typed out these words #for the record i meant the bottom reply #im going to be sick #fuck antis

[lewdo]

the only taylor swift tier list to be correct

#lol that i thought i was mainly anti folklore/evermore but clearly im anti lover more so #also I voted red on my poll but i think i should have done 1989 #top 2 are 100% correct bottom 2 songs are correct but not 100% on the placement of some #ive linked the tier list in case anyone else wants to waste hours doing this